YOU ARE BORN FOR A REASON-BIG OR SMALL!!

We start to live our lives from the day we start to take our very first  breath that god has given to us.Our purpose starts to take shape.With that first breath,we also step in the world which has endless failure for people who give up and astounding success for individuals who never give up trying.Money,fame ,success…all this has no meaning if the person has not worked harder and harder each day in order to achieve it.

We often hear…”HARDWORK IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS”;for achieving anything, hardwork is must.Work is a great rescue for all difficulties.Constant vigilance and dedication towards work is the price that we pay to gain success in life.Without hardwork, one cannot achieve,but can only dream and desire of achieving it.People go through certain phases in life….good and tough times.We are all humans,we all have that capability to make life as it existed in our dreams.When our time to experience that ‘dream’finally arrives,we forget almost everything and we ultimately get lost in that success,that success which we have been desperately wanting since forever.But somehow,when we actually start to live that dream,we forget about how to make it last forever.In that particular time we only think of our present and not future and hence we face hardship in our future.

The longest journey that we as human being will ever go through is the journey of life.Life has its ups and downs and at the most unexpected time,can go into a horrifying downfall,which has rough and bumpy corners.We eventually ask ourselves,”do we have any control on what our future holds or which turn we will take?

It is  true that life cannot be perfect all the time.Once in a life time,every person faces ups and downs in their lives.It is also  true that an individual with his strength to hold on and with the power of determination can conquer any battle,even if it is the “BATTLE OF LIFE”.Man is born to to work,prosper and grow in life.Just like steel,he shines in use and rusts in rest.

How does it matter if a man lives for ninety years and it is all a story of idleness and wasted opportunities? Lord Jesus Christ died when he was hardly thirty,Lenin died before he was sixty,and yet they have impressions on human history.Idleness  is truly a curse.If we waste time,time shall waste us.A life crammed with work is a life bubbling with a joy of success.Great men of the world were born as unfortunates in cottages but they died in idols,in palaces.

To sum up,greatness and success lie in hard,honest and selfless work.life can be hard to understand and I don’t think even the person most in touch with themselves knows why they were put on  this earth.I believe that we were put on this earth for a reason,big or small.Do we have a plan of our life set out for us already,that we have to follow,no matter how much we try to change it!!

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YOUR SUFFERINGS ARE YOUR BLESSINGS!

I was once during my corporate days attending the life leadership seminar of a very famous motivational speaker where he asked the participants this question:”who would agree with me that we learn the most from our most difficult experiences”? I saw nearly every hand in the room going up,including mine.It occurs to me nearly after a decade now that,if it is so,I fail to understand why we,as human being,spend so much of our lives focusing on the negative aspects of our most difficult experiences rather than seeing these sufferings as blessings in disguise!!

Believe me readers,you would not have the wisdom and knowledge you now possess were it not for the setbacks and hardships you have faced,the mistakes you have made and the sufferings you have endured along the path of your life.You must accept the fact once and for all that pain is a teacher and failure is the gateway to success.You cannot learn swimming without water entering through your nose and mouth and you will never learn horse riding without falling and atleast  one bone fracture.

Begin to see your troubles as blessings in disguise and be determined to turn your pain into wisdom.Like most people,I too have had my own share of pain and tremendous hardships in my various phases of life.But I always remind and self motivate myself that we can become strong only by going through life’s toughest challenges and experiences.It is during life’s most trying times that we discover who we really are and the boundless energy and strength that lies within us.

If you are currently experiencing unsurmountable challenges of your own,I would like you to remind you the famous words of Rainer Maria Rilke,which has always inspired me a lot during my toughest time.

“Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart.Try to love the questions,like locked room and like books written in a foreign language.Do not now look for the answers.They cannot now be given to you because you could not live them. It is  a question of experiencing everything.At present you need to live the question.Perhaps you will gradually,without even noticing it,find yourself experiencing the answer,some distant day”.

So, my dear Readers,have patience with all your  pain and suffering and your life will give you all the answers to your discomforts and make your life better at an appropriate time.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE DONE IN THIS SITUATION ?

WHILE ARROGANCE IS A SIGN OF YOUR WEAKNESS,

HUMILITY IS THE HIGHEST IMAGINABLE SIGN OF YOUR STRENGTH.

Taking one step back rather one step forward is not the sign of of your

weakness but it could be your victory and symbol of your MATURITY

and HUMILITY.

A truly humble man cannot be an arrogant person.One must reflect modesty like a tree that bends low with the burden of ripening fruits.

It is the barren tree that lifts itself high in an empty boast.Humility contrary to patriarchal designation of it as a sign of weakness,is in fact,the highest imaginable sign of strength.

One has to be spiritually and mentally balanced in an egoless state.This allows us to see order in chaos and chaos in order.In fact it is the balance WITHIN that permits us to see the balance in all things.Hence,chaos WITHOUT is a matter of perception,while chaos WITHIN is the conception of the ego.Be like the ocean which receives all streams and rivers.The ocean mighty calm remains unmoved;IT FEELS THEM NOT.

TO MAKE YOU UNDERSTAND BETTER ABOUT HUMILITY,I WILL TELL YOU A TRUE STORY OF TWO KINGS.

Once upon a time a king was passing through a dense forest in his royel Carrier alongwith a team of his trusted soldiers.His Carrier was passing through a very narrow passage.A second king of the neighbouring state also happened to be passing through the same forest and it was sheer coincidence that both the kings suddenly happen to meet head-on in that narrow passage.The horse carrier of both the kings had to stop because the passage at that point was so narrow that only one carriage could pass through.

The first king conveyed a message to the second king to take back his horse carrier by a few yards,so that he could pass through that narrow passage.The second king conveyed back the message to the first king that ‘I DON’T GIVE WAY TO FOOLS’ and he will not take back his horse carriage even by an inch.

The first king thought for a second and send across the message to the second king that read-‘I GIVE WAY TO FOOLS’ and he promptly instructed his men to take back the carrier by a few yards and gave way to the  second kind.

MORAL:TAKING ONE STEP BACK BY THE FIRST KING WAS IN NO WAY HIS WEAKNESS,BUT A SIGN OF MATURITY,HUMILITY AND VICTOR

 

                                                          MY MESSAGE

BE LIKE THAT TREE THAT BENDS LOW WITH THE BURDEN OF RIPENING FRUITS.GIVE UP YOUR ARROGANCE,BEND LOW AND DEMONSTRATE YOUR HUMILITY,WHEN THE NEED BE.

IS IT A PROFESSIONAL BEHAVIOR?

Managers should strive to be role models, setting an example of a mature professional behavior. Unfortunately. however, some managers exactly do the opposite. These immature individuals refuse to control their emotions and freely vent their frustrations by yelling at employees. Amazingly, their own bosses seldom see this childish behavior. If you are stuck with one of these stress-inducing Managers, you may follow these coping suggestions.

1. Accept the fact that you have an immature manager. Lower your expectations. This boss is never going to be wise, mature mentors of your dreams. So just expect him to act like a tantrum-throwing two-year-old boy.If you develop this mindset,you will not be disappointed.

2. Don’t take it personally, Bad tempered bosses yell at everyone except people who have more power. So, remember that this has nothing to do with you personally.

3. Don’t respond in kind- yelling back at your bad-tempered boss will only escalate this situation, and since this person has some power over you, that could affect your career adversely. This may not be fair but it is a fact.

4. Remember that one of you needs to act like an adult. That must be you. If two people act like children, the result is a playground fight. Since your manager is already acting like a kid, you are the only one left who can keep the situation under control.

5. Wait until the dust settles down: If you don’t feed the fire, the managerial temper tantrum will gradually recede. You cant have a rational conversation with an angry person. So, keep your responses neutral and minimal until she/he burns herself/ himself out.

6. But- if your boss crosses the line and becomes abusive, talk to HR head or Higher management.

7. A HOTHEAD MANAGER IS ONE THING, BUT AN ABUSIVE BOSS IS ANOTHER. If your manager’s behavior is extreme or causes ongoing emotional stress, you need to talk with someone. Companies should not tolerate such managers. So, someone in HR or upper management must know this.

8. AND IF THE SITUATION STILL DOES NOT IMPROVE, GET OUT OF THERE, Perhaps, you can learn to cope with the situation. Or perhaps you can change it. But, if neither seems possible, YOU NEED TO FIND A MORE PROFESSIONAL PLACE TO WORK.

Abusive managers can be damaging to your mental and physical health, and no job is worth that.

YES- THAT’S IT!!

Your take on – Hard or Smart work !!

HARD WORK + SMART WORK = ACHIEVEMENT.

YOUR TAKE ON- HARD OR SMART WORK!!

Work very hard to earn good money and become a CEO of a world -class company- Is that true- No!! Not necessarily!!

We all work very hard from 9 am to 9 pm (12 to 14 hours) a day. Are we really earning good money to fulfill all dreams of our life? Perhaps, no!! So hardwork  alone may not be enough to realize your dreams in life.

IT IS SMART WORK ALONG WITH HARD WORK THAT PAYS YOU GOOD MONEY. I WILL EXPLAIN THIS WITH A TRUE STORY IN MY VILLAGE.

There was a wood cutter,working in a forest for his employer(normally called Seth in villages).He used to work very hard and cut trees from morning to evening(12hrs).This wood cutter would cut 5 small trees in a day and take 30 minute’s break for lunch.

There was another wood cutter,also working in the same forest for the same employer(seth).He was equally hard working but not as hard working as the first wood cutter.The second wood cutter use to cut trees only for 8 hrs and use to take 5 minute’s break after every one hour.So practically,this wood cutter was working only for 7 hrs.

The first wood cutter did not like this but he use to keep silence.When these both wood cutter went to their employer on the first day of the month to take their salary-employer gave Rs 1,000($16) to the first wood cutter and rs 2,000($32) to the second wood cutter.The first wood cutter did not like this discrimination and he told his employer upfront that,while he worked for him for 12 hrs,the second wood cutter worked only for 8 hrs.He also told seth that he only took 30 mnt break,while the second wood cutter used to rest every 5 mnt an hour.Seth kept listening to the first wood cutter patiently.He then told the first wood cutter-do you really want to know that why i paid Rs 1.000($16) to you and Rs 2,000($32) to the second wood cutter? The first wood cutter said,’YES’! I want to know the reason.

Seth told him-you give me 5 trees wood in 12 frs,while he gives 10 trees in 8 hrs.I HAVE AN AGREEMENT WITH BOTH OF YOU FOR 5 TREES EVERY DAY AND NOT WORKING FOR 12hrs OR 8 hrs.

Would you like to know how your friend gave me 10 trees in Just 8 hrs? Yes,please tell me,sir,said the first wood cutter.The seth replied, when your friend was taking break for 5 mnt every hour,he was then actually sharpening the edge of the weapon(Kuladhi-as they call in village) and this gave him better ‘PRODUCTIVITY’ for cutting the trees

 

                                      MY MESSAGE TO YOU

 

Hours of hard work that you put in a job or business or for that matter in any other activity is not that important.

What really matter is – HOW SMARTLY YOU ALSO SHARPEN YOUR SKILL(eg TRAINING) AND USE IT FOR BETTER PRODUCTIVITY AND MORE EARNING.

SO,WHICH WAY YOU SHOULD BE WORKING?

OBVIOUSLY SMART WAY!!

KARMVEER!! (ACTION WARRIOR)

I wrote this poem last night and is dedicated to all my  beloved fans of wordpress.

 

Ho sakta hai ki tum mujhe,

Hazaar baar zameen par gira do,

Lekin ye tay hai ki tum mujhe,

zameen par uthne se nahi roke paoge!!

Ho sakta hai tum mujhe ghayal karke,

phir girane mei kaamyaab ho jao,

Lekin ye mera drihd neeschaya hai ki,

Tum mujhe khade hokar aage badhne se nahi roke paoge!!

KYON KI JEEVAN HAR HAAL MEI CHALNE KA NAAM HAI!!

Message

Karmveer Bano

English Translation for those fans who cannot understand Hindi:

It is possible that you may knock me down 1000 times,

But one thing is for sure- I will again get up!

It is likely that you may make me fall down again,

But I will be determined to get up again and march ahead,

And you dare not stop me,

Because to keep moving ahead is what  keeps me alive and Karmveer( Action warrior) is my name.

Pl do send me your feedback.

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WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE WAY WE RESPOND!!

I am back to a theme i shared with you sometime back: The power of words. Words shape the way we feel. They influence the way you process reality. And they can either take you closer to your mountaintop or draw you nearer to the valley. Use world-class words and you will get to your world-class life.

No matter what life sends, we are responsible for the way we respond. We truly are. We can own our reaction. We can choose what we do with the situation. 

We can be bitter or show up better. Tons of choices- at all times. Starting with our words.

Choose them well! Leaders do!! So should you do and see the difference in your life!!

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