DO YOU FIND IT DIFFICULT TO TAKE THE RIGHT ACTION? WHY? Read on…

We all take action everyday in our personal and professional life. but how do we actually know whether our action was right or wrong!!

In my view the authenticity of action is determined by the spirit or motive behind the action. Purity of motive or intention is a clear test of right action. It may also happen that our action may not meet with immediate success even if our intention is noble. Yet, such intention generates tremendous spirit and goodwill. Any action born out of good intention… such as compassion… is rarely a wrong action.

This reminds me a story which may bring out the truth I want to share with you all and you may or may not decide to make it a bench mark when you take your future actions:

A soldier named Vijay Singh asked his commanding officer if he could go to the battlefield to rescue his friend who had not returned from the battle. The officer said, “There is no point in looking for your friend, he is probably dead. Besides, it is dangerous to go in the field now as the enemy may kill you too.” In spite of the officer’s reluctance, Vijay went in search of his friend. After an hour he came back seriously wounded with the dead body of his friend on his shoulders. The commanding officer fumed, “ I told you  not to venture out on your own, we not only lost your friend in the battle, we will lose you too! Was it worth acting that way?’ the mortally wounded soldier said, “My action was right sir!!

When I reached the battlefield, my friend was still alive. And all he could say to me was, VIJAY, I KNEW YOU WOULD COME!!”

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Who am I to tell you or give message on this subject. I would rather leave it to your judgement and invite your comments. You decide- what Vijay Singh did with a purity of motive or intention- was his action RIGHT?

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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HOW TO HAVE A MIND OF YOUR OWN AND THE CONVICTION TO BACK IT!!

We all have our own stories to tell about weird questions at job interview.But have you heard about how Thomas Alva Edison interviewed people who wanted to work with him? That’s an interesting story there!

After the initial round of questions,if Edison came across a  bright candidate,he would take him out to dinner before making up his mind on whether to hire him.The interview would continue over dinner,and when the food arrived,Edison would take a bite and remark, ‘I think this needs more salt!’. And then he would watch the candidate.

If the candidate added salt before tasting the food he would not be hired. However, if the candidate tasted the food and then decided if salt needed to be added ,Edison would hire him. Edison knew that people who easily believed what other people had to say,or made assumptions without first- hand knowledge or experience, would not be able to look afresh at problems and find innovative solution.They would have closed mind. Edison was looking for people with a mind of their own and the conviction to back it.

We all know people whose potential and dreams remained unrealized because they did not have the conviction to back their instincts.They chose a line of study or a career simply because someone else said it was best for them. They did not chase their passion just because someone said it was doomed, it would not work. In many cases,they gave up even without trying, assuming they could not do it-simply because someone else had said it could not be done.We all have had great ideas but not all of us have gone on to work on them and make them come to life.They later discover that someone else did exactly what we had in mind and found great success.

Do you own things? Make mistakes. Live on  the edge. Chase your dreams. Don’t just go by just what other people tell you. That may be a safe option but it is unlikely to get you the success you deserve.

GO FOR IT. AND YES, DON’T BLINDLY ADD THE SALT IN YOUR FOOD!

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Have an independent and innovative thinking and your own mind.

HOW TO HAVE STRONG BIAS FOR ACTION!! DO YOU HAVE IT?

LEADERS JUST DO IT!!

May I ask you a simple question  to help you put on action.There are three monkeys sitting on a tree branch stretching out over a small river.One of the monkeys decides to jump into the river. How many monkeys are left on the tree?

Did I hear you say, ‘Two’?

Wrong.The right answer is three. You would agree,the monkey only made the decision to jump into the river.He did not actually jump! What  is true for those monkeys is probably true for all of us too. We take decisions and make resolutions.But for some reasons,we don’t follow through with action.An intent without action is really quite useless.Getting started-taking that first step-is often the master key to success.

Great leaders have a strong bias for action. Do you find yourself struggling to take action on your plans and intentions?

Well,in order to help you move from intent to action,given below is a three-point programme.From good to great.

1-Whatever be your goal take the first step,however small. Until you take that first step,your mind does not believe you.  You need to signal yourself that you mean business. Commit to taking action,immediately. Today. Now.

2-As the Johnnie walker advertisement keeps reminding us a journey of a thousand mile begins with a single step. Sometimes the task ahead looks so enormous that we feel overwhelmed and don’t do anything about it. So break that up into smaller sub-tasks, and suddenly, you will find something that is practical and doable.

3-Visualize your success.As I always say,if you can see it in your mind,you can hold it in your hand. Think of the pleasure, not the pain. If you want to acquire an MBA degree at a premier school and plan to devote three hours a day to studying, don’t think about missing the cricket game on television or not being able to go out for that Saturday night bash. Think instead of the job that you could get after your MBA, the reward that it would bring, the dream that would get realized.

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1- Every morning,write down a list of things that need to be done that day.

2-Just do them.

                   IS THIS NOT SIMPLE?

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

 

 

 

A CHANGE IN PERCEPTION BRINGS ABOUT CHANGE IN REALITY!!

The goal of any change process is the discovery of reality.I want to share with you the story of a farmer in china that will tell you an amazing transformation of a person.

A poor farmer in china was in great distress.He was a peace loving sort of person who had to share a single room with four noisy room-mates.Besides,there were a couple of stray dogs and a few noisy chickens and ducks in the neighbourhood that made it difficult for him to sit quietly or meditate.

Depressed that he could not get over this noise pollution,he travelled a long distance to his Zen master to find a solution to his problem.

Listening to his tale of woe,the compassionate  Master said:If you listen to me carefully,I can try to help you out.” The farmer was all ears.The Master said:  “Go back to your village and invite inside your room the stray dogs,the chickens as well as the ducks.Let them all stay with you for a week besides your four friends.Then come back to me.” Although he was shocked and surprised by his Master’s strange advice, the farmer reluctantly agreed to do as he was asked.

The farmer came back after a week.He was extremely in a bad shape;his hair was disheveled,his clothes were torn in shreds,his eyes were red from lack of sleep and his body smelt of animal dung.He looked tearfully at his Master and said, ‘the experience was worse than hell-those animals and birds and their week long company…..let my fate not befall anyone!

The Master said: “Everything will be all right. Just go back to your village and leave the animals outside your door-where they were before.Then,come back to me again after seven days.” The farmer again did what he was told.But this time when he came back-there was a bright radiance in his face.His eyes were shining and he told the Master, “I have never known or felt so much peace before. Just my four friends and I.No animals in the room.We all slept well.And my meditation was deep.”

Many years later,the farmer himself became a Master.When people asked him how he had found peace,he said. “the journey was indeed memorable.It was like taking great pain to break into your own house by climbing a ladder and  smashing a windowpane-and realizing later that the door of the house was open.All you needed to do was to pull in the door towards you rather than push it.”

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The farmer in the story discovers something that was always present as reality.Peace always existed as a possibility in his own mind.In the process of this discovery he transforms himself.Likewise, peace always exists in our own mind,all you need is to change your perception and there you are!!

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

YOU MAY BE IN A HURRY, BUT YOU SHOULD STILL HAVE TIME FOR OTHERS.

Hold the door open!

Has this happened to you before? Probably,yes! As you walk towards the door of an office or a hotel,the person walking in  front holds the door open for you.Do you remember how good it made you feel- if only for that moment? The other person holding the door open for you may have been a complete stranger-but that one act leaves an unforgettable impression in your mind and made you feel you had a  caring friend.

Is it not surprising that although we all feel good when someone holds the door open for us,we seldom show such gesture  for others? WHY SO?

It is probably because we are all preoccupied with ourselves and obsessed with getting ahead.I would like to share a life changing lessons they don’t teach you in any school: ‘Hold the Door Open’.

We can divide this world into two types of people. Those who push open the door,walk through and let it slam behind them.That is about 97 percent of the population.And there is the 3 percent who open the door and hold it open to allow the next person to walk through.Learn to do that,and you too could join the select 3 percent club.

Holding the door open is not just an act of courtesy,it is a mindset and it reflects on your UPBRINGING.It says you care for people,that you are not so caught up in your own progress that you have scant regards for others.It demonstrate that while you may be in a hurry,you still have time for others.’Hold the Door Open’does not merely make other people feel good.It makes you feel good too.

The amazing habit of holding the door open translates into a behavior of helping and caring.While travelling in a AC coach of a train,when you keep the glass door open for a co-passenger  behind you,its  a good gesture. At the buffet table,you pick up a plate and offer it to a lady behind you in the queue and the smile you see on her is just priceless.These are all small gestures,but they make a huge difference.Hold the Door Open marks you out as someone special.

Try it.Become  an ‘Hold the Door Open’ person.Winning in life is less about naked ambition and more about helping other people win.Someone has rightly said,’Its nice to be important.But it is more important to be nice!’

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MAKE A BEGINNING TODAY.HOLD THE DOOR OPEN!

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

Saying sorry a million times may never completely undone the damage.

For those of you,especially our international readers,who may not know Mani Shankar Ayyar-I would like to give his brief introduction.Mani Shankar Ayyar is an Indian politician and a Member of Parliament(Rajya Sabha) from Indian National Congress Party,He is known for his impulsive and controversial statements.On 7th Dec 2017,he said in his speech that Prime Minister of India,Mr Narendra Modi was a ‘NEECH’ person which was interpreted as  a person of low caste.And the situation turned so ugly among Indian political circle(especially with the present ruling party) over  this derogatory statement that Mr  Ayyar had to immediately apologize for this act.

When we are angry,we say things that leave a scar.And no amount of  apologizing later can ever  remove those scars,Remember that!’

It is a lesson we would all do well to take to heart. Keep your cool. Don’t lose your temper.Pause and decide. you will thus see a significant improvement in your relationship and command goodwill of others. People will like you more,they will respect you a lot more, and you will find that hardly anybody gets angry with you.

More importantly,be careful what you say when you are angry. Choose your words with care.Those words can leave a permanent scar. They may be said in the heat of moment but the damage could be permanent. While you can apologize profusely and say sorry a million times,the damage is never completely undone. Saying ‘sorry’ is like using one of those eraser attached to the end of the pencil. It is easy to use,it feels like you have erased what was written but the marks remain on the sheet of the paper for ever.

In the era of instant messaging and on-the-go emails,it has become more important to watch your words.If you are upset and want to shoot off an angry email or message,HOLD IT!  Draft a mail perhaps-but leave it as a draft. Don’t hit the ‘send’ button whilst you are still angry. Pause! Tell yourself that you will take a look at it the next morning. Chances are,with a cooler head the next morning,you will realize the folly of sending out the angry  email. It does not matter if you are in the right or think your anger is justified.IF YOU LOSE YOUR COOL,YOU SIMPLY LOSE.Period

So, the next time you are angry and want to say something,like Mr Ayyar,take a deep breadth. Pause. And may be say nothing at all. Trust me, I do it when I face a similar situation and mostly I am in control.

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Starting today, resolve to keep your cool. Watch what you say and see the difference. You may fail initially but with a conscious effort, you will have a better control over yourself with passage of time.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

THE LAW OF ONE-POINTED ATTENTION!!

Why it is so powerful?

Have you ever heard of one-pointed attention? What is this after all? Imagine a martial artist who is about to break a solid brick with his bare hand. Have you ever thought what does this man do? Well, he stands in one place and focuses his attention on the central part of the brick. His intention is to cut through the solid resistance of the brick  with the power of his hand. He draws his whole mental and physical energy to the edge of his hand. The soft hand becomes as sharp and tough as sword. One-pointed attention channels the vast energy of his mind in the desired direction.

We have to recognize the fact that  it is neither information nor physical energy that gives real power. Power comes from undivided and one-point attention, as is evident in the following story, which I want to share with all of you.

A businessman was driving in his expensive car through a highway in Dubai. Suddenly,the car’s engine stopped.The Businessman tried his hand at the engine.No effect. He decided to walk to the nearest town to get a mechanic. The ragged mechanic came,opened the bonnet and had a good,long look. Then he took out his hammer and hit gently on a small component of the engine. The car regained its life.

The Businessman asked,”How much I pay you?”

The mechanic replied, “that would be a thousand doller,Sir!”

“What! A thousand dollars just for hammering once?”

“Yes Sir,the break-up is as follows:

One dollar for giving you the information about the problem.A couple of dollar for the energy I spent in striking with this hammer.And nine hundred ninety seven dollar for the one -pointed attention that tells me where to hit and with what force.”

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One point attention is priceless. Ancient Indian sages defined an attentive mind as ‘ekagra’,which literally means one-point. You can achieve such miracles by using law of one-pointed attention.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.