ITS HUMAN RELATION THAT MATTERS!!

1-What is the Most Important Word….in the dictionary? It is the sound of your name.And how cheerful you feel when someone remembers it.It certainly makes you like him,doesn’t it ? And how small you feel,if someone who should have remembered,forgets your name.For most people,their names(especially  first name) are the most important word in the world.

 

2-Being Psychoanalyzed: Why do we criticize?If it is because we want people to do better work and improve in future,it is all well and good, but is that the real reason?Analyze your motives.It will help you a lot.

 

3-Let it Simmer:Do you know that in your ordinary day-to-day life,it also does a lot of good if you let things simmer.A delay of a day or  two seldom does any harm.But if you do a thing in a hurry and in anger and retort with a furious reply,the damage done  may be enormous.And it may take months of hard work to put things right again.

 

4-Pave the way:This is what one must do before you criticize anybody.If people have done something the wrong way and even if they know that they are in the wrong,they will resent it bitterly if you tell them so.You may first talk about neutral subject.Then find something you can braise.Pave the way.People will then take cricism willingly,otherwise,they will fight to the last to prove BLACK IS WHITE.

 

5-Eat it….that’s the worst about threats.We mostly threaten without thinking,and in ninety-nine cases out of a hundred,we have to eat our threats simply because we just cannot carry them out.So don’t threaten,because,when you have to eat your words,it is very humiliating.It does not do you or anybody any good!!

 

6-Readymade suits:you must have found that in most cases they do not  fit.It is same with readymade answers.When someone brings a problem,you should not give him a quick readymade answer,even if you know it is the right one.Instead help him to think out the answer for himself.Let him workout his own solution.It is far better this way than giving him the answer straightway.you will never find a faster way of making people more efficient.

 

7-The little Personal Touches:Its little personal touches that make all the difference.If one of your man is away sick,enquire about his health when he comes back.It does not take too much time or effort.It is just  a question of being thoughtful. Believe me,these little human touches certainly makes all the difference.

 

8-Listen Patiently:The best way to handle complaints is simply to listen patiently and attentively.A man often only wants to get something off his HEAD AND CHEST.

 

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IS PREMARITAL COUNSELLING CRUCIAL TO YOUR MARRIAGE??

I think it depends from person to person.

I have two views on this  subject.

1-I want to inform  my those readers,who may not be aware about it,what  is after all this premarital counselling all about and based on these vital information,you can take your own decision whether you need it or not!!

2-Whether you decide to take a premarital counselling or not,your married life will be no different from our present lives-we will continue to face ups and down and series of problems in our married life.In order to effectively handle such problems and lead a happy married life what you really need is the ‘RIGHT THINKING’,’LOTS OF PATIENCE’ and ability to keep shifting your perspective during difficult time in your married life!! Follow these three things and see the magic yourself.

  • Premarital counselling generally consists of a few individual sessions with the counsellor, followed by a joint session with both the partners.A minimum of five to six sessions is recommended to address all the concerns the couples might have about marriage.Depending upon the couples needs and the therapist’s approach,however,the number of sessions could be increased or decreased.
  • Premarital counselling can help you gain an insight into your partner’s personality,look past their differences and understand issues from their point of view.
  • Premarital counselling teaches you to discuss with your partner your expectations and financial plans,among other practical yet awkward issues.
  • As an unbiased person,a counselor usually listens to what both the partners have to say without being judgmental and then help discuss issues that might be uncomfortable to talk about or cause fear or anxiety.A counsellor can coax you to address your current issues as well as potential areas of conflict,openly discuss them and also build strategies to sort out differences.
  • These sessions that covers various topics in the form of questionnaires can help you reflect on how your beliefs and behavior could impact this new phase of your lives.

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Whether you will take this premarital counselling or not is your personal choice.But please do not overlook the importance of meeting each other’s parents.Family background is very important.you should spend sufficient time with them to know their habits and values before you decide to take the plunge. Remember,a couples respective parents are their image and shadow which has a great impact and influence in shaping respective couple’s values,behavior and habits.There can be exceptions but  this act as an indication,valuable input and guiding factor.

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HOW TO FOCUS ON YOUR CAREER!!

14 BEST PRACTICES TO ACHIEVE WHAT
YOU DESIRE IN YOUR CAREER!!

 

1-BE LOYAL: Bosses can forgive carelessness,stupidity,tardiness and the occasional temper tantrum.These can be corrected,BUT DISLOYALTY IS A TRUE CHARACTER FLAW.You cannot and will not be TRUSTED.Remember this.

 

2-KEEP THE BOSS INFORMED: Such as about what you are doing,where you are,who you are to and why.Bomb the boss with all relevant information until he says ‘STOP’.No one has ever lost his job for telling the boss too much.

 

3- EMBRACE THE CHANGE: Even if you do not understand it.Any boss,as part of his job, instigate change.It is not your job to resist.

 

4-RESPECT BOSS’S TIME:If you need 30 minute with him,do not  take 60.Better yet,take 20.

 

5-DON’T TREAD ON HIS TURF: Atleast not without his permission.

 

6-FOLLOW UP QUICKLY: Bosses do not pull out a stop watch when they give a command.But,trust me,their internal clock is ticking.

 

7-VEILD COMMAND:Like most people,you probably have the good sense to obey a direct command.If the boss says ‘jump’ you jump.But the best bosses are not so crude.They want subordinate to think for themselves and,therefore,they do not give explicit orders.They imply.BE ALERT TO THIS.

 

8-BE A CALMING INFLUENCE: Being a calm voice is a wise strategy in almost any any situation.The more heated the other party is,the cooler you should be.If you can keep your head,while all those around you are losing theirs,YOUR AUTHORITY WILL ALWAYS EXCEED THEIRS.

 

9-STICK TO POINT:One of the easiest way to influence a situation is to help the participant stay in the subject.People gravitate not only to the wise person but to the disciplined one as well.

 

10-BE SELF STARTER: Do not rely on someone  else’s initiates.Take the initiatives yourself.In most group situations,the person who initiate a project or concept usually becomes the authority in the area.

 

11-PRAISE PEOPLE: Praise is a subtle and wonderfully effective way to gain influence over people.It is effective because three things happen when you praise someone.1- the person likes hearing it; 2- he likes you for saying it; 3- he wants to hear more.

 

12-RANCH ON ONE BOSS: Do not bet on  the ranch on one boss.Each of us knows employees who take advantage of their proximity or access to the head of their company.Having a mentor or ally in the top ranks can give your career a powerful boost.But billing your career on the boss is a double edged sword-please avoid it!!

 

13-USE THE BOSS: Bosses like to be used,no matter how isolated they seem or how far removed from day-to-day activity.Every boss loves to be given an opportunity to demonstrate that he or she can still hack it in the tenches.

 

14-ACT AS IF YOU HAVE INFLUENCE:As a general rule,if you want to become the boss,start acting like one.The people who go ahead are not necessarily smarter.They simply have a better understanding of this influence and they are not afraid to exercise it.While their rivals are making a recommendation,the winners are already in action.

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DO YOU RECOGNIZE AND RESPECT YOUR INSTINCTS??

Your instincts are your personal source of wisdom and it is not easy to listen to this still,small voice within.It often becomes difficult to listen  to your instincts when the world around you pressures you to conform to its dictates.Nevertheless,you must listen to those hunches and feeling that comes to you when you most need them.They can also give you fulfillment and abundance you may seek.

In my view,as we grow older,we give far greater respect to our instincts and to the natural reservoir of intuition that stayes within each one of us.The impressions we receive when we first meet a new person or that inner  sense of wisdom that softly dictates us in the right direction during a difficult time have now come to  play larger part in the way we work and live.It looks like that with age comes the corresponding power and ability to trust our own instincts

IT has been found that our personal instincts grow stronger when we live “on purpose”, which  precisely means spending our days on activities that advance us along the path to our legacy.When you are doing the right things and living the way nature intended us to live,we liberate the fullness of the person we really are.

The Indian philosopher Patanjali has well said:

When you are inspired by some great purpose,some extraordinary projects,all your thoughts break their bonds:your mind transcends limitations,your consciousness expands in every direction,and you find yourself in a new,great and wonderful world.Dormant forces,faculties and talents become alive,and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.

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‘ TORN’

 

  •  Most of the problems in our life is because we do not have control of every word that we are yet to utter, but a slave to every word we have already uttered-this is clear sign of a torn person.
  • If your words have no value and during your conversation with others you only say the right thing at the right time but do not refrain from leaving unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment-we are a torn person.
  • If a decade of good work is wiped out in an instant by your impulsive anger, this a sign of torn person.

Enough said!!

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