‘I may not become the best college student but i will certainly become a good human being’

What i had said to my college Principal a long time ago, is still  afresh in my mind even now!!

It’s a very small incidence at the time of my college admission but its impact was so powerful  that I still don’t forget that important day and the lesson it taught me.

After finishing my schooling, I was applying to various colleges in Bihar (India) for a B.Sc course. St.Xavier College, Ranchi was known to be the best college in Bihar in those days. I had set my heart to get admission in the most prestigious college of Bihar. Actually, St’Xaviers colleges all over India were considered the best institution in those days (70’s). Since my marks at H.Sc were not very good, I was little skeptical about getting admission in St.Xavier college.

 I used to go to St.Xavier College to see the admission merit list but could not find my name in the first three lists. The last and final merit list was supposed to come next day around 12 noon. My anxiety level was so high that I reached the college next day around 10 am and was waiting for the final admission list to be displayed on the college’s notice board. As soon as this list was displayed I started seeing the names and my heart beat was very high. My name was last to be displayed on this final merit list. I was called for a personal interview with the principal of the college after 2 days.

When I reached the college on the day of my personal interview, my turn came after half an hour and I was in the Principal’s Office. He asked me, ‘why do you want to study in St.Xavier college? I said, Father, ‘Because you are the best  you can make me the best student’. He looked deep into my eyes with a question mark on his face. I got scared and thought that he would probably not clear my interview. But I was totally surprised when he said, ‘Sit down’. I was so far in a standing position only. He said, ‘Do you really think you can be the best student of my college’. I said, ‘Father! I am not sure about it but I am sure about one thing. He asked, ‘What’s that? I said, ‘I will certainly become a good human being because of this small board in your office which says – ‘Be a good human being’. This seems to be your goal of imparting education in this college. He only told me best of luck, stood up from his chair and was ready to present a paper in my hand. I forwarded my left hand to take that paper from him. He immediately took his hand back and said loudly- ‘Don’t you ever dare to give or accept anything from your left hand’– it is considered inauspicious etiquette. His loud voice scared me but I immediately offered him an apology and took the paper from my right hand. This was his approval letter to grant my admission in the college. I said- ‘Thank you Father for your sound advice and I will never forget it in my life.’ I left his office thereafter.

Trust me you all, his words made so much impact on me that I have never used my left hand, thereafter to accept or give anything to anybody with my left hand. I still follow it. AND I NEVER FORGET THAT DAY WITH THE PRINCIPAL WHOSE NAME WAS FATHER W.J. PROOST.


Be a good human being- there is a lot of strength, power and courage inside you.




If you look at stories of successful people, you will see familiar ingredients: big dreams, adversity, hard work and finally, success, while the proportions may vary, the common thread holding them all together is HOPE. Hope is what ensures that people keep going when everything seems lost. Hope is the cornerstone of all actions and achievements. Hope is what leader instil in his team when the shoulders start to droop.

A student with no hope of passing an exam will never study. ‘why bother’, he will probably tell himself, when i am going to fail anyway’. An overweight person with no hope of becoming slim won’t go on a diet. ‘Why bother’? I am going to be fat anyway – so simple! Hope is a fuel that keeps the engine of life running all the time. When the whole world seems to say, ‘Give up, you cant do it’, hope is the little voice inside us which urges, ‘come on, give it one more shot, you can do it’. But hope alone is never too enough. You need to take responsibility. And you need to take action.

There is a little poem that inspires and motivates me when i feel low. The author is unknown. As this poem has given me strength and inspiration, i thought you would enjoy reading it too. Here it is:

When things go wrong as they sometime will

When the road you are trudging seems all uphill,

When funds are low and the debts are high,

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh.

When care is pressing you down a bit,

Rest, if you must, but dont quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns

As everyone of us sometimes learns.

And many a failure turns about.

When he might have won, had he stuck it out:

Don’t give up though the pave seems slow-

You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out-

The silver tint of the clouds of doubts.

And you never can tell how close you are

It may be near which it seems so far:

So stick to the fight when you are a hardest hit

Its when things seem worst that you must not quit


Always keep hope alive. Take charge. Take action. And you must never quit.




The solution to all your problems lies in your Egoless state of mind!!

When your ego is in the way, a master or your mentor can talk for one hour and you will not understand a single word.

A woman went to see a great sage with all her problems, and asked him. “How should i solve all these?” The Sage replied, “DOG”. And the woman went away happy, thanking the sage profusely.

The solution to all her problems was in that single word, “dog”. And because she listened without her ego, she immediately grasped what it meant: to apply in her life the best quality of a dog; loyalty, obedience, love, patience, perseverance, and persistence.


The solution to all your problems lies in your egoless state!!


Our face tells us how to hear. We have two ears on the opposite sides of our face, one facing left, and the other facing right, both of them connecting to the brain. In other words, we must hear from both sides. If we hear from only one side, we will never understand.

I would like to share with you story of a Japanese warrior and his teacher, a General. In the older days, they used to send messages through pigeons, so this general sent a message to his student, the warrior, through a pigeon.

But the bird was caught in heavy rain and the student unravelled the message, most of the message was blurred. Nevertheless, the student carried out the instructions of his master to the letter, based on a word or two of which was legible, much to the amazement of those around him but not to his masters.

He was so focused as a student that he could read his master’s mind. By reading a word, he knew where the sentence was going. He saw the composite picture beyond his ears and beyond his eyes.


Listen to your teacher or mentor with focus and concentration and you will reap the full benefits of his wisdom. The depth of understanding is in the student not in the master.


It is human nature that we do what is convenient rather than what is required, we float, allowing ourselves to get carried away without getting anywhere, rather than pushing ourselves and swimming to the desired share.

Life is like that. Constantly tempting us with comfortable- but unproductive- options, luring us away from the hard work required to achieve our goals. When you find that happening to you, do remember the two Spanish friends who went deer hunting.

They set out in their mini-truck and headed off to the jungle. They parked it at a distance and walked into the bushes to a position of vantage down in the valley, waiting for their prey. They finally managed to shoot a deer. They then began the long journey back to their truck, dead deer in tow.

The two friends clasped the deer’s tail and began to drag it towards their pick-up truck. A farmer saw them struggling and shouted out some advice: ‘that’s not the way to do it”. God made handles for you to drag the deer. You see the antlers on the deer? Those horn-like things? Hold them- and pull the deer!”

The two friends looked at each other and decided to heed the advice, they went to other side, grabbed the deer’s antler’s and continued to drag it?

Ten minutes later, one of them said, ‘Boy, the farmer was right. It is so much easier this way!’ ‘That’s right’, said his friend. ‘Only problem is, we are now going farther and farther away from the truck!’

If you honestly think about it, we are all like that. We are constantly looking for the handles- the antlers- to make our life easier. And we start pulling as soon as we find them, forgetting that we may be headed in the wrong direction.

Clearly, it is important to ensure that in the moment of convenience, we don’t lose sight of our real destination- OUR TRUE GOALS.

Reflect on your life. You will probably see several instances, where you grabbed the antlers as soon as you saw them – only to find yourself moving farther and farther away from your goals. If you ask yourself why you did something, the answer will probably be ‘because it was there’. In life, as in driving, it is not enough to find the best roads and then drive on them. It is equally important to ensure that the roads will take you where you need to go.


Learning to spot the antlers to pull the deer is important. But where you need to go- is even more important- Remember this!!




I am pleased to inform all my beloved readers and other members of the blogger’s community that i have been nominated for The Sunshine Blogger Award by SweetSummerOnline. As is the requirement for this Award,the nominated blogger has to answer 11 questions given to him.My answer against each 11 questions is given below. I would request you to validate these answers with your FEEDBACK/COMMENTS. I shall remain grateful for your valuable feedback and vote.


1.What are the goals for your blog?
I want to uplift the life of people around me and make a difference in their life.


2.What is your favorite color and why?

Red-because it is symbol of confidence.


3.What is one thing you hope to do in 2018?
I want to make a difference in the life of at least one person.


4.What is your favorite culture?
Humanity and human approach


5.Do you believe in diets or lifestyle changes?


6.What does a perfect day look like to you?
To be calm and finish all the work decided for that day.


7.If you could have one magical power what would it be and why?
It would be to make everybody get rid of their bad temper because it does not only affect him/her but everyone around him/her.


8.What’s your favorite book
‘Secret by Rhonda Byrne’


9.What hobbies do you have?
To invent new recipes and cook food.


10.What would be your dream holiday?
PARIS anyday!


11.What are the Top 3 ways you want to improve yourself?
1-Do meditation everyday two times to have a calm and relaxed mind.
2-To be patient with people to be a better listener.
3-Pause and Decide-before taking any action when i am stressed.



 I have some very important message to all my readers through my today’s 100th post. If you dedicate 1 hour daily for just yourself, it will help you assess, analyze, absorb, adopt, accommodate, and attribute towards others what needs to be attributed.

You must observe complete and absolute silence. Devote a place in your house, whether indoors or outdoors that has absolutely no distraction and where you cannot be disturbed. No music, no TV or a movie during this dedicated one hour.

Key elements:

  • Begin by having a conversation with the Lord, putting down the questions for Him. Seek, question and talk from your heart.


  • If God answers your prayer, He is increasing your faith. If He delays, He is increasing your patience. If He does not answer, He has something better for you.


  • From my experience, many questions that I do write to Him always find their own answers. Somehow, somewhere, almost inevitably the answers come.


  • When you spend one hour alone in complete silence and converse with HIM on any matter, your energy starts to radiate and you will be at complete peace with yourself. You will be a source of strength and vitality to others which is contagious. Then wherever you go, whoever you meet, they will perceive this in you.


  • When we are in a complete silence for an hour, we put our mind in a state of quiescence and it becomes the perfect instrument through which the best of ourselves manifests.


  • When you converse with Him on your problems, you will find the answers that, in turn, will lead to better questions. This is your private conversation with God and is done in whatever way you feel comfortable. Pray, Seek and ask Him the questions in your heart that needs answers. your reflection must be written down.


  • You can spend some time to reflect back on yesterday and where you could have improved or done a task better. Analyze why the task was not done, if not done.


  • Write down all your plans for the day. Do not overpromise and underdeliver.


  • Pick a book from any field that will enhance your knowledge. Read for 10-15 minutes.