‘ DONT QUESTION YOURSELF WHEN YOU ARE MOST VULNERABLE’ !!

Questioning whether you have made the right decision can be a useful way to make sure you are on the right track.

But if you second-guess yourself at the wrong time, you may feel tempted to give upon important  commitments. Don’t question yourself when you are most vulnerable.

Instead, schedule a time to review your decision when you are in the right frame of mind. For example, dont wonder whether you should abandon a plan to talk more during meetings when you are walking into the conference room.

Rather, tell yourself that you will question the decision ten minutes into the meeting, once you have had time to get used to the idea.

Setting a time will also help you second-guessing once rather nagging yourself with doubts

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HOW TO RECOVER FROM A MISTAKE!!

While most people accept that mistakes are inevitable, no one likes to make them. The good news is that even large slipups don’t have to be career-enders if they are handled well. Next time you make a mistake, follow these steps to recover gracefully.

  • Fess up: Trying to hide a mistake or downplay its importance can be fatal to  your career. Be candid and transparent about the mistake, take responsibility for your part in it, and please don’t be defensive.
  • Make necessary changes: Mistakes are a great learning opportunities. Explain to your boss and other interested parties what you will do  differently going forward.
  • Get back out there: Don’t let your errors keep you from taking risks again. Once the mistake is behind you, FOCUS ON THE FUTURE!!

Enough said!!

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HOW TO CRAFT A JOB YOU WANT?

Are you not engaged and motivated by your job? You may have the power to change and begin identifying your motives, strengths, and passion to help you better understand which aspect of your job will keep you engaged and inspire higher performance.

Then create a diagram of your current job,including your job talk, noting which you do most often. Next,create a diagram of your preferred job, indicating which things you want to do more or less of and which tasks you want to add.

This chart can help you articulate what you want to do differently. Be sure to engage your supervisor in this process; assure her that you wont let your current tasks slide and that any new tasks you propose are central to the company.

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HOW TO BEAT BURNOUT!!!

Falling prey to burnout is easy. This condition- marked by exhaustion, cynicism, and inefficiency- stems from information overload, perpetual “busyness”, and relentless race against the clock.

One important tactic for preventing burnout is to seek out ways to use available resources more wisely.

For instance, delegate responsibilities to staff members eager to develop new skills. And resist the urge to grapple with urgent but unimportant task (such as responding to e-mails).

Instead, schedule set times during the day for checking and replying to e-mails and phone calls.

Enough said!!

HOW TO INCREASE YOUR PRODUCTIVITY

We live in a demanding and distracting world. Being productive can sometimes feel like an impossible feat. Here are three ways to get more done without burning out:

  • Keep one to-do list.

Include everything you want or need to do in one place. Writing it down helps get it off your mind and leaves you free to focus on the task in hand.

  • Do the most important thing first

Before you leave work in the evening, decide what one thing you need to accomplish the next day. Do it first thing in the morning, when you are likely to have the most energy and fewest distractions.

  • Schedule time for non-urgent things.

Its easy to get caught up in the pressing issues of the day. Block off time in your calender to do things that would otherwise get squeezed out, like writing, thinking creatively, or building relationship.

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WHEN DEATH SURROUNDED ME FROM ALL DIRECTION!!

This is a real life, a very dreadful situation when I was working with a multinational company in New Delhi during early 90’s. If I remember correctly it was 1992 when I had a very important and urgent meeting with one of our company’s client based at Merrut in western UP (India), which is about 150 km from New Delhi. It so happened that New Delhi Taxi union called on a strike that day. Since this meeting at Merrut was very important, I decided to take my own car and travel to Merrut. I drove down to Merrut and had my meeting with out client in the afternoon. After finishing my meeting I had lunch with our client and it was around 5 pm I left Merrut to return to New Delhi.

I was driving the car and was alone. After driving for about 100 km, I was passing through an area which was somewhat crowded. I suddenly saw a boy trying to cross the road in a running condition when my car must have been not more than 7-8 ft away from that boy (he must have been around 13 years old). The speed of my car was around 60-70 km/hour. I applied full break but since he was so close to my car, it hit him directly and he flew in the air and fell down about 15-20 ft away from the car. I stopped my car and did not know what to do. Meanwhile, I saw a huge crowd running towards my car from all directions, shouting that kill this driver. They all surrounded my car from all direction and people sat on my car’s roof and bonnet.

I could see my death from all direction. I guess God was with me and He had probably realized that this was not at all my fault and wanted to save my life. While the crowd was shouting against me, a man emerged from the crowd and started telling the crowd loudly-‘Don’t touch this man, let us first take this badly injured boy to a nearby hospital in this car and we will decide the fate of this man later on. The whole crowd became silent and agreed to that man’s advice. A few people lifted that boy from the road and i helped them to keep the boy inside my car, and with two people in my car i drove down straight to a nearby hospital, and requested a doctor to immediately provide the boy medical treatment. The doctor was initially reluctant to admit him as this was a police case. I requested the doctor to do something immediately.  I think some unforeseen divine force was trying to help me and with a little hesitation, doctor immediately admitted the boy in the hospital.

I was most surprised when doctor took me immediately in a separate room and advised me to right away  leave the hospital for my own security. But I was not willing to leave the hospital until that boy was given medical treatment. The doctor kept his hand on my shoulder and told me, “sir, you seem to be a good person and I appreciate your concern for this badly injured boy. This is a very dangerous area and a huge crowd must be shortly coming to this hospital and they can take your life. I know these people very well. So I am requesting you to immediately go away from this place before they reach here.” Meanwhile, some strong inner divine voice was coming to me, telling me to leave  that place. I immediately left the hospital, with a lot of guilt and came to my car. I saw a huge crowd coming from behind towards my car.

I immediately got into my car and drove straight to Delhi and stopped my car only at my Delhi residence. It was a huge relief because I got a second life.Since doctor’s business card was with me,i called up that doctor on phone to enquire about that boy and it was a great mental relief when doctor told me that there was nothing to worry and that boy was better and will be discharged soon from the hospital

Message

If you ever face this kind of dreadful situation, have faith in God. Look up at HIM with all honesty. Stay calm and composed. Don’t get panic. Listen to your inner divine voice because that is God voice. He is guiding you. Act accordingly and nothing can happen to you. Remember that!!

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HOW TO CAPTURE BIG IDEAS IN SIMPLE WAYS!!

Don’t rely on your memory or BlackBerry to record and capitalize on your good ideas.

Go old-school with a stack of 3×5 index cards. Carry them with you and, when you hear a good idea, write it down. The physicality of the cards forces you to reflect on them at the end of the day, and the act of writing down the ideas help you remember and process them.

Having the blank cards in your pocket is also a useful reminder to be looking for new ideas and, most importantly, to listen!!

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