LISTING YOUR WORRIES AND PROBLEMS IS HALF SOLVED.

I am a firm believer in Charles kittering’s proverb – “A problem well stated is a problem half solved.” You feel something special when you take out a piece of paper and list your every single problem and worry. This is like a peaceful feeling you get after telling your best friend about something that has been troubling you for weeks. You feel lighter, calmer and freer.

If you keep thinking about your worries and problems, a time will come when you will think little else. In this situation, it becomes very important that you let go the mental clutter that your problems tend to generate. To get out of this situation, list all your worries on a piece of paper. If you do this, they would no longer be able to control your mind and drain your valuable energy.

This is such a simple exercise that will take your problems into proper perspective and let you tackle them in an orderly, well planned sequence. There are many successful people who have successfully used this technique. Winston Churchill once said – “It helps to write down half a dozen things which are worrying me. two of them, say, disappear; about two, nothing can be done, so it is no use worrying and LAST TWO PERHAPS CAN BE SETTLED.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

HOW TO GIVE THE BEST UPBRINGING TO YOUR SON TO AVOID HIS RESENTMENT TOWARDS YOU.

You may all have heard various incidences of grown up and adult sons, fighting with parents , raising their hands on parents,throwing them out of their house on property matters etc etc. At least I know many such incidences.

But have you ever come across an incidence where a 10 year old son going to police station and lodging a formal complaint that his dad should be beaten by the police.In my view, I don’t think any one of you have  heard such disturbing  incidence ever in your life. But trust me,this is a real life story, which I saw yesterday while watching a reputed TV news channel and this news has been confirmed by government agencies.

Well, this may be just one story of its kind but the fact is if such thing has crossed in the mind of a one 10 year old son,it can cross tomorrow in hundreds,thousand of 10 year old sons.Am I wrong? Can you rule out such possibilities altogether.

This  is the most disturbing  piece of news for me and THIS REMINDS ME WHAT MY DAD TOLD ME 25  years ago. In his own words-“ Ravi! There can be some exceptions, but I can tell you with full confidence that parents of all sons today are unhappy and sad with their sons AND IN TIMES YET TO COME, FUTURE PARENTS WILL BE  VERY UNHAPPY AND SAD WITH THEIR SONS. So you are lucky to have daughters only.” This news about 10 year old son has proved that what my dad said 25 years back has come true. I admire your terrific vision, dad!

The objective of this post is not only to share  this news with young parents but alert, guard and give them a forward path so that this  may not happen with you tomarrow and peace is maintained in your house at all costs.

I will now exactly tell you what was the complaint of this boy at the police station of a very important town in North India.

  • The boy said his father should be beaten by the police because he refused to take him to an important festival and when he insisted his dad beat him.
  • His father is always away from the home on Saturday and Sunday and does not give him any time.Even when he is at home he does not talk to  him.

The police went to the house of this boy for interrogation with his parents but I don’t think it is important for you to know the details of this interrogation.

The important thing is that a son can think of complaining against his father at such a tender age when he is not expected to know the nitty-gritty of such possible police cases.The fact is this boy certainly got badly disturbed emotionally by his dad and he took such a drastic steps against his own father.CAN ANYONE DENY THIS FACT?

I too have seen many cases where sons get wild  and revolting because of ill informed upbringing by their parents and such parents pay a very heavy price for their own deeds and repent when damage has already been done and its too late to undo it,

To avoid such things to happen with any young parents, while time is there, I suggest the following time tested rules.

  • Be honest with your son in every matter you do for him. He must feel it.
  • Give him full attention and as much time as it is possible for you. If you are honest,he is sensible enough to understand  your constraints, if any.
  • Give him all your love.
  • Don’t try to control him at each and every step.  You must learn to ignore things on matters which is not so important but pull the string on few occasions when it needs to be pulled to make him a better human being.The best way to do this is not to do it in front of many people but must discuss it with him on one to one basis without the presence of anybody.

Here again, your success will depend on what is your image in the mind of your son. These are very tricky things but they have impact in totality.

  • Last but not the least NEVER, NEVER, NEVER RAISE YOUR HAND ON YOUR SON AND FIGHT WITH EACH OTHER( HUSBAND AND WIFE) in front of your child.This affect your child very badly EMOTIONALLY and has a great impact on his life at a later stage. I can vouch for this that I have never done this in my life, barring one exception.

IF YOU FOLLOW THESE RULES, I CAN GUARANTY YOU-YOUR SON WILL NEVER DISAPPOINT YOU.

Lastly,it is my request to all my reader to pass on the link of this post to all their friends, family members, well wishers and everyone who may derive benefit from this post. Also. You must send me your comments on this post.

GOOD LUCK!!

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IDEATION WITHOUT EXECUTION IS DELUSION!!

 

We all know that ideas are the currency of success these days.

To win and be a leader in your marketspace, its mission-critical to out-think, out-innovate and out-create your competition. The person with the biggest ideas and of course with the best execution will lead the field.

This reminds me to Ryanair. It is Europe’s most profitable airline( about $400 million in profit so far this year) at a time when other airlines are struggling and sinking with high fuel prices( Jet blue, another very cool company lost money this year for the first time ever).

In the past one year,Rayanair has flown 35million passenger at an average ticket price of $50. And, get this, 25% of its flights are free. Seriously!!

Rayanair’s goal is to one day( soon) make flying absolutely free.

SO,HOW DOES IT MAKE MONEY?

By charging for other services. Advertising revenue comes from the commercials on the back of the seats. Check-in luggage cost $3.50 per piece. Food is always extra.

Ryanair did not only brilliantly reinvent the business model for winning in their industry. They have brilliantly executed their business model too. They have shown us what innovation and imagination is all about in the change-crazy economy. We are forced to operate within.

So, bottom line is that ,superb and brilliant ideas without execution make no sense.

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CELEBRATION WEEK

 

Through my Post of 24th March, I had informed my WordPress community friends about my 6 e-books( Link given under each book) available at Amazon Kindle App.

The Response from my wordpress community has been great and as a result of this, sale of my ebooks have registered a sudden jump by 50% growth in last one week only.

I THANK YOU ALL,MY FRIENDS WHO HAVE READ BY BOOKS LAST WEEK!!

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SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP IS ALL ABOUT A MASTERFUL CONSISTENCY AROUND FUNDAMENTALS!!

The quality of your life comes down to the quality of your relationships. With your loved one, with your self, your customers, with your suppliers. Commit to insanely great relationships and you will have an insanely great life.

And being a great human connector is pretty easy stuff. Remember, successful relationships is all about a masterful consistency around fundamentals.

The following six First Principle are profoundly simple and yet simply profound – and is not that the case for all great truths?

  • Be the first one to say hello, namaste or whatever may be appropriate when you meet another person. In other words, be kind first which takes courage, because we are all scared of rejection.
  • Smile a lot. It is one of best ways to have someone open up to you. Remember, we make lasting impressions on people within the first few minutes of meeting them.
  • Use people’s name. This is really important. It shows that you care, and is a mark of respect.
  • Look people in the eye when you speak to them.
  • Offer honest compliments. Praise is free. Never miss an opportunity to celebrate and elevate another person, whether at work or at home. You will connect with the best within them. And then they will give you their best. Leave people feeling better than you found them.
  • Treat everyone like royalty. And I do mean everyone; it scares me when someone is really nice to me but rude to a waiter- no consistency there. Behave as if you will never see them again.

Master these First Principles and you will get to your mountaintop more quickly than you can ever imagine!!

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LIFE CHANGING BOOKS FOR MY WORDPRESS BOOK LOVER FRIENDS DURING TURBULENT TIMES!!

 

I hope you are doing well and are staying both safe n productive while you are spending more time at home. While many others are streaming movies,we hope you spend much of this time involved in your growth and development. So i am giving my all those e books available at Amazon’s kindle store(link given below each book)

Reading these books will boost your imagination and help you elevate-and achieve-your goals. These books will shift yr paradigm( the mental programme that has almost exclusive control over your habitual behavior)

Sit back,relax, and enjoy the Paradigm Shift!!

Choice is yours!!

Cheers!

WHAT DO YOU THINK IS YOUR HIGHEST FREEDOM??

I think-to choose our attitude. You?

One of my favourite books is ‘ Man’s Search for Meaning. written by Victor Frank, an Austrian Psychotherapist who survived confinement in Nazi concentration camp. So many of those around him perished. They lost hope. They fell into despair, then death!

He managed to get through the ordeal by applying what I believe is our highest human freedom: OUR ABILITY TO CHOOSE HOW WE RESPOND TO AND PROCESS ANY EVENT THAT HAPPENS TO US.

We can look for some good or we can become haunted by the bad. Choice is ours!

In my view everything can be taken from a man EXCEPT ONE THING, the last of human freedoms to choose one’s attitude to a given set of circumstances, to choose one’s way.

SUCH A SUPERB AND BRILLIANT ‘OPTION’ TO ALL OF US!!

lOVE IT!

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