LOVE TO WIN BUT DON’T HATE TO LOSE !

“AFTER ALL, WHEN WE LOSE, IT MAKES US STRONG ENOUGH TO FACE  ANOTHER CHALLENGE YET TO COME.”

 

  • KNOW WHICH BATTLE YOU HAVE TO WIN:

NOBODY wins all the time-every point in a tennis match or every hole in a golf tournament.No business person pulls off a coup on every deal and even the star performer salesman come up empty hand many times.One of the skills that distinguishes a winner is an instinct for knowing when he can afford to lose and when he must win.

THAT ALLOWS HIM TO FOCUS ON HIS EFFORTS:

Choose your must wins with care.Concentrate on the essentials and plot your course carefully.

NEVER BE DISTRACTED BY FRIENDS,ENEMIES OR YOUR EMOTIONS.

  • LOVE TO WIN-BUT DON’T HATE TO LOSE:

The difference is subtle but loving to win and hating to lose are not the same thing.One is driven by joy.The other is inspired by fear.In thoroughbred,racing champion’s are born to run.There is a sheer animal vigor in finishing first.Nothing interferes with that single goal.The  same priority of intention and clarity of purpose is found in humans,skilled in the art of winning.Hating to lose muddles the water.Fear breed  misjudgement.Instead of concentrating 100% on your goal,you waste efforts worrying about what other man is doing.

HATING TO LOSE CAN LEAD TO BIG MISTAKE OF WINNING A 100 MILLION BID BUT LOSING A 200 MILLION IN THE PROCESS.

DO YOU GET ME AND MY MESSAGE?

  • BE RELENTLESS-NOT MALICIOUS:

IN pre-fight interviews,boxers make it a point of how much they hate each other.Whether this hype or whether the men really do need to work up a personal dislike to be able to go out and pummel each other-I don’t presume to say.Even in most head-to-head sports,you are not battling an option.you are matching something  you do against something he does.Consider tennis.you hit a shot,your opponent hits a shot-now what is it you are actually hitting?The ball-not the other player.

  • DEPERSONALIZE THE CONTEST:

Bjorn Borg, wimbeldon champion,was a master at this.His icy court demeanor was his own brand of relentlessness.He was there to do one thing and ONE THING ONLY-to hit the ball perfectly.Everything that appeared on his side of the net.What happened on the other side and who it happened to was simply not his concern!!

We stress this because,in situations where the contest is more abstract,there is tendency to over personalize the competition.If you are General Motors,you don’t combat imports by taking a crowbar to a Honda-you do it by outperforming the other side.

PERSONALIZE  THE CONTEST AND EGO START TO CONFLICT WITH SOUND PROFESSIONAL JUDGEMENT.

 

 

YOU CANNOT IGNORE THIS UNIVERSAL TRUTH

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way.” – Albert Einstein

ASK

BELIEVE

RECEIVE

Yes, I want to gift you a HAPPY LIFE

HOW?

  • Your consistent daily thoughts have a great influence in your life.

YES-ITS TRUE

What you consistently think and say,is what you become.If you want something to happen in your life,speak it out in an audible way,as many times daily as possible,and it will become a reality of your life.

SO,BE CAREFUL ABOUT WHAT YOU CONSISTENTLY THINK AND SAY-this is not a “MYTH” but a scientifically proven ‘LAW OF ATTRACTION’

Here is the logic and scientific reason:

QUANTUM PHYSICS SAYS: If you are a student of physics or have been one,you have seen that in your practicals,in order to find the frequency of sound-you hit the tuning fork on a pad and take it close to the thin wire at various places.you also must have observed that the wire vibrates at one point and create a sound.

WHY DOES THIS WIRE VIBRATE AT THIS PARTICULAR PLACE AND NOT AT ANY OTHER PLACE???

This is because when the frequency of sound created by the wire matches the frequency of sound of the tuning fork-the thin wire vibrates.

  • Likewise,what you speak is your tuning fork and what you desire is the thin wire.
  • What you speak and what you desire are made of energy.when you think and speak the same thing time and again-it emits frequency of sound and it causes the energy of what you desire to vibrate at a particular frequency.When it matches the frequency of what you speak and frequency of what you desire,its resultant effect is-your DESIRE BECOMES A REALITY.
  • Since,it is very  difficult to predict a day and time when the frequency of what you speak and frequency of what you desire will match each other-it is very difficult to predict a day and time,when your desire will become a reality.

So,the key is,you should speak out your desire in a day as many times as possible and improve the chances of matching of two frequency of ‘sound’ created by what you speak and what you desire.

It is like shooting your target with a gun.It can hit the bull in one effort or it may hit it in 100 efforts.

BUT YOU WILL SURELY HIT YOUR TARGET ONE DAY.CONSISTENCY OF EFFORTS IS THE KEY WORD.GOOD LUCK!!

“The Universe sends us exactly what we are ready for at the exact time we need it in our lives”

TAKE ACTION

STOP LIVING IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE-WAITING TO
START WHEN EVERYTHING WILL FALL IN PLACE

                                                 ⇓

                                    TAKE ACTION

 

“The distance between Dream and Reality is called ACTION”

Think about it!! Take your first step forward!!

You cannot succeed in life,unless you begin and end.Getting started or taking that first step is utmost important.Nothing else matters.Always remember that the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step. TAKE THAT FIRST STEP TODAY!!

There is a great substance in that old saying  that old saying that you don’t need to be Great to get started,but you have to get started to be Great.you may have brilliant ideas and plans,and we may not doubt its intent.But all these things have no meaning,if you don’t make a beginning first.We often hesitate to take that first step and we live in our comfort zone-waiting to start when everything fall in place.

WE FORGET THAT EVERYTHING SELDOM FALLS INTO PLACE!!

If i may say,if there is anything which is the biggest contributor to stress in the workplace,it is surely UNFINISHED task.Learn to finish task.Get rid of them.If something important and worth has to be done,it must be done at first.All successful people make it a habit to begin and end what they have started.This is their most important traits!!

SO,IF YOU HAVE BIG IDEA OR SECRET PLAN-TAKE THAT FIRST STEP TODAY!!!

Want to become a Guitarist? Buy your guitar today!! Make a habit to prepare a list of unfinished work and your TO-DO-LIST.you must be determined to complete at least one of these tasks today!!

JUST DO IT and see the difference.

Life will begin to make a lot more sense,and YOU WILL BE ABLE TO COVER THE DISTANCE BETWEEN DREAM AND REALITY.

GOOD LUCK!!

 

 

IF YOU ARE HONEST IN SAYING-‘I M SORRY’-IT HAS MAGICAL IMPACT.

YES,NEVER HESITATE!! IF YOU ARE WRONG,HAVE COURAGE TO GENUINELY SAY-‘I M SORRY’

It is a fact of life that Relationship Problems do creep in one’s life at some point of life.This relationship problems could be between Husband and Wife,Father and Son,Mother and Daughter or for that matter any other relationship.While 90% relationship problem occur due to Non-communication,there are also some relationship problem, which creep in because of a person’s inability to own up to a mistake and  apologize.I have seen many people around who are  incapable of saying, ‘I am Sorry’.They perhaps like to put their failure behind them and cannot admit they are wrong.

I,THEREFORE,STRONGLY FEEL THAT THIS KIND OF MINDSET TO DISOWN A MISTAKE AND AN APOLOGY, STRAINS AND BREAK RELATIONSHIP MORE OFTEN THAN ANY PERSONAL FAILING.

As I am also a Life Coach,i do often get people coming to me for resolving their relationship problems.I will cite a specific case to make you understand better.

A person came to me for a relationship problem with his wife.After giving a patient hearing to him,which is my primary job,i came to know that since this man had lost his job,he was not earning enough to meet his financial obligation towards his family.His wife had to start working to support family.As is the case normally,wife started abusing her husband most of the time and this went on for three long years.

Imagine what this man went through this abusing relationship and mental agony for such a long time,but he decided to maintain silence,not because of any weakness,but to avoid any kind of confrontation,unhealthy home environment and primarily not to fight with wife and set a bad example to his growing children.

Since the man was not on talking terms with his wife,he wrote a letter to his wife to stop this abuse and mental torture.He gave her 6 months time to mend her ways,otherwise,he would be forced to leave the house,which he will not like to do for the sake of growing children.But even after 10 months,wife did not change her ways and continued her abusive behavior.This man possibly not finding any other option,left his  house to stay elsewhere and had now come to me for any possible solution of this whole problem.I asked this person-was he really serious to resolve this relationship problem with his wife.He promptly said,’if i was not serious,i would not have come to you’.

Without any further discussion on this matter,i took the phone number of his wife,called her in front of him and told her upfront that her husband was sitting with me to discuss and resolve the the problem between them. I also told her that if i had to resolve their problem,i also need to meet her.I asked her,if she could drop in my office torrow at a mutually agreed time and she agreed to meet me.When the wife met me the next day,i only asked her two questions:

1-Is it true that you have been abusing and torturing your husband for the last 3 long years?

She had the courage to say-YES.

2-Has your husband been totally silent all these 3 long years and not confronted you ever?

She again had the courage to say-YES.

I then politely asked her,’Don’t you think that your husband’s long 3 years silence and suffering now deserves a change of heart from your side.She again demonstrated the courage to say-‘yes’ but’How’?

I asked her’Will you accept my advice’?

She politely said,YES.

I then called her husband who was sitting next room to my cabin.To my surprise,wife got up and offered her seat to her husband,since i had deliberately kept only one chair.This is what i wanted to see to take this matter to the next level.I again asked his wife-CAN YOU PLEASE SAY “I AM SORRY” TO YOUR HUSBAND?”

She took about 10 seconds to react but eventually said ‘I am sorry’ to her husband.Husband hugged her to reciprocate her gesture and she too hugged her husband with tears in her eyes but smile on her face.

They thanked me for bringing them together and left for their home.

MY MESSAGE TO YOU

Remember,change of heart do happen at an appropriate time.Sometime,a barrier is formed between a husband and wife and this needs to be broken with the right body language and by just genuinely saying-‘I AM SORRY’.This has a very very powerful impact.

I HAVE ONLY ONE ADVICE TO GIVE TO MARRIED COUPLES-“DO NOT EVER HURT YOUR MAN’s ‘EGO’ AND DO NOT HURT YOUR WIFE’S ‘SENTIMENT’.

YOUR HAPPY MARRIED LIFE IS SECURED -TRUST ME!!

GOOD LUCK FRIENDS!!

 

WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN?

WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN?

 

  • FLAMES OF PASSION:

You will come across people who are highly educated and knowledgeable, skilled, passionate, energetic and hardworking, yet they may fail to make things happen. I have seen such people, Have you?

IF YES, DID YOU EVER THINK-WHY?

My friends-it is not so much about education, knowledge, talent or skill that matters. Ultimately, it is all about you and your dreams that makes things happen. Based on my own experience, i would like to tell you THREE very important elements that is required to make things happen in your life.

1-Compelling Reason

2-Burning Desire

3-Sense of urgency(Do it now Attitude)


  • COMPELLING REASON

A compelling reason is your own personal reason-why you want to achieve something.

It could be your Dream to have a better life style, big bungalow, dream luxury cars like Lamborghini, Porsche, Audi and Bentley etc, big bank balance etc etc. It could be to go out there and change many lives. It could also be to achieve a very ambitious target in your corporate job.

But trust me, nothing will move or happen, unless you have compelling reasons, which push you forward and compel you to do it. It keeps you going and drive you out there every day. Compelling Reasons define logic. Your compelling reason could be retaining your corporate job.

So, please identify your compelling reason. Find out what is driving you every day – That is your compelling reason.

  • BURNING DESIRE:

Power of compelling reason will take you to next step. Your compelling reason lights a fire in your heart, which create something, known as burning desire or passion. It is a fire within you which is contagious.

Burning desire can be about anything, which comes out of you in a natural way. You behave in a ‘DO OR DIE’ manner. Others should sense your passion and seriousness. You cannot inspire or motivate others,unless you have burning desire. You can keep your leadership going only if you are switched on. Ask others, do they see burning desire in you for what you are doing or what you want to achieve. Burning desire keeps you going in life without getting tired. Your compelling reason is your key to open the door which unleashes your burning desire.

  • SENSE OF URGENCY:

But, let me tell you, compelling reason and burning desire is not ENOUGH. You may still fail to make things happen without magic of a third element which is known as ‘Sense of Urgency’ and it means to  have a ‘Do it now attitude’.

People have the tendency to postpone everything. They will be seen taking new year resolution to give up smoking. They will decide on 1st jan 2017 to give up habit of  smoking on 1st jan 2018. WHAT A BEAUTIFUL DATE WHICH NEVER COMES IN THEIR LIFE.

We tend to take life for granted as if we are going to live up to age of 85. BUT BE HONEST AND ASK YOURSELF CAN WE GUARANTEE A AGE OF 85 YEARS FOR US-OBVIOUSLY NO!! THERE IS NO GUARANTEE IN LIFE FOR ANYTHING.

I will tell you a story to instill sense of urgency. Medical check-ups are mandatory in various Professions. People normally go for basic medical check-up. But there was a person who had to go for an advance medical check-up. His doctor calls this person at 11 pm and asks him to meet him at his clinic tomorrow at 8 am, as he needs to discuss some very important and urgent things about his medical test report.

Imagine the condition of that person. WILL HE BE ABLE TO SLEEP THAT NIGHT? NO!! He will be at doctor’s clinic one hour before his appointment time. Doctor tells that person that he has got brain tumor, which cannot be operated at this stage. He also tells him that he has only 6 months to live. What do you think that person will do after this? Obviously, he will take a second or may be a third medical opinion. But all doctors say-he has only 6 months to live.

WHAT HAPPENS NEXT?

Will that person be living the same life that he had been living last 6 months?No, definitely not!! He will now be living with a sense of urgency to complete many unfinished tasks in next 6 months to secure LIFE OF HIS FAMILY. He would no longer postpone anything and will be forced to move ahead with a ‘do it now attitude’- because it is now a question of ‘DO or DIE’ for him.

So, please wake up and smell the coffee. Do it now. No postponement. Your decision NOW becomes very personal that i will PUSH myself TODAY, NOT TOMORROW.

YOU HAVE NO OPTION BUT TO DO IT NOW! DO IT NOW! DO IT NOW!!

“Destiny, only takes you so far. Once you are there its up to you to make things happen through these three elements.”

                       MY MESSAGE

 

DO I NEED TO WRITE IT DOWN?

ANYWAY, I WILL DO IT FOR BETTER CLARITY.

IF YOU CAN UNDERSTAND AND ABSORB THESE THREE ELEMENTS:

1 COMPELLING REASONS

2 BURNING DESIRE

3 SENSE OF URGENCY

YOU CAN MAKE THINGS HAPPEN. NO ONE CAN STOP YOU.

YOU DECIDE!!!

BEST OF LUCK!

 

Your take on – Hard or Smart work !!

HARD WORK + SMART WORK = ACHIEVEMENT.

YOUR TAKE ON- HARD OR SMART WORK!!

Work very hard to earn good money and become a CEO of a world -class company- Is that true- No!! Not necessarily!!

We all work very hard from 9 am to 9 pm (12 to 14 hours) a day. Are we really earning good money to fulfill all dreams of our life? Perhaps, no!! So hardwork  alone may not be enough to realize your dreams in life.

IT IS SMART WORK ALONG WITH HARD WORK THAT PAYS YOU GOOD MONEY. I WILL EXPLAIN THIS WITH A TRUE STORY IN MY VILLAGE.

There was a wood cutter,working in a forest for his employer(normally called Seth in villages).He used to work very hard and cut trees from morning to evening(12hrs).This wood cutter would cut 5 small trees in a day and take 30 minute’s break for lunch.

There was another wood cutter,also working in the same forest for the same employer(seth).He was equally hard working but not as hard working as the first wood cutter.The second wood cutter use to cut trees only for 8 hrs and use to take 5 minute’s break after every one hour.So practically,this wood cutter was working only for 7 hrs.

The first wood cutter did not like this but he use to keep silence.When these both wood cutter went to their employer on the first day of the month to take their salary-employer gave Rs 1,000($16) to the first wood cutter and rs 2,000($32) to the second wood cutter.The first wood cutter did not like this discrimination and he told his employer upfront that,while he worked for him for 12 hrs,the second wood cutter worked only for 8 hrs.He also told seth that he only took 30 mnt break,while the second wood cutter used to rest every 5 mnt an hour.Seth kept listening to the first wood cutter patiently.He then told the first wood cutter-do you really want to know that why i paid Rs 1.000($16) to you and Rs 2,000($32) to the second wood cutter? The first wood cutter said,’YES’! I want to know the reason.

Seth told him-you give me 5 trees wood in 12 frs,while he gives 10 trees in 8 hrs.I HAVE AN AGREEMENT WITH BOTH OF YOU FOR 5 TREES EVERY DAY AND NOT WORKING FOR 12hrs OR 8 hrs.

Would you like to know how your friend gave me 10 trees in Just 8 hrs? Yes,please tell me,sir,said the first wood cutter.The seth replied, when your friend was taking break for 5 mnt every hour,he was then actually sharpening the edge of the weapon(Kuladhi-as they call in village) and this gave him better ‘PRODUCTIVITY’ for cutting the trees

 

                                      MY MESSAGE TO YOU

 

Hours of hard work that you put in a job or business or for that matter in any other activity is not that important.

What really matter is – HOW SMARTLY YOU ALSO SHARPEN YOUR SKILL(eg TRAINING) AND USE IT FOR BETTER PRODUCTIVITY AND MORE EARNING.

SO,WHICH WAY YOU SHOULD BE WORKING?

OBVIOUSLY SMART WAY!!

SAVING-AS WE SEE IN 21st CENTURY

If a life of respect and dignity is important to you,you must take good care of your hard-earned money and health-THIS IS VERY VERY IMPORTANT. In other words,you must save every month a pre-determined percentage of your regular income and also be in good health to use this saved money,should a need arise.I would be honest in telling you that i could never form this habit in my long career and have paid a very heavy price for this.Hence, i thought of sharing my thoughts with you all,so that you dont become a victim like me and are not caught on the wrong foot at your prime age.

We are not talking here about savings in a conventional sens but in context where its definition and scope have changed and i would like to present it for all those people,who may not be aware about this new realities.Saving money does not necessarily mean securing your  post-retirement period.

Days are gone when people use to have a smooth and on time retirement from the job at the age of 60 or so.In the present industry scenario,people are being asked to put up their papers at the prime age of 40,45 or 50 for different strategic reasons,when your family responsibilities are at peak or likely to be at peak.To give you an example,i know a young and bright software engineer who after working in infosys for 12 years,moved to IBM in 2010.He had a very distinguished career both at Infosys and and IBM.But to his surprise,he was recently asked to put up his papers at the prime age of 42 when he had a major family responsibilities.Since he was young,he had not saved money.There are many such cases to have happened in last few years and i am aware of them.This kind of emerging scenario is a warning to all of us that we should be prepared to face any unforeseen loss of job at any given time.

THIS NEEDS TO DEVELOP A MINDSET TO:

1-Save money to the extent possible,while we are in job.

2- Have a ready backup plan in case of sudden loss of job.

WE should come out of  that mindset that there is no hurry to save money at such a young age and you can always start saving money at a later stage.you need to tell yourself that what you save today will not necessarily be required by you after your superannuation or retirement from the job.You may need your savings at any time.because misfortune do not come to you knocking your door.

ANY THING CAN HAPPEN ANY TIME IN YOUR LIFE-this is life reality.you must accept it and take measures in advance to have a ready backup plan for the survival of your family and you.

I would like to tell you about another person who was a senior corporate manager in a reputed company and had a track record of star performer.Due to company’s average age policy,he was suddenly asked to put up his papers.This sudden loss of job came to that senior manager at a time when he had taken home loan from the bank and was  paying Rs 35,000 Monthly EMI. This sudden stoppage of monthly income left him high and dry.He did not have any back up plan.He somehow pulled up his resources to pay the home loan for next 2 years but ultimately,had to sell his two prime flats to pay off entire bank loan.He had also not saved enough money to effectively handle this crisis.What happened to that senior manager is anybody’s guess.

 

MY MESSAGE 

PL WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE.

START SAVING TODAY!!