YOUR FUTURE HAPPINESS LIES IN YOUR PAST MISTAKES!!

Yes, it is absolutely possible. How? Read it….

There are many people who spend their days beating up on themselves for past mistakes. They would think about that relationship that failed, analyze it and relentlessly review all the things they did wrong. They also have tendency to look at that business decisions that cost them, so much and dwell on things they could have done right. In my view, you don’t need to be so hard on yourself. We are all human beings and human beings have been destined to make mistakes. Believe me, as long as you don’t keep making the same mistakes and have a good judgement to let your past serve you, you will always be on the right path.

If we keep realizing that we all make mistakes and that they are essential to our growth and progress is liberating. We give up the need to be perfect and adopt a balanced views about our lives. In order to rise to a higher level of personal wisdom, you can make a list of five biggest mistakes you have made in your life on the left side of a page within your journal. Then, on the right hand side, write down the corresponding life lessons you have learned from every mistake and the benefits that actually flowed into your life as a result of those so-called failures.

You will soon see and start believing that your life would not be as colorful and rich without the mistakes of your past. So be flexible and gentler to yourself and see life for what it really is. A road to personal growth and lifelong learning!!

ALL THE BEST READERS.

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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WE DO THE MISTAKE OF SEEING THE WORLD, NOT AS IT IS BUT AS WE ARE!!

We never come to know about our inner power and resilience until we face adversity that affects our mind with stress and our heart with pain.Then we realize that we all have within us the courage and the capacity to handle even the greatest challenge life may throw our way.

Many people who come to me for counselling reveal the challenge they face in their lives.Some speak of their problems in their married life.Others speak of their problems in professional life.And one thing that many of the men and women ask me how to control stress and anxiety and restore peace and balance in their personal lives.I always have only one thing to tell these people: To improve and make your life better,you must first improve your thinking,because as the old saying goes,”We see the world,not as it is but as we are”.

God has gifted human being an inborn natural quality and ability to reframe and reinterpret a difficult circumstance in a proper perspective and in a more enlightened way.God has not given this gift to animals and it only belongs to us and is a part of what make us human. Blaming our circumstances for the way we feel is simply excusing ourselves.We must take the full responsibility for whatever situation we are in and then realize that god has also gifted us the capacity to use our challenges and setback to our advantage.Life’s greatest setbacks will ultimately and always place on your hand life’s biggest blessings.

MORAL:  ENRICH AND IMPROVE YOUR THINKING.

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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LISTING YOUR WORRIES AND PROBLEMS IS HALF SOLVED.

I am a firm believer in Charles kittering’s proverb – “A problem well stated is a problem half solved.” You feel something special when you take out a piece of paper and list your every single problem and worry. This is like a peaceful feeling you get after telling your best friend about something that has been troubling you for weeks. You feel lighter, calmer and freer.

If you keep thinking about your worries and problems, a time will come when you will think little else. In this situation, it becomes very important that you let go the mental clutter that your problems tend to generate. To get out of this situation, list all your worries on a piece of paper. If you do this, they would no longer be able to control your mind and drain your valuable energy.

This is such a simple exercise that will take your problems into proper perspective and let you tackle them in an orderly, well planned sequence. There are many successful people who have successfully used this technique. Winston Churchill once said – “It helps to write down half a dozen things which are worrying me. two of them, say, disappear; about two, nothing can be done, so it is no use worrying and LAST TWO PERHAPS CAN BE SETTLED.

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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BE A MAN OF WORD!! Your ability to keep up your word or promise determines your true character and who you are!!

 

In the word of Vijay Eswaran:

“Saying the right words only sells your intention.

While showing that you mean what you say can buy trust,

However, doing what you say, SEALS IT.”

There was a time when people were a man of word. They would honor their word and promise under all circumstance. Keeping their word was like worshiping a God. But time has changed. We now live in a time when people hardly have any importance for their word and they treat their words very lightly. We tell a friend we will call her next week for lunch knowing full well we do not have the time to do so. We tell our friend that we will certainly attend his marriage ceremony knowing full well that we will never attend it. And we promise ourselves on the new year day that we will adopt to a fitness regime on the new year day next year to get back into shape, change our life style and simplify our lives without any real intention of doing it or making the deep life changes necessary to achieve these goals.

We don’t really mean what we say and thus habit has become our way of life. The real problem is that when you don’t keep your word, you lose your credibility, you break the bond of trust. And breaking the bond of trusts ultimately leads to a string of broken heart and relationship. You will never be taken seriously or trusted by others.

I cannot suggest you any ready made formulae to develop a habit of keeping your word, and promise. But yes, I can definitely suggest you one thing. IF YOU CAN SEE IT IN YOUR MIND, YOU CAN HOLD IT IN YOUR HAND. I religously follow and implement this saying in my life. Every time you do not keep your word or promise, you feed the habit of UNTRUTHFUL AND UNRELIABLE.

When you promise someone you will do something, JUST DO IT. Be a person of your word rather than being “ALL TALK AND NO ACTION.”

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

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DO YOU WANT TO HAVE A BETTER SELF CONTROL AND WILLPOWER?? TRY THIS!!

Silence and smile are two powerful tools.

Smile is the way to solve many problems and

Silence is the way to avoid many problems!!

 

Your silence for one hour a day can bring magical results!!

Yes, silence can build up an enormous willpower-one that has been used by the Buddhist monks and many cultures over the years to build up a rock like willpower and enormous amount of inner strength and determination.you can enhance your will power and self control by observing silence even for a short period because you exert force on your will by not giving in to the impulse to talk.

I see many people talking far more than they need to.we often continue to talk on and on rather than speaking precisely and communicating only what needs to be communicated.It only reflects a lack of discipline in our life.Discipline involves saying exactly what needs to be said and preserving your precious mental energy by not talking more than you have to.Measured,precise speech is also a sign of clear thought and of a serene mind.

A better strategy to improve your personal discipline could be to take a firm decision to be silent for one hour a day over the next seven days.you must not speak at all during this silent time.DON’T WASTE YOUR WORDS ON PEOPLE WHO DESERVE YOUR SILENCE.However,if you must,speak only in a direct response to a question and give a brief,clear and crisp answer without getting into a detailed conversation.you can observe silence politely and warmly.The purpose of this exercise is to make you stronger and  build up your WILL.

Believe me,in a few days,you will feel and experience a tremendous sense of CONTROL and POWER growing within you.The results will speak for themselves.

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

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DOES IT MAKE SENSE TO WORRY ABOUT THINGS YOU CANNOT CHANGE!! Obviously,NO!! BUT IS IT POSSIBLE? READ……

Whenever I face challenge and hardship in my own life that I fail to change,I remind myself The Serenity Prayer of Reinhold Niebuhr: “God,give us the grace to accept with serenity the things that cannot be changed,courage to change the things which should be changed,and the wisdom to distinguish one from other”.

I was once attending a leadership coaching programme and going through an exercise.After finishing this exercise,I found that 50 percent of my worries related to things that would likely never happen; 30 percent were about past actions that could not be changed;10 percent related to the opinions of people whose opinion really did not matter to me; 4 percent concerned personal finances issues that was manageble;only 6 percent concerned real and worrying issues worthy of my attention.

It was amazing that by systematically identifying and then letting go of the worries I could do nothing about or that were a complete waste of energy,I managed to  eliminate 94 percent of problems that were constantly then bothering me all the time.

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List out all your worries in a systematic way and analyze them one by one carefully by asking yourself the right questions and trust me,you would also be placed in the same scenario like mine.Your stress level would immediately and drastically come down.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

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THE MORE RISK YOU TAKE THE MORE REWARDS YOU GET!!

I can tell you one thing with certainty that when you will be facing your death bed,it will not be all the risks you took that you will regret the most.Rather,what will fill your heart with the greatest amount of regret and sadness will be all those risks that you did not take,all those opportunities you did not seize and all those fears you did not face.

If you want to live your life to the fullest,start taking more calculated risks and especially doing things that you fear most.you must learn to gladly accept your discomfort and stop taking safe and less resistence path.No doubt,you would strike your toe painfully against a hard surface when you walk the road less travelled,but take it from me,that is the only way you can get somewhere.

You must stop spending your days searching for security.The real success lies in spending your time persuing opportunity.Life is all about choices.The choices you make is what you become in life.Like in a game of chess,there are infinite choices in your life and it is upto your wisdom what choice you make.All achievers,actualized people simply make wiser choice than others.There can be a person who could chose to spend rest of his days sitting on shore of life in complete safety while there will also be a person who would decide to take a chance,deep dive into the water and discover the pearl that lie waiting for the person of true courage.

If you want to keep yourself inspired and focused on the fact that you must keep stretching your own personal boundaries as days go by,you must remember the following words by Theodore Roosevelt.

“It is not the critic who counts,not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled,or where the doer of deeds could have done better.The credit belongs to  the man who is actually in the arena.,whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood,who strives valiantly,who errs and comes short again and again,who knows the great enthusiasm,the great devotions and spends himself in a worthy cause,who at best knows in the end the triumphs of high achievement and who at the worst,if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know NEITHER VICTORY NOR DEFEAT.

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PL DO NOT FEAR TAKING RISKS AND BOTHER ABOUT FAILURE.I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN A HIGH RISK TAKER AND A GREAT LOSER TOO. WHEN I TASTED SUCCESS PEOPLE BRANDED ME ACHIEVER AND WHEN I FAILED PEOPLE BRANDED ME LOSER.PL DO NOT FEAR BEING A  LOSER BECAUSE IT IS THE FIRST STEP TO BE AN ACHIEVER.

ON THE OTHER SIDE OF FEAR LIES FREEDOM.GRAB YOUR FREEDOM!!

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.