Marriage is a lifetime commitment and commitment should not be broken!!
Yes, i mean it !! Either you don’t marry and if you marry you have to accept and live with its greener and grey pastures as well. It cannot be a marriage of your convenience. Unfortunately the sanctity of this institution is losing its meaning very fast. Divorces are increasing by leaps and bounds. As a matter of fact, a recent survey on latest divorce cases indicates that it has increased 13 times in the last 5-10 years. In other words, marriage is now becoming a matter of convenience. Relations are breaking at the drop of the hat.
In the hope of a happy married life, people are jumping from ‘ONE-FRY-PAN’ to ANOTHER. They are running after a desert ‘MIRAGE’ which does not exist. They think divorcing one partner will bring happiness from a second or third partner. But it is the same never ending dissatisfaction in their first, second or third marriage. Well, there may be a few exceptions, but by and large, mostly people are unhappy in their married life. Otherwise, why the number of divorces have gone so high!! Think!
If you ask me the number of divorces have gone up so high primarily due to three reasons: People lack PATIENCE, have very high expectations from each other and do not have the right type of thinking. We take things for granted. I can tell you with conviction that if you lack in these areas, you may divorce and marry 100 times but you can never have a happy married life, because the fundamental rules and realities of a married life does not change with changing partners.
Part of the value i hope to add to you is to be a catalyst for positive changes in your married life. To gently push, move and challenge you to get better. To grow more.
To be great- REGARDLESS OF YOUR CURRENT REALITY.
Here are 10 challenges i offer:
- Be Patient
- Have balanced expectations from each other
- Have rational thinking
- Control your impulsive anger
- Trust each other
- Communicate with each other
- Respect each other
- Be transparent in financial matters
- Lead a happy sex life
- Keep away from extra-marital affairs
Having said this, i would also like to add that if you think you cannot control forces as mentioned above and you are in a very uncontrollable situation, you are free to take the final call.
PAUSE, THINK AND ACT.
If you are still unmarried, you may please forward this post’s link to your near and dear married person.