HOPE INFUSES LIFE IN US. BUT HOPE WITHOUT ACTION IS A DEAD BODY!

I want to tell you the importance of a vital ingredient no leader can do without. HOPE.

Great leaders never lose hope. They remain optimists and recognize that their state of mind is contagious. If they have hope, so does their team. If they give up, well, so does their team.

Hope is a theme that resonates in what is described as the greatest cricket match ever played: The one day international match between South Africa and Australia in Johannesburg in March 2006.

At the time, the record for the highest score in a 50-over game was held by Sri Lanka. In 1996, they had scored 396 for 5 versus the mimows- Kenya. Interestingly enough, three teams had scored more than 390 but no team had managed to go beyond 400! It was believed that 400 was that invisible barrier- a barrier no team could break!

On March 12, 2006, in the fifth one-day international between South Africa and Australia and what has been seen as unthinkable- and what no team had ever done until then. They went past the 400- run barrier and posted a total of 434 for 9 – the ‘unbreakable’ barrier was finally broken.

Can you guess what happened next? In reply, South Africa made 438 for 9- and won that game. Clearly, once Australia had broken the mental barrier that no team could score over 400, It was easy for South Africa to do it too. A record that had stood for ten long years was broken- TWICE ON THE SAME DAY, And that’s not all. Sri Lanka broke the barrier 3 months later. South Africa did it again. Suddenly, almost magically, the barrier was gone. In fact, since that record-breaking day in Johannesburg, the 400-run barrier has been breached six time already.

It all boils down to your own belief as I always say, if you can see it in your mind, you can hold it in your hand. Once you believe something is possible, the rest becomes easy. Belief is the vital first step towards achievement.

Message

Keep hope alive. Take charge. Hope is what ensures we keep going when all seems lost. But hope alone is never enough. You need to take responsibility. AND YOU FINALLY NEED TO TAKE ACTION.

                                                                ____________________

A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

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PHASE 3 OF YOUR MARRIED LIFE WILL DECIDE ITS FUTURE!!

Married life crisis is not new. You are not alone- everyone else too is having its Sweet and bitter taste… Here is why.

My Dad passed away last year I was extremely close to him. Now that he is not with me, it reminds me many discussions I used to have with him. I would like to share one such conversation with him with all of you.

There was a time when I used to have my evening tea with my dad. While we were having general discussions, my dad suddenly changed the topic and told me- Ravi! I will today tell you the secret of a long lasting married life. Needless to add, the married life of my parents lasted for 70 very long years and till he died. Do you want to know about it, he asked me?

Yes dad, I do.

According to him the first 15 years of a married life can be divided into three equal phases of 5 years.

PHASE 1: when two people get married, it is marriage of two different mindset. In this phase of 5 years, it is husband who speaks and wife listens. By and large good phase.

PHASE 2: In this phase of 5 years, wife takes over her husband. She speaks and husband listens to her. This phase is not bad.

PHASE 3: Phase 3 is the most crucial phase of a married life. In this phase, husband and wife both speak and their NEIGHBOURS listen to them.

As my curiosity was going up, I asked my dad, Dad! What will happen after phase 3? He started laughing loudly and told me.

Ravi, phase 3 is the most difficult period of a married life. If you can successfully cross phase 3, what will happen is this:

Going though three phases in 15 years of married life, either the wife or husband will attain maturity and will keep his or her mouth shut and this will lead to a long lasting married life.

He summed up by saying- “This is the unwritten rules of a married life and I have seen it happening with every married couples,  barring a few exceptions

MESSAGE

If you want a long lasting married life, cross phase 3 successfully.

                                                              ________________________

A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

OUR OWN ACTIONS ARE REASONS FOR OUR ANXIETIES AND FEARS!!

Sounds familiar? Do you find it difficult to trust other people? Reality is- we often distrust other people and suspect them of doing things that often mirror our own actions.

Maybe the story of a boy and his marbles make you understand better what I want to tell you. It’s a simple story about two children- WITH A MESSAGE FOR ALL GROWN UPS.

A Little boy and a girl were playing near their house. The boy has a pocketful of marbles, while the girl had some candy. As the boy kept playing with the marbles, he constantly eyed the candy in the girls hands. His mouth was watering. He made her an offer. He would give her all his marbles in exchange for the candy, the girl happily agreed.

The boy slyly hid the biggest and the most beautiful marble in his pocket and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him ALL the candy as promised.

The girl, that night, played for a while with the marbles before going to bed. And she slept soundly. The boy, however, just could not sleep. He kept wondering if the girl had hidden the best candy and kept it with her- just as he had done with his marbles.

SHE SLEPT WELL BUT HE DIDN’T!

The point is when we face a trust issue, we normally tend to believe that the problem is with the other person.But often the problem lies in us,not them. The way we see the world treating us is usually a reflection of the way we treat other people, YES, THIS IS A FACT!!

Maybe you should ask yourself if you are the one hiding the best marble. The next time you find yourself doing a candy-for-marble swap, remember to play a fair game KEEP YOUR WORD IN TOTALITY. GIVE. You might think you have got a little less in the bargain than what you could have.

BUT YOU KNOW WHAT?  YOU WILL HAVE A SOUND SLEEP!!

MESSAGE

KEEP YOUR WORD. GIVE. SLEEP WELL WITH A CLEAR CONSCIENCE.

IT IS VERY SATISFYING !!

                                                               ________________________

A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

DO YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY, WEALTHY AND HEALTHY? IF YES- FOLLOW THESE 10 THINGS !!

 

Who does not want to be happy, wealthy and healthy? Obviously, everybody want to be happy, wealthy and healthy. But there is no free lunch and you have to invest time and effort to achieve it. In my view, if you have or work on these qualities, you can lead a happy, wealthy and healthy life.

  1. CONTROL YOUR ANGER:

This is the most sought after quality. You must exercise restrain and control your anger, else it may permanently damage your personal and professional life.

  1. HAVE PATIENCE:

Life has its own rules and cycle. Sometime, things happen the way you want and sometime as yet, things may not happen the way you want them to happen. It often takes time for a few or everything to happen. Have patience in such adverse situations.

  1. HAVE BACKUP PLAN:

Never take your job, business or any other source of income for granted. Things can change against you in a moment. Don’t wait for that moment to come in your life. Always have your backup plan ready to meet such contingency.

  1. LEARN TO BE CALM AND COMPOSED:

As is the universe law, you will have to undergo and face various crises at various stages of your life. Trust me, no crisis can affect your life adversely if you learn to remain calm under such situation. Believe me, storm passes away without disturbing you, since they cannot fight your calmness. To remain calm and composed in all situations, I highly recommend you to do yoga and meditation.

  1. BE TRUSTWORTHY:

This is one quality that is a MUST in anybody. You can never have a good personal and professional relationship with anybody if people cannot trust you. In fact, you cannot have any relationships at all.

  1. HAVE YOUR INTEGRITY INTACT:

Never compromise on your integrity. This is just non-negotiable.

  1. LEARN TO GIVE AND SHARE:

History always repeats itself. what you give and share with others in your life- it is returned to you at an appropriate time and God decides that timing. So, learn to have a ‘go-giving’ attitude and let it be your second nature.

    8: RESPECT MONEY:

Getting money to work for you is no different from getting people to work for you. If you don’t treat your money with respect, it will leave you. It has happened with me. so, in times of abundance, be always cautious and respectful. It may just help stretch the abundance a bit.

    9: DEPENDENCY IS A BIG NO!!

There is no harm in this. Everybody takes help from others. But there is a thin line between taking help and being dependent. Never cross this line. If you want to live a happy life, please be self-dependent in all respect.

  1. BLESSINGS OF PARENTS:

Last but not the least, believe me, it matters a lot. You need to have blessings of your parents to lead a happy, wealthy and healthy life. Trust me, I have survived the greatest crisis of my life with my parents blessings.

                                                                  ________________________

A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

MAGIC TOUCH OF THESE TECHNOLOGY MASTER

I was recently reading about a few life changing apps that help you sleep better, eat healthier and get well sooner. I would like to share it with those of you who may have missed such magical apps.

  • HEADSPACE

This app makes meditation simple for us. You can start with “Take 10 programme” which helps you meditate for 10 minutes daily for a period of 10 days. It will allow you to reduce stress, stay focused and sleep better. The app is free to download on ios and android.

The most interesting and important aspects about this app is- it also guides you on breathing techniques that will help you feel a whole lot calmer.

  • HEALTHIANS:

Backed by cricketer Yuvraj Singh, this online healthcare marketplace helps you find affordable healthcare, using quality and price transparency. It collects information and diagnostic labs near you, and makes your medical records available online. If it comes across a concerning parameter in your medical report, the app will also recommend a future course of action and a suitable medical specialist for consultation, if required.  It is available for free on android.

The best part of this app is – It lets you do tele-consultations with leading doctors and gives you advises by in-house nutritionists.

  • SLEEP CYCLE ALARM CLOCK:

The app helps you clock in eight hours of sleep. It examines your sleep patterns by monitoring movements to detect when you are in your deepest sleep. Thereafter, it adapts to your rhythm, and wake you up at your lights state, so you wake up feeling refreshed. Its free with in-app purchases on ios and costs about 65 Rs on android.

It is exciting to know that it collects your movements through the night and plots a graph to show you how well you slept.

  • SHOPWELL:

Have you ever felt puzzled by the gamut of health food available at the super market? Or did you wonder exactly how calorie-rich a dish you just ordered will be? This app will come handy at moments like these. All you have to do is key in your height, weight, age and information on any allergies. The app will score every food item (out if 100) on the basis of how healthy it is for you. Did you get a high score? Dig in! The app is free to download on ios and android.

If It finds your entry to be too calorific, the app will recommend similar items that are healthier options.

                                                              ________________________________

A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

LEARN TO GIVE. LEARN TO SHARE!!

One of my favorite stories from the life of Mahatma Gandhi is set on a train.It concerns a rail journey that young Gandhi was to undertake in India.It so happened that as Gandhiji climbed on the train,one of his shoes slipped off.As he bend to try and grab it,it fell down to the rail track,while the train gathered momentum.In a fraction of second,Gandhi ji reached for his second shoe and threw it towards the fast disappearing other shoe on the track.

A perplexed onlooker anxiously asked Gandhi ji why did he throw his second shoe. Gandhiji explained: ‘Oh well,if someone is to find one of my shoes,hopefully he will find the other shoe too, and thus have a fine new pair for himself’.

WHAT A MAN! What a wonderful instinctive quick response! Frankly speaking, if you or I were in the Mahatma’s shoe, how would we have literally reacted? Probably ,felt miserable for the  rest of the journey, at the loss of a new shoe. We would have worried about how we would manage  once we  have reached our destination. That one lost shoe would have played on our mind all the way.

Unfortunately, we tend to focus on what we have lost. That other shoe! And we carry that burden of loss, adding to our woes. When instead we could so easily focus on what we have-and see if that  could be of use to someone. Giving away that second shoe did not just make some poor Indian happy(remember,a shoe was quite a luxury for most of our countrymen in those pre-independence days), it made Gandhi happier too.

Perhaps it is time we all shifted focus. Instead of pushing to become go-getter-wanting more, more,-we ought to learn to become go-giver.Learning to give.Learning to share. Instead of spending our waking lives worrying about the shoe that is lost,perhaps we should thank  God for the shoe we still have, and discover how giving it away could make us,and someone else, happier.

This ‘go-giving’ attitude has to become second nature. Instinctive almost. It would not have helped Gandhi ji to have realized half an hour into the train ride that the lone shoe was of no use. It worked because he thought of it right there,right then!

We, too often,find ourselves discussing in the comfort of our homes how we should have-could have-helped someone.Done our bit. When the moment passes,the opportunity sadly disappears too.So,we must become a go-giver.Not a go-getter.Help someone. Share what you have. And discover the joy of not having to worry about the shoe that is lost.

                                                                   MESSAGE

                                 LEARN TO GIVE. LEARN TO SHARE WHAT YOU HAVE!!

                                                     __________________________

A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

IT IS REALITY THAT LONG TERM SUSTAINABLE SUCCESS TAKES TIME.

Those of you who know about Chinese Bamboo and those of you who don’t know about it may think-what is there for me to tell you all about a Bamboo.Bamboo is after all a Bamboo only.

NO friends! If you think that way,there are surprises for you for sure. There is a very special and interesting story about Chinese Bamboo and life changing lessons to be learnt from this unique bamboo.

Chinese bamboo is a tree that grows really tall-to  a height of over 80 feet.Wow! so high! It takes around 5 years and 3 months to grow to its full height.But there is something more interesting thing about it.You see nothing for the first 5 years after you plant the seed.Except perhaps a little shoot springing out of the bulb and struggling to make a squiggle.

And then,in the next 90 days,it shoots up to a towering 80 feet.Can you believe it?  For the first sixty months all the growth is invisible below the surface. And in next three months-yes,merely  ninety days-it literally takes off and become as tall as the eight story building.

We all need to pause and take action from the chinese bamboo.Nothing of substance happens in haste.Having sown the seed and having initiated something,when we don’t see the results,we get impatient.But patience has its rewards.

As leaders and bosses,we become impatient for results.you should ask yourself whether your leadership style encourages or even allows-the growth of the chinese bamboo.Or are you creating an organization of stunted,but quickly visible trees,so  the next time you feel frustrated by lack of results and want to give up,don’t.Think of the chinese bamboo.

When you feel the world is unjust and is refusing to recognize your hard work and commitment,don’t get disheartened.Five years of subterranean activity will almost always be followed by three months of meteoric rise.And yes,when you finally achieve success,be prepared for people to say: ‘oh,he is so lucky.He has become an overnight success!’

Alas! If only they knew about the CHINESE BAMBOO!

                                                                      MESSAGE

Patience is eventually rewarded.Nothing of substance happens in haste.

                                                    ____________________________

A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.