DO YOU WANT TO HAVE A BETTER SELF CONTROL AND WILLPOWER?? TRY THIS!!

Silence and smile are two powerful tools.

Smile is the way to solve many problems and

Silence is the way to avoid many problems!!

 

Your silence for one hour a day can bring magical results!!

Yes, silence can build up an enormous willpower-one that has been used by the Buddhist monks and many cultures over the years to build up a rock like willpower and enormous amount of inner strength and determination.you can enhance your will power and self control by observing silence even for a short period because you exert force on your will by not giving in to the impulse to talk.

I see many people talking far more than they need to.we often continue to talk on and on rather than speaking precisely and communicating only what needs to be communicated.It only reflects a lack of discipline in our life.Discipline involves saying exactly what needs to be said and preserving your precious mental energy by not talking more than you have to.Measured,precise speech is also a sign of clear thought and of a serene mind.

A better strategy to improve your personal discipline could be to take a firm decision to be silent for one hour a day over the next seven days.you must not speak at all during this silent time.DON’T WASTE YOUR WORDS ON PEOPLE WHO DESERVE YOUR SILENCE.However,if you must,speak only in a direct response to a question and give a brief,clear and crisp answer without getting into a detailed conversation.you can observe silence politely and warmly.The purpose of this exercise is to make you stronger and  build up your WILL.

Believe me,in a few days,you will feel and experience a tremendous sense of CONTROL and POWER growing within you.The results will speak for themselves.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

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DOES IT MAKE SENSE TO WORRY ABOUT THINGS YOU CANNOT CHANGE!! Obviously,NO!! BUT IS IT POSSIBLE? READ……

Whenever I face challenge and hardship in my own life that I fail to change,I remind myself The Serenity Prayer of Reinhold Niebuhr: “God,give us the grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed,courage to change the things which should be changed,and the wisdom to distinguish one from other”.

I was once attending a leadership coaching programme and going through an exercise.After finishing this exercise,I found that 50 percent of my worries related to things that would likely never happen; 30 percent were about past actions that could not be changed;10 percent related to the opinions of people whose opinion really did not matter to me; 4 percent concerned personal finances issues that was manageble;only 6 percent concerned real and worrying issues worthy of my attention.

It was amazing that by systematically identifying and then letting go of the worries I could do nothing about or that were a complete waste of energy,I managed to  eliminate 94 percent of problems that were constantly then bothering me all the time.

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List out all your worries in a systematic way and analyze them one by one carefully by asking yourself the right questions and trust me,you would also be placed in the same scenario like mine.Your stress level would immediately and drastically come down.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

 

THE MORE RISK YOU TAKE THE MORE REWARDS YOU GET!!

I can tell you one thing with certainty that when you will be facing your death bed,it will not be all the risks you took that you will regret the most.Rather,what will fill your heart with the greatest amount of regret and sadness will be all those risks that you did not take,all those opportunities you did not seize and all those fears you did not face.

If you want to live your life to the fullest,start taking more calculated risks and especially doing things that you fear most.you must learn to gladly accept your discomfort and stop taking safe and less resistence path.No doubt,you would strike your toe painfully against a hard surface when you walk the road less travelled,but take it from me,that is the only way you can get somewhere.

You must stop spending your days searching for security.The real success lies in spending your time persuing opportunity.Life is all about choices.The choices you make is what you become in life.Like in a game of chess,there are infinite choices in your life and it is upto your wisdom what choice you make.All achievers,actualized people simply make wiser choice than others.There can be a person who could chose to spend rest of his days sitting on shore of life in complete safety while there will also be a person who would decide to take a chance,deep dive into the water and discover the pearl that lie waiting for the person of true courage.

If you want to keep yourself inspired and focused on the fact that you must keep stretching your own personal boundaries as days go by,you must remember the following words by Theodore Roosevelt.

“It is not the critic who counts,not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled,or where the doer of deeds could have done better.The credit belongs to  the man who is actually in the arena.,whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood,who strives valiantly,who errs and comes short again and again,who knows the great enthusiasm,the great devotions and spends himself in a worthy cause,who at best knows in the end the triumphs of high achievement and who at the worst,if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know NEITHER VICTORY NOR DEFEAT.

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PL DO NOT FEAR TAKING RISKS AND BOTHER ABOUT FAILURE.I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN A HIGH RISK TAKER AND A GREAT LOSER TOO. WHEN I TASTED SUCCESS PEOPLE BRANDED ME ACHIEVER AND WHEN I FAILED PEOPLE BRANDED ME LOSER.PL DO NOT FEAR BEING A  LOSER BECAUSE IT IS THE FIRST STEP TO BE AN ACHIEVER.

ON THE OTHER SIDE OF FEAR LIES FREEDOM.GRAB YOUR FREEDOM!!

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

YOUR SUFFERINGS ARE YOUR BLESSINGS!!

 I was once during my corporate days attending the life leadership seminar of a very famous motivational speaker where he asked the participants this question:”who would agree with me that we learn the most from our most difficult experiences”? I saw nearly every hand in the room going up,including mine.It occurs to me nearly after a decade now that,if it is so,I fail to understand why we,as human being,spend so much of our lives focusing on the negative aspects of our most difficult experiences rather than seeing these sufferings as blessings in disguise!!

Believe me readers,you would not have the wisdom and knowledge you now possess were it not for the setbacks and hardships you have faced,the mistakes you have made and the sufferings you have endured along the path of your life.You must accept the fact once and for all that pain is a teacher and failure is the gateway to success.You cannot learn swimming without water entering through your nose and mouth and you will never learn horse riding without falling and atleast  one bone fracture.

Begin to see your troubles as blessings in disguise and be determined to turn your pain into wisdom.Like most people,I too have had my own share of pain and tremendous hardships in my various phases of life.But I always remind and self motivate myself that we can become strong only by going through life’s toughest challenges and experiences.It is during life’s most trying times that we discover who we really are and the boundless energy and strength that lies within us.

If you are currently experiencing unsurmountable challenges of your own,I would like you to remind you the famous words of Rainer Maria Rilke,which has always inspired me a lot during my toughest time.

“Have patience with everything that remains unsolved in your heart.Try to love the questions,like locked room and like books written in a foreign language.Do not now look for the answers.They cannot now be given to you because you could not live them. It is  a question of experiencing everything.At present you need to live the question.Perhaps you will gradually,without even noticing it,find yourself experiencing the answer,some distant day”.

So, my dear Readers,have patience with all your  pain and suffering and your life will give you all the answers to your discomforts and make your life better at an appropriate time.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

KEEP SHIFTING YOUR PERSPECTIVE DURING DIFFICULT TIMES!! IT  WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOR EVER!!

I would start with an old story of a man with a serious illness,who was wheeled into a hospital room where another patient was resting on a bed next to the window.As the two became friends,the one next to the window would look out of it and then start delighting his bedridden companion with beautiful description of the world outside window.He would speak about the beautiful trees in the park across from the  hospital and the leaves danced in the wind.He would on other day entertain his friend with replays of the things people were doing as they walked by the hospital.However,with each passing day,the bedridden man got frustrated over his inability to observe the wonderful things his friend described.Eventually,he started to dislike him and then hate him intensly.

It so happened one night that during a bad coughing fit,the patient next to window stopped breathing.The other man,rather than pressing the emergency button for help,chose to do nothing about it.The next morning the patient who had given his friend so much happiness by describing the wonderful sights outside the window was declared dead and wheeled out of the hospital room.The other man quickly asked that his bed be placed next to the window and his request was complied with by the attending nurse.But as he looked out of the window,he discovered something that made him shocked: the window faced a stark brick wall.His former roommate had described a beautiful world outside the window as a loving gesture to make his friend happier during a difficult time.He had acted out of selfless love for his companion.

This story always inspire me to create a shift in my own perspective when I think about it.During your most difficult time,when you are down with negative thoughts,to live happier and more fulfilling lives,we must keep shifting our perspective and continuously ask ourselves,”IS THERE A WISER,MORE ENLIGHTENED WAY OF LOOKING AT THIS SEEMINGLY NEGATIVE SITUATION?”

PL DO THIS AND TRUST ME,THE PLEASURE WILL BE ENTIRELY MINE.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

RESPECT YOUR PAST-IT HAS A REASON & MESSAGE FOR YOU

Science has revealed a timeless reality that holds that you become what you consistently think about over a period of time.And thinking about all these things that you wish never happened to you is actually blocking all the things you want to happen from entering your life.Does it really make sense to worry about past events or mistakes. Of course not,unless you want to experience them for a second time.Yes,think about it!!

Please take it from me that, if you have failed more than others,there is a very good chance you are living a more meaningful life than others.Those who take more chances and dare to do more than others will obviously experience more failures.But on a personal level,I would rather have courage to try something and then fail than never to have tried it  at all fearing failures.

I have experienced that in life’s greatest setbacks is hidden life’s biggest opportunities.”There is in the worst of fortunes the best chances for a happy change”.If you have suffered a lot and faced tremendous difficulties in life,it could be a clear indication,perhaps,god is preparing you to serve some greater purpose that needs you to be equipped with the  wisdom you have acquired through your trials.Please use these life lessons to fuel your future growth,Always remember,happy people have often experienced as much adversity as those who are unhappy.

I have learnt to honour my past,learn life lessons from them and would prefer spending rest of my life expanding my human side and trying to make the seemingly impossible probables than LIVE A LIFE OF COMFORT,SECURITY AND MEDIOCRITY.That is the essence of true life success.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

YOUR PAST MAY HAVE SPOTS, BUT YOUR FUTURE IS SPOTLESS!!

Time is precious and the most amazing things about it is the fact that you cannot waste it in advance.It does not matter how much time you have wasted in past,the next hours that comes your way will be perfect,spotless and ready for you to make its best use.It also does not matter what has happened to you in past,your future is spotless.Every dawn brings with it  a  new day and opportunity to begin a completely new life.If you so desire and choose,tomorrow can be the day for you to start getting up early,go for morning walk,reading books,controlling your temper and worries.You could start being more of the person you dream to be.YOU JUST NEED TO DO IT!! THAT’S IT!!

Who is stopping you to decide and write afresh the story of your life on a blank page.You can decide at this very moment the way you would like it to unfold and create  a new ending.My only question to you will be-ARE YOU READY TO DO SO ?? Think about it!!

REMEMBER,IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO BECOME THE PERSON YOU DREAM AND HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it. My main objective is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm, anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.