Questioning whether you have made the right decision can be a useful way to make sure you are on the right track.
But if you second-guess yourself at the wrong time, you may feel tempted to give up on important commitments.Don’t question yourself when you are most vulnerable.
Instead,schedule a time to review your decision when you are in the right frame of mind. For example,don’t wonder whether you should abandon a plan to talk more during meetings when you are walking into the conference room.
Rather,tell yourself that you will question the decision ten minutes into the meeting,once you have had time to get used to the idea.
Setting a time will also help you second-guessing once rather nagging yourself with doubts.
In my view, we do!!
Whether you believe in making decisions swiftly and decisively or with more caution and deliberations, I suggest you try these three tips to help you reach better conclusions and avoid decisions traps.
- Get the right mind on the job: Decision making is the process of converting input into output. To make the best decision, optimize your input by getting the opinions and insights of trusted people who know the arena best.
- Decide how you will decide: Bickering often happens during the decision making process. Be clear with yourself and others involved about the steps you will take to reach the decision.
- Demand Diversity: To much agreement is dangerous; you need dissenting opinions.
Give a minority viewpoint a voice or appoint a devil’s advocate. Listening to”other side” will give you a more robust answer.
Think about it and Act!!
Don’t let your ego get in the way of your desire to learn.Successful people keep their minds open to new things because they know that no matter how high their level of mastery, there is always more to discover.
If you have become expert in one field, seek out other fields where you can transfer and apply your expertise.
When facing challenges, even ones you have faced many times before, adopt a learner’s approach- ask questions or find new ways to solve the problem.
YOU WILL ALWAYS BE ONE UP!!
Yes, your vision will become clear only when you can look inside your heart. He who looks outside, dreams; he who looks inside awakens!!
There is an interesting story which I love to share with you all to make you understand my thoughts better.
A wise woman…..who was travelling in the mountains found a precious stone in the stream and put it inside her bag. The next day she met another traveler who was hungry. The wise woman opened her bag to share her food.
The hungry traveler saw the precious stone inside the bag and asked the woman for it. She gave it to him without any hesitation. The traveler left,rejoicing in his good fortune.He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime.
But a few days later,he came back to return the stone to the wise woman.”I have been thinking”, he said, “I know how valuable this stone is, but I want to give it back to you in the hope that you can give me something even more precious!! The woman paused and said- What is that? He said-“GIVE ME THAT YOU HAVE WITHIN YOU THAT ENABLED YOU TO GIVE ME THAT PRECIOUS STONE”
TRUE WISDOM COMES ONLY WHEN YOU LOOK INSIDE YOUR HEART!!
I know you may not like me on this point but I owe you my truth: Most people sleep more than they need to.They fall into the trap of spending some of the best hours of their lives on a mattress.
I invite you to consider an insight: Sleep begets sleep. The more sleep you take,the more you need.Have you ever noticed that as you sleep more, you feel sleeper? Strange,is not it? But its true!!
Yes,I agree that sleep is essential to keep us radiant, renewed and healthy.My fear is too much sleep. The kind that keeps great people ordinary. The kind that minimizes high-potential lives. The kind that sucks the living out of human beings destined to stand for excellence. And you know who you are. Happens to a lot of us. Because we fall in love with a pillow.
Life is for the living. I need to repeat that:Life is for living.You and I have been given a gift today: to have the opportunity to make the difference. And we need to seize and respect that gift.
So sleep less. Live more. And as Benjamin Franklin observed,”There will be plenty of time to sleep when you are dead.”
I love this man!
Like you all I am very fond of Nelson Mandela. I am reading a beautiful book on Nelson Mandela, a man I admire enormously. A visionary. A freedom fighter.An amazing example of the heights to which human beings can possibly rise. He invited three of his jailors to his inauguration as president of South Africa-how is that for forgiveness?
I wanted to share part of the introduction from Bill Clinton, as it speaks to the path you and I-as dreamers,Leaders without Title and human beings devote to our best-are on:
“Every time Nelson Mandela walks into a room we all feel a little bigger, we all want to stand up, we all want to cheer, because we would like to be him on our best day.”
Thank you,Mr Nelson Mandela for what you are!!
I wanted to share
“you can accomplish anything in life, provided you do not care who gets the credit”. Brilliant thought. Leave your ego at the front door when you go to work today and just do superb work. Good things will happen. Yes, for you!!
It is so human to crave applause and recognition and acclaim. We all want to be appreciated by our peers and revered by the tribe. But leadership is about a lot more than trying to look good in the eyes of others. It is actually standing for a cause. It is your work in life that is the ultimate seduction.
It is about being best in the world at what you do. It is about leaving people better than you found them. And it is certainly not about worrying who gets the credit for a job well done.
People who are outstanding always get found out. This is a fact: The cream always rises to the top. The best always comes to light. Great ones among us can never be held back.