PEOPLE DO NOT RESIST CHANGE.THEY RESIST BEING CHANGED!!

A change of heart in a human being is possible only when there is a change in the internal dialogue of the person. We cannot and infact should not compel people to change. We should merely induce the change process by changing the internal dialogue within the person.

I want to share with you a story from Buddha’s life that will clearly demonstrate how you can possibly transform people.

When Buddha was alive,a man came to him and started accusing him of spreading dangerous knowledge.He said, “you teach people to beg and to do nothing.You are doing a great harm to the society,” the man was out of his head with angry outburst of words.Buddha listened to him in complete silence. When the man had let off all his steam Buddha said,” if you have finished speaking, can I ask you a question?” The man angrily said,”Go ahead and ask what you have to.” Buddha said, “Imagine that you had brought a gift for a friend but your friend refuses to accept the gift.To whom does this gift now belong?”

The man said, “Pure commonsense! The gift now belongs to the one who brought it- he should take it back!” Buddha became silent again. Puzzled by  Buddha’s question,this man went on his way back.While he was travelling back he bagan to have a new dialogue in his mind about the gift of anger that he had brought to Buddha who silently refused to accept it.This transformed the man and he ran back to Buddha to seek forgiveness,

So,if you want to change people allow them space and time to grow in their self-knowledge.

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THE ONLY WAY TO CHANGE PEOPLE IS TO ENABLE THEM TO GROW!!

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

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Whatever happens, happens for the best!! DEVELOP THE ‘THIS IS GOOD’ ATTITUDE.

 

There is an old saying if something happens as per your wish, It is good, but if something does not happen as per your wish, this is also good- because, this is wish of God!!

So, it is pointless worrying about outcomes you cannot control or change. Focus instead on what you can change… when one door shuts, another door opens. This reminds me this African folk tale about a king and his friend.

The king’s friend was an optimistic and cheerful person. Whenever something happened- good or bad- the friend would remark, “this is good!”, they would often go on hunting expeditions and the friend would help prepare the king’s rifles. One day, the friend made a mistake with one of the guns. When the king took that gun and pulled the trigger, his thumb got blown off. Seeing what happened, the friend remarked, “This is good!”, that made the king very angry, ‘No this is not good’, he said and sent his friend off to prison.

After a few years, the king was out in a place where he should have not ventured into. The cannibals living there caught him, before throwing him into the huge earthen pot that was being readied for cooking. It was then, someone  noticed that king had no thumb. As it happened, those cannibals were superstitious lot. They never ate anyone who was less than whole. So, the king was set  free.

As he headed back to his palace, the king recalled the incident when he had lost his thumb. He then realized that his friend had been right in saying, ‘This is good!’. Losing a thumb that day had actually saved his life. He immediately went to the prison and set his friend free. He narrated his story to his friend and apologized. ‘you were right. I should not have put you in prison’, said the kind. ‘That was bad’!

‘No, no. This is good’ said the friend.

‘what do you mean’ asked the king. How could sending you to jail have been good?’

‘don’t you see?’ said the friend. ‘ if I had not been in jail, I would then have been out hunting with you. And the cannibals would then have killed and eaten me!’

So, the next time you find things are not going your way, think of the king’s thumb. And whatever happens, just say ‘This is good!’ you will suddenly find the world a better place. And you will discover how empowering that can be. Instead of playing victim and wallowing in self-pity, the ‘This is good!’ attitude compels you to take ownership and do things that can be life-changing.

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When you say, ‘this is bad’, the mind gets conditioned to look for difficulty in opportunity and when you say ‘this is good’, the mind looks for opportunity in difficulty, and therein is born a winner or a loser.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

 

 

HOPE INFUSES LIFE IN US. BUT HOPE WITHOUT ACTION IS A DEAD BODY!

I want to tell you the importance of a vital ingredient no leader can do without. HOPE.

Great leaders never lose hope. They remain optimists and recognize that their state of mind is contagious. If they have hope, so does their team. If they give up, well, so does their team.

Hope is a theme that resonates in what is described as the greatest cricket match ever played: The one day international match between South Africa and Australia in Johannesburg in March 2006.

At the time, the record for the highest score in a 50-over game was held by Sri Lanka. In 1996, they had scored 396 for 5 versus the mimows- Kenya. Interestingly enough, three teams had scored more than 390 but no team had managed to go beyond 400! It was believed that 400 was that invisible barrier- a barrier no team could break!

On March 12, 2006, in the fifth one-day international between South Africa and Australia and what has been seen as unthinkable- and what no team had ever done until then. They went past the 400- run barrier and posted a total of 434 for 9 – the ‘unbreakable’ barrier was finally broken.

Can you guess what happened next? In reply, South Africa made 438 for 9- and won that game. Clearly, once Australia had broken the mental barrier that no team could score over 400, It was easy for South Africa to do it too. A record that had stood for ten long years was broken- TWICE ON THE SAME DAY, And that’s not all. Sri Lanka broke the barrier 3 months later. South Africa did it again. Suddenly, almost magically, the barrier was gone. In fact, since that record-breaking day in Johannesburg, the 400-run barrier has been breached six time already.

It all boils down to your own belief as I always say, if you can see it in your mind, you can hold it in your hand. Once you believe something is possible, the rest becomes easy. Belief is the vital first step towards achievement.

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Keep hope alive. Take charge. Hope is what ensures we keep going when all seems lost. But hope alone is never enough. You need to take responsibility. AND YOU FINALLY NEED TO TAKE ACTION.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

OUR OWN ACTIONS ARE REASONS FOR OUR ANXIETIES AND FEARS!!

Sounds familiar? Do you find it difficult to trust other people? Reality is- we often distrust other people and suspect them of doing things that often mirror our own actions.

Maybe the story of a boy and his marbles make you understand better what I want to tell you. It’s a simple story about two children- WITH A MESSAGE FOR ALL GROWN UPS.

A Little boy and a girl were playing near their house. The boy has a pocketful of marbles, while the girl had some candy. As the boy kept playing with the marbles, he constantly eyed the candy in the girls hands. His mouth was watering. He made her an offer. He would give her all his marbles in exchange for the candy, the girl happily agreed.

The boy slyly hid the biggest and the most beautiful marble in his pocket and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him ALL the candy as promised.

The girl, that night, played for a while with the marbles before going to bed. And she slept soundly. The boy, however, just could not sleep. He kept wondering if the girl had hidden the best candy and kept it with her- just as he had done with his marbles.

SHE SLEPT WELL BUT HE DIDN’T!

The point is when we face a trust issue, we normally tend to believe that the problem is with the other person.But often the problem lies in us,not them. The way we see the world treating us is usually a reflection of the way we treat other people, YES, THIS IS A FACT!!

Maybe you should ask yourself if you are the one hiding the best marble. The next time you find yourself doing a candy-for-marble swap, remember to play a fair game KEEP YOUR WORD IN TOTALITY. GIVE. You might think you have got a little less in the bargain than what you could have.

BUT YOU KNOW WHAT?  YOU WILL HAVE A SOUND SLEEP!!

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KEEP YOUR WORD. GIVE. SLEEP WELL WITH A CLEAR CONSCIENCE.

IT IS VERY SATISFYING !!

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

MAGIC TOUCH OF THESE TECHNOLOGY MASTER

I was recently reading about a few life changing apps that help you sleep better, eat healthier and get well sooner. I would like to share it with those of you who may have missed such magical apps.

  • HEADSPACE

This app makes meditation simple for us. You can start with “Take 10 programme” which helps you meditate for 10 minutes daily for a period of 10 days. It will allow you to reduce stress, stay focused and sleep better. The app is free to download on ios and android.

The most interesting and important aspects about this app is- it also guides you on breathing techniques that will help you feel a whole lot calmer.

  • HEALTHIANS:

Backed by cricketer Yuvraj Singh, this online healthcare marketplace helps you find affordable healthcare, using quality and price transparency. It collects information and diagnostic labs near you, and makes your medical records available online. If it comes across a concerning parameter in your medical report, the app will also recommend a future course of action and a suitable medical specialist for consultation, if required.  It is available for free on android.

The best part of this app is – It lets you do tele-consultations with leading doctors and gives you advises by in-house nutritionists.

  • SLEEP CYCLE ALARM CLOCK:

The app helps you clock in eight hours of sleep. It examines your sleep patterns by monitoring movements to detect when you are in your deepest sleep. Thereafter, it adapts to your rhythm, and wake you up at your lights state, so you wake up feeling refreshed. Its free with in-app purchases on ios and costs about 65 Rs on android.

It is exciting to know that it collects your movements through the night and plots a graph to show you how well you slept.

  • SHOPWELL:

Have you ever felt puzzled by the gamut of health food available at the super market? Or did you wonder exactly how calorie-rich a dish you just ordered will be? This app will come handy at moments like these. All you have to do is key in your height, weight, age and information on any allergies. The app will score every food item (out if 100) on the basis of how healthy it is for you. Did you get a high score? Dig in! The app is free to download on ios and android.

If It finds your entry to be too calorific, the app will recommend similar items that are healthier options.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

DO YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY, WEALTHY AND HEALTHY? IF YES- FOLLOW THESE 10 THINGS !!

 

Who does not want to be happy, wealthy and healthy? Obviously, everybody want to be happy, wealthy and healthy. But there is no free lunch and you have to invest time and effort to achieve it. In my view, if you have or work on these qualities, you can lead a happy, wealthy and healthy life.

  1. CONTROL YOUR ANGER:

This is the most sought after quality. You must exercise restrain and control your anger, else it may permanently damage your personal and professional life.

  1. HAVE PATIENCE:

Life has its own rules and cycle. Sometime, things happen the way you want and sometime as yet, things may not happen the way you want them to happen. It often takes time for a few or everything to happen. Have patience in such adverse situations.

  1. HAVE BACKUP PLAN:

Never take your job, business or any other source of income for granted. Things can change against you in a moment. Don’t wait for that moment to come in your life. Always have your backup plan ready to meet such contingency.

  1. LEARN TO BE CALM AND COMPOSED:

As is the universe law, you will have to undergo and face various crises at various stages of your life. Trust me, no crisis can affect your life adversely if you learn to remain calm under such situation. Believe me, storm passes away without disturbing you, since they cannot fight your calmness. To remain calm and composed in all situations, I highly recommend you to do yoga and meditation.

  1. BE TRUSTWORTHY:

This is one quality that is a MUST in anybody. You can never have a good personal and professional relationship with anybody if people cannot trust you. In fact, you cannot have any relationships at all.

  1. HAVE YOUR INTEGRITY INTACT:

Never compromise on your integrity. This is just non-negotiable.

  1. LEARN TO GIVE AND SHARE:

History always repeats itself. what you give and share with others in your life- it is returned to you at an appropriate time and God decides that timing. So, learn to have a ‘go-giving’ attitude and let it be your second nature.

    8: RESPECT MONEY:

Getting money to work for you is no different from getting people to work for you. If you don’t treat your money with respect, it will leave you. It has happened with me. so, in times of abundance, be always cautious and respectful. It may just help stretch the abundance a bit.

    9: DEPENDENCY IS A BIG NO!!

There is no harm in this. Everybody takes help from others. But there is a thin line between taking help and being dependent. Never cross this line. If you want to live a happy life, please be self-dependent in all respect.

  1. BLESSINGS OF PARENTS:

Last but not the least, believe me, it matters a lot. You need to have blessings of your parents to lead a happy, wealthy and healthy life. Trust me, I have survived the greatest crisis of my life with my parents blessings.

                                                                  ________________________

A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

HUG IS MAGICAL AND CHARISMATIC-TRY IT!!

Trust me- a minimum of six to eight hugs a day can make you feel better and behave better- Try this and see it for yourself!!

Touch can make you cry. A touch can give you HOPE! How do you comfort yourself when you are sad and in pain? For most of us, it is a hug. Touch is a primal instinct. Being hugged releases the “feel good”, harmons called oxytocin which induces feeling of trust and love. Hugging someone is a way of improving not just how you feel, but also how you behave. Hugging someone for just 30 seconds is even cool.

It has been established through research that people who inhale oxytocin would be more empathetic, trusting and wonderful in the virtuous sense of the word.

REMEMBER!! A TOUCH CAN MAKE YOU CRY. A TOUCH CAN GIVE YOU COVETED HOPE.

A TOUCH CAN HEAL!!

 

Enough said!!

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