IF WE DON’T ACT ON LIFE,LIFE WILL ACT ON US!! CHOICE IS YOURS!!

REMEMBER,YOU CAN MAKE EXCUSES OR YOU CAN PROGRESS,

BUT YOU CANNOT DO BOTH!!

Take full charge of your life.”If it is going to be,its upto me” is a wonderful saying.Please don’t leave the quality of your life,like many others, to chance rather than choice.This anecdote’s point of wisdom is simply this:we need to keep our eyes and ears open to the realities of life.If we don’t act on life and take timely action to make things happen,it will act on us and give us results we may never like and want.This is nothing but one of nature’s laws that binds humanity for thousand of years.

You must begin to see yourself in-charge of your destiny and life.If you want something done,rather than waiting for luck to look your way,you must make efforts and take steps to achieve your dreams.If you need help from someone you know could help you solve a problem or seize an opportunity,pick-up the phone or do meet him or her.Remember,you can make excuses or you can make progress,but you cannot do both.

I would like to recall a very inspiring incidence.When I was working with a corporate house,I use to make a forty-five minute journey on a commuter train to my office.Everyday,a man would sit infront of me who would do inspiring things.Instead of sleeping or daydreaming like most of the other people on the train,this man decided to use his forty-five minutes to exercise.From the moment he sat down until the moment we arrived at the station,he would do arm stretches,neck rolls and series  of other excercises to improve his health.Rather than joining the legion of people who complain they don’t have enough time to workout,he took matters into his own hands and took charge of the opportunity.you may find  it a little awkward.But how does it matter when you know that what you are doing is the right thing to do.

If you could see such opportunities in your mind,you can hold it in your hand and create a fundamental shift in the way you perceive your world.you become the captain the ship,leading things in direction you chose to move rather than reacting to the whim of the changing tides.

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AVOID DEPENDENCY.IT CURBS YOUR DIGNITY AND FREEDOM.BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR OWN LIFE.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

CONFLICTS TEACHES YOU POWERFUL LESSONS AND MAKE YOU A BETTER HUMAN BEING!!

We all run away from conflicts. It really makes us feel bad, so we avoid it. We all hope it will somehow resolve itself. But it never does! Instead it just festers like a bad wound- what we resist really does persist.

I have a different point of view on conflict. Conflict is an opportunity for greater growth and deeper personal connection. Every conflict carries within it a powerful lessons to make you a better human being in your understanding and perspective. I have seen that every conflict whether with a loved one or anybody else, is a gorgeous opportunity to forge an even  closer bond with them. It turns their dissatisfaction into a wow for both of you.

So don’t run away from conflict. Avoid sending email when you know you need to speak  some truth face to face. Its all about balancing compassion with courage. And let me tell you it can feel so messy,in truth its a gift. Accept and embrace it. Relish the potential it carries. Celebrate it!!

IT CAN SERVE YOU SO WELL!!

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IS IT RIGHT TO LIVE IN A WORLD OF LIKE MINDED PEOPLE??

If your reply is ‘YES’,think again and if ‘NO’-stop condemning others!!

We all have vice of complaining.you can easily fall into the habit of condemning others,even those we love most.we have tendency to criticize the way someone eats or the manner in which others speak and walk.we focus on the most minute details and find fault with small issues.This is a reality we cannot deny.But please remember,what we focus on grows.And if we keep focusing on a small weakness in someone,it will continue to grow in our mind until we perceive it to be a big problem in that person.

I have now a question to you! Do you really want to live in a world of like minded people where everyone looked,acted and thought exactly as you do?In my view it could be a very boring place.It would  be right to say that richness of our society comes from its diversity.What can make relationship,community and countries memorable are not the things that we have in common but the differences and diverse cultures that can make this world unique.India is a live example of this.we should begin to respect differences and diversity rather looking for things to criticize in those around you.

We often perceive in others the weakness we most need to address within ourselves.So,please avoid blaming and condemning.Accept full responsibility for the way things are and resolve to work on changing yourself before seeking to change others.This could be a clear sign of a person of strong character.

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Remember Erica jong’s saying,”Take your life into your own hands and what happens?

A terrible thing: no one to blame”.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

YOU ARE BORN FOR A REASON-BIG OR SMALL!!

We start to live our lives from the day we start to take our very first  breath that god has given to us.Our purpose starts to take shape.With that first breath,we also step in the world which has endless failure for people who give up and astounding success for individuals who never give up trying.Money,fame ,success…all this has no meaning if the person has not worked harder and harder each day in order to achieve it.

We often hear…”HARDWORK IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS”;for achieving anything, hardwork is must.Work is a great rescue for all difficulties.Constant vigilance and dedication towards work is the price that we pay to gain success in life.Without hardwork, one cannot achieve,but can only dream and desire of achieving it.People go through certain phases in life….good and tough times.We are all humans,we all have that capability to make life as it existed in our dreams.When our time to experience that ‘dream’finally arrives,we forget almost everything and we ultimately get lost in that success,that success which we have been desperately wanting since forever.But somehow,when we actually start to live that dream,we forget about how to make it last forever.In that particular time we only think of our present and not future and hence we face hardship in our future.

The longest journey that we as human being will ever go through is the journey of life.Life has its ups and downs and at the most unexpected time,can go into a horrifying downfall,which has rough and bumpy corners.We eventually ask ourselves,”do we have any control on what our future holds or which turn we will take?

It is  true that life cannot be perfect all the time.Once in a life time,every person faces ups and downs in their lives.It is also  true that an individual with his strength to hold on and with the power of determination can conquer any battle,even if it is the “BATTLE OF LIFE”.Man is born to to work,prosper and grow in life.Just like steel,he shines in use and rusts in rest.

How does it matter if a man lives for ninety years and it is all a story of idleness and wasted opportunities? Lord Jesus Christ died when he was hardly thirty,Lenin died before he was sixty,and yet they have impressions on human history.Idleness  is truly a curse.If we waste time,time shall waste us.A life crammed with work is a life bubbling with a joy of success.Great men of the world were born as unfortunates in cottages but they died in idols,in palaces.

To sum up,greatness and success lie in hard,honest and selfless work.life can be hard to understand and I don’t think even the person most in touch with themselves knows why they were put on  this earth.I believe that we were put on this earth for a reason,big or small.Do we have a plan of our life set out for us already,that we have to follow,no matter how much we try to change it!!

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IS YOUR SEX LIFE  LOSING SPARK  A SEX DETOX CAN REIGNITE THIS SPARK AGAIN!!

“A MAN NEEDS SEX TO GET INTIMATE,WHILE A WOMAN NEEDS

TO GET INTIMATE TO HAVE SEX.”

 

A detox in the area of sex means eliminating sexual performance entirely,thereby making sex come across as the forbidden fruit.This increases longing for each other and helps reignite the passion.

Over a period  of time,say a few years down the line,couples tend to lose the spark,especially between the sheets.The reason for this lack of interest could be plenty-a busy schedule,work-related stress and/or tiredness,the same bedroom and the same positions.Your sex life is dramatically affected by these factors.After a long day work,you naturally want space to relax.This could lead to physical and emotional distance and THAT IS EXACTLY WHEN A SEX DETOX COMES INTO PLAY!!

“Sexual motivation is influenced by various hormones.When you abstain from sex,you become increasingly aware of the absence of hormonal release.This craving boosts your libodo and sexual performance.Now you may be having frequent sex or you may not have had sex with your partner for a while,BUT,that hunger that arises when you are aware that you are off sex for a month is what reignite passion.

Sex detox will help you to achieve the relationship results you both deserve.when you are on sex detox,you better rethink what both of you need and arrive at a decision with consideration for each other’s feelings,For instance,you cannot have sex but you can still cuddle,spoon and enjoy intimacy.Or if one of the partner feels ‘denied’ or rejected sexually during detox,this should be discussed openly and without resentment.

It should take only about a month of abstinence to notice the desired benefits-men begin to experience better erection and women enjoy sustained arousal and stronger orgasms.That slight hint of desperation add spice to your love life.IT IS LIKE YOUR FIRST TIME ALL OVER AGAIN!!

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A HEALTHY SEX LIFE IS IMPORTANT FOR BOTH OF YOU.PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THINGS FOR GRANTED.YOU BOTH MAY HAVE TO CONSISTENTLY INVEST TIME AND ENERGY AND FIND CREATIVE MEANS LIKE ‘Sex Detox’ TO KEEP YOUR SEX LIFE HAPPY AND SPICY.

IS IT DESIRABLE?

 HOW TO HANDLE YOUR SHORT-TEMPERED SPOUSE!!

 

     Most marriages go through periods of highs and lows-It is normal!! Therefore,it is quite common for a husband and wife to differ on certain points.At times,one-person becomes more dominant than the other.If the husband enjoys making his point heard, wife may prefer to let him have his say to maintain calmness and peace in their relationship.

Likewise, wife may disagree with her husband on different matters and the husband may choose to act as a peacemaker in the house.I have even seen short tempered wives and husbands,sometimes,do not even hesitate to scream at each other or at their sweet kids-not only in the house but also at the public places.Most of the time,the main reason of their scream is their stress and anxiety(due to any reason).

Believe me,these are the facts of life and you may have to face it at some point of life.

SOME EFFECTIVE WAY’S TO HANDLE YOUR SPOUSE’S BAD TEMPER:

1-Recognize the triggers,the first step is to recognize each other’s temperament.Make it a point to communicate and voice your feeling to one another in a calm and best possible way without being judgemental .For your respective anger issues,you can deal with them more effectively.It is a common knowledge that ‘opposite attract’ and so make sure that both of you balance each other out and are aware of what irks the other.

2-Learn to take one step back.It would be a wise move if you take a step back to allow your partner to cool down.Therefore,if you find your spouse getting angry over something,please do not make things ugly or worse by tackling them or reprimanding them for their actions then and there.Instead,step aside and allow them to calm down.In time,they themselves will come back and apologize for their outburst.The key here is to give them their space,so that they get time to realize their fault on their own.

3-Keep you attitude in check.Realize that,at times,it may be your behavior,body language and attitude that may cause tempers to fly.But if you fight fire with fire,you will surely land up in a stalemate with the problem still left unresolved.It is important that you manage your emotions well in order to prevent any major outburst with your temperamental spouse.So,if you know that there are things that could cause emotional outburst,your reaction to it could determine whether it has the possibility of turning ugly or getting unresolved.

4 – Have patience, patience and patience.

In order to really deal with your short-tempered spouse,you will have to demonstrate a lot of patience.Sometimes,you may disapprove of your own spouse’s outburst or screaming over trivial and petty issues.These may cause you to wonder what you might have done wrong.However,the key to dealing with such outburst over minor issues is to have the patience to deal with your partner calmly.

Therefore,please avoid  responding with equally nasty or provocative comments that could rupture into something major incident.

5-Talk,talk and talk. Encourage them towards change.you could help encourage your spouse to adopt certain tips to calm down during an outburst. Deep breathing,yoga and meditation could prove to be the right solution to help your partner to keep his/her stress and anxiety under control,which in turn will keep his/her temper under check.

I HAVE BEEN DOING IT FOR LAST THREE DECADES AND TRUST ME-IT HELPS A LOT TO KEEP YOUR STRESS,ANXIETY AND TEMPER UNDER FULL CONTROL.

TRY IT !!

6-Last but very important.A better sex life.This could be a major reason,why a spouse has a bad temper.It is vital that you both have a healthy sex life.If there are any issues,it must be resolved as fast as possible.

A GOOD SEX LIFE KEEPS A SPOUSE STRESS FREE,HAPPY AND TEMPER FREE.

YES,THIS IS TRUE!!

Based on my knowledge and experience about human behavior,I am confident that these tips will definitely help you to handle your spouse’s anger effectively

HOWEVER, SHOULD NONE OF THESE TIPS WORK,JUST REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE PICKED UP HER/HIM AND THEREFORE TAKE LIFE AS IT COMES TO YOU.EVERYTHING CHANGES ONE DAY(LAW OF NATURE) AND SO WILL CHANGE YOUR SPOUSE’S BAD TEMPER ALSO-ONE DAY.

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WAIT FOR THAT DAY-IT WILL SURELY COME.

HOW TO COMBINE CREATIVITY AND RESULTS!!

As a rule, critical thinking is the norm in academia, and asking questions is necessary. Questioning ideas is the first step, and second is questioning the question itself.

As a result, academia has a reputation for being too open- ended and sluggish. In industry, we prefer to set a deadline, get things done and most importantly focus on execution. We worry that thinking about an idea could hold up progress.

Combine the two approaches to be sure you are both thinking creatively and getting results as well. Ask lots of questions but don’t let the questions impede  movement.

The questions should drive you toward a clear, defensible outcome!!

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