HOW TO DEVELOP A GROWTH MIND-SET!!

We spend a lot of time and energy at work trying not to fail. However, most people des cribe their failure as an important part of learning and growing. Adopt a growth mind-set and accept that failure is the part of the process of skill development.

People with a growth mind-set feel smart when they are learning, not just when they are succeeding. Don’t limit yourself to doing things that you know you can do-trust me, you won’t grow that way.

Instead, try things that are above your ability and set high goals that you are you are not sure you can reach. You might surprise yourself and succeed, and if you don’t, you will atleast learn something new.

Is this not exciting? Your views pl!

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DO YOU WANT TO KNOW THE RIGHT TIME TO QUIT YOUR JOB AND BE YOUR OWN BOSS!!

I have worked in a very reputed and largest corporate house in India at a senior position for 23 years.As such,I know it very well that most of the people get tired of following others’ whims and fancies.If they have a choice,they would like to quit their job and follow their dreams.

But how do you decide what will be the right time for you to go solo or whether you should take the risk of leaving a cushy job to pursue a pipe dream? No one can become a successful entrepreneur overnight.If you are tempted to quit your job to start something of your own,you must do a little self-assessment  first.If you can relate to the following scenario and signs,you are ready for the move.

1-In my opinion,there is nothing like the right time or age to go solo.The time is right when you have an idea that you believe in,are passionate about it,and willing to bet your life on.So it does not matter how old are you,ask yourself first if you are really feeling an indomitable urge to do something you consider your true calling,and if you have enough fire in your belly to give shape to your fledging dreams.

2-Deciding to quit your job to become an entrepreneur is life-changing for its possibilities as well as its risks.you must keep your family in the loop.To overlook on the security a job provides,that is a fixed money in the bank at the beginning of every month,is a very courageous and bold moves in itself.It is not everybody’s cup of tea.The first rule in entrepreneurship-you have to be able to take risks,even while you provide for uncertainties with a detailed plan.In other words,if you are fully aware of the risks and if your family supports your decision,YOU ARE HALFWAY THROUGH.

3-I am assuming that you have the courage to take risks but do you have the emotional intelligence to run and manage your enterprise well.Are you capable of handling disappointments,stress and negativity to predict are you well equipped for the road ahead.There is a strong relationship between EQ and entrepreneurship as confirmed by several studies.If your EQ is high,you don’t get easily offended and can take rejections in life.

4-You should have enough savings to fall back on in your initial days.you should ask yourself how much of your savings you are willing to invest in your first entrepreneurial venture? Many entrepreneurs have experienced multiple failures before they got it right.so you should be ready to start small and built it up later.

5-As I know, you are not likely to make a living in the initial few years of your start-up.Your savings and investments,thus,must cater for not just the seed fund,but also for your living expenses for atleast a couple of years.you should also do reality-check-can you allocate about 25% of your savings for this.

6-I would like to make it abundantly clear that you may have an excellent business plan and an insatiable passion for business ideas,but things may not necessarily happen the way you want them to happen.you may have to digest heavy losses.So be clear about an exit plan too.Speak to your family about it

Every entrepreneur is so passionately driven that at times,we are unwilling to accept the fact that a venture is not working out or has failed and its time to call it quits.Can you handle such setbacks and failures?Your family members could be most helpful.

BUT IF YOU ARE AFRAID OF FAILURE,TAKE IT THAT YOU ARE NOT READY TO GO SOLO AND BE YOUR OWN BOSS YET.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

Meditation is the ultimate solution to all your anxiety, stress and anger related problems.

Trust me:I have experienced it.

It reminds me today what French mathematician Blaise Pascal once wrote,”All man’s miseries derive from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone” Loud noise and hectic activities have become an integral part of our daily life.We wake up to the sound of the radio blaring and love to dress up while the TV news is on.We drive to work listening to our favourite songs and latest traffic report and spend the next ten hours in a bustling office.we return home in the evening through a tiring and stressful traffic jam.Our day’s misery does not end here.we would get into the evening activities against the background sound of the tv,ringing phones and humming computers.You may agree with me that,if not all,most of our stress and anxiety stem from the fact that we have overlooked the importance of being silent,even for a short period every day.As such we lose the ability to concentrate and achieve our goals and dreams.Without a disciplined mind and deep concentration,your mind will be your master rather than your servant.

There was a phase in my life,when I lacked mental focus. Anxiety and lack of  concentration ruled my mind.But my life changed the day I learned to meditate about three decades ago.Meditation is an age-old technique that was developed by some of the world’s wisest people to gain full control of the mental faculty and lead a life free from anxiety and stress.Meditation is a method to train your mind to function the way it was designed to function.It has enormous benefits: A 30 minute’s of daily meditation can make you more patient in your relationship,more serene at the office and more happy when you are alone. Meditation can make you a far better parent and life partner.

You cannot afford to ignore the power of this five-thousand-year-old mind training discipline.

Message: in my view, in today’s world anxiety, stress and anger is our biggest and insurmountable problem, which ultimately leads to all kinds of major and dangerous health issues.

So, are you not ready or am i asking you too much to spare just 30 mins of your daily life for MEDITATION and live a happy life.

After all, what is the point of having name, fame, wealth, money and all good things in your life if you cannot enjoy it because of health issues.

THINK ABOUT IT !!

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

YOU ARE BORN FOR A REASON-BIG OR SMALL!!

We start to live our lives from the day we start to take our very first  breath that god has given to us.Our purpose starts to take shape.With that first breath,we also step in the world which has endless failure for people who give up and astounding success for individuals who never give up trying.Money,fame ,success…all this has no meaning if the person has not worked harder and harder each day in order to achieve it.

We often hear…”HARDWORK IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS”;for achieving anything, hardwork is must.Work is a great rescue for all difficulties.Constant vigilance and dedication towards work is the price that we pay to gain success in life.Without hardwork, one cannot achieve,but can only dream and desire of achieving it.People go through certain phases in life….good and tough times.We are all humans,we all have that capability to make life as it existed in our dreams.When our time to experience that ‘dream’finally arrives,we forget almost everything and we ultimately get lost in that success,that success which we have been desperately wanting since forever.But somehow,when we actually start to live that dream,we forget about how to make it last forever.In that particular time we only think of our present and not future and hence we face hardship in our future.

The longest journey that we as human being will ever go through is the journey of life.Life has its ups and downs and at the most unexpected time,can go into a horrifying downfall,which has rough and bumpy corners.We eventually ask ourselves,”do we have any control on what our future holds or which turn we will take?

It is  true that life cannot be perfect all the time.Once in a life time,every person faces ups and downs in their lives.It is also  true that an individual with his strength to hold on and with the power of determination can conquer any battle,even if it is the “BATTLE OF LIFE”.Man is born to to work,prosper and grow in life.Just like steel,he shines in use and rusts in rest.

How does it matter if a man lives for ninety years and it is all a story of idleness and wasted opportunities? Lord Jesus Christ died when he was hardly thirty,Lenin died before he was sixty,and yet they have impressions on human history.Idleness  is truly a curse.If we waste time,time shall waste us.A life crammed with work is a life bubbling with a joy of success.Great men of the world were born as unfortunates in cottages but they died in idols,in palaces.

To sum up,greatness and success lie in hard,honest and selfless work.life can be hard to understand and I don’t think even the person most in touch with themselves knows why they were put on  this earth.I believe that we were put on this earth for a reason,big or small.Do we have a plan of our life set out for us already,that we have to follow,no matter how much we try to change it!!

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Secret of maintaining a healthy Relationship.

  • HONESTY: This is the first &foremost quality you should have to maintain a Healthy Relationship. Be honest in everything you do.

 

  • GOOD HUMAN BEING: you can handle any or multiple complex Relationship provided you are a good human being.

 

  • About 99.9% Relationship fell apart because of communication problem they just don’t communicate with each other.Right communication does not mean what you ‘say’ to others but what is perceived by others.PLEASE ALWAYS COMMUNICATE effectively.

 

  • DEFEAT-There is no word like ‘DEFEAT’ in a Relationship.At times,you must learn to take one step back to maintain a harmonious Relationship.

 

  • IGNORE-Learn to ignore certain negative behavior in a person for a better relationship.

 

  • RESPECT-Always have respect for other’s views and feeling,be patient to listen to others.

 

  • COMMITMENT-Never back out from your commitment.

 

  • GIVE &TAKE: Never think what others have given to you.Think what you can give to others and make it a way of life.

 

  • Avoid ‘Fly by Night’ approach and maintain Relationship in ‘ Thick&Thin’ situation.Accept both good and bad in any relationship.

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IS IT DESIRABLE?

 HOW TO HANDLE YOUR SHORT-TEMPERED SPOUSE!!

 

     Most marriages go through periods of highs and lows-It is normal!! Therefore,it is quite common for a husband and wife to differ on certain points.At times,one-person becomes more dominant than the other.If the husband enjoys making his point heard, wife may prefer to let him have his say to maintain calmness and peace in their relationship.

Likewise, wife may disagree with her husband on different matters and the husband may choose to act as a peacemaker in the house.I have even seen short tempered wives and husbands,sometimes,do not even hesitate to scream at each other or at their sweet kids-not only in the house but also at the public places.Most of the time,the main reason of their scream is their stress and anxiety(due to any reason).

Believe me,these are the facts of life and you may have to face it at some point of life.

SOME EFFECTIVE WAY’S TO HANDLE YOUR SPOUSE’S BAD TEMPER:

1-Recognize the triggers,the first step is to recognize each other’s temperament.Make it a point to communicate and voice your feeling to one another in a calm and best possible way without being judgemental .For your respective anger issues,you can deal with them more effectively.It is a common knowledge that ‘opposite attract’ and so make sure that both of you balance each other out and are aware of what irks the other.

2-Learn to take one step back.It would be a wise move if you take a step back to allow your partner to cool down.Therefore,if you find your spouse getting angry over something,please do not make things ugly or worse by tackling them or reprimanding them for their actions then and there.Instead,step aside and allow them to calm down.In time,they themselves will come back and apologize for their outburst.The key here is to give them their space,so that they get time to realize their fault on their own.

3-Keep you attitude in check.Realize that,at times,it may be your behavior,body language and attitude that may cause tempers to fly.But if you fight fire with fire,you will surely land up in a stalemate with the problem still left unresolved.It is important that you manage your emotions well in order to prevent any major outburst with your temperamental spouse.So,if you know that there are things that could cause emotional outburst,your reaction to it could determine whether it has the possibility of turning ugly or getting unresolved.

4 – Have patience, patience and patience.

In order to really deal with your short-tempered spouse,you will have to demonstrate a lot of patience.Sometimes,you may disapprove of your own spouse’s outburst or screaming over trivial and petty issues.These may cause you to wonder what you might have done wrong.However,the key to dealing with such outburst over minor issues is to have the patience to deal with your partner calmly.

Therefore,please avoid  responding with equally nasty or provocative comments that could rupture into something major incident.

5-Talk,talk and talk. Encourage them towards change.you could help encourage your spouse to adopt certain tips to calm down during an outburst. Deep breathing,yoga and meditation could prove to be the right solution to help your partner to keep his/her stress and anxiety under control,which in turn will keep his/her temper under check.

I HAVE BEEN DOING IT FOR LAST THREE DECADES AND TRUST ME-IT HELPS A LOT TO KEEP YOUR STRESS,ANXIETY AND TEMPER UNDER FULL CONTROL.

TRY IT !!

6-Last but very important.A better sex life.This could be a major reason,why a spouse has a bad temper.It is vital that you both have a healthy sex life.If there are any issues,it must be resolved as fast as possible.

A GOOD SEX LIFE KEEPS A SPOUSE STRESS FREE,HAPPY AND TEMPER FREE.

YES,THIS IS TRUE!!

Based on my knowledge and experience about human behavior,I am confident that these tips will definitely help you to handle your spouse’s anger effectively

HOWEVER, SHOULD NONE OF THESE TIPS WORK,JUST REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE PICKED UP HER/HIM AND THEREFORE TAKE LIFE AS IT COMES TO YOU.EVERYTHING CHANGES ONE DAY(LAW OF NATURE) AND SO WILL CHANGE YOUR SPOUSE’S BAD TEMPER ALSO-ONE DAY.

                                                         MY MESSAGE

WAIT FOR THAT DAY-IT WILL SURELY COME.

APPROACH OF THIS ‘EMPLOYED PROFESSIONAL’ MAY NOT GET HIM OUT OF HIS RUT!!

ALL EMPLOYED PROFESSIONALS!!-NO OFFENCE PLEASE!!

Doing Job is a model,our fathers followed and one day they taught us to follow this traditional model! Simple!! And we will possibly transfer it to our children and this vicious cycle will go on and on.Should this mindset not change with changing job culture?

WELL, IT IS FOR YOU TO TAKE THE FINAL CALL !!

I too have been an employed professional for more than two and half decades. Obviously, I too had the same approach and mindset back then. This subject is very close to my heart, so, I want to tell you a very important lesson.

WHAT YOU CONSTANTLY THINK ABOUT YOU IS WHAT YOU BECOME IN LIFE(LAW OF ATTRACTION)

To make you understand this subject better,I would tell you a story which is one of my all time favorite business stories:

It is about a 45 year old Manager always struggling to pay his bills.So,he decided to consult a financial expert and get some advice.The Manager makes an appointment to meet with a well reputed financial advisor,whose office was located  in an expensive and stylish building on Cannaught place,New Delhi.

The Manager enters the expert’s elegantly done reception room,but instead of a receptionist,the manager was greeted by two doors – one marked “employed” and the other “self employed”

He enters the door marked “employed” and is greeted by two more rooms – one marked “makes less than 10 lacs” and the other “makes more than 10 lacs”

He makes less than 10 lacs,so he enters the door,only to find himself face to face with two more doors.The door on the left is marked-“saves more than Rs 10,000 a year”,and the one on the right is marked-“saves less than Rs 10,000 a year”.

The Manager only has about Rs 3,000 in his bank account,so he enters the door on the right ONLY TO FIND HIMSELF ON THE CANNAUGHT PLACE ROAD.

MORAL:THE SAME DOOR LEAD TO THE SAME RESULTS:

It is painfully obvious that this Manager in the story will never get out of his RUT until he starts choosing to open different doors.The moral of the story is that most of the people are like the Manager,like me back then,-they choose to enters the doors of life that lead them right back to where they started.

The only way for people to get different results is to choose to enter the different doors-IS THAT NOT TRUE? LIKE ONE OF MY MENTORS ALWAYS USE TO SAY,”IF YOU CONTINUE TO DO WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS DONE,YOU WILL CONTINUE TO GET WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS GOTTEN”

ABSOLUTELY TRUE!! IS NOT IT?

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