It does not matter what other people think of you.What really matters is what you think of you.We lose so much energy worrying about the opinions of others,WANTING TO BE LIKED.
To me,Leadership and personal mastery is all about rising above social approval-to self approval.
Respect you.So long as you are living by your values, being real and honest,running your own race and doing your dreams, how does it matter what anyone else thinks, feels or says about you?
Your self-belief, conviction in yourself should define your character and standard. To me , A person cannot respect others, unless he respects himself/herself.
Always remember- you are not in a popularity contest. Its about doing what is right!!
You must have observed too many people talk too good a talk these days. Tons of empty promises.Tons of hyperbole.Tons of lofty statements that never amount to anything.
Saying the right words
only sells your intentions.
While showing that you mean what
you say can buy trust;
however,doing what you say,seals it!!
Leaders are different.They talk less and do more. I love the quiet leaders. Those silent souls who UNDER PROMISE and OVER DELIVER.
The merchants of Wow amongst us who know that a person’s word is their bond. And that every promise kept builds credibility- the foundation of trust.
Commitment is something that everyone retreats from but always respects when recognized in others.It is feared, as it implies a need to do something for someone else. But it is, in fact, something one does for oneself.
Every commitment you make redefines who you are. So make a commitment today to be impeccable with your word. And be a person of action. Someone who is all about generating results.
BECAUSE GETTING GREAT THINGS DONE SPEAKS FOR ITSELF!!
“Be grateful for what you already have and you will attract more good things”
Gratitude is an amazing thing.It makes the recipient feel better.It make the sender feel great.It works both ways.
TWO MAGIC WORDS?
” THANK YOU”
They display your gratitude. They reveal your appreciation.They honor the one who has been HELPFUL.
As soon as I get up in the morning and before I get out of my bed,I pay my grtitude to HIM for keeping me in good health,for giving me food,clothes and money, for giving me a calm mind and courage, which enables me to face without fear the truth and difficulties in my present life and in times yet to come. I repeat my same gratitude when I go to bed in the night. I never miss it.Believe me,It make me feel BETTER, CALM AND PATIENT.
I also often express my gratitude to all the people who elevate,influence and inspire me. I honor my kids for all the gifts they have brought to my life.I wish I could be half as amazing as them.
I thank those who have believed in me and helped me along the way. WE ALL HAVE A LOT MORE BLESSINGS IN OUR LIFE THAN WE KNOW.Its human nature to focus on what’s not working rather than to embrace all that is.
No matter how good or bad your life looks at this very moment, there is really so much and so many people you can be thankful for.JUST DO IT. JUST DO IT. JUST DO IT and see the difference it make in your life. you will feel on the top of the world.
Gratitude begets gratitude.The more good things you see, the more good things you see.
Supreme truth can only be contained in silence- not in finite words.In a state of complete silence, we put our mind in a state of quiescence and it becomes the perfect instrument through which the best of ourselves manifests.
It is a noisy world we live in. People talk loudly on cell phones.Ring tones can be heard in once serene restaurants. Most cars have radios on.Most homes have TVs on.I see people chatting on mobile while eating their meals.Not good for digestion.
Each of us, I suggest, must find time for what i call Silence,Solitude and Stillness.At least, find some time( say 15 minute a day) to be quiet and have a calm mind. The calm mind means Courage so that you may face without fear the truth and difficulties of the path. It also means steadiness, so that you may make light of the troubles which come into everyone’s life and avoid the incessant worry over little things into which many people spend most of their time.
Trust me! This is the best practice which will make you much better at work, at home and most importantly with yourself.
Some Practical Strategies:
⦁ When you are in your car or in a taxi,Keep the radio off.Use that time to renew.To observe. To introspect.
⦁ Take 15 minutes before you sleep to immerse yourself in peace or silent.Just chill. Get comfortable with no noise.Get comfortable with yourself.
⦁ Take a daily vow of silence.
These strategies are not just for monks. Its for smart executives,entrepreneurs and business people. Talking takes away a ton of energy.I can’t believe how much some people talk. All day long- on their mobile, at the water cooler and on the train home. It is exhausting just to watch them. Be silent for 15 minutes a day.You will have more energy. More peace. More joy. And so, better performance.
Fight the noise.Get away from the maddening crowds- at least for a bit.You will be happy you did.I do this! you also may try.
Yes! Fear could be scary. When we face it,we are wired to run.We want to avoid it.We consider it a bad thing.But,let me tell you, it is not true.In my mind,fear is splendid.It is an opportunity given to us. In fact, it is a gift!
On the other side of every fear that is keeping you small is your natural power and your true greatness. If you try to run away from your fear,it tantamount to running from the brilliance you were meant to be. A fear is nothing more than a doorway into the highest version of your highest vision. The things that scare you are spectacular opportunities to discover more of all you are meant to be. Trust me! Fear is not bad. It is in fact Superb! It leads to confidence,if you do what you fear.It leads to self-respect.It promotes growth.It makes you better.
So today, at work or at home, if something comes up that makes you feel like running, avoiding or even resisting, don’t make a beeline for the door. you should instead show up like the leader you truly can be and embrace the opportunity you have been presented.Because WHAT YOU RESIST WILL PERSIST.BUT WHAT YOU BEFRIEND, YOU WILL TRANSCEND.
TREAT FEAR AS GROWTH
Marriage is a lifetime commitment and commitment should not be broken!!
Yes, i mean it !! Either you don’t marry and if you marry you have to accept and live with its greener and grey pastures as well. It cannot be a marriage of your convenience. Unfortunately the sanctity of this institution is losing its meaning very fast. Divorces are increasing by leaps and bounds. As a matter of fact, a recent survey on latest divorce cases indicates that it has increased 13 times in the last 5-10 years. In other words, marriage is now becoming a matter of convenience. Relations are breaking at the drop of the hat.
In the hope of a happy married life, people are jumping from ‘ONE-FRY-PAN’ to ANOTHER. They are running after a desert ‘MIRAGE’ which does not exist. They think divorcing one partner will bring happiness from a second or third partner. But it is the same never ending dissatisfaction in their first, second or third marriage. Well, there may be a few exceptions, but by and large, mostly people are unhappy in their married life. Otherwise, why the number of divorces have gone so high!! Think!
If you ask me the number of divorces have gone up so high primarily due to three reasons: People lack PATIENCE, have very high expectations from each other and do not have the right type of thinking. We take things for granted. I can tell you with conviction that if you lack in these areas, you may divorce and marry 100 times but you can never have a happy married life, because the fundamental rules and realities of a married life does not change with changing partners.
Part of the value i hope to add to you is to be a catalyst for positive changes in your married life. To gently push, move and challenge you to get better. To grow more.
To be great- REGARDLESS OF YOUR CURRENT REALITY.
Here are 10 challenges i offer:
- Be Patient
- Have balanced expectations from each other
- Have rational thinking
- Control your impulsive anger
- Trust each other
- Communicate with each other
- Respect each other
- Be transparent in financial matters
- Lead a happy sex life
- Keep away from extra-marital affairs
Having said this, i would also like to add that if you think you cannot control forces as mentioned above and you are in a very uncontrollable situation, you are free to take the final call.
PAUSE, THINK AND ACT.
If you are still unmarried, you may please forward this post’s link to your near and dear married person.
Yes, your vision will become clear only when you can look inside your heart. He who looks outside, dreams; he who looks inside awakens!!
There is an interesting story which I will love to share with you to make you understand my thoughts better.
A wise woman… who was travelling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream and put it in her bag. The next day she met another traveler who was hungry. The wise woman opened her bag to share her food.
The hungry traveler saw the precious stone inside the bag and asked the woman for it. She gave it to him without any hesitation. The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime.
But a few days later, he came back to return the stone to the wise woman. “I have been thinking’, he said, “I know how valuable this stone is, but I want to give it back to you in the hope that you can give me something more precious!! The woman paused and said- What is that? He said- “GIVE ME WHAT YOU HAVE WITHIN YOU THAT ENABLED YOU TO GIVE ME THAT PRECIOUS STONE”
True wisdom comes only when you look inside your heart.