We all run away from Conflict! It really makes us feel bad, so we avoid it. we all hope it will somehow resolve itself. But it never does! Instead it just festers like a bad wound-what we resist really does persist!!
I have a different point of view on conflict.Conflict is an opportunity for greater growth and a deeper personal connection. Every conflict carries within it a powerful lessons to make you a better human being in your understanding and perspective.
I have seen that every conflict whether with a loved one or anybody else, is a gorgeous opportunity to forge an even closer bond with them. It turns their dissatisfaction into a wow for both of you.
So,please don’t run away from conflict. Avoid sending e-mail when you know you need to speak some truth face to face. Its all about balancing compassion with courage And let me tell you it can feel so messy, in truth its a gift. Accept and embrace it. Relish the potential it carries.
IT CAN SERVE YOU SO WELL!!
Look at it from all Angles!
It is important to remember that everyone is living in their own self-created illusion, and that you have no idea what they are acting out or where they are coming from.
Look at it from another perspective.Loosen your stranglehold on it being my way or the highway!
Let some air in, and you may be surprised how quickly resentment flies out the window!!
” You can accomplish anything in life, provided you do not care who gets the credit.” Brilliant thought! Leave your ego at the front door when you go to work today and just do superb work. Good things will happen. YES,FOR YOU!!
It is so human to crave applause and recognition and acclaim. We all want to be appreciated by our peers and revered by the tribe. But leadership is about a lot more than trying to look good in the eyes of others. It is actually standing for a cause.It is your work in life that is the ultimate seduction.
It is about being Best in the world at what you do.It is about leaving people better than you found them.
And it is certainly not about worrying who gets the credit for a job well done!!
People who are outstanding get found out. This is a fact: The cream always rises to the top.The best always come to light. Great ones among us can never be held back
The journey towards any result- whether that result is being amazingly good at what you do for a living or great in the way you conduct your life-is just as important than the end. I guess what I am inviting you to consider is that climb offers you far more value and as many rewards as getting to your mountain top!
Because the climb to your ideas shapes your character, offers you opportunities to realize your potential and test you to see how much you really want to win.
It is the climb that teaches you, transform you and evokes the genius that inhabits you. You get to develop the Qualities of Greatness, such as perseverance, courage, resilience, compassion and understanding.
Sure, getting to the dream feels deliciously wonderful. I will be the first to agree with you on that. But it does not bring you the same sustained gifts that the journey does! We learn more from the time that tests us than we do from times of success.
So, the next time you feel impatient or frustrated or hopeless enroute to the professional and personal life that you want, remember that precisely where you are might be the best place you could possibly be.
AND MAY BE THE JOURNEY IS BETTER THAN THE DESTINATION!!
The quality of your life comes down to the quality of your relationships. With your loved ones, with your self, your customers, with your suppliers. Commit to insanely great relationships and you will have an insanely great life.
And being a great human connector is pretty easy stuff. Remember, successful relationships is all about a masterful consistency around fundamentals.
The following Six first principles are profoundly simple and yet simply profound- and is it not the case for all great truths ?
- Be the first one fo say hello, namaste or whatever may be appropriate when you meet another person. In other words, be kind first which takes courage, because we are all scared of rejection.
- Smile a lot. It is one of the best ways to have someone open up to you. Remember, we make lasting impressions on people within the first few minutes of meeting them.
- Use people’s name. This is really important. It shows that you care, and is a mark of respect.
- Look people in the eye when you speak to them.
- Offer honest compliments. Praise is free. Never miss an opportunity to celebrate and elevate another person, whether at work or at home. You will connect with the best within them. And then they will give you their best. Leave people better than you found them.
- Treat everyone like royalty. And i do mean everyone; it scared me when someone is really nice to me but rude to a waiter- no consistency there. Behave as if you will never see them again.
Master these First Principles and you will get to your mountaintop more quickly than you can imagine!!
Yes, you have heard it right!!
Life is all about balance. And one of the most vital of all balance points is the one involving freedom and responsibility.
Yes be free. Enjoy the moment. Be wildly passionate. Have a splendid time! Live in the now. And yet, be responsible. Set your goals. Keep your promises. Get important things done. Honor your duties!
Where does your life- this very minute- register on the responsibility meter?
Too much time enjoying your freedom and not enough time doing what is required to build a world-class career and world-class days ? Or the other way round?
Being at either extreme means out of balance!! So here is an excellent idea: Think about what being at the middle of the meter would look like.
Because better awareness drives better choices. And better choices create better results!!
Don’t you think stainless steel is a brilliant invention. But what about a stainless character? One that is noble, aspires for mastery in all pursuits and never gives up in moving closer to its ideals.
What is within must always appear without. What i meant by that is that the quality of your inner world eventually is reflected in the quality of your outer world.
Your external life can never grow bigger than your internal one. Life really is a mirror- reflecting who we are, rather than all we want.
A person who dreams pristine dreams and who is impeccably honest, good, ethical, and stands for what is best will soon act in alignment with those values. And those actions are bound to drive extraordinary results. Inner always creates outer. Always!!
The best things in life do take effort and commitment and discipline is always less than the pain of regret.
And sure, it all seems so obvious. But what is most obvious is most often forgotten.