ravi singh

Sounds familiar? Do you find it difficult to trust other people? Reality is- we often distrust other people and suspect them of doing things that often mirror our own actions.

Maybe the story of a boy and his marbles make you understand better what I want to tell you. It’s a simple story about two children- WITH A MESSAGE FOR ALL GROWN UPS.

A Little boy and a girl were playing near their house. The boy has a pocketful of marbles, while the girl had some candy. As the boy kept playing with the marbles, he constantly eyed the candy in the girls hands. His mouth was watering. He made her an offer. He would give her all his marbles in exchange for the candy, the girl happily agreed.

The boy slyly hid the biggest and the most beautiful marble in his pocket and gave the rest to the girl. The girl gave him ALL the candy as promised.

The girl, that night, played for a while with the marbles before going to bed. And she slept soundly. The boy, however, just could not sleep. He kept wondering if the girl had hidden the best candy and kept it with her- just as he had done with his marbles.

SHE SLEPT WELL BUT HE DIDN’T!

The point is when we face a trust issue, we normally tend to believe that the problem is with the other person.But often the problem lies in us,not them. The way we see the world treating us is usually a reflection of the way we treat other people, YES, THIS IS A FACT!!

Maybe you should ask yourself if you are the one hiding the best marble. The next time you find yourself doing a candy-for-marble swap, remember to play a fair game KEEP YOUR WORD IN TOTALITY. GIVE. You might think you have got a little less in the bargain than what you could have.

BUT YOU KNOW WHAT?  YOU WILL HAVE A SOUND SLEEP!!

MESSAGE

KEEP YOUR WORD. GIVE. SLEEP WELL WITH A CLEAR CONSCIENCE.

IT IS VERY SATISFYING !!

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

IN the year 2008 when everyone was talking about pink slips and zero bonuses and crashing stock markets,it reminds me a story that controlled our tendency to behave  somewhat irrationally in money matters.

Imagine that you are in a store,buying a watch.You like the brand and the design.The strap is just right.Price is Rs 999 that fits your budget.You decide to pick it up but just as you are about to pay for it,you bump into a dear friend.He notices the watch and tells you that he has seen the same watch in the store across the road-priced at Rs 899.A WHOLE HUNDRED RUPEES LOWER!

What would you do? Most of us,I am sure,would walk across to the other store, and save hundred rupees.Why spend Rs 999 when you can get the same watch for Rs 899?Makes sense!

Now,let us imagine another scenario.you are at the store buying an expensive swiss watch.you like the brand and the design.It is priced at Rs1,50,200.And you decide to pick it up.Just as you are about to pay for it,you bump into a dear friend He tells you that the same watch is  available at a store across the road for Rs 1,50,100. A WHOLE HUNDRED RUPEES LOWER!

What would you do now? Like most people,you would probably stay put and buy it there only at the same store.Afterall,what is hundred rupees value when you are spending some1,50,000 rupees?

But we tend to get carried away by an unrelated metric.How much we are spending at a given moment affects our perception of the money being saved.If saving hundred rupees matters to you,it should matter to you regardless of whether you are spending 2000 rupees or 200,000 rupees.we all need to learn  the value of small stuff,those hundred rupees note,regardless of how much we spend.In times of abundance,it is good to be cautious.It may just help stretch the abundance a bit.

Getting money to work for you is no different from getting people to work for you.IF YOU DON’T TREAT YOUR MONEY WITH RESPECT,IT WILL LEAVE YOU. And when the recession hits-as it will sometime-those who valued those hundred rupees even while they were spending big,will find themselves better placed to tide over the difficult times.

                                                                                 MESSAGE

In times of abundance,be always cautious.It may just help stretch the abundance a bit. If hundred rupees really matters to you,it should matter to you regardless of of whether you are spending 2000 rupees or 200,000 rupees.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

To make you believe that Persistence pays in all walks of life,I would give you a live example of a great Sri Lankan Cricketer,which has always inspired me and I still continue to read this story when I feel the need for self motivation.

That great cricketer is none than Marvan Ata pattu who made his debut in Test Cricket for Sri Lanka but scored zero in his first innings.And  again zero in second innings.He was dropped from the team.So he went back to the nets for more practice.It was only after a wait of 21 months,he got a second chance.

He tried his best this time,but scored zero in the first innings and 1 run in second innings.Dropped again,he went back for more serious practice.He scored tonnes of runs to get out of the painful memories of the Test failures.Well,17 months later,opportunity again knocked at his door.Marvan went to bat in both the innings of the Test.His score:0 and 0

Back to the rigorous practice.The selectors felt that he lacked Test-match temperament.His technique wasn’t good enough at the Test match level.But undaunted, Marvan kept trying with some hope that selectors would someday give him another chance.

Three years later,he got another chance.This time he made runs and in an outstanding career thereafter,he went on to score over 5000 runs for Sri Lanka.This included 16 centuries and 6 double centuries.He never looked back and eventually he became Captain of the Sri Lankan Test cricket team.

JUST THINK ABOUT IT! How many of us can handle failure and rejections the way he handled? IT was six years of trying and failing.Anybody would have been tempted to shift and persue another career.But he did not and THAT MADE THE REAL DIFFERENCE.The next time you are staring at possible failure or rejection in life,think of this great Marvan and just remember this:If you don’t give up,if you believe in yourself,if you stay the course,time will change one day and you would eventually succeed and prove your worth someday.

THIS IS THE LAW OF NATURE AND MAGIC OF PERSEVERANCE.

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Once,Winston Churchill was asked the secret of success in life.His reply was:NEVER GIVE UP.NEVER,NEVER GIVE UP!

IF YOU FOLLOW HIS ADVICE,PERSEVERANCE WILL REWARD YOU SOMEDAY.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

We normally hear our parents,friends and others telling us to be fearless. While it is good not to fear anything but to fear a few things in life is also desirable. It is a balancing act that is required.

If you have seen the movie Troy, an army officer tells the General,”Sir,the army is under fear that you may punish them”. The General responds quickly something very important. “Fear can be constructive if you can manage it well”.

It is true that you manage and lead people by setting a very high example of yourself. But this is also a fact that men are managed by the FEAR of punishment. You would agree that it is because of the fear of the police,that criminals and crime rate is controlled.It is because of fear of losing the job that employees become productive. It is also only because of  fear of punishment that children are controlled by parents and teachers.

However,managing  someone’s fear is an skill and some guidelines on managing fear is as below:

• Be fearless yourself. Being fearless at all times could be your highest achievement.But to be totally fearless,you need to do only right things in your life. Once in a battlefield,a warrior said,”If I look directly into the  eyes of the enemy just for a few seconds,my fear disappears”. In other words,you must face the challenge of life directly without depending on anything or anyone.
• Never, Never misuse fear.you can misuse the fear of your subordinates.you naturally command fear just because of being in a position of authority or power.But remember,respect cannot be demanded  but commanded.you can force others to fear you through authority and the power wielded.But to win respect,you have to win the heart of the other person.If you want to check if you are a successful leader or not,try to find out if everyone is comfortable and happy when you are around.
• you must punish fairly.Punishment is unavoidable at times.However,one can punish rightly and justly.As you know,in a billiard game,if you hit the ball too hard or too soft,it won’t go into the pot.You should hit the ball with the right amount of force.Likewise,if you punish too much,you will be seen as a terror.But,if you are too soft,the work will not get done.Its a balancing act that is required.SO BE FIRM,YET CONSIDERATE.

A criminal was being sent to the gallows.As is the normal practice,he was asked what his last wish was.He replied to the shock of the jailer.”To kill my father because of whom I am going to the gallows…..”He never corrected me when I was wrong,nor did he punish me when I deserved it.So,I never had the fear of being punished and  IT IS THAT FEARLESSNESS WHICH HAS TODAY BROUGHT ME TO GALLOWS.

                                                                       MESSAGE

To create fear in the mind of wrong people,to punish people when they deserve is very important-this will only benefit them.At the same time, misuse of fear must be avoided to the right people to make them fearless.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.

In my view before we try to answer this question,you should first ask yourself ‘why do I ask such question?’ What is the real purpose? I mean,do you want answer to this question because you are looking for a date with someone for a serious relationship leading to marriage OR you are looking for someone for a casual relationship OR you want someone to be with you to move around in a circle of friends who are good looking OR You are looking for a like minded person to regularly spend quality time with him or her.

As a general rule,judging someone on the basis of look alone can prevent you from seeing the good that lies beyond appearance.But the choice of your answer would entirely depend upon what is your real purpose.For instance,,how does it matter when you judge some one on the basis of look alone,if you want to have a casual relationship with him or her?

But yes,if you are looking for a date with someone for a serious relationship leading to marriage,you may have to  take a different view altogether,.because it’s a different ballgame.But let me tell you one thing. Honestly,you cannot ignore or undermine the importance of good look.Physical attraction is a very natural God gift to humanity and its normal to get attracted to a good looking man or woman.After all,when you meet someone for the first time ,you can only see his/her look-not other good or bad qualities.

But since we are now only confined to answer your question for a serious relationship,I am not averse to look for a good looking guy or girl because that is the first step in exploring other good or bad  habits in each other which will take time.

It may so happen,after being with each other for a sufficient time,if you ultimately find that he or she is a right marriage material,as per your choice of qualities,you can seal this relationship into a permanent relationship and if you find that he or she is not a marriage material,you should not try to take this this relationship to the next level on the basis of good look alone which had brought you both together.YOU BOTH SHOULD HAVE A HONEST AND FRANK DISCUSSION WITH EACH OTHER AND DEPART GRACEFULLY WITH EACH OTHER,

MESSAGE

I very strongly feel that no serious relationship can survive or sustain purely on the basis of good look.It has to have other desired qualities like DEPENDABILITY, TRUSTWORTHINESS AND RIGHT THINKING. If a person lacks in these qualities, in my view,any serious relationship can not flourish and be permanent.

A WORD OF CAUTION:PL DO NOT MAKE ANY COMMITMENT FOR MARRIAGE PURELY ON THE BASIS OF GOOD LOOK AND UNLESS YOU HAVE EXPLORED THE OTHER DESIRED QUALITIES AND ARE SURE ABOUT IT.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards