We normally hear our parents,friends and others telling us to be fearless. While it is good not to fear anything but to fear a few things in life is also desirable. It is a balancing act that is required.
If you have seen the movie Troy, an army officer tells the General,”Sir,the army is under fear that you may punish them”. The General responds quickly something very important. “Fear can be constructive if you can manage it well”.
It is true that you manage and lead people by setting a very high example of yourself. But this is also a fact that men are managed by the FEAR of punishment. You would agree that it is because of the fear of the police,that criminals and crime rate is controlled.It is because of fear of losing the job that employees become productive. It is also only because of fear of punishment that children are controlled by parents and teachers.
However,managing someone’s fear is an skill and some guidelines on managing fear is as below:
- Be fearless yourself. Being fearless at all times could be your highest achievement.But to be totally fearless,you need to do only right things in your life. Once in a battlefield,a warrior said,”If I look directly into the eyes of the enemy just for a few seconds,my fear disappears”. In other words,you must face the challenge of life directly without depending on anything or anyone.
- Never, Never misuse fear.you can misuse the fear of your subordinates.you naturally command fear just because of being in a position of authority or power.But remember,respect cannot be demanded but commanded.you can force others to fear you through authority and the power wielded.But to win respect,you have to win the heart of the other person.If you want to check if you are a successful leader or not,try to find out if everyone is comfortable and happy when you are around.
- you must punish fairly.Punishment is unavoidable at times.However,one can punish rightly and justly.As you know,in a billiard game,if you hit the ball too hard or too soft,it won’t go into the pot.You should hit the ball with the right amount of force.Likewise,if you punish too much,you will be seen as a terror.But,if you are too soft,the work will not get done.Its a balancing act that is required.SO BE FIRM,YET CONSIDERATE.
A criminal was being sent to the gallows.As is the normal practice,he was asked what his last wish was.He replied to the shock of the jailer.”To kill my father because of whom I am going to the gallows…..”He never corrected me when I was wrong,nor did he punish me when I deserved it.So,I never had the fear of being punished and IT IS THAT FEARLESSNESS WHICH HAS TODAY BROUGHT ME TO GALLOWS.
To create fear in the mind of wrong people,to punish people when they deserve is very important-this will only benefit them.At the same time, misuse of fear must be avoided to the right people to make them fearless.
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