A CHANGE IN PERCEPTION BRINGS ABOUT CHANGE IN REALITY!!

The goal of any change process is the discovery of reality.I want to share with you the story of a farmer in china that will tell you an amazing transformation of a person.

A poor farmer in china was in great distress.He was a peace loving sort of person who had to share a single room with four noisy room-mates.Besides,there were a couple of stray dogs and a few noisy chickens and ducks in the neighbourhood that made it difficult for him to sit quietly or meditate.

Depressed that he could not get over this noise pollution,he travelled a long distance to his Zen master to find a solution to his problem.

Listening to his tale of woe,the compassionate  Master said:If you listen to me carefully,I can try to help you out.” The farmer was all ears.The Master said:  “Go back to your village and invite inside your room the stray dogs,the chickens as well as the ducks.Let them all stay with you for a week besides your four friends.Then come back to me.” Although he was shocked and surprised by his Master’s strange advice, the farmer reluctantly agreed to do as he was asked.

The farmer came back after a week.He was extremely in a bad shape;his hair was disheveled,his clothes were torn in shreds,his eyes were red from lack of sleep and his body smelt of animal dung.He looked tearfully at his Master and said, ‘the experience was worse than hell-those animals and birds and their week long company…..let my fate not befall anyone!

The Master said: “Everything will be all right. Just go back to your village and leave the animals outside your door-where they were before.Then,come back to me again after seven days.” The farmer again did what he was told.But this time when he came back-there was a bright radiance in his face.His eyes were shining and he told the Master, “I have never known or felt so much peace before. Just my four friends and I.No animals in the room.We all slept well.And my meditation was deep.”

Many years later,the farmer himself became a Master.When people asked him how he had found peace,he said. “the journey was indeed memorable.It was like taking great pain to break into your own house by climbing a ladder and  smashing a windowpane-and realizing later that the door of the house was open.All you needed to do was to pull in the door towards you rather than push it.”

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The farmer in the story discovers something that was always present as reality.Peace always existed as a possibility in his own mind.In the process of this discovery he transforms himself.Likewise, peace always exists in our own mind,all you need is to change your perception and there you are!!

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YOU MAY BE IN A HURRY, BUT YOU SHOULD STILL HAVE TIME FOR OTHERS.

Hold the door open!

Has this happened to you before? Probably,yes! As you walk towards the door of an office or a hotel,the person walking in  front holds the door open for you.Do you remember how good it made you feel- if only for that moment? The other person holding the door open for you may have been a complete stranger-but that one act leaves an unforgettable impression in your mind and made you feel you had a  caring friend.

Is it not surprising that although we all feel good when someone holds the door open for us,we seldom show such gesture  for others? WHY SO?

It is probably because we are all preoccupied with ourselves and obsessed with getting ahead.I would like to share a life changing lessons they don’t teach you in any school: ‘Hold the Door Open’.

We can divide this world into two types of people. Those who push open the door,walk through and let it slam behind them.That is about 97 percent of the population.And there is the 3 percent who open the door and hold it open to allow the next person to walk through.Learn to do that,and you too could join the select 3 percent club.

Holding the door open is not just an act of courtesy,it is a mindset and it reflects on your UPBRINGING.It says you care for people,that you are not so caught up in your own progress that you have scant regards for others.It demonstrate that while you may be in a hurry,you still have time for others.’Hold the Door Open’does not merely make other people feel good.It makes you feel good too.

The amazing habit of holding the door open translates into a behavior of helping and caring.While travelling in a AC coach of a train,when you keep the glass door open for a co-passenger  behind you,its  a good gesture. At the buffet table,you pick up a plate and offer it to a lady behind you in the queue and the smile you see on her is just priceless.These are all small gestures,but they make a huge difference.Hold the Door Open marks you out as someone special.

Try it.Become  an ‘Hold the Door Open’ person.Winning in life is less about naked ambition and more about helping other people win.Someone has rightly said,’Its nice to be important.But it is more important to be nice!’

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MAKE A BEGINNING TODAY.HOLD THE DOOR OPEN!

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

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Saying sorry a million times may never completely undone the damage.

For those of you,especially our international readers,who may not know Mani Shankar Ayyar-I would like to give his brief introduction.Mani Shankar Ayyar is an Indian politician and a Member of Parliament(Rajya Sabha) from Indian National Congress Party,He is known for his impulsive and controversial statements.On 7th Dec 2017,he said in his speech that Prime Minister of India,Mr Narendra Modi was a ‘NEECH’ person which was interpreted as  a person of low caste.And the situation turned so ugly among Indian political circle(especially with the present ruling party) over  this derogatory statement that Mr  Ayyar had to immediately apologize for this act.

When we are angry,we say things that leave a scar.And no amount of  apologizing later can ever  remove those scars,Remember that!’

It is a lesson we would all do well to take to heart. Keep your cool. Don’t lose your temper.Pause and decide. you will thus see a significant improvement in your relationship and command goodwill of others. People will like you more,they will respect you a lot more, and you will find that hardly anybody gets angry with you.

More importantly,be careful what you say when you are angry. Choose your words with care.Those words can leave a permanent scar. They may be said in the heat of moment but the damage could be permanent. While you can apologize profusely and say sorry a million times,the damage is never completely undone. Saying ‘sorry’ is like using one of those eraser attached to the end of the pencil. It is easy to use,it feels like you have erased what was written but the marks remain on the sheet of the paper for ever.

In the era of instant messaging and on-the-go emails,it has become more important to watch your words.If you are upset and want to shoot off an angry email or message,HOLD IT!  Draft a mail perhaps-but leave it as a draft. Don’t hit the ‘send’ button whilst you are still angry. Pause! Tell yourself that you will take a look at it the next morning. Chances are,with a cooler head the next morning,you will realize the folly of sending out the angry  email. It does not matter if you are in the right or think your anger is justified.IF YOU LOSE YOUR COOL,YOU SIMPLY LOSE.Period

So, the next time you are angry and want to say something,like Mr Ayyar,take a deep breadth. Pause. And may be say nothing at all. Trust me, I do it when I face a similar situation and mostly I am in control.

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Starting today, resolve to keep your cool. Watch what you say and see the difference. You may fail initially but with a conscious effort, you will have a better control over yourself with passage of time.

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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THE LAW OF ONE-POINTED ATTENTION!!

Why it is so powerful?

Have you ever heard of one-pointed attention? What is this after all? Imagine a martial artist who is about to break a solid brick with his bare hand. Have you ever thought what does this man do? Well, he stands in one place and focuses his attention on the central part of the brick. His intention is to cut through the solid resistance of the brick  with the power of his hand. He draws his whole mental and physical energy to the edge of his hand. The soft hand becomes as sharp and tough as sword. One-pointed attention channels the vast energy of his mind in the desired direction.

We have to recognize the fact that  it is neither information nor physical energy that gives real power. Power comes from undivided and one-point attention, as is evident in the following story, which I want to share with all of you.

A businessman was driving in his expensive car through a highway in Dubai. Suddenly,the car’s engine stopped.The Businessman tried his hand at the engine.No effect. He decided to walk to the nearest town to get a mechanic. The ragged mechanic came,opened the bonnet and had a good,long look. Then he took out his hammer and hit gently on a small component of the engine. The car regained its life.

The Businessman asked,”How much I pay you?”

The mechanic replied, “that would be a thousand doller,Sir!”

“What! A thousand dollars just for hammering once?”

“Yes Sir,the break-up is as follows:

One dollar for giving you the information about the problem.A couple of dollar for the energy I spent in striking with this hammer.And nine hundred ninety seven dollar for the one -pointed attention that tells me where to hit and with what force.”

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One point attention is priceless. Ancient Indian sages defined an attentive mind as ‘ekagra’,which literally means one-point. You can achieve such miracles by using law of one-pointed attention.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

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PEOPLE DO NOT RESIST CHANGE.THEY RESIST BEING CHANGED!!

A change of heart in a human being is possible only when there is a change in the internal dialogue of the person. We cannot and infact should not compel people to change. We should merely induce the change process by changing the internal dialogue within the person.

I want to share with you a story from Buddha’s life that will clearly demonstrate how you can possibly transform people.

When Buddha was alive,a man came to him and started accusing him of spreading dangerous knowledge.He said, “you teach people to beg and to do nothing.You are doing a great harm to the society,” the man was out of his head with angry outburst of words.Buddha listened to him in complete silence. When the man had let off all his steam Buddha said,” if you have finished speaking, can I ask you a question?” The man angrily said,”Go ahead and ask what you have to.” Buddha said, “Imagine that you had brought a gift for a friend but your friend refuses to accept the gift.To whom does this gift now belong?”

The man said, “Pure commonsense! The gift now belongs to the one who brought it- he should take it back!” Buddha became silent again. Puzzled by  Buddha’s question,this man went on his way back.While he was travelling back he bagan to have a new dialogue in his mind about the gift of anger that he had brought to Buddha who silently refused to accept it.This transformed the man and he ran back to Buddha to seek forgiveness,

So,if you want to change people allow them space and time to grow in their self-knowledge.

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THE ONLY WAY TO CHANGE PEOPLE IS TO ENABLE THEM TO GROW!!

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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Whatever happens, happens for the best!! DEVELOP THE ‘THIS IS GOOD’ ATTITUDE.

 

There is an old saying if something happens as per your wish, It is good, but if something does not happen as per your wish, this is also good- because, this is wish of God!!

So, it is pointless worrying about outcomes you cannot control or change. Focus instead on what you can change… when one door shuts, another door opens. This reminds me this African folk tale about a king and his friend.

The king’s friend was an optimistic and cheerful person. Whenever something happened- good or bad- the friend would remark, “this is good!”, they would often go on hunting expeditions and the friend would help prepare the king’s rifles. One day, the friend made a mistake with one of the guns. When the king took that gun and pulled the trigger, his thumb got blown off. Seeing what happened, the friend remarked, “This is good!”, that made the king very angry, ‘No this is not good’, he said and sent his friend off to prison.

After a few years, the king was out in a place where he should have not ventured into. The cannibals living there caught him, before throwing him into the huge earthen pot that was being readied for cooking. It was then, someone  noticed that king had no thumb. As it happened, those cannibals were superstitious lot. They never ate anyone who was less than whole. So, the king was set  free.

As he headed back to his palace, the king recalled the incident when he had lost his thumb. He then realized that his friend had been right in saying, ‘This is good!’. Losing a thumb that day had actually saved his life. He immediately went to the prison and set his friend free. He narrated his story to his friend and apologized. ‘you were right. I should not have put you in prison’, said the kind. ‘That was bad’!

‘No, no. This is good’ said the friend.

‘what do you mean’ asked the king. How could sending you to jail have been good?’

‘don’t you see?’ said the friend. ‘ if I had not been in jail, I would then have been out hunting with you. And the cannibals would then have killed and eaten me!’

So, the next time you find things are not going your way, think of the king’s thumb. And whatever happens, just say ‘This is good!’ you will suddenly find the world a better place. And you will discover how empowering that can be. Instead of playing victim and wallowing in self-pity, the ‘This is good!’ attitude compels you to take ownership and do things that can be life-changing.

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When you say, ‘this is bad’, the mind gets conditioned to look for difficulty in opportunity and when you say ‘this is good’, the mind looks for opportunity in difficulty, and therein is born a winner or a loser.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

 

 

HOPE INFUSES LIFE IN US. BUT HOPE WITHOUT ACTION IS A DEAD BODY!

I want to tell you the importance of a vital ingredient no leader can do without. HOPE.

Great leaders never lose hope. They remain optimists and recognize that their state of mind is contagious. If they have hope, so does their team. If they give up, well, so does their team.

Hope is a theme that resonates in what is described as the greatest cricket match ever played: The one day international match between South Africa and Australia in Johannesburg in March 2006.

At the time, the record for the highest score in a 50-over game was held by Sri Lanka. In 1996, they had scored 396 for 5 versus the mimows- Kenya. Interestingly enough, three teams had scored more than 390 but no team had managed to go beyond 400! It was believed that 400 was that invisible barrier- a barrier no team could break!

On March 12, 2006, in the fifth one-day international between South Africa and Australia and what has been seen as unthinkable- and what no team had ever done until then. They went past the 400- run barrier and posted a total of 434 for 9 – the ‘unbreakable’ barrier was finally broken.

Can you guess what happened next? In reply, South Africa made 438 for 9- and won that game. Clearly, once Australia had broken the mental barrier that no team could score over 400, It was easy for South Africa to do it too. A record that had stood for ten long years was broken- TWICE ON THE SAME DAY, And that’s not all. Sri Lanka broke the barrier 3 months later. South Africa did it again. Suddenly, almost magically, the barrier was gone. In fact, since that record-breaking day in Johannesburg, the 400-run barrier has been breached six time already.

It all boils down to your own belief as I always say, if you can see it in your mind, you can hold it in your hand. Once you believe something is possible, the rest becomes easy. Belief is the vital first step towards achievement.

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Keep hope alive. Take charge. Hope is what ensures we keep going when all seems lost. But hope alone is never enough. You need to take responsibility. AND YOU FINALLY NEED TO TAKE ACTION.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.