Secret of maintaining a healthy Relationship.

  • HONESTY: This is the first &foremost quality you should have to maintain a Healthy Relationship. Be honest in everything you do.

 

  • GOOD HUMAN BEING: you can handle any or multiple complex Relationship provided you are a good human being.

 

  • About 99.9% Relationship fell apart because of communication problem they just don’t communicate with each other.Right communication does not mean what you ‘say’ to others but what is perceived by others.PLEASE ALWAYS COMMUNICATE effectively.

 

  • DEFEAT-There is no word like ‘DEFEAT’ in a Relationship.At times,you must learn to take one step back to maintain a harmonious Relationship.

 

  • IGNORE-Learn to ignore certain negative behavior in a person for a better relationship.

 

  • RESPECT-Always have respect for other’s views and feeling,be patient to listen to others.

 

  • COMMITMENT-Never back out from your commitment.

 

  • GIVE &TAKE: Never think what others have given to you.Think what you can give to others and make it a way of life.

 

  • Avoid ‘Fly by Night’ approach and maintain Relationship in ‘ Thick&Thin’ situation.Accept both good and bad in any relationship.

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A RIGHT FEEDBACK ABOUT YOU CAN ALWAYS POINT YOU IN RIGHT DIRECTION.

  • Being a flop at one or two things is not the end of life and it does not have to cause a crisis of confidence-ITS QUITE NORMAL. If you have the mental strength to withstand such flops-learn from such flops and move ahead in life without ever giving up-SUCCESS IS GUARANTEED.

 

  • All of us must play the hand we have been dealt.we can enhance natural talents with education,practice,concentration &Will.But it is dangerous fantasy to imagine that we can ignore our physical and mental limits.

 

  • Yet maximizing your talent is only the half battle, and in many cases the easiest part.What is most difficult is figuring out where your talents lie.

 

  • Whatever we decide to try,do not be afraid to start again if the job disappoints you or your performance(be candid with yourself) is disappointing. Motivation comes largely from success breeding success.

 

  • Reading results means reading yourself.Learn to understand when you have done well,when you have done badly,when you can improve and when you have reached your limitation.Just learn these four things and you are surely ahead of everybody.

 

  • There are numerous ways to check the right assessment of your performance and how well-suited you are for a particular job or position.

 

  • To begin with,ask your immediate boss for a frank appraisal.And listen to answer.It is human nature to hear what we want to hear and block out the rest. Most bosses start tactfully with good news.Only later in the conversation will they get to what bothers them about you,your performance or suitability for the position.

 

  • These sessions clear the air and give you valuable advice to work on.You may pick up easy ways to put yourself on a fast track.And even if the critique is devastating,it is better to know your status than not to know.

 

  • Being a flop at one or twenty things is not the end of everything in life and it does not have to cause a crisis of confidence.It is perfectly ‘NORMAL’.But if you have the ‘MENTAL STRENGTH’ to put up a brave face to these ‘REPEATED FLOPS’ and learn from it-your success is guaranteed!!

 

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Feedback is learning about yourself-whether from your boss or from a friend.It will almost always point you in the RIGHT DIRECTION

YOU MAY NOT BE A STAR BUT STILL, CAN BE A GOOD AND SUCCESSFUL BOSS!!

 

The toughest part of being a Boss is recognizing your strength and letting others cover you weakness.

In this regard,I have a story of a boss who was the editor-in -chief of a very successful weekly magazine.My close friend was being interviewed by a Veteran Reporter from the magazine when the two of them began chatting about his boss.Most of the editors my friend had met tend to be classic ‘idea’ people.Ideas are their stock in trade.They can think up dozen just by walking down the street and observing people.My friend told the Reporter how much he admired his magazine and how lucky he was to be working for such a creative Editor.As my friend complemented him on several stories he considered particularly clever,a puzzle look came over his face.

‘You have got it all wrong’,he said.”I have been in the magazine business for thirty years and he is the first boss I have ever met,who does not have any idea.He knows writing,he knows pictures,he knows what people want.But when it comes to generating story ideas,he lets us do that.Every Monday,he walks around the office,and tell each of us to have seven new ideas on his desk by Wednesday.

My admiration for Reporter’s boss rose another match.Anyone who can produce a successful magazine fifty-two times a year,without one idea of his own must know the importance of being a BOSS rather than a STAR.

DO YOU AGREE ? YOUR COMMENTS PLEASE!!

IS YOUR SEX LIFE  LOSING SPARK  A SEX DETOX CAN REIGNITE THIS SPARK AGAIN!!

“A MAN NEEDS SEX TO GET INTIMATE,WHILE A WOMAN NEEDS

TO GET INTIMATE TO HAVE SEX.”

 

A detox in the area of sex means eliminating sexual performance entirely,thereby making sex come across as the forbidden fruit.This increases longing for each other and helps reignite the passion.

Over a period  of time,say a few years down the line,couples tend to lose the spark,especially between the sheets.The reason for this lack of interest could be plenty-a busy schedule,work-related stress and/or tiredness,the same bedroom and the same positions.Your sex life is dramatically affected by these factors.After a long day work,you naturally want space to relax.This could lead to physical and emotional distance and THAT IS EXACTLY WHEN A SEX DETOX COMES INTO PLAY!!

“Sexual motivation is influenced by various hormones.When you abstain from sex,you become increasingly aware of the absence of hormonal release.This craving boosts your libodo and sexual performance.Now you may be having frequent sex or you may not have had sex with your partner for a while,BUT,that hunger that arises when you are aware that you are off sex for a month is what reignite passion.

Sex detox will help you to achieve the relationship results you both deserve.when you are on sex detox,you better rethink what both of you need and arrive at a decision with consideration for each other’s feelings,For instance,you cannot have sex but you can still cuddle,spoon and enjoy intimacy.Or if one of the partner feels ‘denied’ or rejected sexually during detox,this should be discussed openly and without resentment.

It should take only about a month of abstinence to notice the desired benefits-men begin to experience better erection and women enjoy sustained arousal and stronger orgasms.That slight hint of desperation add spice to your love life.IT IS LIKE YOUR FIRST TIME ALL OVER AGAIN!!

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A HEALTHY SEX LIFE IS IMPORTANT FOR BOTH OF YOU.PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THINGS FOR GRANTED.YOU BOTH MAY HAVE TO CONSISTENTLY INVEST TIME AND ENERGY AND FIND CREATIVE MEANS LIKE ‘Sex Detox’ TO KEEP YOUR SEX LIFE HAPPY AND SPICY.

SECURITY GUARD ENDANGERS WOMEN’S SECURITY AND MODESTY.

Perfume researcher Shalini patil (name changed) was raped and murdered in cold blood on 5th October 2016 by the former security guard Rakesh singh of a posh housing society in Goa where Shalini patil was residing in a rented flat. Reason: Anger and revenge.

The true story goes like this: Shalini patil was a high-profile perfume researcher and was staying in Goa at a posh housing society flat on rent. Shalini had hired the security guard, Rakesh Singh of the society to wash her car and his interactions with her were frequent. Singh was also fascinated with Shalini. It so happened that Shalini’s stolen umbrella was found in the possession of Rakesh Singh. Shalini reported this incident to the housing society and Shalini rebuked Rakesh in front of the society members. Rakesh was eventually terminated from his job. Singh’s employer refused to pay him his two months’ salary totaling to rs 20,000. Rakesh was very angry with this incident and held Shalini responsible for the loss of his job and two months’ salary.

Rakesh was so angry and frustrated that he decided to take revenge from Shalini. Posing as a security supervisor, Rakesh knocked at the door of Shalini’s flat and pulled his way in and held Shalini at knife point. As she was about to shout, he covered her mouth with his hands and took her inside the washroom. Shalini became nervous and went into semi-conscious state.

He then tied her hands and legs on the bed and demanded her debit card and mobile with their pin number and password. Shalini was helpless, she obliged the security guard. Rakesh then raped her. Sensing that he will eventually be caught, he smothered Shalini with a pillow and murdered her in cold blood.

Needless to say, that Rakesh Singh was ultimately caught by the police and what is more important to see is that, can arrest of Rakesh return the precious life of Shalini Patil? Definitely not!

Message: These types of incidents have become very common these days where one has to face the wrath of hot tempered people. Shalini had not done anything wrong by complaining against the security guard. Such people must be taken to task for their wrong doings. To avoid such incidence which may take your life, you need to be more careful and adopt safety measures. Please install safety devices in your flat (with camera facility) which can easily avert such incidents by not opening your door for such suspected and perverted people and taking the help of other security guards of the society through intercom facility available these days.

USE MOBILE PHONE WITH UTMOST RESPONSIBILITY

USE MOBILE PHONE WITH UTMOST RESPONSIBILITY

12 MODERN UNWRITTEN CELL PHONE MANNERS &ETIQUETTE

As I say,a knife in the hand of a surgeon,saves the life of somebody,the same knife in the hand of a criminal take away someone’s life.In other words,the use of a particular thing dictates its utility-good or bad.

Likewise,the way we use our mobile phone will decide its good or bad utility.I happen to have a very close observation about the way people use their mobile and would like to put forward my take on it.

1 -TAKING SELFIE: I often read in the news paper people losing their life while taking selfie in a dangerous position at entrance gate  of running train,mountain peak,on seashore rocks during high tide,on the high rise building’s terrace’s edge-list is endless.

Pl don’t risk your life by taking selfie with your mobile in such dangerous positions.

2-WHILE JOGGING:when I go for a evening walk,I find many people busy with their mobile while jogging.Common,you go  for jogging for fitness reasons and if your focus is on your mobile calls,it defeats the very purpose of jogging.

Cant you be without your mobile while jogging? THINK!!

3-FAMILY AND DINNER TIME:I see many family members,including mine,continuously busy with their mobile at a time when they should be talking to each other and relaxing at home.likewise, People use their mobile while taking dinner with family members.Cant you stay away from your mobile on dinning table.Pl enjoy your food.

4-DO NOT TALK & DRIVE:This is a big NO to use your mobile while driving,You don’t only risk your own life but lives of people on the street.If you must drive,drive to a safe area away from the traffic.

5-ROAD CROSSING:I  see many people using their mobile while crossing the road and they meet serious accidents and lose their life.

Life is precious,please value it.

6-BUSINESS MEETINGS:Whether you are attending an important business meeting,on a date,or in a casual setting with friends and family,keep your phone out of sight.Placing your phone on the table or desk send the clear message that they are not your number-one priority.80% of working professionals believe texting during a formal business meeting is highly unacceptable and rude.

7-SILENT SMART PHONE:It is polite and responsible to turn off your mobile before meetings,meals and meaningful  moments-like dates!If you cant  switch off your device,turn it to silent or vibrate.

Your phone is not a replacement for an in-person meeting.

8-EXCEPTIONS:There are exceptions to every rule:Doctors,nurses,first responders,and health providers,those expecting emergency calls,those who have infant with babysitter,or a person with caregiver.

9-EXCUSE ME MOMENT:If accepting an emergency call,excuse yourself as quietly and calmly as possible from the gathering with an apology.For example,”I apologize,however this is urgent,pl excuse me.I will return in a moment”

10-RESPOND PROMPTLY: when you miss a call,text,email,respond in an appropriate and timely manner by apologizing for missing their calls,message.Then respond with substance.

11-WHILE BOARDING TRAIN: I see many people using their mobile while boarding a running train.They slip inside and under the platform and lose their precious life.PL NEVER DO IT!!

12-LAST BUT NOT LEAST: I see people performing puja inside a temple and as their mobile rings,they leave the puja and start talking on mobile INSIDE THE TEMPLE ITSELF.

This is most RUDE AND IRRESPONSIBLE BEHAVIOR.you go to temple to pay your tribute to GOD and cant refrain from using it inside the temple.This disturbs other devotees also.

MORAL: CELL PHONE ADDICTION IS REAL;DON’T BE A PART OF THE 80% OF PEOPLE WHO WONT MOVE FIVE FEET AWAY FROM THEIR PHONE.

THINGS CAN ALWAYS WAIT FOR SOME TIME.HEAVEN IS NOT GOING TO FALL.

 

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SO,PLEASE START PRACTICING THESE MODERN UNWRITTEN RULES,MANNERS &ETIQUETTE AND USE YOUR MOBILE PHONE WITH RESPONSIBILITY.

IS IT DESIRABLE?

 HOW TO HANDLE YOUR SHORT-TEMPERED SPOUSE!!

 

     Most marriages go through periods of highs and lows-It is normal!! Therefore,it is quite common for a husband and wife to differ on certain points.At times,one-person becomes more dominant than the other.If the husband enjoys making his point heard, wife may prefer to let him have his say to maintain calmness and peace in their relationship.

Likewise, wife may disagree with her husband on different matters and the husband may choose to act as a peacemaker in the house.I have even seen short tempered wives and husbands,sometimes,do not even hesitate to scream at each other or at their sweet kids-not only in the house but also at the public places.Most of the time,the main reason of their scream is their stress and anxiety(due to any reason).

Believe me,these are the facts of life and you may have to face it at some point of life.

SOME EFFECTIVE WAY’S TO HANDLE YOUR SPOUSE’S BAD TEMPER:

1-Recognize the triggers,the first step is to recognize each other’s temperament.Make it a point to communicate and voice your feeling to one another in a calm and best possible way without being judgemental .For your respective anger issues,you can deal with them more effectively.It is a common knowledge that ‘opposite attract’ and so make sure that both of you balance each other out and are aware of what irks the other.

2-Learn to take one step back.It would be a wise move if you take a step back to allow your partner to cool down.Therefore,if you find your spouse getting angry over something,please do not make things ugly or worse by tackling them or reprimanding them for their actions then and there.Instead,step aside and allow them to calm down.In time,they themselves will come back and apologize for their outburst.The key here is to give them their space,so that they get time to realize their fault on their own.

3-Keep you attitude in check.Realize that,at times,it may be your behavior,body language and attitude that may cause tempers to fly.But if you fight fire with fire,you will surely land up in a stalemate with the problem still left unresolved.It is important that you manage your emotions well in order to prevent any major outburst with your temperamental spouse.So,if you know that there are things that could cause emotional outburst,your reaction to it could determine whether it has the possibility of turning ugly or getting unresolved.

4 – Have patience, patience and patience.

In order to really deal with your short-tempered spouse,you will have to demonstrate a lot of patience.Sometimes,you may disapprove of your own spouse’s outburst or screaming over trivial and petty issues.These may cause you to wonder what you might have done wrong.However,the key to dealing with such outburst over minor issues is to have the patience to deal with your partner calmly.

Therefore,please avoid  responding with equally nasty or provocative comments that could rupture into something major incident.

5-Talk,talk and talk. Encourage them towards change.you could help encourage your spouse to adopt certain tips to calm down during an outburst. Deep breathing,yoga and meditation could prove to be the right solution to help your partner to keep his/her stress and anxiety under control,which in turn will keep his/her temper under check.

I HAVE BEEN DOING IT FOR LAST THREE DECADES AND TRUST ME-IT HELPS A LOT TO KEEP YOUR STRESS,ANXIETY AND TEMPER UNDER FULL CONTROL.

TRY IT !!

6-Last but very important.A better sex life.This could be a major reason,why a spouse has a bad temper.It is vital that you both have a healthy sex life.If there are any issues,it must be resolved as fast as possible.

A GOOD SEX LIFE KEEPS A SPOUSE STRESS FREE,HAPPY AND TEMPER FREE.

YES,THIS IS TRUE!!

Based on my knowledge and experience about human behavior,I am confident that these tips will definitely help you to handle your spouse’s anger effectively

HOWEVER, SHOULD NONE OF THESE TIPS WORK,JUST REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE PICKED UP HER/HIM AND THEREFORE TAKE LIFE AS IT COMES TO YOU.EVERYTHING CHANGES ONE DAY(LAW OF NATURE) AND SO WILL CHANGE YOUR SPOUSE’S BAD TEMPER ALSO-ONE DAY.

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WAIT FOR THAT DAY-IT WILL SURELY COME.