IT IS REALITY THAT LONG TERM SUSTAINABLE SUCCESS TAKES TIME.

Those of you who know about Chinese Bamboo and those of you who don’t know about it may think-what is there for me to tell you all about a Bamboo.Bamboo is after all a Bamboo only.

NO friends! If you think that way,there are surprises for you for sure. There is a very special and interesting story about Chinese Bamboo and life changing lessons to be learnt from this unique bamboo.

Chinese bamboo is a tree that grows really tall-to  a height of over 80 feet.Wow! so high! It takes around 5 years and 3 months to grow to its full height.But there is something more interesting thing about it.You see nothing for the first 5 years after you plant the seed.Except perhaps a little shoot springing out of the bulb and struggling to make a squiggle.

And then,in the next 90 days,it shoots up to a towering 80 feet.Can you believe it?  For the first sixty months all the growth is invisible below the surface. And in next three months-yes,merely  ninety days-it literally takes off and become as tall as the eight story building.

We all need to pause and take action from the chinese bamboo.Nothing of substance happens in haste.Having sown the seed and having initiated something,when we don’t see the results,we get impatient.But patience has its rewards.

As leaders and bosses,we become impatient for results.you should ask yourself whether your leadership style encourages or even allows-the growth of the chinese bamboo.Or are you creating an organization of stunted,but quickly visible trees,so  the next time you feel frustrated by lack of results and want to give up,don’t.Think of the chinese bamboo.

When you feel the world is unjust and is refusing to recognize your hard work and commitment,don’t get disheartened.Five years of subterranean activity will almost always be followed by three months of meteoric rise.And yes,when you finally achieve success,be prepared for people to say: ‘oh,he is so lucky.He has become an overnight success!’

Alas! If only they knew about the CHINESE BAMBOO!

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Patience is eventually rewarded.Nothing of substance happens in haste.

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RESPECT MONEY ELSE IT WILL LEAVE YOU

IN the year 2008 when everyone was talking about pink slips and zero bonuses and crashing stock markets,it reminds me a story that controlled our tendency to behave  somewhat irrationally in money matters.

Imagine that you are in a store,buying a watch.You like the brand and the design.The strap is just right.Price is Rs 999 that fits your budget.You decide to pick it up but just as you are about to pay for it,you bump into a dear friend.He notices the watch and tells you that he has seen the same watch in the store across the road-priced at Rs 899.A WHOLE HUNDRED RUPEES LOWER!

What would you do? Most of us,I am sure,would walk across to the other store, and save hundred rupees.Why spend Rs 999 when you can get the same watch for Rs 899?Makes sense!

Now,let us imagine another scenario.you are at the store buying an expensive swiss watch.you like the brand and the design.It is priced at Rs1,50,200.And you decide to pick it up.Just as you are about to pay for it,you bump into a dear friend He tells you that the same watch is  available at a store across the road for Rs 1,50,100. A WHOLE HUNDRED RUPEES LOWER!

What would you do now? Like most people,you would probably stay put and buy it there only at the same store.Afterall,what is hundred rupees value when you are spending some1,50,000 rupees?

But we tend to get carried away by an unrelated metric.How much we are spending at a given moment affects our perception of the money being saved.If saving hundred rupees matters to you,it should matter to you regardless of whether you are spending 2000 rupees or 200,000 rupees.we all need to learn  the value of small stuff,those hundred rupees note,regardless of how much we spend.In times of abundance,it is good to be cautious.It may just help stretch the abundance a bit.

Getting money to work for you is no different from getting people to work for you.IF YOU DON’T TREAT YOUR MONEY WITH RESPECT,IT WILL LEAVE YOU. And when the recession hits-as it will sometime-those who valued those hundred rupees even while they were spending big,will find themselves better placed to tide over the difficult times.

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In times of abundance,be always cautious.It may just help stretch the abundance a bit. If hundred rupees really matters to you,it should matter to you regardless of of whether you are spending 2000 rupees or 200,000 rupees.

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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APPEARANCES OF BALLOONS DON’T MATTER-WHAT IS WITHIN MAKES THE DIFFERENCE!!

In today’s world,appearances seem to matter more to us than our core expertise and strengths.This reminds me of a story of a balloon-seller at a village fair which I want to share with you all.Well,this balloon-seller was selling helium-filled balloons in various colours-red,blue,white,green,yellow…

The string of a red balloon snapped by accident and, as the balloon soared into the sky,the crowd roared and kids tugged at their parent’s arms,urging them to get them balloons.Seeing that it was attracting attention,the balloon-seller released another balloon.This time a blue one,that quickly soared towards the clouds.Soon after,he  released a green balloon.Then a yellow one.

Seeing all the balloons going up,a little boy went upto the balloon-seller and innocently asked: ‘If you release that white balloon,will it also soar as high as the rest?’ The balloon-seller explained: ‘Son,it is not the colour of the balloon that matters.It is what’s inside that makes it rise high!’

As it is true of balloons,it is true of people too.Appearances don’t matter.It is what is within that makes the difference.That is a lesson we would all do well to remember.When we look at other people.And when we look at ourselves.we must look deeper.we must look within.

We tend to judge people by their external manifestations,the way they speak,the way they dress.Sure,first impressions are important but its even more important to ensure that we don’t get carried away.

Some of the smarter,brightest colleagues I have worked with have been shy and quiet and apparently easy to miss.No big talk,no fanfare.Just good minds,the willingness to work hard and can-do attitude.The shirt is not always tucked in properly,the blue socks don’t quite go well with the beige trousers,the heavy accent often jars.But hidden beneath all of that is a REAL TREASURE-a teammate you could be proud of!

When I see young,ambitious people,I sometime worry that they are quick to copy the mannerism and styles and looks of their successful role models-but don’t spend as much time on developing the core: the real value that make for real success.They confuse the visible trappings of  success with the real internal strengths that actually contribute to the success.

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IT IS NOT THE COLOUR OF THE BALLOON THAT MATTERS.IT IS WHAT IS INSIDE IT THAT MAKES IT RISE AND SOAR IN THE SKY.

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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IF YOU DO GOOD THING TO SOMEBODY,YOU CANNOT BIND HIM TO DO THE SAME THING TO YOU!!

After all,just because you do good deed to a scorpion,it does not mean that it will stop him from stinging you,because to sting is his nature.

You must have heard people saying-‘I never thought he would do this to me,not after all that I did for him!’ you may have said this to you too.The sense of betrayal,of being let down,is disgusting.And yet,it seems to recur with unfailing regularity-and it happens in offices,in relationship,in lives.The sense of hurt seems to get compounded by the belief that we did so much for that person.The notion is that since we have done so much for that person-we have possibly bought out his right to do something that would hurt us.

But it may not necessarily happen that way,and it mostly do not happen that way.This is the Reality and the sooner we accept it the better for us.

Have you heard the story of the Scorpion and the frog? Once a scorpion wanted to cross the stream,but since he could not swim,he went over to the frog and requested him to allow him to ride on his back.I cannot swim!!The frog said,I cannot possibly let you do that.You are a scorpion.you will sting me.The scorpion said to frog-I could not possibly do that,because if I did we would both  drown! So you can trust me on this.

Sensing the logic and seeing an opportunity to speak of one’s achievement for having helped a scorpion across,the frog agreed. Well,when they were  in the middle of the stream,the scorpion stung the frog.The frog shockingly asked-why did you do that? He quickly started going down in the water. ‘Because I am a scorpion’ came the reply,as both the frog and scorpion drowned.

What is important here to remember: Just because you do a good deed to a scorpion,it does not necessarily mean that it will stop him from stinging you.

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Scorpion will be Scorpion.They sting and will sting.Expecting otherwise will only set you up for a big disappointment-time and again!!

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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THE MAGIC OF PERSEVERANCE!!

To make you believe that Persistence pays in all walks of life,I would give you a live example of a great Sri Lankan Cricketer,which has always inspired me and I still continue to read this story when I feel the need for self motivation.

That great cricketer is none than Marvan Ata pattu who made his debut in Test Cricket for Sri Lanka but scored zero in his first innings.And  again zero in second innings.He was dropped from the team.So he went back to the nets for more practice.It was only after a wait of 21 months,he got a second chance.

He tried his best this time,but scored zero in the first innings and 1 run in second innings.Dropped again,he went back for more serious practice.He scored tonnes of runs to get out of the painful memories of the Test failures.Well,17 months later,opportunity again knocked at his door.Marvan went to bat in both the innings of the Test.His score:0 and 0

Back to the rigorous practice.The selectors felt that he lacked Test-match temperament.His technique wasn’t good enough at the Test match level.But undaunted, Marvan kept trying with some hope that selectors would someday give him another chance.

Three years later,he got another chance.This time he made runs and in an outstanding career thereafter,he went on to score over 5000 runs for Sri Lanka.This included 16 centuries and 6 double centuries.He never looked back and eventually he became Captain of the Sri Lankan Test cricket team.

JUST THINK ABOUT IT! How many of us can handle failure and rejections the way he handled? IT was six years of trying and failing.Anybody would have been tempted to shift and persue another career.But he did not and THAT MADE THE REAL DIFFERENCE.The next time you are staring at possible failure or rejection in life,think of this great Marvan and just remember this:If you don’t give up,if you believe in yourself,if you stay the course,time will change one day and you would eventually succeed and prove your worth someday.

THIS IS THE LAW OF NATURE AND MAGIC OF PERSEVERANCE.

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Once,Winston Churchill was asked the secret of success in life.His reply was:NEVER GIVE UP.NEVER,NEVER GIVE UP!

IF YOU FOLLOW HIS ADVICE,PERSEVERANCE WILL REWARD YOU SOMEDAY.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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IF YOU CAN SEE IT IN YOUR MIND, YOU CAN HOLD IT IN YOUR HAND LIKE ROGER BANNISTER!!

Yes,you have read it right and many people like me  believe in that dictum.

To make you believe the truth,I would take you to the world of athletics in 1950s.It was back then widely believed that  no human can run a mile in less than 4 minutes.Sweden’s Gunder Haegg had the best timing of running a mile in 4 minutes and 1.4 seconds in 1945.This record could not be broken for several years and experts were unanimous in the view that four-minutes barrier could never be broken and it was strongly perceived that a man could attempt to do it only at the cost of physical harm to his body.

But,as I have said above,Roger Bannister could see it in his mind and  hold it in his hand on 6th May,1954 and did something which was impossible.Roger ran the mile,at an event in London,and touched the finish line in 3 minutes and 59.4 seconds and broke the 4 minutes barrier.He did what people said was impossible.

Well,this is not the end.By the end of 1957,sixteen other runners had run the mile in less than 4 minutes.The so-called mental barrier was totally smashed!

So what miracle actually happened? No miracle happened! It was only that somebody could see it shattering this mental barrier in his mind and that opened up the floodgates.What Roger did that day  not merely set a new world record,but,he demonstrated that if you think you can,you can and that’s exactly he did.

We are all like that elephants who are held by only a small rope tied to their front leg.

No chains! No cage!

When those  elephants are smaller,they are tied only with a small rope and at that age it is enough to hold them.As they grow up they are conditioned to believe that they cannot break away.So they never try to break free.

Likewise,many of us go through our life hanging on to a belief that we cannot do it simply because we believe we cannot do it or because we would have failed at it once before.

As the Roger Bannister story shows,once he broke the four-minutes-mile barrier,the mental barrier in the  minds of all runners was shattered.And soon thereafter,sixteen people ran the mile in under four minutes.

WHAT IS YOUR FOUR-MINUTES BARRIER? What is holding you back? Come-on!!Change your mindset,change your belief system.Shatter that barrier and break free-you have nothing to lose but break your mental barrier.

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IF YOU THINK YOU CAN,YOU CAN.IF YOU THINK YOU CAN’T,YOU ARE RIGHT.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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THE MOST MEMORABLE MEMORY OF MY CAREER!!

A DISTRIBUTOR OF OUR COMPANY  SPORTINGLY CLEAN BOWLED OUR ALL INDIA SALES MANAGER

As a young Technical Sales Representative selling Industrial Dyestuffs in Uttar Pradesh,one of my fondest memory is the first time the company All India Sales Manager visited my market.It happened several years  ago in 1980,but it taught me a lesson that stayed with me until this day.

An All India Sales Manager’s visit was rather important because in the company’s history,no All India Sales Manager had ever visited Kanpur in Uttar Pradesh.I was posted in Kanpur just one month before the planned visit of AISM.As a man who would get to travel with the AISM,I was working hard to ensure I had answers to all the questions that may be asked to me.Like, how were the brands performing?  What were the growth rates?  How was the competition behaving? How much money were we spending on local marketing?   What was the profitability of the local distributors? I had worked hard to gather all such vital business informations- and then some more.What was the main crop in the region? What was the population? What was the main source of livelihood of Kanpur village area? The list seemed endless.  But I hoped for the best.

The D-day arrived.  The Area Sales Manager and I picked up the All India Sales Manager(AISM) at the Kanpur Airport and drove out to Kanpur City about 40 km from the airport. The initial discussions were rather general, and extremely friendly.  He asked about my family,my education,my interests but I was still waiting  for the real questions.

We were approaching Kanpur local Dyes Market fast where we had our first appointment  with a most  important Distributor of the company. I still remember the name of that Dyes Distributor-Kunju Babu!!  After introductions and a quick review of his business,we came down to the main agenda.Although 37 years have passed, but I still remember that our discussions in the last leg of meeting was confined to getting  bulk orders from the distributors,never heard of before, in lieu of some attractive Commission.

We were looking for an order of 20 tonnes of dyestuffs to be lifted in that month which was equal to distributor’s four months sales.After lot of discussions and persuations,Kunju Babu(Head of distributor)) agreed to lift this quantity,provided we agree for a 10% commission as against normal commission of 3%.We were reluctant for  10% commission.Our All India sales Manager eventually gave the final proposal as under:

0-5 tonnes-2.5% commission

5-10 tonnes-5% commission

10-15 tonnes – 7.5% commission

15-20  tonnes -10% commion

Our All India Sales Manger told Kunju Babu that it was not possible to give flat 10% commission on entire 20 tonnes but if  you “AVERAGE OUT” this scheme,this will work out to be a very -very attractive commission for you.

Kunju Babu’s immediate reaction was-‘Mitra sahib,I am a very small business man but am double of your age and experience.Can I say something?” Mr Mitra said-yes,yes,pl go ahead kunju babu!

Kunju Babu said-“ Mitra sahib, “ DARIYA MEI AVERAGE LEKAR JAOGE,DOOB JAOGE”(If you try to cross a river on the basis of its average depth-you will drown)

Everybody laughed at his swift comment but it has stayed with me until this day.

         Message

          Working out on an ‘average’ principle can backfire sometime.

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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