DO YOU FIND IT DIFFICULT TO TAKE THE RIGHT ACTION? WHY? Read on…

We all take action everyday in our personal and professional life. but how do we actually know whether our action was right or wrong!!

In my view the authenticity of action is determined by the spirit or motive behind the action. Purity of motive or intention is a clear test of right action. It may also happen that our action may not meet with immediate success even if our intention is noble. Yet, such intention generates tremendous spirit and goodwill. Any action born out of good intention… such as compassion… is rarely a wrong action.

This reminds me a story which may bring out the truth I want to share with you all and you may or may not decide to make it a bench mark when you take your future actions:

A soldier named Vijay Singh asked his commanding officer if he could go to the battlefield to rescue his friend who had not returned from the battle. The officer said, “There is no point in looking for your friend, he is probably dead. Besides, it is dangerous to go in the field now as the enemy may kill you too.” In spite of the officer’s reluctance, Vijay went in search of his friend. After an hour he came back seriously wounded with the dead body of his friend on his shoulders. The commanding officer fumed, “ I told you  not to venture out on your own, we not only lost your friend in the battle, we will lose you too! Was it worth acting that way?’ the mortally wounded soldier said, “My action was right sir!!

When I reached the battlefield, my friend was still alive. And all he could say to me was, VIJAY, I KNEW YOU WOULD COME!!”

MESSAGE

Who am I to tell you or give message on this subject. I would rather leave it to your judgement and invite your comments. You decide- what Vijay Singh did with a purity of motive or intention- was his action RIGHT?

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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Whatever happens, happens for the best!! DEVELOP THE ‘THIS IS GOOD’ ATTITUDE.

 

There is an old saying if something happens as per your wish, It is good, but if something does not happen as per your wish, this is also good- because, this is wish of God!!

So, it is pointless worrying about outcomes you cannot control or change. Focus instead on what you can change… when one door shuts, another door opens. This reminds me this African folk tale about a king and his friend.

The king’s friend was an optimistic and cheerful person. Whenever something happened- good or bad- the friend would remark, “this is good!”, they would often go on hunting expeditions and the friend would help prepare the king’s rifles. One day, the friend made a mistake with one of the guns. When the king took that gun and pulled the trigger, his thumb got blown off. Seeing what happened, the friend remarked, “This is good!”, that made the king very angry, ‘No this is not good’, he said and sent his friend off to prison.

After a few years, the king was out in a place where he should have not ventured into. The cannibals living there caught him, before throwing him into the huge earthen pot that was being readied for cooking. It was then, someone  noticed that king had no thumb. As it happened, those cannibals were superstitious lot. They never ate anyone who was less than whole. So, the king was set  free.

As he headed back to his palace, the king recalled the incident when he had lost his thumb. He then realized that his friend had been right in saying, ‘This is good!’. Losing a thumb that day had actually saved his life. He immediately went to the prison and set his friend free. He narrated his story to his friend and apologized. ‘you were right. I should not have put you in prison’, said the kind. ‘That was bad’!

‘No, no. This is good’ said the friend.

‘what do you mean’ asked the king. How could sending you to jail have been good?’

‘don’t you see?’ said the friend. ‘ if I had not been in jail, I would then have been out hunting with you. And the cannibals would then have killed and eaten me!’

So, the next time you find things are not going your way, think of the king’s thumb. And whatever happens, just say ‘This is good!’ you will suddenly find the world a better place. And you will discover how empowering that can be. Instead of playing victim and wallowing in self-pity, the ‘This is good!’ attitude compels you to take ownership and do things that can be life-changing.

Message

When you say, ‘this is bad’, the mind gets conditioned to look for difficulty in opportunity and when you say ‘this is good’, the mind looks for opportunity in difficulty, and therein is born a winner or a loser.

                                                             ______________________

A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

 

 

STOP WORRYING ABOUT COW NO 3!!

 

Do you sometimes feel unhappy with what you have and long for something that you don’t? Do you wish you had name, fame and money which, you believe, could make a dramatic difference to your career and life?

To understand the reality, may be you should hear the story of three cows. Two school-going friends decided to do crazy things, they rounded up three cows from the neighborhood and painted the numbers 1, 2 and 4 on their sides. That night they let the calf loose inside their school building.

When the authorities, next morning, entered the school, they could smell something was wrong. They soon saw cows droppings on the stairs and near the entrance and realized that some cows had entered the building. A search was immediately launched and very soon, the three cows were found. But the authorities were still worried, where was cow no 3? They spent the rest of the day looking for COW no 3. There was panic and frustration. The school decided a holiday for the students. The teachers, helpers and the canteen boys were all busy looking for cow no 3, which of course, was never found. Simply because it did not exist.

We are all like folks in the school- we may have our own cows, but are obsessively looking for elusive, missing, non-existent cow no 3. So, instead of making the most of what we have and focusing on our strengths, we worry about the missing piece- our shortcomings.

In the build-up to the 2012 World Cup, you might recall, there were many who felt that while the Indian team had a strong batting line-up and an effective bowling attack, it was weak in fielding side. They reckoned that would prove to be a stumbling block. So what did Dhoni and the think tank do? They did not let that missing cow no 3 worry them too much. Dhoni acknowledged that we could not suddenly become a great fielding side. That’s all! No big deal! They stayed focused on their strengths, scored a lot runs, and bowled well. AND THEY WON THE WORLD CUP!

So, do the best you can with what you have and be grateful for what you get. Success and happiness will come your way. STOP WORRYING ABOUT COW NO 3!!

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READE

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

 

HOPE INFUSES LIFE IN US. BUT HOPE WITHOUT ACTION IS A DEAD BODY!

I want to tell you the importance of a vital ingredient no leader can do without. HOPE.

Great leaders never lose hope. They remain optimists and recognize that their state of mind is contagious. If they have hope, so does their team. If they give up, well, so does their team.

Hope is a theme that resonates in what is described as the greatest cricket match ever played: The one day international match between South Africa and Australia in Johannesburg in March 2006.

At the time, the record for the highest score in a 50-over game was held by Sri Lanka. In 1996, they had scored 396 for 5 versus the mimows- Kenya. Interestingly enough, three teams had scored more than 390 but no team had managed to go beyond 400! It was believed that 400 was that invisible barrier- a barrier no team could break!

On March 12, 2006, in the fifth one-day international between South Africa and Australia and what has been seen as unthinkable- and what no team had ever done until then. They went past the 400- run barrier and posted a total of 434 for 9 – the ‘unbreakable’ barrier was finally broken.

Can you guess what happened next? In reply, South Africa made 438 for 9- and won that game. Clearly, once Australia had broken the mental barrier that no team could score over 400, It was easy for South Africa to do it too. A record that had stood for ten long years was broken- TWICE ON THE SAME DAY, And that’s not all. Sri Lanka broke the barrier 3 months later. South Africa did it again. Suddenly, almost magically, the barrier was gone. In fact, since that record-breaking day in Johannesburg, the 400-run barrier has been breached six time already.

It all boils down to your own belief as I always say, if you can see it in your mind, you can hold it in your hand. Once you believe something is possible, the rest becomes easy. Belief is the vital first step towards achievement.

Message

Keep hope alive. Take charge. Hope is what ensures we keep going when all seems lost. But hope alone is never enough. You need to take responsibility. AND YOU FINALLY NEED TO TAKE ACTION.

                                                                ____________________

A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

PHASE 3 OF YOUR MARRIED LIFE WILL DECIDE ITS FUTURE!!

Married life crisis is not new. You are not alone- everyone else too is having its Sweet and bitter taste… Here is why.

My Dad passed away last year I was extremely close to him. Now that he is not with me, it reminds me many discussions I used to have with him. I would like to share one such conversation with him with all of you.

There was a time when I used to have my evening tea with my dad. While we were having general discussions, my dad suddenly changed the topic and told me- Ravi! I will today tell you the secret of a long lasting married life. Needless to add, the married life of my parents lasted for 70 very long years and till he died. Do you want to know about it, he asked me?

Yes dad, I do.

According to him the first 15 years of a married life can be divided into three equal phases of 5 years.

PHASE 1: when two people get married, it is marriage of two different mindset. In this phase of 5 years, it is husband who speaks and wife listens. By and large good phase.

PHASE 2: In this phase of 5 years, wife takes over her husband. She speaks and husband listens to her. This phase is not bad.

PHASE 3: Phase 3 is the most crucial phase of a married life. In this phase, husband and wife both speak and their NEIGHBOURS listen to them.

As my curiosity was going up, I asked my dad, Dad! What will happen after phase 3? He started laughing loudly and told me.

Ravi, phase 3 is the most difficult period of a married life. If you can successfully cross phase 3, what will happen is this:

Going though three phases in 15 years of married life, either the wife or husband will attain maturity and will keep his or her mouth shut and this will lead to a long lasting married life.

He summed up by saying- “This is the unwritten rules of a married life and I have seen it happening with every married couples,  barring a few exceptions

MESSAGE

If you want a long lasting married life, cross phase 3 successfully.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

OUR OWN ACTIONS ARE REASONS FOR OUR ANXIETIES AND FEARS!!

Sounds familiar? Do you find it difficult to trust other people? Reality is- we often distrust other people and suspect them of doing things that often mirror our own actions.

Maybe the story of a boy and his marbles make you understand better what I want to tell you. It’s a simple story about two children- WITH A MESSAGE FOR ALL GROWN UPS.

A Little boy and a girl were playing near their house. The boy has a pocketful of marbles, while the girl had some candy. As the boy kept playing with the marbles, he constantly eyed the candy in the girls hands. His mouth was watering. He made her an offer. He would give her all his marbles in exchange for the candy, the girl happily agreed.

The boy slyly hid the biggest and the most beautiful marble in his pocket and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him ALL the candy as promised.

The girl, that night, played for a while with the marbles before going to bed. And she slept soundly. The boy, however, just could not sleep. He kept wondering if the girl had hidden the best candy and kept it with her- just as he had done with his marbles.

SHE SLEPT WELL BUT HE DIDN’T!

The point is when we face a trust issue, we normally tend to believe that the problem is with the other person.But often the problem lies in us,not them. The way we see the world treating us is usually a reflection of the way we treat other people, YES, THIS IS A FACT!!

Maybe you should ask yourself if you are the one hiding the best marble. The next time you find yourself doing a candy-for-marble swap, remember to play a fair game KEEP YOUR WORD IN TOTALITY. GIVE. You might think you have got a little less in the bargain than what you could have.

BUT YOU KNOW WHAT?  YOU WILL HAVE A SOUND SLEEP!!

MESSAGE

KEEP YOUR WORD. GIVE. SLEEP WELL WITH A CLEAR CONSCIENCE.

IT IS VERY SATISFYING !!

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

DO YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY, WEALTHY AND HEALTHY? IF YES- FOLLOW THESE 10 THINGS !!

 

Who does not want to be happy, wealthy and healthy? Obviously, everybody want to be happy, wealthy and healthy. But there is no free lunch and you have to invest time and effort to achieve it. In my view, if you have or work on these qualities, you can lead a happy, wealthy and healthy life.

  1. CONTROL YOUR ANGER:

This is the most sought after quality. You must exercise restrain and control your anger, else it may permanently damage your personal and professional life.

  1. HAVE PATIENCE:

Life has its own rules and cycle. Sometime, things happen the way you want and sometime as yet, things may not happen the way you want them to happen. It often takes time for a few or everything to happen. Have patience in such adverse situations.

  1. HAVE BACKUP PLAN:

Never take your job, business or any other source of income for granted. Things can change against you in a moment. Don’t wait for that moment to come in your life. Always have your backup plan ready to meet such contingency.

  1. LEARN TO BE CALM AND COMPOSED:

As is the universe law, you will have to undergo and face various crises at various stages of your life. Trust me, no crisis can affect your life adversely if you learn to remain calm under such situation. Believe me, storm passes away without disturbing you, since they cannot fight your calmness. To remain calm and composed in all situations, I highly recommend you to do yoga and meditation.

  1. BE TRUSTWORTHY:

This is one quality that is a MUST in anybody. You can never have a good personal and professional relationship with anybody if people cannot trust you. In fact, you cannot have any relationships at all.

  1. HAVE YOUR INTEGRITY INTACT:

Never compromise on your integrity. This is just non-negotiable.

  1. LEARN TO GIVE AND SHARE:

History always repeats itself. what you give and share with others in your life- it is returned to you at an appropriate time and God decides that timing. So, learn to have a ‘go-giving’ attitude and let it be your second nature.

    8: RESPECT MONEY:

Getting money to work for you is no different from getting people to work for you. If you don’t treat your money with respect, it will leave you. It has happened with me. so, in times of abundance, be always cautious and respectful. It may just help stretch the abundance a bit.

    9: DEPENDENCY IS A BIG NO!!

There is no harm in this. Everybody takes help from others. But there is a thin line between taking help and being dependent. Never cross this line. If you want to live a happy life, please be self-dependent in all respect.

  1. BLESSINGS OF PARENTS:

Last but not the least, believe me, it matters a lot. You need to have blessings of your parents to lead a happy, wealthy and healthy life. Trust me, I have survived the greatest crisis of my life with my parents blessings.

                                                                  ________________________

A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.