Secret of maintaining a healthy Relationship.

  • HONESTY: This is the first &foremost quality you should have to maintain a Healthy Relationship. Be honest in everything you do.

 

  • GOOD HUMAN BEING: you can handle any or multiple complex Relationship provided you are a good human being.

 

  • About 99.9% Relationship fell apart because of communication problem they just don’t communicate with each other.Right communication does not mean what you ‘say’ to others but what is perceived by others.PLEASE ALWAYS COMMUNICATE effectively.

 

  • DEFEAT-There is no word like ‘DEFEAT’ in a Relationship.At times,you must learn to take one step back to maintain a harmonious Relationship.

 

  • IGNORE-Learn to ignore certain negative behavior in a person for a better relationship.

 

  • RESPECT-Always have respect for other’s views and feeling,be patient to listen to others.

 

  • COMMITMENT-Never back out from your commitment.

 

  • GIVE &TAKE: Never think what others have given to you.Think what you can give to others and make it a way of life.

 

  • Avoid ‘Fly by Night’ approach and maintain Relationship in ‘ Thick&Thin’ situation.Accept both good and bad in any relationship.

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YOU MAY NOT BE A STAR BUT STILL, CAN BE A GOOD AND SUCCESSFUL BOSS!!

The toughest part of being a Boss is recognizing your strength and letting others cover you weakness.

In this regard,I have a story of a boss who was the editor-in -chief of a very successful weekly magazine.My close friend was being interviewed by a Veteran Reporter from the magazine when the two of them began chatting about his boss.Most of the editors my friend had met tend to be classic ‘idea’ people.Ideas are their stock in trade.They can think up dozen just by walking down the street and observing people.My friend told the Reporter how much he admired his magazine and how lucky he was to be working for such a creative Editor.As my friend complemented him on several stories he considered particularly clever,a puzzle look came over his face.

‘You have got it all wrong’,he said.”I have been in the magazine business for thirty years and he is the first boss I have ever met,who does not have any idea.He knows writing,he knows pictures,he knows what people want.But when it comes to generating story ideas,he lets us do that.Every Monday,he walks around the office,and tell each of us to have seven new ideas on his desk by Wednesday.

My admiration for Reporter’s boss rose another match.Anyone who can produce a successful magazine fifty-two times a year,without one idea of his own must know the importance of being a BOSS rather than a STAR.

DO YOU AGREE ? YOUR COMMENTS PLEASE!!

IS YOUR SEX LIFE  LOSING SPARK  A SEX DETOX CAN REIGNITE THIS SPARK AGAIN!!

“A MAN NEEDS SEX TO GET INTIMATE,WHILE A WOMAN NEEDS

TO GET INTIMATE TO HAVE SEX.”

 

A detox in the area of sex means eliminating sexual performance entirely,thereby making sex come across as the forbidden fruit.This increases longing for each other and helps reignite the passion.

Over a period  of time,say a few years down the line,couples tend to lose the spark,especially between the sheets.The reason for this lack of interest could be plenty-a busy schedule,work-related stress and/or tiredness,the same bedroom and the same positions.Your sex life is dramatically affected by these factors.After a long day work,you naturally want space to relax.This could lead to physical and emotional distance and THAT IS EXACTLY WHEN A SEX DETOX COMES INTO PLAY!!

“Sexual motivation is influenced by various hormones.When you abstain from sex,you become increasingly aware of the absence of hormonal release.This craving boosts your libodo and sexual performance.Now you may be having frequent sex or you may not have had sex with your partner for a while,BUT,that hunger that arises when you are aware that you are off sex for a month is what reignite passion.

Sex detox will help you to achieve the relationship results you both deserve.when you are on sex detox,you better rethink what both of you need and arrive at a decision with consideration for each other’s feelings,For instance,you cannot have sex but you can still cuddle,spoon and enjoy intimacy.Or if one of the partner feels ‘denied’ or rejected sexually during detox,this should be discussed openly and without resentment.

It should take only about a month of abstinence to notice the desired benefits-men begin to experience better erection and women enjoy sustained arousal and stronger orgasms.That slight hint of desperation add spice to your love life.IT IS LIKE YOUR FIRST TIME ALL OVER AGAIN!!

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A HEALTHY SEX LIFE IS IMPORTANT FOR BOTH OF YOU.PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THINGS FOR GRANTED.YOU BOTH MAY HAVE TO CONSISTENTLY INVEST TIME AND ENERGY AND FIND CREATIVE MEANS LIKE ‘Sex Detox’ TO KEEP YOUR SEX LIFE HAPPY AND SPICY.

IS IT DESIRABLE?

 HOW TO HANDLE YOUR SHORT-TEMPERED SPOUSE!!

 

     Most marriages go through periods of highs and lows-It is normal!! Therefore,it is quite common for a husband and wife to differ on certain points.At times,one-person becomes more dominant than the other.If the husband enjoys making his point heard, wife may prefer to let him have his say to maintain calmness and peace in their relationship.

Likewise, wife may disagree with her husband on different matters and the husband may choose to act as a peacemaker in the house.I have even seen short tempered wives and husbands,sometimes,do not even hesitate to scream at each other or at their sweet kids-not only in the house but also at the public places.Most of the time,the main reason of their scream is their stress and anxiety(due to any reason).

Believe me,these are the facts of life and you may have to face it at some point of life.

SOME EFFECTIVE WAY’S TO HANDLE YOUR SPOUSE’S BAD TEMPER:

1-Recognize the triggers,the first step is to recognize each other’s temperament.Make it a point to communicate and voice your feeling to one another in a calm and best possible way without being judgemental .For your respective anger issues,you can deal with them more effectively.It is a common knowledge that ‘opposite attract’ and so make sure that both of you balance each other out and are aware of what irks the other.

2-Learn to take one step back.It would be a wise move if you take a step back to allow your partner to cool down.Therefore,if you find your spouse getting angry over something,please do not make things ugly or worse by tackling them or reprimanding them for their actions then and there.Instead,step aside and allow them to calm down.In time,they themselves will come back and apologize for their outburst.The key here is to give them their space,so that they get time to realize their fault on their own.

3-Keep you attitude in check.Realize that,at times,it may be your behavior,body language and attitude that may cause tempers to fly.But if you fight fire with fire,you will surely land up in a stalemate with the problem still left unresolved.It is important that you manage your emotions well in order to prevent any major outburst with your temperamental spouse.So,if you know that there are things that could cause emotional outburst,your reaction to it could determine whether it has the possibility of turning ugly or getting unresolved.

4 – Have patience, patience and patience.

In order to really deal with your short-tempered spouse,you will have to demonstrate a lot of patience.Sometimes,you may disapprove of your own spouse’s outburst or screaming over trivial and petty issues.These may cause you to wonder what you might have done wrong.However,the key to dealing with such outburst over minor issues is to have the patience to deal with your partner calmly.

Therefore,please avoid  responding with equally nasty or provocative comments that could rupture into something major incident.

5-Talk,talk and talk. Encourage them towards change.you could help encourage your spouse to adopt certain tips to calm down during an outburst. Deep breathing,yoga and meditation could prove to be the right solution to help your partner to keep his/her stress and anxiety under control,which in turn will keep his/her temper under check.

I HAVE BEEN DOING IT FOR LAST THREE DECADES AND TRUST ME-IT HELPS A LOT TO KEEP YOUR STRESS,ANXIETY AND TEMPER UNDER FULL CONTROL.

TRY IT !!

6-Last but very important.A better sex life.This could be a major reason,why a spouse has a bad temper.It is vital that you both have a healthy sex life.If there are any issues,it must be resolved as fast as possible.

A GOOD SEX LIFE KEEPS A SPOUSE STRESS FREE,HAPPY AND TEMPER FREE.

YES,THIS IS TRUE!!

Based on my knowledge and experience about human behavior,I am confident that these tips will definitely help you to handle your spouse’s anger effectively

HOWEVER, SHOULD NONE OF THESE TIPS WORK,JUST REMEMBER THAT YOU HAVE PICKED UP HER/HIM AND THEREFORE TAKE LIFE AS IT COMES TO YOU.EVERYTHING CHANGES ONE DAY(LAW OF NATURE) AND SO WILL CHANGE YOUR SPOUSE’S BAD TEMPER ALSO-ONE DAY.

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WAIT FOR THAT DAY-IT WILL SURELY COME.

WHAT WOULD YOU HAVE DONE IN THIS SITUATION ?

WHILE ARROGANCE IS A SIGN OF YOUR WEAKNESS,

HUMILITY IS THE HIGHEST IMAGINABLE SIGN OF YOUR STRENGTH.

Taking one step back rather one step forward is not the sign of of your

weakness but it could be your victory and symbol of your MATURITY

and HUMILITY.

A truly humble man cannot be an arrogant person.One must reflect modesty like a tree that bends low with the burden of ripening fruits.

It is the barren tree that lifts itself high in an empty boast.Humility contrary to patriarchal designation of it as a sign of weakness,is in fact,the highest imaginable sign of strength.

One has to be spiritually and mentally balanced in an egoless state.This allows us to see order in chaos and chaos in order.In fact it is the balance WITHIN that permits us to see the balance in all things.Hence,chaos WITHOUT is a matter of perception,while chaos WITHIN is the conception of the ego.Be like the ocean which receives all streams and rivers.The ocean mighty calm remains unmoved;IT FEELS THEM NOT.

TO MAKE YOU UNDERSTAND BETTER ABOUT HUMILITY,I WILL TELL YOU A TRUE STORY OF TWO KINGS.

Once upon a time a king was passing through a dense forest in his royel Carrier alongwith a team of his trusted soldiers.His Carrier was passing through a very narrow passage.A second king of the neighbouring state also happened to be passing through the same forest and it was sheer coincidence that both the kings suddenly happen to meet head-on in that narrow passage.The horse carrier of both the kings had to stop because the passage at that point was so narrow that only one carriage could pass through.

The first king conveyed a message to the second king to take back his horse carrier by a few yards,so that he could pass through that narrow passage.The second king conveyed back the message to the first king that ‘I DON’T GIVE WAY TO FOOLS’ and he will not take back his horse carriage even by an inch.

The first king thought for a second and send across the message to the second king that read-‘I GIVE WAY TO FOOLS’ and he promptly instructed his men to take back the carrier by a few yards and gave way to the  second kind.

MORAL:TAKING ONE STEP BACK BY THE FIRST KING WAS IN NO WAY HIS WEAKNESS,BUT A SIGN OF MATURITY,HUMILITY AND VICTOR

 

                                                          MY MESSAGE

BE LIKE THAT TREE THAT BENDS LOW WITH THE BURDEN OF RIPENING FRUITS.GIVE UP YOUR ARROGANCE,BEND LOW AND DEMONSTRATE YOUR HUMILITY,WHEN THE NEED BE.

DO YOU REALLY GET THE BRILLIANCE OF DIVERSITY!!

In my view-Yup!!

Diversity helps us in ways we cannot perceive or fathom. Makes us better!

People and experiences that are different offer you the gorgeous opportunity to rethink the assumptions and closely held opinions you have lived your life under.

It takes a lot of outright courage to open your mind,as well as your heart, and listen to what they tell you. Uber-uncomfortable to think that you might not be right; the way you see the world or whatever  just might be flawed in some way. Or that there may be a better way of thinking or behaving or working or living.

But one thing is for sure, unless you are willing to empty the cup that is full, no more can enter. And you just might miss out on your greatest possibilities. And your best life!!

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