YOU ARE BORN FOR A REASON-BIG OR SMALL!!

We start to live our lives from the day we start to take our very first  breath that god has given to us.Our purpose starts to take shape.With that first breath,we also step in the world which has endless failure for people who give up and astounding success for individuals who never give up trying.Money,fame ,success…all this has no meaning if the person has not worked harder and harder each day in order to achieve it.

We often hear…”HARDWORK IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS”;for achieving anything, hardwork is must.Work is a great rescue for all difficulties.Constant vigilance and dedication towards work is the price that we pay to gain success in life.Without hardwork, one cannot achieve,but can only dream and desire of achieving it.People go through certain phases in life….good and tough times.We are all humans,we all have that capability to make life as it existed in our dreams.When our time to experience that ‘dream’finally arrives,we forget almost everything and we ultimately get lost in that success,that success which we have been desperately wanting since forever.But somehow,when we actually start to live that dream,we forget about how to make it last forever.In that particular time we only think of our present and not future and hence we face hardship in our future.

The longest journey that we as human being will ever go through is the journey of life.Life has its ups and downs and at the most unexpected time,can go into a horrifying downfall,which has rough and bumpy corners.We eventually ask ourselves,”do we have any control on what our future holds or which turn we will take?

It is  true that life cannot be perfect all the time.Once in a life time,every person faces ups and downs in their lives.It is also  true that an individual with his strength to hold on and with the power of determination can conquer any battle,even if it is the “BATTLE OF LIFE”.Man is born to to work,prosper and grow in life.Just like steel,he shines in use and rusts in rest.

How does it matter if a man lives for ninety years and it is all a story of idleness and wasted opportunities? Lord Jesus Christ died when he was hardly thirty,Lenin died before he was sixty,and yet they have impressions on human history.Idleness  is truly a curse.If we waste time,time shall waste us.A life crammed with work is a life bubbling with a joy of success.Great men of the world were born as unfortunates in cottages but they died in idols,in palaces.

To sum up,greatness and success lie in hard,honest and selfless work.life can be hard to understand and I don’t think even the person most in touch with themselves knows why they were put on  this earth.I believe that we were put on this earth for a reason,big or small.Do we have a plan of our life set out for us already,that we have to follow,no matter how much we try to change it!!

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Secret of maintaining a healthy Relationship.

  • HONESTY: This is the first &foremost quality you should have to maintain a Healthy Relationship. Be honest in everything you do.

 

  • GOOD HUMAN BEING: you can handle any or multiple complex Relationship provided you are a good human being.

 

  • About 99.9% Relationship fell apart because of communication problem they just don’t communicate with each other.Right communication does not mean what you ‘say’ to others but what is perceived by others.PLEASE ALWAYS COMMUNICATE effectively.

 

  • DEFEAT-There is no word like ‘DEFEAT’ in a Relationship.At times,you must learn to take one step back to maintain a harmonious Relationship.

 

  • IGNORE-Learn to ignore certain negative behavior in a person for a better relationship.

 

  • RESPECT-Always have respect for other’s views and feeling,be patient to listen to others.

 

  • COMMITMENT-Never back out from your commitment.

 

  • GIVE &TAKE: Never think what others have given to you.Think what you can give to others and make it a way of life.

 

  • Avoid ‘Fly by Night’ approach and maintain Relationship in ‘ Thick&Thin’ situation.Accept both good and bad in any relationship.

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IS IT DESIRABLE?

 HOW TO HANDLE YOUR SHORT-TEMPERED SPOUSE!!

 

     Most marriages go through periods of highs and lows-It is normal!! Therefore,it is quite common for a husband and wife to differ on certain points.At times,one-person becomes more dominant than the other.If the husband enjoys making his point heard, wife may prefer to let him have his say to maintain calmness and peace in their relationship.

Likewise, wife may disagree with her husband on different matters and the husband may choose to act as a peacemaker in the house.I have even seen short tempered wives and husbands,sometimes,do not even hesitate to scream at each other or at their sweet kids-not only in the house but also at the public places.Most of the time,the main reason of their scream is their stress and anxiety(due to any reason).

Believe me,these are the facts of life and you may have to face it at some point of life.

SOME EFFECTIVE WAY’S TO HANDLE YOUR SPOUSE’S BAD TEMPER:

1-Recognize the triggers,the first step is to recognize each other’s temperament.Make it a point to communicate and voice your feeling to one another in a calm and best possible way without being judgemental .For your respective anger issues,you can deal with them more effectively.It is a common knowledge that ‘opposite attract’ and so make sure that both of you balance each other out and are aware of what irks the other.

2-Learn to take one step back.It would be a wise move if you take a step back to allow your partner to cool down.Therefore,if you find your spouse getting angry over something,please do not make things ugly or worse by tackling them or reprimanding them for their actions then and there.Instead,step aside and allow them to calm down.In time,they themselves will come back and apologize for their outburst.The key here is to give them their space,so that they get time to realize their fault on their own.

3-Keep you attitude in check.Realize that,at times,it may be your behavior,body language and attitude that may cause tempers to fly.But if you fight fire with fire,you will surely land up in a stalemate with the problem still left unresolved.It is important that you manage your emotions well in order to prevent any major outburst with your temperamental spouse.So,if you know that there are things that could cause emotional outburst,your reaction to it could determine whether it has the possibility of turning ugly or getting unresolved.

4 – Have patience, patience and patience.

In order to really deal with your short-tempered spouse,you will have to demonstrate a lot of patience.Sometimes,you may disapprove of your own spouse’s outburst or screaming over trivial and petty issues.These may cause you to wonder what you might have done wrong.However,the key to dealing with such outburst over minor issues is to have the patience to deal with your partner calmly.

Therefore,please avoid  responding with equally nasty or provocative comments that could rupture into something major incident.

5-Talk,talk and talk. Encourage them towards change.you could help encourage your spouse to adopt certain tips to calm down during an outburst. Deep breathing,yoga and meditation could prove to be the right solution to help your partner to keep his/her stress and anxiety under control,which in turn will keep his/her temper under check.

I HAVE BEEN DOING IT FOR LAST THREE DECADES AND TRUST ME-IT HELPS A LOT TO KEEP YOUR STRESS,ANXIETY AND TEMPER UNDER FULL CONTROL.

TRY IT !!

6-Last but very important.A better sex life.This could be a major reason,why a spouse has a bad temper.It is vital that you both have a healthy sex life.If there are any issues,it must be resolved as fast as possible.

A GOOD SEX LIFE KEEPS A SPOUSE STRESS FREE,HAPPY AND TEMPER FREE.

YES,THIS IS TRUE!!

Based on my knowledge and experience about human behavior,I am confident that these tips will definitely help you to handle your spouse’s anger effectively

HOWEVER, SHOULD NONE OF THESE TIPS WORK,JUST REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE PICKED UP HER/HIM AND THEREFORE TAKE LIFE AS IT COMES TO YOU.EVERYTHING CHANGES ONE DAY(LAW OF NATURE) AND SO WILL CHANGE YOUR SPOUSE’S BAD TEMPER ALSO-ONE DAY.

                                                         MY MESSAGE

WAIT FOR THAT DAY-IT WILL SURELY COME.

APPROACH OF THIS ‘EMPLOYED PROFESSIONAL’ MAY NOT GET HIM OUT OF HIS RUT!!

ALL EMPLOYED PROFESSIONALS!!-NO OFFENCE PLEASE!!

Doing Job is a model,our fathers followed and one day they taught us to follow this traditional model! Simple!! And we will possibly transfer it to our children and this vicious cycle will go on and on.Should this mindset not change with changing job culture?

WELL, IT IS FOR YOU TO TAKE THE FINAL CALL !!

I too have been an employed professional for more than two and half decades. Obviously, I too had the same approach and mindset back then. This subject is very close to my heart, so, I want to tell you a very important lesson.

WHAT YOU CONSTANTLY THINK ABOUT YOU IS WHAT YOU BECOME IN LIFE(LAW OF ATTRACTION)

To make you understand this subject better,I would tell you a story which is one of my all time favorite business stories:

It is about a 45 year old Manager always struggling to pay his bills.So,he decided to consult a financial expert and get some advice.The Manager makes an appointment to meet with a well reputed financial advisor,whose office was located  in an expensive and stylish building on Cannaught place,New Delhi.

The Manager enters the expert’s elegantly done reception room,but instead of a receptionist,the manager was greeted by two doors – one marked “employed” and the other “self employed”

He enters the door marked “employed” and is greeted by two more rooms – one marked “makes less than 10 lacs” and the other “makes more than 10 lacs”

He makes less than 10 lacs,so he enters the door,only to find himself face to face with two more doors.The door on the left is marked-“saves more than Rs 10,000 a year”,and the one on the right is marked-“saves less than Rs 10,000 a year”.

The Manager only has about Rs 3,000 in his bank account,so he enters the door on the right ONLY TO FIND HIMSELF ON THE CANNAUGHT PLACE ROAD.

MORAL:THE SAME DOOR LEAD TO THE SAME RESULTS:

It is painfully obvious that this Manager in the story will never get out of his RUT until he starts choosing to open different doors.The moral of the story is that most of the people are like the Manager,like me back then,-they choose to enters the doors of life that lead them right back to where they started.

The only way for people to get different results is to choose to enter the different doors-IS THAT NOT TRUE? LIKE ONE OF MY MENTORS ALWAYS USE TO SAY,”IF YOU CONTINUE TO DO WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS DONE,YOU WILL CONTINUE TO GET WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS GOTTEN”

ABSOLUTELY TRUE!! IS NOT IT?

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KARMVEER!! (ACTION WARRIOR)

I wrote this poem last night and is dedicated to all my  beloved fans of wordpress.

 

Ho sakta hai ki tum mujhe,

Hazaar baar zameen par gira do,

Lekin ye tay hai ki tum mujhe,

zameen par uthne se nahi roke paoge!!

Ho sakta hai tum mujhe ghayal karke,

phir girane mei kaamyaab ho jao,

Lekin ye mera drihd neeschaya hai ki,

Tum mujhe khade hokar aage badhne se nahi roke paoge!!

KYON KI JEEVAN HAR HAAL MEI CHALNE KA NAAM HAI!!

Message

Karmveer Bano

English Translation for those fans who cannot understand Hindi:

It is possible that you may knock me down 1000 times,

But one thing is for sure- I will again get up!

It is likely that you may make me fall down again,

But I will be determined to get up again and march ahead,

And you dare not stop me,

Because to keep moving ahead is what  keeps me alive and Karmveer( Action warrior) is my name.

Pl do send me your feedback.

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SHOULD WE JUDGE A PERSON ON THE BASIS OF LOOK ALONE?

In my view before we try to answer this question,you should first ask yourself ‘why do I ask such question?’ What is the real purpose? I mean,do you want answer to this question because you are looking for a date with someone for a serious relationship leading to marriage OR you are looking for someone for a casual relationship OR you want someone to be with you to move around in a circle of friends who are good looking OR You are looking for a like minded person to regularly spend quality time with him or her.

As a general rule,judging someone on the basis of look alone can prevent you from seeing the good that lies beyond appearance.But the choice of your answer would entirely depend upon what is your real purpose.For instance,,how does it matter when you judge some one on the basis of look alone,if you want to have a casual relationship with him or her?

But yes,if you are looking for a date with someone for a serious relationship leading to marriage,you may have to  take a different view altogether,.because it’s a different ballgame.But let me tell you one thing. Honestly,you cannot ignore or undermine the importance of good look.Physical attraction is a very natural God gift to humanity and its normal to get attracted to a good looking man or woman.After all,when you meet someone for the first time ,you can only see his/her look-not other good or bad qualities.

But since we are now only confined to answer your question for a serious relationship,I am not averse to look for a good looking guy or girl because that is the first step in exploring other good or bad  habits in each other which will take time.

It may so happen,after being with each other for a sufficient time,if you ultimately find that he or she is a right marriage material,as per your choice of qualities,you can seal this relationship into a permanent relationship and if you find that he or she is not a marriage material,you should not try to take this this relationship to the next level on the basis of good look alone which had brought you both together.YOU BOTH SHOULD HAVE A HONEST AND FRANK DISCUSSION WITH EACH OTHER AND DEPART GRACEFULLY WITH EACH OTHER,

MESSAGE

I very strongly feel that no serious relationship can survive or sustain purely on the basis of good look.It has to have other desired qualities like DEPENDABILITY, TRUSTWORTHINESS AND RIGHT THINKING. If a person lacks in these qualities, in my view,any serious relationship can not flourish and be permanent.

A WORD OF CAUTION:PL DO NOT MAKE ANY COMMITMENT FOR MARRIAGE PURELY ON THE BASIS OF GOOD LOOK AND UNLESS YOU HAVE EXPLORED THE OTHER DESIRED QUALITIES AND ARE SURE ABOUT IT.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards

PEOPLE DO NOT RESIST CHANGE THEY RESIST BEING CHANGED!!

A change of heart in a human being is possible only when there is a change in the internal dialogue of the person. We cannot and infact should not compel people to change. We should merely induce the change process by changing the internal dialogue within the person.

I want to share with you a story from Buddha’s life that will clearly demonstrate how you can possibly transform people.

When Buddha was alive,a man came to him and started accusing him of spreading dangerous knowledge.He said, “you teach people to beg and to do nothing.You are doing a great harm to the society,” the man was out of his head with angry outburst of words.Buddha listened to him in complete silence. When the man had let off all his steam Buddha said,” if you have finished speaking, can I ask you a question?” The man angrily said,”Go ahead and ask what you have to.” Buddha said, “Imagine that you had brought a gift for a friend but your friend refuses to accept the gift.To whom does this gift now belong?”

The man said, “Pure commonsense! The gift now belongs to the one who brought it- he should take it back!” Buddha became silent again. Puzzled by  Buddha’s question,this man went on his way back.While he was travelling back he bagan to have a new dialogue in his mind about the gift of anger that he had brought to Buddha who silently refused to accept it.This transformed the man and he ran back to Buddha to seek forgiveness,

So,if you want to change people allow them space and time to grow in their self-knowledge.

MESSAGE

THE ONLY WAY TO CHANGE PEOPLE IS TO ENABLE THEM TO GROW!!

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