LOVE

” Detachment is not dispassion

nor is it indifference

It is also not an absence of love.

In fact,

It takes great love

to be detached.

In its deepest  form,

love can only

be detached.”

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CAN SILENCE BE A POWERFUL MODE OF COMMUNICATION ??

In my view, Yes! Definitely!
There are many ways by which human being communicate. We talk,we write,we sing, we emote and we use gestures and we also use silence. Have you ever realized that silence,in fact, is the most powerful mode of communication. we become most powerful when we are silent. It should never be taken as a sign of our weakness. It provides us inner strength to express trust and self-worth. It is from this base of inner strength that our actions evolve. Silence can create wonders,if used strategically in right manner.

⦁ We convey our Disagreement:
Contrary to powerful belief, silence does not only signify acceptance. It also signifies that you disagree. When a Manager makes an announcement and the entire team is cheering. If one person is standing in the corner silently with a wry smile playing on his/her lips,this silence rings louder than all the all the cheers, and is often viewed as silent disagreement. The person may not be happy with the managements decision.

⦁ We convey our acceptance:
This is an idea widely propagated by Bollywood. In an oft-repeated scene in old Bollywood movies, we often see the heroine run inside when a proposal for her marriage is being discussed.This act is often seen as agreement to the proposal. If to a room full of people someone says, ” Do you see some problem? ” and the audience remains silent, it is understood as having accepted the proposal.

⦁ To convey our Displeasure:
This happens most often in personal relationships. When we are cross with someone, we remain silent. This is especially relevant to couple. When one person is unnaturally silent for some time, the other should guess that the person is angry. It is then time to introspect and see what we could have done, or not done,that could have made our partner angry.

⦁ We try to maintain Peace:
At time it is best to stay silent.Especially during heated arguments, if one partner chooses to remain silent, the angry discourse does not survive for for too long. Someone has very rightly said:
” Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret”
As humans, our mind is programmed to respond when asked a question, or even otherwise. However, silence used at the right moment is the best communication strategy.IT AVOIDS A LOT OF HEARTACHE AND PROBLEMS.

 

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” Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place but far more still difficult, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment”
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HOW TO FILL YOUR LIFE WITH HAPPINESS WITH THE INVISIBLE GIFTS WITHIN YOU!!

To get to world-class and live your greatest life- it surely takes consistent efforts, discipline and focus. I agree that success requires sacrifices. SO WHY DO IT? Because it will make you feel good. Which makes it all worthwhile.

The big idea: Playing below your potential makes you feel bad about yourself. Operating below your potential diminishes your self-respect. Limiting what you can do,be or have sucks the energy out of your spirit and knocks the passion out of your heart.

Climbing your personal and professional mountaintop makes you feel good about yourself. Boost your self-respect. Heighten your self – image.This fills you with energy, faith and joy.

Achieving superb things with the gifts or treasures that are within you is one of the best way to fill your life with more happiness. Being great- even when it is not easy to do so-is a brilliant move.That yields handsome rewards. ALWAYS!!

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MAKE IT SIMPLE AND SAY ” NO” TO EVERYTHING THAT IS NOT MISSION CRITICAL!!

“SIMPLE. SIMPLE. SIMPLE.” FOCUS. FOCUS. FOCUS.

One of the primary reasons that people and organizations fail to achieve greatness is that they try to be too many things to too many people. They tend to forget a very important proverb:
” Man who chases two rabbits catches neither”
The most successful human being are wildly focused. They have a very clear picture of what it is they want to create by the time they reach the end of their lives. They also have the discipline and courage to stick to their mission, saying “no” to everything that is not mission critical

So my gentle suggestion to you is- simplify your life. Make everything simple. Strip away all that is unimportant- these are the things keeping you away from getting to your dreams. And then, once you do your clean up-focus, focus, focus.
That’s it! Do you see any problem in doing this? Yes or no?
YOU WILL BE SURPRISED HOW GOOD YOU WILL THEN GET AT BEING GREAT!!
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IS THERE ANY EXCITEMENT IN BEING SUCCESSFUL, YET ALONE ??

Have you ever noticed that it is the people we love  most we take for granted? It is easy to spend less time with your family because they will always be there for you or so you assume.It is easy to put off expressing your love to your loved ones because there seems to be no urgency at play. Its easy to let home relationships slip because you assume there are more pressing things to deal with.

But if you think seriously what could possibly be more important than your family? Is there any wisdom or excitement in being successful,yet alone?

So get out of your casual mode, pick up the phone and tell your parents that you love them.Your child too would copy cat this gesture at a later stage.Before you leave for your work, give your spouse a delicate kiss,like you mean it.

And yes, please do hug your kids.Enjoy them while you can-THEY WILL BE YOUNG ONLY ONCE. And once that window of opportunity closes, it will be gone for ever and never return to you.

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EVERY PERSON WHO HAS SHOWN UP IN YOUR LIFE AND ARRIVED TO HELP-YOU BECOME THE PERSON YOU ARE NOW. APPRECIATE AND LOVE THEM!! 

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DON’T YOU THINK YOU NEED TO BALANCE USE OF TECHNOLOGY AND SOCIAL MEDIA TO NURTURE HUMAN INTERACTION AND RELATIONSHIP !!

 

Your family, your friends, your loved ones, your colleagues, your doctor, your house help, the stranger you bump into on the street, the stranger you pass without noticing, all these people define you. They are your ECOSYSTEM and you need to nurture them.

With the advancement of technology and social media, most of us have started living in a COCOON. We usually stay detached from other even when we are having lunch or dinner with them.There are enough options available to keep us entertained without any interaction with a real human being. Human interaction is infact now considered a major distraction in our lives that revolve around a virtual world, which we are used to access through our electronic devices. True or false?

I agree that Independence is important but it does not have to mean total isolation from the rest of the world.Let us not forget we are human being and, at the most basic level, need to feel a sense of belonging, acceptance, importance, Security,and mutual respect. Even in the virtual world, we find ourselves surrounded by people who share their tiniest achievement in order to receive some “LIKES”. This is how hungry we are for social approval. It is somewhat sad that instead of depending upon our actual ecosystem for such emotional needs, we have started depending heavily upon virtual acquaintances.

As is quite natural, with time, this leads us towards LONELINESS and even DEPRESSION. Yes, this is a fact which we either don’t accept or give importance. Trust me, Social media cannot replace the needs of actual or real relationships. You need to understand that a strong, healthy relationship can be one of the best support in our life. Good relationships help improve all aspect of our life. It strengthens the mind,health, and our connections with the others.

PRESERVE IT!! Don’t let it go. Because once you let it slip from your hand, it will never come back to you. PL REMEMBER THIS AND START NURTURING YOUR ECOSYSTEM.

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