YOUR FUTURE HAPPINESS LIES IN YOUR PAST MISTAKES!!

Yes, it is absolutely possible. How? Read it….

There are many people who spend their days beating up on themselves for past mistakes. They would think about that relationship that failed, analyze it and relentlessly review all the things they did wrong. They also have tendency to look at that business decisions that cost them, so much and dwell on things they could have done right. In my view, you don’t need to be so hard on yourself. We are all human beings and human beings have been destined to make mistakes. Believe me, as long as you don’t keep making the same mistakes and have a good judgement to let your past serve you, you will always be on the right path.

If we keep realizing that we all make mistakes and that they are essential to our growth and progress is liberating. We give up the need to be perfect and adopt a balanced views about our lives. In order to rise to a higher level of personal wisdom, you can make a list of five biggest mistakes you have made in your life on the left side of a page within your journal. Then, on the right hand side, write down the corresponding life lessons you have learned from every mistake and the benefits that actually flowed into your life as a result of those so-called failures.

You will soon see and start believing that your life would not be as colorful and rich without the mistakes of your past. So be flexible and gentler to yourself and see life for what it really is. A road to personal growth and lifelong learning!!

ALL THE BEST READERS.

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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LISTING YOUR WORRIES AND PROBLEMS IS HALF SOLVED.

I am a firm believer in Charles kittering’s proverb – “A problem well stated is a problem half solved.” You feel something special when you take out a piece of paper and list your every single problem and worry. This is like a peaceful feeling you get after telling your best friend about something that has been troubling you for weeks. You feel lighter, calmer and freer.

If you keep thinking about your worries and problems, a time will come when you will think little else. In this situation, it becomes very important that you let go the mental clutter that your problems tend to generate. To get out of this situation, list all your worries on a piece of paper. If you do this, they would no longer be able to control your mind and drain your valuable energy.

This is such a simple exercise that will take your problems into proper perspective and let you tackle them in an orderly, well planned sequence. There are many successful people who have successfully used this technique. Winston Churchill once said – “It helps to write down half a dozen things which are worrying me. two of them, say, disappear; about two, nothing can be done, so it is no use worrying and LAST TWO PERHAPS CAN BE SETTLED.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

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BE A MAN OF WORD!! Your ability to keep up your word or promise determines your true character and who you are!!

In the word of Vijay Eswaran:

“Saying the right words only sells your intention.

While showing that you mean what you say can buy trust,

However, doing what you say, SEALS IT.”

There was a time when people were a man of word. They would honor their word and promise under all circumstance. Keeping their word was like worshiping a God. But time has changed. We now live in a time when people hardly have any importance for their word and they treat their words very lightly. We tell a friend we will call her next week for lunch knowing full well we do not have the time to do so. We tell our friend that we will certainly attend his marriage ceremony knowing full well that we will never attend it. And we promise ourselves on the new year day that we will adopt to a fitness regime on the new year day next year to get back into shape, change our life style and simplify our lives without any real intention of doing it or making the deep life changes necessary to achieve these goals.

We don’t really mean what we say and thus habit has become our way of life. The real problem is that when you don’t keep your word, you lose your credibility, you break the bond of trust. And breaking the bond of trusts ultimately leads to a string of broken heart and relationship. You will never be taken seriously or trusted by others.

I cannot suggest you any ready made formulae to develop a habit of keeping your word, and promise. But yes, I can definitely suggest you one thing. IF YOU CAN SEE IT IN YOUR MIND, YOU CAN HOLD IT IN YOUR HAND. I religously follow and implement this saying in my life. Every time you do not keep your word or promise, you feed the habit of UNTRUTHFUL AND UNRELIABLE.

When you promise someone you will do something, JUST DO IT. Be a person of your word rather than being “ALL TALK AND NO ACTION.”

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

 

 

DO YOU WANT TO HAVE A BETTER SELF CONTROL AND WILLPOWER?? TRY THIS!!

Silence and smile are two powerful tools.

Smile is the way to solve many problems and

Silence is the way to avoid many problems!!

 

Your silence for one hour a day can bring magical results!!

Yes, silence can build up an enormous willpower-one that has been used by the Buddhist monks and many cultures over the years to build up a rock like willpower and enormous amount of inner strength and determination.you can enhance your will power and self control by observing silence even for a short period because you exert force on your will by not giving in to the impulse to talk.

I see many people talking far more than they need to.we often continue to talk on and on rather than speaking precisely and communicating only what needs to be communicated.It only reflects a lack of discipline in our life.Discipline involves saying exactly what needs to be said and preserving your precious mental energy by not talking more than you have to.Measured,precise speech is also a sign of clear thought and of a serene mind.

A better strategy to improve your personal discipline could be to take a firm decision to be silent for one hour a day over the next seven days.you must not speak at all during this silent time.DON’T WASTE YOUR WORDS ON PEOPLE WHO DESERVE YOUR SILENCE.However,if you must,speak only in a direct response to a question and give a brief,clear and crisp answer without getting into a detailed conversation.you can observe silence politely and warmly.The purpose of this exercise is to make you stronger and  build up your WILL.

Believe me,in a few days,you will feel and experience a tremendous sense of CONTROL and POWER growing within you.The results will speak for themselves.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

 

DOES IT MAKE SENSE TO WORRY ABOUT THINGS YOU CANNOT CHANGE!! Obviously,NO!! BUT IS IT POSSIBLE? READ……

Whenever I face challenge and hardship in my own life that I fail to change,I remind myself The Serenity Prayer of Reinhold Niebuhr: “God,give us the grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed,courage to change the things which should be changed,and the wisdom to distinguish one from other”.

I was once attending a leadership coaching programme and going through an exercise.After finishing this exercise,I found that 50 percent of my worries related to things that would likely never happen; 30 percent were about past actions that could not be changed;10 percent related to the opinions of people whose opinion really did not matter to me; 4 percent concerned personal finances issues that was manageble;only 6 percent concerned real and worrying issues worthy of my attention.

It was amazing that by systematically identifying and then letting go of the worries I could do nothing about or that were a complete waste of energy,I managed to  eliminate 94 percent of problems that were constantly then bothering me all the time.

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List out all your worries in a systematic way and analyze them one by one carefully by asking yourself the right questions and trust me,you would also be placed in the same scenario like mine.Your stress level would immediately and drastically come down.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

 

YOU ARE BORN FOR A REASON-BIG OR SMALL!!

We start to live our lives from the day we start to take our very first  breath that god has given to us.Our purpose starts to take shape.With that first breath,we also step in the world which has endless failure for people who give up and astounding success for individuals who never give up trying.Money,fame ,success…all this has no meaning if the person has not worked harder and harder each day in order to achieve it.

We often hear…”HARDWORK IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS”;for achieving anything, hardwork is must.Work is a great rescue for all difficulties.Constant vigilance and dedication towards work is the price that we pay to gain success in life.Without hardwork, one cannot achieve,but can only dream and desire of achieving it.People go through certain phases in life….good and tough times.We are all humans,we all have that capability to make life as it existed in our dreams.When our time to experience that ‘dream’finally arrives,we forget almost everything and we ultimately get lost in that success,that success which we have been desperately wanting since forever.But somehow,when we actually start to live that dream,we forget about how to make it last forever.In that particular time we only think of our present and not future and hence we face hardship in our future.

The longest journey that we as human being will ever go through is the journey of life.Life has its ups and downs and at the most unexpected time,can go into a horrifying downfall,which has rough and bumpy corners.We eventually ask ourselves,”do we have any control on what our future holds or which turn we will take?

It is  true that life cannot be perfect all the time.Once in a life time,every person faces ups and downs in their lives.It is also  true that an individual with his strength to hold on and with the power of determination can conquer any battle,even if it is the “BATTLE OF LIFE”.Man is born to to work,prosper and grow in life.Just like steel,he shines in use and rusts in rest.

How does it matter if a man lives for ninety years and it is all a story of idleness and wasted opportunities? Lord Jesus Christ died when he was hardly thirty,Lenin died before he was sixty,and yet they have impressions on human history.Idleness  is truly a curse.If we waste time,time shall waste us.A life crammed with work is a life bubbling with a joy of success.Great men of the world were born as unfortunates in cottages but they died in idols,in palaces.

To sum up,greatness and success lie in hard,honest and selfless work.life can be hard to understand and I don’t think even the person most in touch with themselves knows why they were put on  this earth.I believe that we were put on this earth for a reason,big or small.Do we have a plan of our life set out for us already,that we have to follow,no matter how much we try to change it!!

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YOUR SUFFERINGS ARE YOUR BLESSINGS!

I was once during my corporate days attending the life leadership seminar of a very famous motivational speaker where he asked the participants this question:”who would agree with me that we learn the most from our most difficult experiences”? I saw nearly every hand in the room going up,including mine.It occurs to me nearly after a decade now that,if it is so,I fail to understand why we,as human being,spend so much of our lives focusing on the negative aspects of our most difficult experiences rather than seeing these sufferings as blessings in disguise!!

Believe me readers,you would not have the wisdom and knowledge you now possess were it not for the setbacks and hardships you have faced,the mistakes you have made and the sufferings you have endured along the path of your life.You must accept the fact once and for all that pain is a teacher and failure is the gateway to success.You cannot learn swimming without water entering through your nose and mouth and you will never learn horse riding without falling and atleast  one bone fracture.

Begin to see your troubles as blessings in disguise and be determined to turn your pain into wisdom.Like most people,I too have had my own share of pain and tremendous hardships in my various phases of life.But I always remind and self motivate myself that we can become strong only by going through life’s toughest challenges and experiences.It is during life’s most trying times that we discover who we really are and the boundless energy and strength that lies within us.

If you are currently experiencing unsurmountable challenges of your own,I would like you to remind you the famous words of Rainer Maria Rilke,which has always inspired me a lot during my toughest time.

“Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart.Try to love the questions,like locked room and like books written in a foreign language.Do not now look for the answers.They cannot now be given to you because you could not live them. It is  a question of experiencing everything.At present you need to live the question.Perhaps you will gradually,without even noticing it,find yourself experiencing the answer,some distant day”.

So, my dear Readers,have patience with all your  pain and suffering and your life will give you all the answers to your discomforts and make your life better at an appropriate time.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.