Have you ever noticed that it is the people we love most we take for granted? It is easy to spend less time with your family because they will always be there for you or so you assume.It is easy to put off expressing your love to your loved ones because there seems to be no urgency at play. Its easy to let home relationships slip because you assume there are more pressing things to deal with.
But if you think seriously what could possibly be more important than your family? Is there any wisdom or excitement in being successful,yet alone?
So get out of your casual mode, pick up the phone and tell your parents that you love them.Your child too would copy cat this gesture at a later stage.Before you leave for your work, give your spouse a delicate kiss,like you mean it.
And yes, please do hug your kids.Enjoy them while you can-THEY WILL BE YOUNG ONLY ONCE. And once that window of opportunity closes, it will be gone for ever and never return to you.
EVERY PERSON WHO HAS SHOWN UP IN YOUR LIFE AND ARRIVED TO HELP-YOU BECOME THE PERSON YOU ARE NOW. APPRECIATE AND LOVE THEM!!
Your family, your friends, your loved ones, your colleagues, your doctor, your house help, the stranger you bump into on the street, the stranger you pass without noticing, all these people define you. They are your ECOSYSTEM and you need to nurture them.
With the advancement of technology and social media, most of us have started living in a COCOON. We usually stay detached from other even when we are having lunch or dinner with them.There are enough options available to keep us entertained without any interaction with a real human being. Human interaction is infact now considered a major distraction in our lives that revolve around a virtual world, which we are used to access through our electronic devices. True or false?
I agree that Independence is important but it does not have to mean total isolation from the rest of the world.Let us not forget we are human being and, at the most basic level, need to feel a sense of belonging, acceptance, importance, Security,and mutual respect. Even in the virtual world, we find ourselves surrounded by people who share their tiniest achievement in order to receive some “LIKES”. This is how hungry we are for social approval. It is somewhat sad that instead of depending upon our actual ecosystem for such emotional needs, we have started depending heavily upon virtual acquaintances.
As is quite natural, with time, this leads us towards LONELINESS and even DEPRESSION. Yes, this is a fact which we either don’t accept or give importance. Trust me, Social media cannot replace the needs of actual or real relationships. You need to understand that a strong, healthy relationship can be one of the best support in our life. Good relationships help improve all aspect of our life. It strengthens the mind,health, and our connections with the others.
PRESERVE IT!! Don’t let it go. Because once you let it slip from your hand, it will never come back to you. PL REMEMBER THIS AND START NURTURING YOUR ECOSYSTEM.
It is so easy to forget this one: doing good makes you feel good. Being kind to a co-worker not only enable and elevate their mood- it lifts yours too. Making a customer feel like the VIP that he is not only makes him your goodwill ambassador, it spreads word of your services like a virus, it unlocks a wellspring of positive sensation inside of you. Going the extra mile for your spouse or your child not only leaves them better than you found them, it helps you feel connected to the ones you love- which eventually promotes happiness and fulfillment.
Not only do good things happen to good people,but people who do good things get to feel great feelings. But let me tell you this is not so easy to do as it may look like.Being positive and kind and excellent takes a lot more discipline and power. But if you practice it, it is a practical,powerful insight that will lead you to real results- in your business life.In your personal life. And in your inner life.
Do good for people. Do good work. Think good thoughts. And be good to yourself. Good things will happen in your life!!
Yes, you have heard me right!
One of the primary traits of world-class performers in business and in life is their ability to ‘detach from the noise’.Each day,’noise’ such as little crises, minor interruptions and interesting distractions beg for our attention. To get to your own unique form of personal and professional greatness, it is important-no,essential-to detach from the noise and stay ‘on vision’.
I suggest you a simple daily practice to keep you on course and get to your dreams. you should spent some time each morning in COMPLETE SILENCE.
Before your day gets noisy, close your eyes and reflect on your mission. Think about your goals.Reflect on what are your most important TO-DO’s today. Those things that will get you to your dreams.
We all face ‘tyranny of the urgent’ during our days. But trust me, the best of the best stay true to their vision,values and virtues. And they ensure that the things that truly count never get sacrificed for those seemingly pressing but unimportant ones.
THEY SIMPLY REFUSE TO MAJOR IN THE MINOR. THEY AVOID NOISE!!
Yes,Personal and Professional greatness and sustained happiness does not just happen of its own.These elements of your best life are created with sacrifices, dedication, discipline and self control.
All too often we look at a human being playing their best game on the playing field of life and assume they got lucky or were born into their lofty condition.
What we fail to see is all the devotion and discipline that went into crafting the extraordinary results we see.
What i am suggesting is that personal and professional greatness takes work. I am not someone who would ever tell you that you could get to your dream without having to make some sacrifices and pay the price in terms of dedication, patience and self control.
The best way to create spectacular results in the most important areas of your life is through daily practice. Practices that will lock you into your best state include a morning journaling session where you record your feelings,thoughts and blessings you are grateful for.
I do these exercises everyday for 10 minutes and do meditation for 15 minute. It does not only energizes me but also just makes my mind and life calm and under control. I also use success statements or affirmations to get my mind focused.
Success and joy and inner peace and strength don’t just show up. You need to create them.” Huge achievement is less about your Genetics and more about your rituals.”
So,find your series of practices, perform them with consistency. And then you are ready to go out into this beautiful world of of ours and shine for ever.
You will never know if you don’t even try.How can anybody know what you want unless you ask for it.There is a giant power in asking for what you want. Even the newly born baby fails to get his/her mother’s milk unless he/she cries.
All too often,our internal chatter prevents us from taking the steps needed to get us to our own unique form of greatness.
We get kept small by our ‘inner’ imaginings-so many of which are lies.The best of the best,those who love glorious lives, that matter, ask like crazy. They understand that asking questions is a habit that must be polished for it to shine. And the more you do it, the easier it gets( like any skill)
And so they ask. For the support and help they need at work. For the understanding they may seek at home. For the break they need for their business. Ah! For a better table at their favourite restaurant. For a better seat at a sold-out concert.
And because they ask more they get more.( Success always has been a number game)
Nothing happens until you ask. People are not mind readers. They need to know What is meaningful to you.AND IF YOU ASK NICELY,THEY JUST MIGHT SAY YES.
It does not matter what other people think of you.What really matters is what you think of you.We lose so much energy worrying about the opinions of others,WANTING TO BE LIKED.
To me,Leadership and personal mastery is all about rising above social approval-to self approval.
Respect you.So long as you are living by your values, being real and honest,running your own race and doing your dreams, how does it matter what anyone else thinks, feels or says about you?
Your self-belief, conviction in yourself should define your character and standard. To me , A person cannot respect others, unless he respects himself/herself.
Always remember- you are not in a popularity contest. Its about doing what is right!!