PAUSE AND DECIDE-THE MOST MEMORABLE ADVICE FROM SOMEBODY VERY CLOSE TO MY HEART!!

One of the best piece of advice I have ever got was from my dad-who was my mentor,guide,philosopher and a critic.He made me a person what I am today.This master piece advice from my dad has stayed in my mind ever since.He told me to always remember THREE WORDS:’Pause and Decide!’ These three words were for me not just an articulation of father’s philosophy,but also a  pitchy masterclass  or  sound advice in effective decision-making. Everytime I need to respond to something or take a decision,my dad’s words flash into my mind-pause and decide.

Driven by impulsive responses,we often take decisions in haste.Someone says something to us-and we immediately react with words and actions that come back to haunt us later.Alas! if only we would make it a habit to heed my late dad’s advice.

The next time you are very angry or badly hurt, or need to make a decision,take a deep breadth-before saying a word or moving a finger.The next time something goes wrong and you feel like reacting immediately-JUST HOLD IT!! After the moment has passed,you will find the turmoil or dust settling down.The mind gets clearer.And the decision that follows is usually by far better than what you might have taken in haste.

Our decisions are very often, more like a negative one than a positive choice.We change jobs not because of one negative appraisal feedback session,boss’s outburst of anger or a promotion that we lost out on.We make career choices,break relationship- all in the heat of moment.In an era of increasing download speeds, we seem to be in a hurry to take a decisions. As a matter of fact,in most cases, a cool headed approach would have made for far better,more rational decisions.There is a thin line which seperates haste from speed-but it is a critical decision.It has been well said-‘Decide in haste,repent at leisure’. But unfortunately, we still have not learned our lessons.

I would like to share the story of a spiritual master who went on a pilgrimage with his disciples.The wise old man felt thirsty and wanted some water.A disciple quickly walked over to a nearby stream,jar in hand,to fetch some water.The stream was crystal clear as he could see the sun’s rays on the water.Just as he was about to fill the jar,a bullock cart crossed the stream.As the wheel churned the soil of the bed of the stream,the water turned muddy.It did not look clean enough to drink,so the disciple went back to the master empty-handed, and explained what had happened.The master asked him to wait for a while to allow the mud to settle.When the disciple went back a little while later,he was delighted to find the water was cryatal clear again.

As the master took a sip of the water,he said:’our minds are like that stream.An external event or stimulus-like that bullock cart can cause our mind to get muddled up.When that happens,all you need to to do is relax.Just wait a while and allow the DUST to settle.And your mind will be clear again.

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So the next time you feel stressed or agitated and want to respond,just think of the bullock cart and the stream.Remember my dad’s advice:

     PAUSE AND DECIDE.

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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A CHANGE IN PERCEPTION BRINGS ABOUT CHANGE IN REALITY!!

The goal of any change process is the discovery of reality.I want to share with you the story of a farmer in china that will tell you an amazing transformation of a person.

A poor farmer in china was in great distress.He was a peace loving sort of person who had to share a single room with four noisy room-mates.Besides,there were a couple of stray dogs and a few noisy chickens and ducks in the neighbourhood that made it difficult for him to sit quietly or meditate.

Depressed that he could not get over this noise pollution,he travelled a long distance to his Zen master to find a solution to his problem.

Listening to his tale of woe,the compassionate  Master said:If you listen to me carefully,I can try to help you out.” The farmer was all ears.The Master said:  “Go back to your village and invite inside your room the stray dogs,the chickens as well as the ducks.Let them all stay with you for a week besides your four friends.Then come back to me.” Although he was shocked and surprised by his Master’s strange advice, the farmer reluctantly agreed to do as he was asked.

The farmer came back after a week.He was extremely in a bad shape;his hair was disheveled,his clothes were torn in shreds,his eyes were red from lack of sleep and his body smelt of animal dung.He looked tearfully at his Master and said, ‘the experience was worse than hell-those animals and birds and their week long company…..let my fate not befall anyone!

The Master said: “Everything will be all right. Just go back to your village and leave the animals outside your door-where they were before.Then,come back to me again after seven days.” The farmer again did what he was told.But this time when he came back-there was a bright radiance in his face.His eyes were shining and he told the Master, “I have never known or felt so much peace before. Just my four friends and I.No animals in the room.We all slept well.And my meditation was deep.”

Many years later,the farmer himself became a Master.When people asked him how he had found peace,he said. “the journey was indeed memorable.It was like taking great pain to break into your own house by climbing a ladder and  smashing a windowpane-and realizing later that the door of the house was open.All you needed to do was to pull in the door towards you rather than push it.”

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The farmer in the story discovers something that was always present as reality.Peace always existed as a possibility in his own mind.In the process of this discovery he transforms himself.Likewise, peace always exists in our own mind,all you need is to change your perception and there you are!!

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

YOU MAY BE IN A HURRY, BUT YOU SHOULD STILL HAVE TIME FOR OTHERS.

Hold the door open!

Has this happened to you before? Probably,yes! As you walk towards the door of an office or a hotel,the person walking in  front holds the door open for you.Do you remember how good it made you feel- if only for that moment? The other person holding the door open for you may have been a complete stranger-but that one act leaves an unforgettable impression in your mind and made you feel you had a  caring friend.

Is it not surprising that although we all feel good when someone holds the door open for us,we seldom show such gesture  for others? WHY SO?

It is probably because we are all preoccupied with ourselves and obsessed with getting ahead.I would like to share a life changing lessons they don’t teach you in any school: ‘Hold the Door Open’.

We can divide this world into two types of people. Those who push open the door,walk through and let it slam behind them.That is about 97 percent of the population.And there is the 3 percent who open the door and hold it open to allow the next person to walk through.Learn to do that,and you too could join the select 3 percent club.

Holding the door open is not just an act of courtesy,it is a mindset and it reflects on your UPBRINGING.It says you care for people,that you are not so caught up in your own progress that you have scant regards for others.It demonstrate that while you may be in a hurry,you still have time for others.’Hold the Door Open’does not merely make other people feel good.It makes you feel good too.

The amazing habit of holding the door open translates into a behavior of helping and caring.While travelling in a AC coach of a train,when you keep the glass door open for a co-passenger  behind you,its  a good gesture. At the buffet table,you pick up a plate and offer it to a lady behind you in the queue and the smile you see on her is just priceless.These are all small gestures,but they make a huge difference.Hold the Door Open marks you out as someone special.

Try it.Become  an ‘Hold the Door Open’ person.Winning in life is less about naked ambition and more about helping other people win.Someone has rightly said,’Its nice to be important.But it is more important to be nice!’

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MAKE A BEGINNING TODAY.HOLD THE DOOR OPEN!

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

YOU MAY BE IN A HURRY, BUT YOU SHOULD STILL HAVE TIME FOR OTHERS.

 

Hold the door open!

Has this happened to you before? Probably,yes! As you walk towards the door of an office or a hotel,the person walking in  front holds the door open for you.Do you remember how good it made you feel- if only for that moment? The other person holding the door open for you may have been a complete stranger-but that one act leaves an unforgettable impression in your mind and made you feel you had a  caring friend.

Is it not surprising that although we all feel good when someone holds the door open for us,we seldom show such gesture  for others? WHY SO? Is it cool?

It is probably because we are all preoccupied with ourselves and obsessed with getting ahead.I would like to share a life changing lessons they don’t teach you in any school: ‘Hold the Door Open’.

We can divide this world into two types of people. Those who push open the door,walk through and let it slam behind them.That is about 97 percent of the population.And there is the 3 percent who open the door and hold it open to allow the next person to walk through.Learn to do that,and you too could join the select 3 percent club. It does not cost you anything.

Holding the door open is not just an act of courtesy,it is a mindset and it reflects on your UPBRINGING.It says you care for people,that you are not so caught up in your own progress that you have scant regards for others.It demonstrate that while you may be in a hurry,you still have time for others.’Hold the Door Open’does not merely make other people feel good.It makes you feel good too.

The amazing habit of holding the door open translates into a behavior of helping and caring.While travelling in a AC coach of a train,when you keep the glass door open for a co-passenger  behind you,its  a good gesture. At the buffet table,you pick up a plate and offer it to a lady behind you in the queue and the smile you see on her is just priceless.These are all small gestures,but they make a huge difference.Hold the Door Open marks you out as someone special.

Try it.Become  an ‘Hold the Door Open’ person.Winning in life is less about naked ambition and more about helping other people win.Someone has rightly said,’Its nice to be important.But it is more important to be nice!’

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MAKE A BEGINNING TODAY.HOLD THE DOOR OPEN!

                                                                 __________________

A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

WE ALL FAIL AND FALL BUT BE STRONG ENOUGH TO STAND ON YOUR OWN FEET!

Baby giraffes never go to school.But they learn a very important lesson rather early in life.A lesson that all of us would do well to remember.

The birth of a baby giraffe is literally an earth-shaking event.The  baby falls from its mother’s womb,some eight feet above the ground.It shrivels up and lies still,too weak to move.

The mother giraffe lovingly lowers its neck to kiss the baby giraffe.And then something incredible happens.It lifts one long leg and kicks the baby giraffe,sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground.As the baby lies curled up,the mother kicks the baby again.And again. Until the baby giraffe,still trembling and tired,pushes its limb and,for the first time,learns to stand up on its feet.

Happy to see the baby standing on its feet,the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick.The baby giraffe falls one more time,but now quickly recovers and stands up.Mother giraffe is delighted.It knows that its baby has learned an important lesson: No matter how hard you fall,always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet.

After all, why does the mother giraffe do this?It knows that lions and leopards love giraffe meat.So unless the  baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack,it has no chance of survival.It also knows that the lessons we learn early on become part of our habit,our instinct,and stand us in good stead all through our lives.

Most of us,though,are not quite as lucky as baby giraffe.No one teaches us to stand up every time we fall.When we fail,when we are down,WE JUST GIVE-UP.No one kicks us out of our comfort zone to remind us that to survive and succeed,we need to learn to get back on our own feet.We often live such protected,cocooned,low risk lives in our early years that we are not quite prepared for the big,bad world when we enter it.

So the next time you find a supervisor or a parent kicking you,don’t get upset with them.Like the mother giraffe,they may only be trying to teach you one of life’s most important lessons.It does not matter how many times you fall.What matters is your ability to pick yourself up and stand on your feet once again.

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WE ALL FAIL,WE ALL FALL AND WE WILL CONTINUE TO FAIL AND FALL IN TIMES YET TO COME.BUT WE MUST TAKE THEM IN THE RIGHT SPIRIT AND LEARN TO BE STRONG ENOUGH TO STAND ON YOUR OWN FEET.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.