You spend your life or energy or talents chasing things: the more you get, the more you want. They never fulfill their promise of happiness. Its a pretty cruel ruse once you really think about it.
You get the car you have been dreaming of for years and after a few days, you are already thinking about the next one. You move into your dream home or get your dream job and within a couple of weeks, the attraction has faded and the sparkle has gone. Its no longer exciting. Your attention moves on to the next desire.
What i have experienced in my life is that things can never bring you joy that lasts!!
I want to be incredibly clear: there is absolutely nothing wrong, in my mind, with having, collecting or wanting nice things. They make the climb to the mountaintop more pleasant.
I guess what i am trying to say is that perhaps the key for us is not to worship them. Not to get hooked by them. Not to be enslaved by all the things material.
Enjoy them. Just dont get caught in the trap they often set.
So yes, own things. Its a human hunger. Get the shiny objects of allure that call out for your attention. And once you own them, enjoy them.
But dont let them own you. Possess them. Bt dont be possessed by them.
Yes! I feel very strong about this theme!
I always remember this proverb-” the smallest of actions is always much better than the noblest of intentions!” It is not so much about dreaming up a big idea. Its all about acting on them.
What seperates the ordinary ones from the great ones is a simple fact: the best of the best execute brilliantly around their most vital priorties.
Leadership is, in so many ways, about getting right things done.
Not started. Not in process. Done!
So today, make a decision that will revolutionize your career, life or self: Never leave the site of an opportunity without doing something to seize it.
BE LESS ABOUT TALK AND MORE ABOUT DO !!
My flying training was the best phase of my life. It taught me many lessons which i very much remember even today! When i was undergoing Flying Training, my instructor and Mentor wing commander Vincent Mendonze would often tell me one thing and i still remember his conversation. He said something brilliant that i wanted to share with you. Because it speaks to the best way to influence other people. Lead people by example!!
“Ravi”, he said, “The greatest sermon in life is the one you see”. Very sensible and sensitive idea: to me that meant, Make your life your message. Live your truth. Walk your core values. Behave your conviction & philosophy. That’s how you can move those around you to play at their best. No other way!!
It is so easy to talk about a brilliant & splendid lesson. Far harder to live it. But the great ones do it. Elegantly. Consistently. Passionately. My dad is one of them.
This reminds me what famous psychologist Abraham Maslow said once, “In order for us to become truly happy, that which we can become, we must become.”
In my view-to choose our attitude! What about you?
One of my favourite book is ‘Man’s search for Meaning’, written by Victor Frank, an Austrian psychotherapist who survived confinement in Nazi concentration camp. So many of these around him perished. They lost hope. They fell into despair, then death.
He managed to get through the ordeal by applying what I believe is our highest human freedom: Our ability to choose how we respond to and process any event that happens to us.
We can look for some good or we can become haunted by the bad.CHOICE IS OURS!
In my view, everything can be taken from a man except one thing,the last of human freedom to choose one’s attitude to a given set of circumstances, to choose one’s way.
Such a Superb and Brilliant ‘OPTION’ to all of us!!
Do you ever notice that it is the people we love most that we take most for granted? Odd,is not it.It is easy to spend less time with your family because they will always be there for you or so you assume. It is easy to hold back expressing your love to your loved ones because there seems to be no urgency to do so. It was so easy to let home relationship slip because you assume there are more pressing things to deal with.
But tell me what could possibly be more important than your family? What is the point of being Super-Success, but alone? A full family photo album is more brilliant and impressive to me than an overflowing bank account. Honestly. Trust me!!
So pick up the phone and tell your parents that you love them. Before you leave for work, give your spouse a warm kiss-like you really mean it. Say I love you to that special one! Be honest!!
And please hug your kids and tell them you adore them. Your kids will only be young once. And when the window of opportunity closes, it will close for ever.
My core values and life experience have taught me that success is the result of a very delicate balance between making things happen and letting things happen. Yes, i agree we have the responsibility to set our goals and realise our potential and play at our very best.
We need to do our part. Good things definitely unfold for people who are devoted to doing great things. But may i suggest we also need to show a gentle commitment to letting things unfold. In other words, do your best- then let life do the rest!! It may take time! Be patient!
I have the conviction that life will always lead you to a place that’s better, even when it may not seem like it. I have learnt it is important to let life lead you. Not an easy lesson to absorb- I know; still working on that one myself.
If you have tried everything possible to realise an outcome and it just has not worked out as planned- STOP TRYING SO HARD!! Relax! May be nothing is wrong. May be timing is not right. May be what you wanted was not in you best interests. May be while one door seems to be closing, another is actually opening.
And often, once you let go of what you thought was best, believe me, space is created for something even better for you to arrive.
BECAUSE EVERY ENDING USHERS IN A BRAND-NEW BEGINNING!!
Do you know that the very nature of dreaming big dreams and stretching yourself beyond the normal can be dangerous.
Dangerous in the sense that you leave safely, you leave routine, you leave the common world where unhappy people smile giant smiles when they are asked to pose for a picture.
And as you came out of your comfort zone, you will certainly fail more than your neighbours and those who live a life called ordinary. But one must fail to win.
One must be willing to risk greatly to reach your personal mountaintop and your authentic definition of success.
And i would rather reach high and be disappointed than not even try to reach. And when i fall, i get back up, dust myself off- and i start again.
Wiser, stronger and more committed!!
Just like you!!