Star Performers may also get a Pink Slip!!(Have a Backup Plan)

Does it not sound strange? But it’s a true story.

I started my Marketing Career with a British Multinational company at the shop floor level in 1979 and became the General Manager (Mkt) of the largest corporate Indian company. I was at the peak of my career. And had every thing one could possibly ask for in a corporate career-status, money, furnished Company’s House, AC car, Air travel, stay in 5 star hotel and many other perquisities. It was at this stage when I found my job profile monotonous and least challenging.Since our company was virtually in monopolistic business,I was practically not doing any marketing but only handling distribution of the products in the market place.

I, therefore, decided to meet the CEO of our company and it happened very shortly. During our meeting I told him,’Sir,there is no excitement and challenge in my present work,because I am not doing any marketing but only distribution of the product and I want to get out of my comfort zone’.He appreciated my concern and made me the in-charge the marketing of a newly born business which needed to be developed and established in the market place.In other words,I was to start from the scratch and give it a respectable shape in a targeted time.

It was a very  challenging task but I was happy to accept it.I was given a team of competent but inexperienced civil engineers.I worked hard to develop their marketing skill which was needed for the success of this project.This was the year 2002 when I was 50 and had another 10 years to work with this company.In the same year I took 10 year home-loan of 20 lacks and bought two flats in Mumbai’s posh area.Since,I had the company’s house,my planning was to rent-out these two flats for the next 10 years and pay the monthly EMI of the bank and pay off total bank loan in 10 years.

Every thing was going excellent in my professional and personal life.In a year’s time,I build up my team very strong and gave a desired shape to the new business and it was now time to reap the fruits of hard work that I had put in along with my team.It was at this juncture I had  crossed the average age level of the company as per the company policy. Since,I had developed a very competent team,it was felt that the remaining left out task could be carried out by this team and one of and one of my junior colleague whom I had trained fit in all respect. Since the company’s policy was to maintain the average age level of the employee,which I had crossed,and the company had an option to carry out this business through an alternate source,I was called by The HRD head and politely asked to put up my papers-which was my award for successfully. Establishing a new business through my hard and dedicated work.

It came as a big surprise to me.My biggest problem was that since my monthly income had suddenly stopped, I could not find any source to pay hefty EMI of Rs 31,000 for my house bank loan. After struggling for 2 years,I had no option but to sell my both prized properties and pay off entire balance bank loan.Losing my two properties was a very big loss to me.

In other words,my loss of a high profile job and two hot properties in Mumbai’s posh locality was my AWARD for being a STAR PERFORMER.

MESSAGE- NEVER FORGET THIS:ALWAYS HAVE A BACKUP PLAN TO EFFECTIVELY HANDLE SUCH SURPRISES IN LIFE.

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WHY DO YOU HESITATE TO SAY-‘NO’?

“WHY DO YOU HESITATE TO SAY-‘NO’?

LEARN TO SAY “NO”

WE HAVE LIMITS TO OUR TIME, ENERGY AND INTERESTS.

Like saying YES is important in life, saying NO is also equally important, so if you have learnt the art of saying NO– you will rarely be over committed or over extended.

  • You will never have to break a promise.
  • You will never have to compromise.
  • You will never burn out.
  • You will be able to give 100 % on your terms, not someone else’s.
  • You will function at your best and have a little left.
  • You will function at you best and have a little left in reserve.

 

We had a salesman in our corporate marketing group who could never say “NO” in meetings to decide who would call on specific companies, he was always raising hand, saying, “I will take that one”. His files bulged with prospects. The funny thing was, he could sell when he gave himself enough time to do the job properly. But he spread himself too thin.

He ended up doing the company and himself a disservice. The sales he made could not erase all the opportunities that fell through the cracks. He would have been much better off saying “NO”. By taking on less work, he would have accomplished much more.

MESSAGE: IF THERE IS A NEED TO SAY ‘NO’- SAY-NO!!

“YOU CAN BE A GOOD PERSON WITH A KIND HEART AND STILL SAY NO.”

LOVE TO WIN BUT DON’T HATE TO LOSE !

“AFTER ALL, WHEN WE LOSE, IT MAKES US STRONG ENOUGH TO FACE  ANOTHER CHALLENGE YET TO COME.”

 

  • KNOW WHICH BATTLE YOU HAVE TO WIN:

NOBODY wins all the time-every point in a tennis match or every hole in a golf tournament.No business person pulls off a coup on every deal and even the star performer salesman come up empty hand many times.One of the skills that distinguishes a winner is an instinct for knowing when he can afford to lose and when he must win.

THAT ALLOWS HIM TO FOCUS ON HIS EFFORTS:

Choose your must wins with care.Concentrate on the essentials and plot your course carefully.

NEVER BE DISTRACTED BY FRIENDS,ENEMIES OR YOUR EMOTIONS.

  • LOVE TO WIN-BUT DON’T HATE TO LOSE:

The difference is subtle but loving to win and hating to lose are not the same thing.One is driven by joy.The other is inspired by fear.In thoroughbred,racing champion’s are born to run.There is a sheer animal vigor in finishing first.Nothing interferes with that single goal.The  same priority of intention and clarity of purpose is found in humans,skilled in the art of winning.Hating to lose muddles the water.Fear breed  misjudgement.Instead of concentrating 100% on your goal,you waste efforts worrying about what other man is doing.

HATING TO LOSE CAN LEAD TO BIG MISTAKE OF WINNING A 100 MILLION BID BUT LOSING A 200 MILLION IN THE PROCESS.

DO YOU GET ME AND MY MESSAGE?

  • BE RELENTLESS-NOT MALICIOUS:

IN pre-fight interviews,boxers make it a point of how much they hate each other.Whether this hype or whether the men really do need to work up a personal dislike to be able to go out and pummel each other-I don’t presume to say.Even in most head-to-head sports,you are not battling an option.you are matching something  you do against something he does.Consider tennis.you hit a shot,your opponent hits a shot-now what is it you are actually hitting?The ball-not the other player.

  • DEPERSONALIZE THE CONTEST:

Bjorn Borg, wimbeldon champion,was a master at this.His icy court demeanor was his own brand of relentlessness.He was there to do one thing and ONE THING ONLY-to hit the ball perfectly.Everything that appeared on his side of the net.What happened on the other side and who it happened to was simply not his concern!!

We stress this because,in situations where the contest is more abstract,there is tendency to over personalize the competition.If you are General Motors,you don’t combat imports by taking a crowbar to a Honda-you do it by outperforming the other side.

PERSONALIZE  THE CONTEST AND EGO START TO CONFLICT WITH SOUND PROFESSIONAL JUDGEMENT.

 

 

YOU CANNOT IGNORE THIS UNIVERSAL TRUTH

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way.” – Albert Einstein

ASK

BELIEVE

RECEIVE

Yes, I want to gift you a HAPPY LIFE

HOW?

  • Your consistent daily thoughts have a great influence in your life.

YES-ITS TRUE

What you consistently think and say,is what you become.If you want something to happen in your life,speak it out in an audible way,as many times daily as possible,and it will become a reality of your life.

SO,BE CAREFUL ABOUT WHAT YOU CONSISTENTLY THINK AND SAY-this is not a “MYTH” but a scientifically proven ‘LAW OF ATTRACTION’

Here is the logic and scientific reason:

QUANTUM PHYSICS SAYS: If you are a student of physics or have been one,you have seen that in your practicals,in order to find the frequency of sound-you hit the tuning fork on a pad and take it close to the thin wire at various places.you also must have observed that the wire vibrates at one point and create a sound.

WHY DOES THIS WIRE VIBRATE AT THIS PARTICULAR PLACE AND NOT AT ANY OTHER PLACE???

This is because when the frequency of sound created by the wire matches the frequency of sound of the tuning fork-the thin wire vibrates.

  • Likewise,what you speak is your tuning fork and what you desire is the thin wire.
  • What you speak and what you desire are made of energy.when you think and speak the same thing time and again-it emits frequency of sound and it causes the energy of what you desire to vibrate at a particular frequency.When it matches the frequency of what you speak and frequency of what you desire,its resultant effect is-your DESIRE BECOMES A REALITY.
  • Since,it is very  difficult to predict a day and time when the frequency of what you speak and frequency of what you desire will match each other-it is very difficult to predict a day and time,when your desire will become a reality.

So,the key is,you should speak out your desire in a day as many times as possible and improve the chances of matching of two frequency of ‘sound’ created by what you speak and what you desire.

It is like shooting your target with a gun.It can hit the bull in one effort or it may hit it in 100 efforts.

BUT YOU WILL SURELY HIT YOUR TARGET ONE DAY.CONSISTENCY OF EFFORTS IS THE KEY WORD.GOOD LUCK!!

“The Universe sends us exactly what we are ready for at the exact time we need it in our lives”

TAKE ACTION

STOP LIVING IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE-WAITING TO
START WHEN EVERYTHING WILL FALL IN PLACE

                                                 ⇓

                                    TAKE ACTION

 

“The distance between Dream and Reality is called ACTION”

Think about it!! Take your first step forward!!

You cannot succeed in life,unless you begin and end.Getting started or taking that first step is utmost important.Nothing else matters.Always remember that the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step. TAKE THAT FIRST STEP TODAY!!

There is a great substance in that old saying  that old saying that you don’t need to be Great to get started,but you have to get started to be Great.you may have brilliant ideas and plans,and we may not doubt its intent.But all these things have no meaning,if you don’t make a beginning first.We often hesitate to take that first step and we live in our comfort zone-waiting to start when everything fall in place.

WE FORGET THAT EVERYTHING SELDOM FALLS INTO PLACE!!

If i may say,if there is anything which is the biggest contributor to stress in the workplace,it is surely UNFINISHED task.Learn to finish task.Get rid of them.If something important and worth has to be done,it must be done at first.All successful people make it a habit to begin and end what they have started.This is their most important traits!!

SO,IF YOU HAVE BIG IDEA OR SECRET PLAN-TAKE THAT FIRST STEP TODAY!!!

Want to become a Guitarist? Buy your guitar today!! Make a habit to prepare a list of unfinished work and your TO-DO-LIST.you must be determined to complete at least one of these tasks today!!

JUST DO IT and see the difference.

Life will begin to make a lot more sense,and YOU WILL BE ABLE TO COVER THE DISTANCE BETWEEN DREAM AND REALITY.

GOOD LUCK!!

 

 

IF YOU ARE HONEST IN SAYING-‘I M SORRY’-IT HAS MAGICAL IMPACT.

YES,NEVER HESITATE!! IF YOU ARE WRONG,HAVE COURAGE TO GENUINELY SAY-‘I M SORRY’

It is a fact of life that Relationship Problems do creep in one’s life at some point of life.This relationship problems could be between Husband and Wife,Father and Son,Mother and Daughter or for that matter any other relationship.While 90% relationship problem occur due to Non-communication,there are also some relationship problem, which creep in because of a person’s inability to own up to a mistake and  apologize.I have seen many people around who are  incapable of saying, ‘I am Sorry’.They perhaps like to put their failure behind them and cannot admit they are wrong.

I,THEREFORE,STRONGLY FEEL THAT THIS KIND OF MINDSET TO DISOWN A MISTAKE AND AN APOLOGY, STRAINS AND BREAK RELATIONSHIP MORE OFTEN THAN ANY PERSONAL FAILING.

As I am also a Life Coach,i do often get people coming to me for resolving their relationship problems.I will cite a specific case to make you understand better.

A person came to me for a relationship problem with his wife.After giving a patient hearing to him,which is my primary job,i came to know that since this man had lost his job,he was not earning enough to meet his financial obligation towards his family.His wife had to start working to support family.As is the case normally,wife started abusing her husband most of the time and this went on for three long years.

Imagine what this man went through this abusing relationship and mental agony for such a long time,but he decided to maintain silence,not because of any weakness,but to avoid any kind of confrontation,unhealthy home environment and primarily not to fight with wife and set a bad example to his growing children.

Since the man was not on talking terms with his wife,he wrote a letter to his wife to stop this abuse and mental torture.He gave her 6 months time to mend her ways,otherwise,he would be forced to leave the house,which he will not like to do for the sake of growing children.But even after 10 months,wife did not change her ways and continued her abusive behavior.This man possibly not finding any other option,left his  house to stay elsewhere and had now come to me for any possible solution of this whole problem.I asked this person-was he really serious to resolve this relationship problem with his wife.He promptly said,’if i was not serious,i would not have come to you’.

Without any further discussion on this matter,i took the phone number of his wife,called her in front of him and told her upfront that her husband was sitting with me to discuss and resolve the the problem between them. I also told her that if i had to resolve their problem,i also need to meet her.I asked her,if she could drop in my office torrow at a mutually agreed time and she agreed to meet me.When the wife met me the next day,i only asked her two questions:

1-Is it true that you have been abusing and torturing your husband for the last 3 long years?

She had the courage to say-YES.

2-Has your husband been totally silent all these 3 long years and not confronted you ever?

She again had the courage to say-YES.

I then politely asked her,’Don’t you think that your husband’s long 3 years silence and suffering now deserves a change of heart from your side.She again demonstrated the courage to say-‘yes’ but’How’?

I asked her’Will you accept my advice’?

She politely said,YES.

I then called her husband who was sitting next room to my cabin.To my surprise,wife got up and offered her seat to her husband,since i had deliberately kept only one chair.This is what i wanted to see to take this matter to the next level.I again asked his wife-CAN YOU PLEASE SAY “I AM SORRY” TO YOUR HUSBAND?”

She took about 10 seconds to react but eventually said ‘I am sorry’ to her husband.Husband hugged her to reciprocate her gesture and she too hugged her husband with tears in her eyes but smile on her face.

They thanked me for bringing them together and left for their home.

MY MESSAGE TO YOU

Remember,change of heart do happen at an appropriate time.Sometime,a barrier is formed between a husband and wife and this needs to be broken with the right body language and by just genuinely saying-‘I AM SORRY’.This has a very very powerful impact.

I HAVE ONLY ONE ADVICE TO GIVE TO MARRIED COUPLES-“DO NOT EVER HURT YOUR MAN’s ‘EGO’ AND DO NOT HURT YOUR WIFE’S ‘SENTIMENT’.

YOUR HAPPY MARRIED LIFE IS SECURED -TRUST ME!!

GOOD LUCK FRIENDS!!

 

WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN?

WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN?

 

  • FLAMES OF PASSION:

You will come across people who are highly educated and knowledgeable, skilled, passionate, energetic and hardworking, yet they may fail to make things happen. I have seen such people, Have you?

IF YES, DID YOU EVER THINK-WHY?

My friends-it is not so much about education, knowledge, talent or skill that matters. Ultimately, it is all about you and your dreams that makes things happen. Based on my own experience, i would like to tell you THREE very important elements that is required to make things happen in your life.

1-Compelling Reason

2-Burning Desire

3-Sense of urgency(Do it now Attitude)


  • COMPELLING REASON

A compelling reason is your own personal reason-why you want to achieve something.

It could be your Dream to have a better life style, big bungalow, dream luxury cars like Lamborghini, Porsche, Audi and Bentley etc, big bank balance etc etc. It could be to go out there and change many lives. It could also be to achieve a very ambitious target in your corporate job.

But trust me, nothing will move or happen, unless you have compelling reasons, which push you forward and compel you to do it. It keeps you going and drive you out there every day. Compelling Reasons define logic. Your compelling reason could be retaining your corporate job.

So, please identify your compelling reason. Find out what is driving you every day – That is your compelling reason.

  • BURNING DESIRE:

Power of compelling reason will take you to next step. Your compelling reason lights a fire in your heart, which create something, known as burning desire or passion. It is a fire within you which is contagious.

Burning desire can be about anything, which comes out of you in a natural way. You behave in a ‘DO OR DIE’ manner. Others should sense your passion and seriousness. You cannot inspire or motivate others,unless you have burning desire. You can keep your leadership going only if you are switched on. Ask others, do they see burning desire in you for what you are doing or what you want to achieve. Burning desire keeps you going in life without getting tired. Your compelling reason is your key to open the door which unleashes your burning desire.

  • SENSE OF URGENCY:

But, let me tell you, compelling reason and burning desire is not ENOUGH. You may still fail to make things happen without magic of a third element which is known as ‘Sense of Urgency’ and it means to  have a ‘Do it now attitude’.

People have the tendency to postpone everything. They will be seen taking new year resolution to give up smoking. They will decide on 1st jan 2017 to give up habit of  smoking on 1st jan 2018. WHAT A BEAUTIFUL DATE WHICH NEVER COMES IN THEIR LIFE.

We tend to take life for granted as if we are going to live up to age of 85. BUT BE HONEST AND ASK YOURSELF CAN WE GUARANTEE A AGE OF 85 YEARS FOR US-OBVIOUSLY NO!! THERE IS NO GUARANTEE IN LIFE FOR ANYTHING.

I will tell you a story to instill sense of urgency. Medical check-ups are mandatory in various Professions. People normally go for basic medical check-up. But there was a person who had to go for an advance medical check-up. His doctor calls this person at 11 pm and asks him to meet him at his clinic tomorrow at 8 am, as he needs to discuss some very important and urgent things about his medical test report.

Imagine the condition of that person. WILL HE BE ABLE TO SLEEP THAT NIGHT? NO!! He will be at doctor’s clinic one hour before his appointment time. Doctor tells that person that he has got brain tumor, which cannot be operated at this stage. He also tells him that he has only 6 months to live. What do you think that person will do after this? Obviously, he will take a second or may be a third medical opinion. But all doctors say-he has only 6 months to live.

WHAT HAPPENS NEXT?

Will that person be living the same life that he had been living last 6 months?No, definitely not!! He will now be living with a sense of urgency to complete many unfinished tasks in next 6 months to secure LIFE OF HIS FAMILY. He would no longer postpone anything and will be forced to move ahead with a ‘do it now attitude’- because it is now a question of ‘DO or DIE’ for him.

So, please wake up and smell the coffee. Do it now. No postponement. Your decision NOW becomes very personal that i will PUSH myself TODAY, NOT TOMORROW.

YOU HAVE NO OPTION BUT TO DO IT NOW! DO IT NOW! DO IT NOW!!

“Destiny, only takes you so far. Once you are there its up to you to make things happen through these three elements.”

                       MY MESSAGE

 

DO I NEED TO WRITE IT DOWN?

ANYWAY, I WILL DO IT FOR BETTER CLARITY.

IF YOU CAN UNDERSTAND AND ABSORB THESE THREE ELEMENTS:

1 COMPELLING REASONS

2 BURNING DESIRE

3 SENSE OF URGENCY

YOU CAN MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. NO ONE CAN STOP YOU.

YOU DECIDE!!!

BEST OF LUCK!