A change of heart in a human being is possible only when there is a change in the internal dialogue of the person. We cannot and infact should not compel people to change. We should merely induce the change process by changing the internal dialogue within the person.
I want to share with you a story from Buddha’s life that will clearly demonstrate how you can possibly transform people.
When Buddha was alive,a man came to him and started accusing him of spreading dangerous knowledge.He said, “you teach people to beg and to do nothing.You are doing a great harm to the society,” the man was out of his head with angry outburst of words.Buddha listened to him in complete silence. When the man had let off all his steam Buddha said,” if you have finished speaking, can I ask you a question?” The man angrily said,”Go ahead and ask what you have to.” Buddha said, “Imagine that you had brought a gift for a friend but your friend refuses to accept the gift.To whom does this gift now belong?”
The man said, “Pure commonsense! The gift now belongs to the one who brought it- he should take it back!” Buddha became silent again. Puzzled by Buddha’s question,this man went on his way back.While he was travelling back he bagan to have a new dialogue in his mind about the gift of anger that he had brought to Buddha who silently refused to accept it.This transformed the man and he ran back to Buddha to seek forgiveness,
So,if you want to change people allow them space and time to grow in their self-knowledge.
THE ONLY WAY TO CHANGE PEOPLE IS TO ENABLE THEM TO GROW!!