YOUR FUTURE HAPPINESS LIES IN YOUR PAST MISTAKES!!

Yes, it is absolutely possible. How? Read it….

There are many people who spend their days beating up on themselves for past mistakes. They would think about that relationship that failed, analyze it and relentlessly review all the things they did wrong. They also have tendency to look at that business decisions that cost them, so much and dwell on things they could have done right. In my view, you don’t need to be so hard on yourself. We are all human beings and human beings have been destined to make mistakes. Believe me, as long as you don’t keep making the same mistakes and have a good judgement to let your past serve you, you will always be on the right path.

If we keep realizing that we all make mistakes and that they are essential to our growth and progress is liberating. We give up the need to be perfect and adopt a balanced views about our lives. In order to rise to a higher level of personal wisdom, you can make a list of five biggest mistakes you have made in your life on the left side of a page within your journal. Then, on the right hand side, write down the corresponding life lessons you have learned from every mistake and the benefits that actually flowed into your life as a result of those so-called failures.

You will soon see and start believing that your life would not be as colorful and rich without the mistakes of your past. So be flexible and gentler to yourself and see life for what it really is. A road to personal growth and lifelong learning!!

ALL THE BEST READERS.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

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DOES IT MAKE SENSE TO WORRY ABOUT THINGS YOU CANNOT CHANGE!! Obviously,NO!! BUT IS IT POSSIBLE? READ……

Whenever I face challenge and hardship in my own life that I fail to change,I remind myself The Serenity Prayer of Reinhold Niebuhr: “God,give us the grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed,courage to change the things which should be changed,and the wisdom to distinguish one from other”.

I was once attending a leadership coaching programme and going through an exercise.After finishing this exercise,I found that 50 percent of my worries related to things that would likely never happen; 30 percent were about past actions that could not be changed;10 percent related to the opinions of people whose opinion really did not matter to me; 4 percent concerned personal finances issues that was manageble;only 6 percent concerned real and worrying issues worthy of my attention.

It was amazing that by systematically identifying and then letting go of the worries I could do nothing about or that were a complete waste of energy,I managed to  eliminate 94 percent of problems that were constantly then bothering me all the time.

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List out all your worries in a systematic way and analyze them one by one carefully by asking yourself the right questions and trust me,you would also be placed in the same scenario like mine.Your stress level would immediately and drastically come down.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

 

YOU ARE BORN FOR A REASON-BIG OR SMALL!!

We start to live our lives from the day we start to take our very first  breath that god has given to us.Our purpose starts to take shape.With that first breath,we also step in the world which has endless failure for people who give up and astounding success for individuals who never give up trying.Money,fame ,success…all this has no meaning if the person has not worked harder and harder each day in order to achieve it.

We often hear…”HARDWORK IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS”;for achieving anything, hardwork is must.Work is a great rescue for all difficulties.Constant vigilance and dedication towards work is the price that we pay to gain success in life.Without hardwork, one cannot achieve,but can only dream and desire of achieving it.People go through certain phases in life….good and tough times.We are all humans,we all have that capability to make life as it existed in our dreams.When our time to experience that ‘dream’finally arrives,we forget almost everything and we ultimately get lost in that success,that success which we have been desperately wanting since forever.But somehow,when we actually start to live that dream,we forget about how to make it last forever.In that particular time we only think of our present and not future and hence we face hardship in our future.

The longest journey that we as human being will ever go through is the journey of life.Life has its ups and downs and at the most unexpected time,can go into a horrifying downfall,which has rough and bumpy corners.We eventually ask ourselves,”do we have any control on what our future holds or which turn we will take?

It is  true that life cannot be perfect all the time.Once in a life time,every person faces ups and downs in their lives.It is also  true that an individual with his strength to hold on and with the power of determination can conquer any battle,even if it is the “BATTLE OF LIFE”.Man is born to to work,prosper and grow in life.Just like steel,he shines in use and rusts in rest.

How does it matter if a man lives for ninety years and it is all a story of idleness and wasted opportunities? Lord Jesus Christ died when he was hardly thirty,Lenin died before he was sixty,and yet they have impressions on human history.Idleness  is truly a curse.If we waste time,time shall waste us.A life crammed with work is a life bubbling with a joy of success.Great men of the world were born as unfortunates in cottages but they died in idols,in palaces.

To sum up,greatness and success lie in hard,honest and selfless work.life can be hard to understand and I don’t think even the person most in touch with themselves knows why they were put on  this earth.I believe that we were put on this earth for a reason,big or small.Do we have a plan of our life set out for us already,that we have to follow,no matter how much we try to change it!!

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YOUR SUFFERINGS ARE YOUR BLESSINGS!

I was once during my corporate days attending the life leadership seminar of a very famous motivational speaker where he asked the participants this question:”who would agree with me that we learn the most from our most difficult experiences”? I saw nearly every hand in the room going up,including mine.It occurs to me nearly after a decade now that,if it is so,I fail to understand why we,as human being,spend so much of our lives focusing on the negative aspects of our most difficult experiences rather than seeing these sufferings as blessings in disguise!!

Believe me readers,you would not have the wisdom and knowledge you now possess were it not for the setbacks and hardships you have faced,the mistakes you have made and the sufferings you have endured along the path of your life.You must accept the fact once and for all that pain is a teacher and failure is the gateway to success.You cannot learn swimming without water entering through your nose and mouth and you will never learn horse riding without falling and atleast  one bone fracture.

Begin to see your troubles as blessings in disguise and be determined to turn your pain into wisdom.Like most people,I too have had my own share of pain and tremendous hardships in my various phases of life.But I always remind and self motivate myself that we can become strong only by going through life’s toughest challenges and experiences.It is during life’s most trying times that we discover who we really are and the boundless energy and strength that lies within us.

If you are currently experiencing unsurmountable challenges of your own,I would like you to remind you the famous words of Rainer Maria Rilke,which has always inspired me a lot during my toughest time.

“Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart.Try to love the questions,like locked room and like books written in a foreign language.Do not now look for the answers.They cannot now be given to you because you could not live them. It is  a question of experiencing everything.At present you need to live the question.Perhaps you will gradually,without even noticing it,find yourself experiencing the answer,some distant day”.

So, my dear Readers,have patience with all your  pain and suffering and your life will give you all the answers to your discomforts and make your life better at an appropriate time.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

YOUR PAST MAY HAVE SPOTS, BUT YOUR FUTURE IS SPOTLESS!!

Time is precious and the most amazing things about it is the fact that you cannot waste it in advance.It does not matter how much time you have wasted in past,the next hours that comes your way will be perfect,spotless and ready for you to make its best use.It also does not matter what has happened to you in past,your future is spotless.Every dawn brings with it  a  new day and opportunity to begin a completely new life.If you so desire and choose,tomorrow can be the day for you to start getting up early,go for morning walk,reading books,controlling your temper and worries.You could start being more of the person you dream to be.YOU JUST NEED TO DO IT!! THAT’S IT!!

Who is stopping you to decide and write afresh the story of your life on a blank page.You can decide at this very moment the way you would like it to unfold and create  a new ending.My only question to you will be-ARE YOU READY TO DO SO ?? Think about it!!

REMEMBER,IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO BECOME THE PERSON YOU DREAM AND HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it. My main objective is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm, anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

YOU MAY NOT BE A STAR BUT STILL, CAN BE A GOOD AND SUCCESSFUL BOSS!!

The toughest part of being a Boss is recognizing your strength and letting others cover you weakness.

In this regard,I have a story of a boss who was the editor-in -chief of a very successful weekly magazine.My close friend was being interviewed by a Veteran Reporter from the magazine when the two of them began chatting about his boss.Most of the editors my friend had met tend to be classic ‘idea’ people.Ideas are their stock in trade.They can think up dozen just by walking down the street and observing people.My friend told the Reporter how much he admired his magazine and how lucky he was to be working for such a creative Editor.As my friend complemented him on several stories he considered particularly clever,a puzzle look came over his face.

‘You have got it all wrong’,he said.”I have been in the magazine business for thirty years and he is the first boss I have ever met,who does not have any idea.He knows writing,he knows pictures,he knows what people want.But when it comes to generating story ideas,he lets us do that.Every Monday,he walks around the office,and tell each of us to have seven new ideas on his desk by Wednesday.

My admiration for Reporter’s boss rose another match.Anyone who can produce a successful magazine fifty-two times a year,without one idea of his own must know the importance of being a BOSS rather than a STAR.

DO YOU AGREE ? YOUR COMMENTS PLEASE!!

IS YOUR SEX LIFE  LOSING SPARK  A SEX DETOX CAN REIGNITE THIS SPARK AGAIN!!

“A MAN NEEDS SEX TO GET INTIMATE,WHILE A WOMAN NEEDS

TO GET INTIMATE TO HAVE SEX.”

 

A detox in the area of sex means eliminating sexual performance entirely,thereby making sex come across as the forbidden fruit.This increases longing for each other and helps reignite the passion.

Over a period  of time,say a few years down the line,couples tend to lose the spark,especially between the sheets.The reason for this lack of interest could be plenty-a busy schedule,work-related stress and/or tiredness,the same bedroom and the same positions.Your sex life is dramatically affected by these factors.After a long day work,you naturally want space to relax.This could lead to physical and emotional distance and THAT IS EXACTLY WHEN A SEX DETOX COMES INTO PLAY!!

“Sexual motivation is influenced by various hormones.When you abstain from sex,you become increasingly aware of the absence of hormonal release.This craving boosts your libodo and sexual performance.Now you may be having frequent sex or you may not have had sex with your partner for a while,BUT,that hunger that arises when you are aware that you are off sex for a month is what reignite passion.

Sex detox will help you to achieve the relationship results you both deserve.when you are on sex detox,you better rethink what both of you need and arrive at a decision with consideration for each other’s feelings,For instance,you cannot have sex but you can still cuddle,spoon and enjoy intimacy.Or if one of the partner feels ‘denied’ or rejected sexually during detox,this should be discussed openly and without resentment.

It should take only about a month of abstinence to notice the desired benefits-men begin to experience better erection and women enjoy sustained arousal and stronger orgasms.That slight hint of desperation add spice to your love life.IT IS LIKE YOUR FIRST TIME ALL OVER AGAIN!!

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A HEALTHY SEX LIFE IS IMPORTANT FOR BOTH OF YOU.PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THINGS FOR GRANTED.YOU BOTH MAY HAVE TO CONSISTENTLY INVEST TIME AND ENERGY AND FIND CREATIVE MEANS LIKE ‘Sex Detox’ TO KEEP YOUR SEX LIFE HAPPY AND SPICY.