GOD WILL NEVER FORGIVE YOU FOR THIS ACT!!

STOP ELDER ABUSE!

PLEASE REMEMBER THE WAY YOU TREAT YOUR ELDERLY PARENTS NOW, IS THE WAY YOUR CHILDREN WILL TREAT YOU WHEN YOU BECOME AN ELDERLY PARENT IN FUTURE.

I have an entirely different thoughts and approach to this matter.

An elderly parent is someone who should be in the age group of 65 years and is possibly sailing through the last one or two decades of his life journey. In all these 65 years of his age, he has acquired certain attitude, habits, temper, behavior, outlook which is rock solid and cannot be changed at this final stage of his life.

So, if this cannot be changed, we should be willing to change as his son or daughter. In other words, there is no need to handle an elderly parent’s bad temper. Instead, you need to handle your own temper and patience to pave a way for a healthy relationship with your parents and prove yourself a worthy son or daughter at least during their last few years of life left for them.

YOUR ELDERLY PARENTS DESERVE TO LIVE A DIGNIFIED AND RESPECTFUL LIFE AND YOU OWE IT TO THEM- UNDER ALL CIRCUMSTANCES.

To provide them a life, full of dignity, grace and respect – you need to watch your own temper and act in the following manner:

  1. Recognize and accept that they cannot change their habits and temper at the age of 65+.
  2. Love your elderly parents for whatever they are. If you love them, you can easily overcome most of your difficulties in dealing with their bad temper.
  3. Live with the mindset that since you cannot change their behavior, it will be prudent to change your own behavior.
  4. Always remember, your own son or daughter is observing you carefully (even in subconscious) and when you become an elderly parent – They will treat you exactly the way you have treated your own elderly parents.

YES !! THIS IS LAW OF NATURE.

WHAT YOU GIVE IS RETURNED TO YOU IN THE LAST PHASE OF YOUR LIFE, IF NOT EARLY.

I have seen this happening. Please remember this.

  1. 5. Age and illness can intensify longstanding personality traits in some unpleasant ways: an irritable person may become enraged, an important person demanding and impossible to please.

Please try to intensify the cause of anger. In most elderly individuals, behavior are symptoms of distress. The aging process in and of itself sometimes brings about anger, as senior’s vent frustrations about getting old, having chronic pain,losing friends,having money issues,being incontinent- all the undignified things can happen to elderly parents at this age.

With the aging process, our parents do not have control. As a care giver, the best thing you can do is not to take it personally. Focus on the positive, ignore the negative, and take a break from care giving when you can by finding some respite. You might also want to consider in some cases, calling in a home health nurse.

  1. 6. I know a family where an elderly parents were staying under the care of their youngest son and overall, they were passing off a happy life, except a few bad experiences. The second son of elderly parents had his own vested interest In the village and he compelled his parents to come to the village on a clear promise that he would look after his old parents there. When he got his work done through the help of his elderly parents, he started neglecting them completely. This matter did not end here. Son also started hitting his old parents- this was unbelievable and shocking. The father went through this physical and mental torture for nearly four months and ultimately lost his life.

It is my humble appeal and request to all the sons that please never, never, never do such cowardly acts in your life.

GOD WILL NEVER FORGIVE YOU, AND YOU WILL HAVE TO PAY ITS PRICE IN YOUR LIFE TIME.

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KNOW YOUR WEAKNESS AND KNOW THAT YOU KNOW YOUR WEAKNESS!!

This Title reminds me the following life lessons we better always remember.

There are three types of people we often come across:

1- He who does not know and He does not know that He does not know.

2- He who knows and does not know that He knows.

3-He who knows  and knows that He knows.

MY MESSAGE TO YOU

  • Stay away from this person under heading 1. He can be dangerous for you.
  • Knock at his door and awake thIS person under heading 2.
  • Follow this wise person under heading 3- he can change your life for better.

NOW,YOU DECIDE YOUR POSITION IN THESE THREE CATEGORIES.

ENOUGH SAID!!

PL GIVE ME YOUR FEEDBACK!!

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UNBELIEVABLE! UNFORTUNATE! UNFORGETTABLE! CAN YOU EVER THINK OF LOSING YOUR LIFE OVER 2 RUPEE CHANGE.

YES, OVER JUST “RUPEE 2” CHANGE!! CAN YOU BELIEVE IT?

Well, whether you believe it or not, but it’s a true story. An argument over change of rupee 2 has cost the life pf a 26- year old Mumbai boy. Vijay Kumar (name changed) BBA graduate who had recently taken up a job in an accountancy firm, was returning home after flying down from goa, his first air trip.

He was very fond of flying. On a Saturday morning, he took a Shatabdi train from Mumbai to Mudgaon and after being in Goa for a few hours, took 11 pm Goa-Mumbai flight. At the airport, he took an autorickshaw for home. The unfortunate incident took place after he alighted.

Around 1 a.m. on Monday, Vijay arrived home with a haversack and knocked on the door. His father opened the door and Vijay asked his father a change of Rs 200 , so that he could pay the fare. His father gave him the money and he went down. When he did not come back after 5 minutes, his father got worried and he went down to see what the matter was. There was an argument going on between Vijay and the auto driver.

It transpired later that the fare had come to Rs 172. Vijay had given the driver Rs 200 and the driver was supposed to return Rs 28. But he returned only Rs 20.

The two were arguing. The auto driver was saying that either vijay give an extra Rs 2 (that is driver was ready to give Rs 10 more, making the return amount Rs 30 ) or forget about Rs 8 . During the argument, Vijay told the driver to keep Rs 8  and started walking back towards his home. But then, the auto driver passed a sarcastic remark and also uttered something abusive. This sparked a rage in Vijay. He chased the auto and caught hold of an iron rod. In the process, the auto toppled with Vijay coming under it.

At this, Vijay’s father rushed towards the auto. Seeing Vijay’s father coming towards him, the auto driver fled the scene instead of coming to the injured youth’s help. Bizarrely, the driver ran straight to the police station and complained that he was being beaten up. Meanwhile, Vijay’s father and a few neighbors took Vijay to a nearby hospital, where he was declared dead within a few hours of admission.

Doctors said Vijay suffered a head injury when he fell. Also, when  auto fell on him, this injury got compounded, apart from his suffering other injuries.

Vijay is survived by his parents and a younger brother. The nature of his death has shaken everybody.

IT IS A LIVE EXAMPLE OF HOW THE SPARK OF A SUDDEN RAGE CAN CUT SHORT SOMEBODY’S LIFE BECAUSE OF SUCH CIRCUMSTANCES.

THINK ABOUT IT!! THINK ABOUT IT!!

I WOULD EXPECT YOUR COMMENTS.

SHOULD THESE MYTH INFLUENCE YOU MARRIED LIFE??

“To build a good marriage, you need trust, love and acceptance. to build a bad one, you need dumb rules and unreal expectations.”

                                                      – Chirag Mohanty Samal

I totally agree with this proverb. if you are a happy married couple, you should agree that there is no single formula for a successful marriage. what works for you may not necessarily work for your friend. Your relatives may sound very sure about the formula, to a report published in a leading national daily in 2015, that in cities like Mumbai, Delhi, Bangalore, Kolkota. The number of divorce applications has doubled and even tripled. Reasons: Incompatibility issues to abuse.

This proves that conventional wisdom is wrong on what it takes to make a marriage work. A lot of rules have been spoken about;

  • Keep peace at all costs.
  • ‘Have a kid, it will solve problems.’
  • ‘Don’t refuse sex.’

But these are based on unfounded optimism or fear.

NEITHER IS GOOD FOR A LONG PARTNERSHIP

In my view, its now time to ignore these popular marriage myths and find out what counsellors and relationship experts have to tell us about building a lasting bond.

  • ‘ Having kids can strengthen your relationship’.

– Do your parents and in-laws insist you to have kids? This argument then may be familiar to you. But if you are facing a serious problem in your marriage, you should refrain from planning a baby with the hope that things will get better. As per a reputed clinical psychologist, marriage and relationship counsellor, “To have kids does not change a person’s basic nature or the basis of a relationship. It may work temporarily, but bringing up the children could be difficult and the moment the initial hubbub quietens, the troublesome behavior that was being suppressed will resurface”.

  • ‘Sex is the basis of a good marriage’

– It is true that a good sex life can fasten intimacy and lay the foundation for a strong relationship, it cant make up for the other crucial deficiencies. As per a clinical psychologist, “Sex is one of the many important factors in a contemporary marriage. However, it is love that keeps a marriage intact. Sex is only the catalyst”. So don’t worry much if you have not been as active in this area as you were at the beginning of the relationship.

  • ‘Don’t have any secrets’

– Honesty is a virtue, but so is discretion. There are certain things that we should better leave unsaid. “Every minute detail need not be shared, you never know how he might react to things he has not expected”. You are under no obligation to dish to tell your partner details about post relationships or reveal a secret that is not yours to share.

  • ‘Avoid Arguments.

– When two people live together, there are bound to be differences. When these conflicts so arise, it is important to speak up and not bottle up your feelings. As a matter of fact, it is healthy to argue with your partner. It only shows that you communicate well and neither of you is constantly making emotional COMPROMISES.

My Message to you:

BE OPEN TO NEW PERCEPTIONS.

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WHY DO YOU HESITATE TO SAY-‘NO’?

“WHY DO YOU HESITATE TO SAY-‘NO’?

LEARN TO SAY “NO”

WE HAVE LIMITS TO OUR TIME, ENERGY AND INTERESTS.

Like saying YES is important in life, saying NO is also equally important, so if you have learnt the art of saying NO– you will rarely be over committed or over extended.

  • You will never have to break a promise.
  • You will never have to compromise.
  • You will never burn out.
  • You will be able to give 100 % on your terms, not someone else’s.
  • You will function at your best and have a little left.
  • You will function at you best and have a little left in reserve.

 

We had a salesman in our corporate marketing group who could never say “NO” in meetings to decide who would call on specific companies, he was always raising hand, saying, “I will take that one”. His files bulged with prospects. The funny thing was, he could sell when he gave himself enough time to do the job properly. But he spread himself too thin.

He ended up doing the company and himself a disservice. The sales he made could not erase all the opportunities that fell through the cracks. He would have been much better off saying “NO”. By taking on less work, he would have accomplished much more.

MESSAGE: IF THERE IS A NEED TO SAY ‘NO’- SAY-NO!!

“YOU CAN BE A GOOD PERSON WITH A KIND HEART AND STILL SAY NO.”

LOVE TO WIN BUT DON’T HATE TO LOSE !

“AFTER ALL, WHEN WE LOSE, IT MAKES US STRONG ENOUGH TO FACE  ANOTHER CHALLENGE YET TO COME.”

 

  • KNOW WHICH BATTLE YOU HAVE TO WIN:

NOBODY wins all the time-every point in a tennis match or every hole in a golf tournament.No business person pulls off a coup on every deal and even the star performer salesman come up empty hand many times.One of the skills that distinguishes a winner is an instinct for knowing when he can afford to lose and when he must win.

THAT ALLOWS HIM TO FOCUS ON HIS EFFORTS:

Choose your must wins with care.Concentrate on the essentials and plot your course carefully.

NEVER BE DISTRACTED BY FRIENDS,ENEMIES OR YOUR EMOTIONS.

  • LOVE TO WIN-BUT DON’T HATE TO LOSE:

The difference is subtle but loving to win and hating to lose are not the same thing.One is driven by joy.The other is inspired by fear.In thoroughbred,racing champion’s are born to run.There is a sheer animal vigor in finishing first.Nothing interferes with that single goal.The  same priority of intention and clarity of purpose is found in humans,skilled in the art of winning.Hating to lose muddles the water.Fear breed  misjudgement.Instead of concentrating 100% on your goal,you waste efforts worrying about what other man is doing.

HATING TO LOSE CAN LEAD TO BIG MISTAKE OF WINNING A 100 MILLION BID BUT LOSING A 200 MILLION IN THE PROCESS.

DO YOU GET ME AND MY MESSAGE?

  • BE RELENTLESS-NOT MALICIOUS:

IN pre-fight interviews,boxers make it a point of how much they hate each other.Whether this hype or whether the men really do need to work up a personal dislike to be able to go out and pummel each other-I don’t presume to say.Even in most head-to-head sports,you are not battling an option.you are matching something  you do against something he does.Consider tennis.you hit a shot,your opponent hits a shot-now what is it you are actually hitting?The ball-not the other player.

  • DEPERSONALIZE THE CONTEST:

Bjorn Borg, wimbeldon champion,was a master at this.His icy court demeanor was his own brand of relentlessness.He was there to do one thing and ONE THING ONLY-to hit the ball perfectly.Everything that appeared on his side of the net.What happened on the other side and who it happened to was simply not his concern!!

We stress this because,in situations where the contest is more abstract,there is tendency to over personalize the competition.If you are General Motors,you don’t combat imports by taking a crowbar to a Honda-you do it by outperforming the other side.

PERSONALIZE  THE CONTEST AND EGO START TO CONFLICT WITH SOUND PROFESSIONAL JUDGEMENT.

 

 

TAKE ACTION

STOP LIVING IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE-WAITING TO
START WHEN EVERYTHING WILL FALL IN PLACE

                                                 ⇓

                                    TAKE ACTION

 

“The distance between Dream and Reality is called ACTION”

Think about it!! Take your first step forward!!

You cannot succeed in life,unless you begin and end.Getting started or taking that first step is utmost important.Nothing else matters.Always remember that the journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step. TAKE THAT FIRST STEP TODAY!!

There is a great substance in that old saying  that old saying that you don’t need to be Great to get started,but you have to get started to be Great.you may have brilliant ideas and plans,and we may not doubt its intent.But all these things have no meaning,if you don’t make a beginning first.We often hesitate to take that first step and we live in our comfort zone-waiting to start when everything fall in place.

WE FORGET THAT EVERYTHING SELDOM FALLS INTO PLACE!!

If i may say,if there is anything which is the biggest contributor to stress in the workplace,it is surely UNFINISHED task.Learn to finish task.Get rid of them.If something important and worth has to be done,it must be done at first.All successful people make it a habit to begin and end what they have started.This is their most important traits!!

SO,IF YOU HAVE BIG IDEA OR SECRET PLAN-TAKE THAT FIRST STEP TODAY!!!

Want to become a Guitarist? Buy your guitar today!! Make a habit to prepare a list of unfinished work and your TO-DO-LIST.you must be determined to complete at least one of these tasks today!!

JUST DO IT and see the difference.

Life will begin to make a lot more sense,and YOU WILL BE ABLE TO COVER THE DISTANCE BETWEEN DREAM AND REALITY.

GOOD LUCK!!