IS IT RIGHT TO LIVE IN A WORLD OF LIKE MINDED PEOPLE??

If your reply is ‘YES’,think again and if ‘NO’-stop condemning others!!

We all have vice of complaining.you can easily fall into the habit of condemning others,even those we love most.we have tendency to criticize the way someone eats or the manner in which others speak and walk.we focus on the most minute details and find fault with small issues.This is a reality we cannot deny.But please remember,what we focus on grows.And if we keep focusing on a small weakness in someone,it will continue to grow in our mind until we perceive it to be a big problem in that person.

I have now a question to you! Do you really want to live in a world of like minded people where everyone looked,acted and thought exactly as you do?In my view it could be a very boring place.It would  be right to say that richness of our society comes from its diversity.What can make relationship,community and countries memorable are not the things that we have in common but the differences and diverse cultures that can make this world unique.India is a live example of this.we should begin to respect differences and diversity rather looking for things to criticize in those around you.

We often perceive in others the weakness we most need to address within ourselves.So,please avoid blaming and condemning.Accept full responsibility for the way things are and resolve to work on changing yourself before seeking to change others.This could be a clear sign of a person of strong character.

                                                                  MESSAGE

Remember Erica jong’s saying,”Take your life into your own hands and what happens?

A terrible thing: no one to blame”.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

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Meditation is the ultimate solution to all your anxiety, stress and anger related problems.

Trust me:I have experienced it.

It reminds me today what French mathematician Blaise Pascal once wrote,”All man’s miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone” Loud noise and hectic activities have become an integral part of our daily life.We wake up to the sound of the radio blaring and love to dress up while the TV news is on.We drive to work listening to our favourite songs and latest traffic report and spend the next ten hours in a bustling office.we return home in the evening through a tiring and stressful traffic jam.Our day’s misery does not end here.we would get into the evening activities against the background sound of the tv,ringing phones and humming computers.You may agree with me that,if not all,most of our stress and anxiety stem from the fact that we have overlooked the importance of being silent,even for a short period every day.As such we lose the ability to concentrate and achieve our goals and dreams.Without a disciplined mind and deep concentration,your mind will be your master rather than your servant.

There was a phase in my life,when I lacked mental focus. Anxiety and lack of  concentration ruled my mind.But my life changed the day I learned to meditate about three decades ago.Meditation is an age-old technique that was developed by some of the world’s wisest people to gain full control of the mental faculty and lead a life free from anxiety and stress.Meditation is a method to train your mind to function the way it was designed to function.It has enormous benefits: A 30 minute’s of daily meditation can make you more patient in your relationship,more serene at the office and more happy when you are alone. Meditation can make you a far better parent and life partner.

You cannot afford to ignore the power of this five-thousand-year-old mind training discipline.

Message: in my view, in today’s world anxiety, stress and anger is our biggest and insurmountable problem, which ultimately leads to all kinds of major and dangerous health issues.

So, are you not ready or am i asking you too much to spare just 30 mins of your daily life for MEDITATION and live a happy life.

After all, what is the point of having name, fame, wealth, money and all good things in your life if you cannot enjoy it because of health issues.

THINK ABOUT IT !!

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

YOUR FUTURE HAPPINESS LIES IN YOUR PAST MISTAKES!!

Yes, it is absolutely possible. How? Read it….

There are many people who spend their days beating up on themselves for past mistakes. They would think about that relationship that failed, analyze it and relentlessly review all the things they did wrong. They also have tendency to look at that business decisions that cost them, so much and dwell on things they could have done right. In my view, you don’t need to be so hard on yourself. We are all human beings and human beings have been destined to make mistakes. Believe me, as long as you don’t keep making the same mistakes and have a good judgement to let your past serve you, you will always be on the right path.

If we keep realizing that we all make mistakes and that they are essential to our growth and progress is liberating. We give up the need to be perfect and adopt a balanced views about our lives. In order to rise to a higher level of personal wisdom, you can make a list of five biggest mistakes you have made in your life on the left side of a page within your journal. Then, on the right hand side, write down the corresponding life lessons you have learned from every mistake and the benefits that actually flowed into your life as a result of those so-called failures.

You will soon see and start believing that your life would not be as colorful and rich without the mistakes of your past. So be flexible and gentler to yourself and see life for what it really is. A road to personal growth and lifelong learning!!

ALL THE BEST READERS.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

BE A MAN OF WORD!! Your ability to keep up your word or promise determines your true character and who you are!!

 

In the word of Vijay Eswaran:

“Saying the right words only sells your intention.

While showing that you mean what you say can buy trust,

However, doing what you say, SEALS IT.”

There was a time when people were a man of word. They would honor their word and promise under all circumstance. Keeping their word was like worshiping a God. But time has changed. We now live in a time when people hardly have any importance for their word and they treat their words very lightly. We tell a friend we will call her next week for lunch knowing full well we do not have the time to do so. We tell our friend that we will certainly attend his marriage ceremony knowing full well that we will never attend it. And we promise ourselves on the new year day that we will adopt to a fitness regime on the new year day next year to get back into shape, change our life style and simplify our lives without any real intention of doing it or making the deep life changes necessary to achieve these goals.

We don’t really mean what we say and thus habit has become our way of life. The real problem is that when you don’t keep your word, you lose your credibility, you break the bond of trust. And breaking the bond of trusts ultimately leads to a string of broken heart and relationship. You will never be taken seriously or trusted by others.

I cannot suggest you any ready made formulae to develop a habit of keeping your word, and promise. But yes, I can definitely suggest you one thing. IF YOU CAN SEE IT IN YOUR MIND, YOU CAN HOLD IT IN YOUR HAND. I religously follow and implement this saying in my life. Every time you do not keep your word or promise, you feed the habit of UNTRUTHFUL AND UNRELIABLE.

When you promise someone you will do something, JUST DO IT. Be a person of your word rather than being “ALL TALK AND NO ACTION.”

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

 

 

YOUR PAST MAY HAVE SPOTS, BUT YOUR FUTURE IS SPOTLESS!!

Time is precious and the most amazing things about it is the fact that you cannot waste it in advance.It does not matter how much time you have wasted in past,the next hours that comes your way will be perfect,spotless and ready for you to make its best use.It also does not matter what has happened to you in past,your future is spotless.Every dawn brings with it  a  new day and opportunity to begin a completely new life.If you so desire and choose,tomorrow can be the day for you to start getting up early,go for morning walk,reading books,controlling your temper and worries.You could start being more of the person you dream to be.YOU JUST NEED TO DO IT!! THAT’S IT!!

Who is stopping you to decide and write afresh the story of your life on a blank page.You can decide at this very moment the way you would like it to unfold and create  a new ending.My only question to you will be-ARE YOU READY TO DO SO ?? Think about it!!

REMEMBER,IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO BECOME THE PERSON YOU DREAM AND HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it. My main objective is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm, anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

IS IT A PROFESSIONAL BEHAVIOR?

Managers should strive to be role models, setting an example of a mature professional behavior. Unfortunately. however, some managers exactly do the opposite. These immature individuals refuse to control their emotions and freely vent their frustrations by yelling at employees. Amazingly, their own bosses seldom see this childish behavior. If you are stuck with one of these stress-inducing Managers, you may follow these coping suggestions.

1. Accept the fact that you have an immature manager. Lower your expectations. This boss is never going to be wise, mature mentors of your dreams. So just expect him to act like a tantrum-throwing two-year-old boy.If you develop this mindset,you will not be disappointed.

2. Don’t take it personally, Bad tempered bosses yell at everyone except people who have more power. So, remember that this has nothing to do with you personally.

3. Don’t respond in kind- yelling back at your bad-tempered boss will only escalate this situation, and since this person has some power over you, that could affect your career adversely. This may not be fair but it is a fact.

4. Remember that one of you needs to act like an adult. That must be you. If two people act like children, the result is a playground fight. Since your manager is already acting like a kid, you are the only one left who can keep the situation under control.

5. Wait until the dust settles down: If you don’t feed the fire, the managerial temper tantrum will gradually recede. You cant have a rational conversation with an angry person. So, keep your responses neutral and minimal until she/he burns herself/ himself out.

6. But- if your boss crosses the line and becomes abusive, talk to HR head or Higher management.

7. A HOTHEAD MANAGER IS ONE THING, BUT AN ABUSIVE BOSS IS ANOTHER. If your manager’s behavior is extreme or causes ongoing emotional stress, you need to talk with someone. Companies should not tolerate such managers. So, someone in HR or upper management must know this.

8. AND IF THE SITUATION STILL DOES NOT IMPROVE, GET OUT OF THERE, Perhaps, you can learn to cope with the situation. Or perhaps you can change it. But, if neither seems possible, YOU NEED TO FIND A MORE PROFESSIONAL PLACE TO WORK.

Abusive managers can be damaging to your mental and physical health, and no job is worth that.

YES- THAT’S IT!!

TAKE ACTION

STOP LIVING IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE-WAITING TO
START WHEN EVERYTHING WILL FALL IN PLACE

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                                    TAKE ACTION

 

“The distance between Dream and Reality is called ACTION”

Think about it!! Take your first step forward!!

You cannot succeed in life,unless you begin and end.Getting started or taking that first step is utmost important.Nothing else matters.Always remember that the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step. TAKE THAT FIRST STEP TODAY!!

There is a great substance in that old saying  that old saying that you don’t need to be Great to get started,but you have to get started to be Great.you may have brilliant ideas and plans,and we may not doubt its intent.But all these things have no meaning,if you don’t make a beginning first.We often hesitate to take that first step and we live in our comfort zone-waiting to start when everything fall in place.

WE FORGET THAT EVERYTHING SELDOM FALLS INTO PLACE!!

If i may say,if there is anything which is the biggest contributor to stress in the workplace,it is surely UNFINISHED task.Learn to finish task.Get rid of them.If something important and worth has to be done,it must be done at first.All successful people make it a habit to begin and end what they have started.This is their most important traits!!

SO,IF YOU HAVE BIG IDEA OR SECRET PLAN-TAKE THAT FIRST STEP TODAY!!!

Want to become a Guitarist? Buy your guitar today!! Make a habit to prepare a list of unfinished work and your TO-DO-LIST.you must be determined to complete at least one of these tasks today!!

JUST DO IT and see the difference.

Life will begin to make a lot more sense,and YOU WILL BE ABLE TO COVER THE DISTANCE BETWEEN DREAM AND REALITY.

GOOD LUCK!!