PAUSE AND DECIDE-THE MOST MEMORABLE ADVICE FROM SOMEBODY VERY CLOSE TO MY HEART!!

One of the best piece of advice I have ever got was from my dad-who was my mentor,guide,philosopher and a critic.He made me a person what I am today.This master piece advice from my dad has stayed in my mind ever since.He told me to always remember THREE WORDS:’Pause and Decide!’ These three words were for me not just an articulation of father’s philosophy,but also a  pitchy masterclass  or  sound advice in effective decision-making. Everytime I need to respond to something or take a decision,my dad’s words flash into my mind-pause and decide.

Driven by impulsive responses,we often take decisions in haste.Someone says something to us-and we immediately react with words and actions that come back to haunt us later.Alas! if only we would make it a habit to heed my late dad’s advice.

The next time you are very angry or badly hurt, or need to make a decision,take a deep breadth-before saying a word or moving a finger.The next time something goes wrong and you feel like reacting immediately-JUST HOLD IT!! After the moment has passed,you will find the turmoil or dust settling down.The mind gets clearer.And the decision that follows is usually by far better than what you might have taken in haste.

Our decisions are very often, more like a negative one than a positive choice.We change jobs not because of one negative appraisal feedback session,boss’s outburst of anger or a promotion that we lost out on.We make career choices,break relationship- all in the heat of moment.In an era of increasing download speeds, we seem to be in a hurry to take a decisions. As a matter of fact,in most cases, a cool headed approach would have made for far better,more rational decisions.There is a thin line which seperates haste from speed-but it is a critical decision.It has been well said-‘Decide in haste,repent at leisure’. But unfortunately, we still have not learned our lessons.

I would like to share the story of a spiritual master who went on a pilgrimage with his disciples.The wise old man felt thirsty and wanted some water.A disciple quickly walked over to a nearby stream,jar in hand,to fetch some water.The stream was crystal clear as he could see the sun’s rays on the water.Just as he was about to fill the jar,a bullock cart crossed the stream.As the wheel churned the soil of the bed of the stream,the water turned muddy.It did not look clean enough to drink,so the disciple went back to the master empty-handed, and explained what had happened.The master asked him to wait for a while to allow the mud to settle.When the disciple went back a little while later,he was delighted to find the water was cryatal clear again.

As the master took a sip of the water,he said:’our minds are like that stream.An external event or stimulus-like that bullock cart can cause our mind to get muddled up.When that happens,all you need to to do is relax.Just wait a while and allow the DUST to settle.And your mind will be clear again.

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So the next time you feel stressed or agitated and want to respond,just think of the bullock cart and the stream.Remember my dad’s advice:

PAUSE AND DECIDE.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

 

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WE ALL FAIL AND FALL BUT BE STRONG ENOUGH TO STAND ON YOUR OWN FEET!

Baby giraffes never go to school.But they learn a very important lesson rather early in life.A lesson that all of us would do well to remember.

The birth of a baby giraffe is literally an earth-shaking event.The  baby falls from its mother’s womb,some eight feet above the ground.It shrivels up and lies still,too weak to move.

The mother giraffe lovingly lowers its neck to kiss the baby giraffe.And then something incredible happens.It lifts one long leg and kicks the baby giraffe,sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground.As the baby lies curled up,the mother kicks the baby again.And again. Until the baby giraffe,still trembling and tired,pushes its limb and,for the first time,learns to stand up on its feet.

Happy to see the baby standing on its feet,the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick.The baby giraffe falls one more time,but now quickly recovers and stands up.Mother giraffe is delighted.It knows that its baby has learned an important lesson: No matter how hard you fall,always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet.

After all, why does the mother giraffe do this?It knows that lions and leopards love giraffe meat.So unless the  baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack,it has no chance of survival.It also knows that the lessons we learn early on become part of our habit,our instinct,and stand us in good stead all through our lives.

Most of us,though,are not quite as lucky as baby giraffe.No one teaches us to stand up every time we fall.When we fail,when we are down,WE JUST GIVE-UP.No one kicks us out of our comfort zone to remind us that to survive and succeed,we need to learn to get back on our own feet.We often live such protected,cocooned,low risk lives in our early years that we are not quite prepared for the big,bad world when we enter it.

So the next time you find a supervisor or a parent kicking you,don’t get upset with them.Like the mother giraffe,they may only be trying to teach you one of life’s most important lessons.It does not matter how many times you fall.What matters is your ability to pick yourself up and stand on your feet once again.

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WE ALL FAIL,WE ALL FALL AND WE WILL CONTINUE TO FAIL AND FALL IN TIMES YET TO COME.BUT WE MUST TAKE THEM IN THE RIGHT SPIRIT AND LEARN TO BE STRONG ENOUGH TO STAND ON YOUR OWN FEET.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

 

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DOES ANGER LEAVE A PERMANENT SCAR?

YES! IT DOES. USE YOUR TEMPER ONLY TO SEND ACROSS MESSAGE TO PEOPLE THAT YOU WILL NOT HESITATE TO EXERCISE THIS OPTION -IF NEED BE

This is an inspirational story which may inspire you to understand the consequence of bad temper and make conscious efforts to control your bad temper.

There was a little boy who had a bad temper.His dad gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper,he must hammer a nail into the fence.

The first day,the boy had driven 40 nails into the fence.As he learnt to control his anger,over the next few weeks,the number of nails hammered daily,gradually dwindled down.He discovered,it was easier to hold his anger than to drive those nails into the fence.Finally,the day came when the boy did not lose his temper at all.He told his dad about it and his dad suggested that the boy NOW pull one nail each day that he was able to hold his temper.

The day passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his dad that all the nails were now removed.The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.

He said,”you have done extremely well, my son! But then took him at the holes in the fence.the fence will never be the same.WHEN YOU SAY THINGS IN ANGER,THEY LEAVE A PERMANENT SCAR JUST LIKE THIS ONE”

MORAL: You can put a knife in a man and draw it out.It does not matter how many times you say I am sorry,the wound is still there.Make sure you control your temper the next time you are tempted to say something you will regret later.

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TRUST ME-ITS POSSIBLE:USE YOUR TEMPER ONLY TO SEND ACROSS MESSAGE TO THE PEOPLE THAT YOU WILL NOT HESITATE TO EXERCISE THIS OPTION-IF NEED BE.