DO YOU REALLY GET THE BRILLIANCE OF DIVERSITY!!

In my view-Yup!!

Diversity helps us in ways we cannot perceive or fathom. Makes us better!

People and experiences that are different offer you the gorgeous opportunity to rethink the assumptions and closely held opinions you have lived your life under.

It takes a lot of outright courage to open your mind,as well as your heart, and listen to what they tell you. Uber-uncomfortable to think that you might not be right; the way you see the world or whatever  just might be flawed in some way. Or that there may be a better way of thinking or behaving or working or living.

But one thing is for sure, unless you are willing to empty the cup that is full, no more can enter. And you just might miss out on your greatest possibilities. And your best life!!

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APPROACH OF THIS ‘EMPLOYED PROFESSIONAL’ MAY NOT GET HIM OUT OF HIS RUT!!

ALL EMPLOYED PROFESSIONALS!!-NO OFFENCE PLEASE!!

Doing Job is a model,our fathers followed and one day they taught us to follow this traditional model! Simple!! And we will possibly transfer it to our children and this vicious cycle will go on and on.Should this mindset not change with changing job culture?

WELL, IT IS FOR YOU TO TAKE THE FINAL CALL !!

I too have been an employed professional for more than two and half decades. Obviously, I too had the same approach and mindset back then. This subject is very close to my heart, so, I want to tell you a very important lesson.

WHAT YOU CONSTANTLY THINK ABOUT YOU IS WHAT YOU BECOME IN LIFE(LAW OF ATTRACTION)

To make you understand this subject better,I would tell you a story which is one of my all time favorite business stories:

It is about a 45 year old Manager always struggling to pay his bills.So,he decided to consult a financial expert and get some advice.The Manager makes an appointment to meet with a well reputed financial advisor,whose office was located  in an expensive and stylish building on Cannaught place,New Delhi.

The Manager enters the expert’s elegantly done reception room,but instead of a receptionist,the manager was greeted by two doors – one marked “employed” and the other “self employed”

He enters the door marked “employed” and is greeted by two more rooms – one marked “makes less than 10 lacs” and the other “makes more than 10 lacs”

He makes less than 10 lacs,so he enters the door,only to find himself face to face with two more doors.The door on the left is marked-“saves more than Rs 10,000 a year”,and the one on the right is marked-“saves less than Rs 10,000 a year”.

The Manager only has about Rs 3,000 in his bank account,so he enters the door on the right ONLY TO FIND HIMSELF ON THE CANNAUGHT PLACE ROAD.

MORAL:THE SAME DOOR LEAD TO THE SAME RESULTS:

It is painfully obvious that this Manager in the story will never get out of his RUT until he starts choosing to open different doors.The moral of the story is that most of the people are like the Manager,like me back then,-they choose to enters the doors of life that lead them right back to where they started.

The only way for people to get different results is to choose to enter the different doors-IS THAT NOT TRUE? LIKE ONE OF MY MENTORS ALWAYS USE TO SAY,”IF YOU CONTINUE TO DO WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS DONE,YOU WILL CONTINUE TO GET WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS GOTTEN”

ABSOLUTELY TRUE!! IS NOT IT?

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IS IT A PROFESSIONAL BEHAVIOR?

Managers should strive to be role models, setting an example of a mature professional behavior. Unfortunately. however, some managers exactly do the opposite. These immature individuals refuse to control their emotions and freely vent their frustrations by yelling at employees. Amazingly, their own bosses seldom see this childish behavior. If you are stuck with one of these stress-inducing Managers, you may follow these coping suggestions.

1. Accept the fact that you have an immature manager. Lower your expectations. This boss is never going to be wise, mature mentors of your dreams. So just expect him to act like a tantrum-throwing two-year-old boy.If you develop this mindset,you will not be disappointed.

2. Don’t take it personally, Bad tempered bosses yell at everyone except people who have more power. So, remember that this has nothing to do with you personally.

3. Don’t respond in kind- yelling back at your bad-tempered boss will only escalate this situation, and since this person has some power over you, that could affect your career adversely. This may not be fair but it is a fact.

4. Remember that one of you needs to act like an adult. That must be you. If two people act like children, the result is a playground fight. Since your manager is already acting like a kid, you are the only one left who can keep the situation under control.

5. Wait until the dust settles down: If you don’t feed the fire, the managerial temper tantrum will gradually recede. You cant have a rational conversation with an angry person. So, keep your responses neutral and minimal until she/he burns herself/ himself out.

6. But- if your boss crosses the line and becomes abusive, talk to HR head or Higher management.

7. A HOTHEAD MANAGER IS ONE THING, BUT AN ABUSIVE BOSS IS ANOTHER. If your manager’s behavior is extreme or causes ongoing emotional stress, you need to talk with someone. Companies should not tolerate such managers. So, someone in HR or upper management must know this.

8. AND IF THE SITUATION STILL DOES NOT IMPROVE, GET OUT OF THERE, Perhaps, you can learn to cope with the situation. Or perhaps you can change it. But, if neither seems possible, YOU NEED TO FIND A MORE PROFESSIONAL PLACE TO WORK.

Abusive managers can be damaging to your mental and physical health, and no job is worth that.

YES- THAT’S IT!!

Your take on – Hard or Smart work !!

HARD WORK + SMART WORK = ACHIEVEMENT.

YOUR TAKE ON- HARD OR SMART WORK!!

Work very hard to earn good money and become a CEO of a world -class company- Is that true- No!! Not necessarily!!

We all work very hard from 9 am to 9 pm (12 to 14 hours) a day. Are we really earning good money to fulfill all dreams of our life? Perhaps, no!! So hardwork  alone may not be enough to realize your dreams in life.

IT IS SMART WORK ALONG WITH HARD WORK THAT PAYS YOU GOOD MONEY. I WILL EXPLAIN THIS WITH A TRUE STORY IN MY VILLAGE.

There was a wood cutter,working in a forest for his employer(normally called Seth in villages).He used to work very hard and cut trees from morning to evening(12hrs).This wood cutter would cut 5 small trees in a day and take 30 minute’s break for lunch.

There was another wood cutter,also working in the same forest for the same employer(seth).He was equally hard working but not as hard working as the first wood cutter.The second wood cutter use to cut trees only for 8 hrs and use to take 5 minute’s break after every one hour.So practically,this wood cutter was working only for 7 hrs.

The first wood cutter did not like this but he use to keep silence.When these both wood cutter went to their employer on the first day of the month to take their salary-employer gave Rs 1,000($16) to the first wood cutter and rs 2,000($32) to the second wood cutter.The first wood cutter did not like this discrimination and he told his employer upfront that,while he worked for him for 12 hrs,the second wood cutter worked only for 8 hrs.He also told seth that he only took 30 mnt break,while the second wood cutter used to rest every 5 mnt an hour.Seth kept listening to the first wood cutter patiently.He then told the first wood cutter-do you really want to know that why i paid Rs 1.000($16) to you and Rs 2,000($32) to the second wood cutter? The first wood cutter said,’YES’! I want to know the reason.

Seth told him-you give me 5 trees wood in 12 frs,while he gives 10 trees in 8 hrs.I HAVE AN AGREEMENT WITH BOTH OF YOU FOR 5 TREES EVERY DAY AND NOT WORKING FOR 12hrs OR 8 hrs.

Would you like to know how your friend gave me 10 trees in Just 8 hrs? Yes,please tell me,sir,said the first wood cutter.The seth replied, when your friend was taking break for 5 mnt every hour,he was then actually sharpening the edge of the weapon(Kuladhi-as they call in village) and this gave him better ‘PRODUCTIVITY’ for cutting the trees

 

                                      MY MESSAGE TO YOU

 

Hours of hard work that you put in a job or business or for that matter in any other activity is not that important.

What really matter is – HOW SMARTLY YOU ALSO SHARPEN YOUR SKILL(eg TRAINING) AND USE IT FOR BETTER PRODUCTIVITY AND MORE EARNING.

SO,WHICH WAY YOU SHOULD BE WORKING?

OBVIOUSLY SMART WAY!!

YOUR LIBERTY ENDS WHEN YOU START INTERFERING WITH OTHER’S LIBERTY

As a matter of fact, Liberty is a very misunderstood word. People think, it is their Liberty to do what they like in their house,it is their liberty to eat what they like, It is their liberty to sleep when they want to sleep,it is their liberty to dress up the way it pleases them, it is their liberty to listen the music they like, it is their liberty to party in their house till wee hours. THE LIST IS ENDLESS OF SUCH LIBERTY CLAIMS. Well,I have nothing against people’s liberty as mentioned above.It is perfectly okay – Nothing wrong.

BUT, BUT LIBERTY COMES WITH A RESPONSIBILITY AND TO EXPLAIN IT, I WILL TELL YOU A STORY.

Mr Swaminathan and Mr Bhandari were staying in Mumbai in the same apartment and they were neighbors. Mr Bhandari often use to return home late evening and was fond of listening to loud music at a very high pitch. This was his daily routine. Mr Swaminathan used to badly get upset with this loud music because he could not sleep.But he kept his patience and tolerated this loud music for two  weeks in the hope that better sense will prevail with his neighbor and things will improve.But that did not happen.

Mr Swaminathan decided to take up this matter with his neighbor and one night,while the loud music was going on,he knocked at the door of Mr Bhandari,who opened the door.Mr Swaminathan requested Mr Bhandari to keep the volume of the music low,because he could not sleep with such a loud music. Mr Bhandari said,Mr Swaminathan,I am in my own house and I have the full liberty to enjoy the music the way I like and this should not bother you.To this,Mr swaminathen told-Mr Bhandari! If it is your liberty to listen to such a loud music in your house,it is my liberty to sleep peacefully in my house!!

SO,YOUR LIBERTY ENDS WHEN YOU START INTERFERING WITH MY LIBERTY.

Mr Bhandari realized his mistake and apologized to Mr Swaminathan. He also promised Mr Swaminathan that, henceforth,he would exercise his liberty with due responsibility and not cause disturbance in his sleep.

MESSAGE-YOUR LIBERTY COMES WITH A RESPONSIBILITY.ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS!!

 

CAN SILENCE BE THE MOST POWERFUL MODE OF COMMUNICATION??

In my view, Yes! Definitely!
There are many ways by which human being communicate. We talk,we write,we sing, we emote and we use gestures and we also use silence. Have you ever realized that silence,in fact, is the most powerful mode of communication. we become most powerful when we are silent. It should never be taken as a sign of our weakness. It provides us inner strength to express trust and self-worth. It is from this base of inner strength that our actions evolve. Silence can create wonders,if used strategically in right manner.

⦁ We convey our Disagreement:
Contrary to powerful belief, silence does not only signify acceptance. It also signifies that you disagree. When a Manager makes an announcement and the entire team is cheering. If one person is standing in the corner silently with a wry smile playing on his/her lips,this silence rings louder than all the all the cheers, and is often viewed as silent disagreement. The person may not be happy with the managements decision.

⦁ We convey our acceptance:
This is an idea widely propagated by Bollywood. In an oft-repeated scene in old Bollywood movies, we often see the heroine run inside when a proposal for her marriage is being discussed.This act is often seen as agreement to the proposal. If to a room full of people someone says, ” Do you see some problem? ” and the audience remains silent, it is understood as having accepted the proposal.

⦁ To convey our Displeasure:
This happens most often in personal relationships. When we are cross with someone, we remain silent. This is especially relevant to couple. When one person is unnaturally silent for some time, the other should guess that the person is angry. It is then time to introspect and see what we could have done, or not done,that could have made our partner angry.

⦁ We try to maintain Peace:
At time it is best to stay silent.Especially during heated arguments, if one partner chooses to remain silent, the angry discourse does not survive for for too long. Someone has very rightly said:
” Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret”
As humans, our mind is programmed to respond when asked a question, or even otherwise. However, silence used at the right moment is the best communication strategy.IT AVOIDS A LOT OF HEARTACHE AND PROBLEMS.

 

Message
” Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place but far more still difficult, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment”
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