APPROACH OF THIS ‘EMPLOYED PROFESSIONAL’ MAY NOT GET HIM OUT OF HIS RUT!!

ALL EMPLOYED PROFESSIONALS!!-NO OFFENCE PLEASE!!

Doing Job is a model,our fathers followed and one day they taught us to follow this traditional model! Simple!! And we will possibly transfer it to our children and this vicious cycle will go on and on.Should this mindset not change with changing job culture?

WELL, IT IS FOR YOU TO TAKE THE FINAL CALL !!

I too have been an employed professional for more than two and half decades. Obviously, I too had the same approach and mindset back then. This subject is very close to my heart, so, I want to tell you a very important lesson.

WHAT YOU CONSTANTLY THINK ABOUT YOU IS WHAT YOU BECOME IN LIFE(LAW OF ATTRACTION)

To make you understand this subject better,I would tell you a story which is one of my all time favorite business stories:

It is about a 45 year old Manager always struggling to pay his bills.So,he decided to consult a financial expert and get some advice.The Manager makes an appointment to meet with a well reputed financial advisor,whose office was located  in an expensive and stylish building on Cannaught place,New Delhi.

The Manager enters the expert’s elegantly done reception room,but instead of a receptionist,the manager was greeted by two doors – one marked “employed” and the other “self employed”

He enters the door marked “employed” and is greeted by two more rooms – one marked “makes less than 10 lacs” and the other “makes more than 10 lacs”

He makes less than 10 lacs,so he enters the door,only to find himself face to face with two more doors.The door on the left is marked-“saves more than Rs 10,000 a year”,and the one on the right is marked-“saves less than Rs 10,000 a year”.

The Manager only has about Rs 3,000 in his bank account,so he enters the door on the right ONLY TO FIND HIMSELF ON THE CANNAUGHT PLACE ROAD.

MORAL:THE SAME DOOR LEAD TO THE SAME RESULTS:

It is painfully obvious that this Manager in the story will never get out of his RUT until he starts choosing to open different doors.The moral of the story is that most of the people are like the Manager,like me back then,-they choose to enters the doors of life that lead them right back to where they started.

The only way for people to get different results is to choose to enter the different doors-IS THAT NOT TRUE? LIKE ONE OF MY MENTORS ALWAYS USE TO SAY,”IF YOU CONTINUE TO DO WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS DONE,YOU WILL CONTINUE TO GET WHAT YOU HAVE ALWAYS GOTTEN”

ABSOLUTELY TRUE!! IS NOT IT?

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IS IT A PROFESSIONAL BEHAVIOR?

Managers should strive to be role models, setting an example of a mature professional behavior. Unfortunately. however, some managers exactly do the opposite. These immature individuals refuse to control their emotions and freely vent their frustrations by yelling at employees. Amazingly, their own bosses seldom see this childish behavior. If you are stuck with one of these stress-inducing Managers, you may follow these coping suggestions.

1. Accept the fact that you have an immature manager. Lower your expectations. This boss is never going to be wise, mature mentors of your dreams. So just expect him to act like a tantrum-throwing two-year-old boy.If you develop this mindset,you will not be disappointed.

2. Don’t take it personally, Bad tempered bosses yell at everyone except people who have more power. So, remember that this has nothing to do with you personally.

3. Don’t respond in kind- yelling back at your bad-tempered boss will only escalate this situation, and since this person has some power over you, that could affect your career adversely. This may not be fair but it is a fact.

4. Remember that one of you needs to act like an adult. That must be you. If two people act like children, the result is a playground fight. Since your manager is already acting like a kid, you are the only one left who can keep the situation under control.

5. Wait until the dust settles down: If you don’t feed the fire, the managerial temper tantrum will gradually recede. You cant have a rational conversation with an angry person. So, keep your responses neutral and minimal until she/he burns herself/ himself out.

6. But- if your boss crosses the line and becomes abusive, talk to HR head or Higher management.

7. A HOTHEAD MANAGER IS ONE THING, BUT AN ABUSIVE BOSS IS ANOTHER. If your manager’s behavior is extreme or causes ongoing emotional stress, you need to talk with someone. Companies should not tolerate such managers. So, someone in HR or upper management must know this.

8. AND IF THE SITUATION STILL DOES NOT IMPROVE, GET OUT OF THERE, Perhaps, you can learn to cope with the situation. Or perhaps you can change it. But, if neither seems possible, YOU NEED TO FIND A MORE PROFESSIONAL PLACE TO WORK.

Abusive managers can be damaging to your mental and physical health, and no job is worth that.

YES- THAT’S IT!!

Your take on – Hard or Smart work !!

HARD WORK + SMART WORK = ACHIEVEMENT.

YOUR TAKE ON- HARD OR SMART WORK!!

Work very hard to earn good money and become a CEO of a world -class company- Is that true- No!! Not necessarily!!

We all work very hard from 9 am to 9 pm (12 to 14 hours) a day. Are we really earning good money to fulfill all dreams of our life? Perhaps, no!! So hardwork  alone may not be enough to realize your dreams in life.

IT IS SMART WORK ALONG WITH HARD WORK THAT PAYS YOU GOOD MONEY. I WILL EXPLAIN THIS WITH A TRUE STORY IN MY VILLAGE.

There was a wood cutter,working in a forest for his employer(normally called Seth in villages).He used to work very hard and cut trees from morning to evening(12hrs).This wood cutter would cut 5 small trees in a day and take 30 minute’s break for lunch.

There was another wood cutter,also working in the same forest for the same employer(seth).He was equally hard working but not as hard working as the first wood cutter.The second wood cutter use to cut trees only for 8 hrs and use to take 5 minute’s break after every one hour.So practically,this wood cutter was working only for 7 hrs.

The first wood cutter did not like this but he use to keep silence.When these both wood cutter went to their employer on the first day of the month to take their salary-employer gave Rs 1,000($16) to the first wood cutter and rs 2,000($32) to the second wood cutter.The first wood cutter did not like this discrimination and he told his employer upfront that,while he worked for him for 12 hrs,the second wood cutter worked only for 8 hrs.He also told seth that he only took 30 mnt break,while the second wood cutter used to rest every 5 mnt an hour.Seth kept listening to the first wood cutter patiently.He then told the first wood cutter-do you really want to know that why i paid Rs 1.000($16) to you and Rs 2,000($32) to the second wood cutter? The first wood cutter said,’YES’! I want to know the reason.

Seth told him-you give me 5 trees wood in 12 frs,while he gives 10 trees in 8 hrs.I HAVE AN AGREEMENT WITH BOTH OF YOU FOR 5 TREES EVERY DAY AND NOT WORKING FOR 12hrs OR 8 hrs.

Would you like to know how your friend gave me 10 trees in Just 8 hrs? Yes,please tell me,sir,said the first wood cutter.The seth replied, when your friend was taking break for 5 mnt every hour,he was then actually sharpening the edge of the weapon(Kuladhi-as they call in village) and this gave him better ‘PRODUCTIVITY’ for cutting the trees

 

                                      MY MESSAGE TO YOU

 

Hours of hard work that you put in a job or business or for that matter in any other activity is not that important.

What really matter is – HOW SMARTLY YOU ALSO SHARPEN YOUR SKILL(eg TRAINING) AND USE IT FOR BETTER PRODUCTIVITY AND MORE EARNING.

SO,WHICH WAY YOU SHOULD BE WORKING?

OBVIOUSLY SMART WAY!!

YOUR LIBERTY ENDS WHEN YOU START INTERFERING WITH OTHER’S LIBERTY

As a matter of fact, Liberty is a very misunderstood word. People think, it is their Liberty to do what they like in their house,it is their liberty to eat what they like, It is their liberty to sleep when they want to sleep,it is their liberty to dress up the way it pleases them, it is their liberty to listen the music they like, it is their liberty to party in their house till wee hours. THE LIST IS ENDLESS OF SUCH LIBERTY CLAIMS. Well,I have nothing against people’s liberty as mentioned above.It is perfectly okay – Nothing wrong.

BUT, BUT LIBERTY COMES WITH A RESPONSIBILITY AND TO EXPLAIN IT, I WILL TELL YOU A STORY.

Mr Swaminathan and Mr Bhandari were staying in Mumbai in the same apartment and they were neighbors. Mr Bhandari often use to return home late evening and was fond of listening to loud music at a very high pitch. This was his daily routine. Mr Swaminathan used to badly get upset with this loud music because he could not sleep.But he kept his patience and tolerated this loud music for two  weeks in the hope that better sense will prevail with his neighbor and things will improve.But that did not happen.

Mr Swaminathan decided to take up this matter with his neighbor and one night,while the loud music was going on,he knocked at the door of Mr Bhandari,who opened the door.Mr Swaminathan requested Mr Bhandari to keep the volume of the music low,because he could not sleep with such a loud music. Mr Bhandari said,Mr Swaminathan,I am in my own house and I have the full liberty to enjoy the music the way I like and this should not bother you.To this,Mr swaminathen told-Mr Bhandari! If it is your liberty to listen to such a loud music in your house,it is my liberty to sleep peacefully in my house!!

SO,YOUR LIBERTY ENDS WHEN YOU START INTERFERING WITH MY LIBERTY.

Mr Bhandari realized his mistake and apologized to Mr Swaminathan. He also promised Mr Swaminathan that, henceforth,he would exercise his liberty with due responsibility and not cause disturbance in his sleep.

MESSAGE-YOUR LIBERTY COMES WITH A RESPONSIBILITY.ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS!!

 

CAN SILENCE BE THE MOST POWERFUL MODE OF COMMUNICATION??

In my view, Yes! Definitely!
There are many ways by which human being communicate. We talk,we write,we sing, we emote and we use gestures and we also use silence. Have you ever realized that silence,in fact, is the most powerful mode of communication. we become most powerful when we are silent. It should never be taken as a sign of our weakness. It provides us inner strength to express trust and self-worth. It is from this base of inner strength that our actions evolve. Silence can create wonders,if used strategically in right manner.

⦁ We convey our Disagreement:
Contrary to powerful belief, silence does not only signify acceptance. It also signifies that you disagree. When a Manager makes an announcement and the entire team is cheering. If one person is standing in the corner silently with a wry smile playing on his/her lips,this silence rings louder than all the all the cheers, and is often viewed as silent disagreement. The person may not be happy with the managements decision.

⦁ We convey our acceptance:
This is an idea widely propagated by Bollywood. In an oft-repeated scene in old Bollywood movies, we often see the heroine run inside when a proposal for her marriage is being discussed.This act is often seen as agreement to the proposal. If to a room full of people someone says, ” Do you see some problem? ” and the audience remains silent, it is understood as having accepted the proposal.

⦁ To convey our Displeasure:
This happens most often in personal relationships. When we are cross with someone, we remain silent. This is especially relevant to couple. When one person is unnaturally silent for some time, the other should guess that the person is angry. It is then time to introspect and see what we could have done, or not done,that could have made our partner angry.

⦁ We try to maintain Peace:
At time it is best to stay silent.Especially during heated arguments, if one partner chooses to remain silent, the angry discourse does not survive for for too long. Someone has very rightly said:
” Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret”
As humans, our mind is programmed to respond when asked a question, or even otherwise. However, silence used at the right moment is the best communication strategy.IT AVOIDS A LOT OF HEARTACHE AND PROBLEMS.

 

Message
” Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place but far more still difficult, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment”
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BE SMART AND PROACTIVE,THAN BE A MEDIOCRE!!

 

There was once a rich and successful business man who dealt in food grains. He used to purchase food grains in large quantities from farmers and  stocked them in his storage house. He had employed two clerks to look after the accounts and record of his business. Both the clerks had started working simultaneously five years ago, at the salary of Rs 5k per month each. During the course of five years, the salary of the first  clerk was increased from 5k to 30k pm whereas the second clerk’s salary had only been increased to 15k per month.

Due to large variations in their salaries the second clerk always remained depressed and dissatisfied. One day he gathered the courage and asked his employee the reason for this partiality. “We are both working at the same post for the same numbers of years, then why is there such a big difference in our compensations?”he asked. The businessman looked at him and smiled. He said in a calm and kind voice, ” there is no partiality. I am paying both of you according to work you both are doing”. However, the second clerk was not satisfied by his answer.

One day, a farmer arrived in the town to sell his grains but stood a little far from the office of the businessman. The businessman saw the farmer and asked his second clerk to go and find out about the grains he had come to sell. In order to prove his worth the second clerk immediately went to collect the information and came back within a few minutes. He informed that the farmer was selling  “Rice”. The businessman asked the second clerk further questions- which brand of rice he was selling, at what price, and from where he had come. The clerk could not reply to any of the questions. He had not tried to find out because he had not been asked to do so. He had only been asked to find out about the product that was being sold and he had done just that.

Now the businessman sent his first clerk, who was drawing a salary of 30k per month to find the product that the farmer was selling. The first clerk too went away but did not return immediately. ” He was taking too much time to complete such simple task. Surely now the boss will realize who deserves better” thought the second clerk.

After a period of two hours, the first clerk came back and informed the product is rice grown in an area which is famous for rice. “It is a good quality rice and the rates at which the farmer is selling it is also very competitive. Last month, Jag Mohan ji, one of our biggest customer, had sent us a demand for this very rice. He is willing to purchase this rice from us in large quantities. I have, therefore, offered to the farmer that we are willing to buy his entire lot provided he sells it to us at a further discounted rates, and the farmer has agreed. I have advised our store keeper to arrange for the space to store this lot and therefore i got delayed.”

All this information was narrated in the presence of second clerk , and the second clerk was now clear about why  he was getting less salary compared to his proactive colleague. The first clerk not had only found about the product, but he had also smartly ascertained its quality, rate,and found out prospective buyer to avoid future losses and storage rentals.

MORAL:

In today’s fast-paced world, one needs to work smartly to stay one step ahead of every situation. In other words, one needs to be proactive. Being proactive means to align things in advance by foreseeing  future risks , problems and challenges!!

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HOW TO CONTROL PROMOTION ANXIETY, IF YOU HAVE ONE!!

 

A promotion can feel both rewarding and stressful. After you have accepted all the congratulations, its time to deal with all the new expectations.

I suggest three tips to address the anxiety that most people feel when stepping into a new role:

  • Prepare support: Identify a strong ally, mentor, or coach who you can lean on during the first few months on the job. Ask this person to give you honest and constructive feedback along the way.
  • Create a plan: Lay out what you plan to accomplish in your first few months. Be realistic and set clear  priorities so that you are prepared to make necessary trade-offs.
  • Know your limits:: A new job means new responsibilities, but be honest with yourself about what is in your control and what is not.

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