DO YOU WANT TO TAKE VALUABLE LIFE LESSONS FROM BABY GIRAFFE?

Baby giraffes never go to school.But they learn a very important lesson rather early in life.A lesson that all of us would do well to remember.

The birth of a baby giraffe is literally an earth-shaking event.The  baby falls from its mother’s womb,some eight feet above the ground.It shrivels up and lies still,too weak to move.

The mother giraffe lovingly lowers its neck to kiss the baby giraffe.And then something incredible happens.It lifts one long leg and kicks the baby giraffe,sending it flying up in the air and tumbling down on the ground.As the baby lies curled up,the mother kicks the baby again.And again. Until the baby giraffe,still trembling and tired,pushes its limb and,for the first time,learns to stand up on its feet.

Happy to see the baby standing on its feet,the mother giraffe comes over and gives it yet another kick.The baby giraffe falls one more time,but now quickly recovers and stands up.Mother giraffe is delighted.It knows that its baby has learned an important lesson: No matter how hard you fall,always remember to pick yourself up and get back on your feet.

After all, why does the mother giraffe do this?It knows that lions and leopards love giraffe meat.So unless the  baby giraffe quickly learns to stand and run with the pack,it has no chance of survival.It also knows that the lessons we learn early on become part of our habit,our instinct,and stand us in good stead all through our lives.

Most of us,though,are not quite as lucky as baby giraffe.No one teaches us to stand up every time we fall.When we fail,when we are down,WE JUST GIVE-UP.No one kicks us out of our comfort zone to remind us that to survive and succeed,we need to learn to get back on our own feet.We often live such protected,cocooned,low risk lives in our early years that we are not quite prepared for the big,bad world when we enter it.

So the next time you find a supervisor or a parent kicking you,don’t get upset with them.Like the mother giraffe,they may only be trying to teach you one of life’s most important lessons.It does not matter how many times you fall.What matters is your ability to pick yourself up and stand on your feet once again.

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WE ALL FAIL,WE ALL FALL AND WE WILL CONTINUE TO FAIL AND FALL IN TIMES YET TO COME.BUT WE MUST TAKE THEM IN THE RIGHT SPIRIT AND LEARN TO BE STRONG ENOUGH TO STAN ON YOUR OWN FEET.

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Saying sorry a million times may never completely undone the damage.

For those of you,especially our international readers,who may not know Mani Shankar Ayyar-I would like to give his brief introduction.Mani Shankar Ayyar is an Indian politician and a Member of Parliament(Rajya Sabha) from Indian National Congress Party,He is known for his impulsive and controversial statements.On 7th Dec 2017,he said in his speech that Prime Minister of India,Mr Narendra Modi was a ‘NEECH’ person which was interpreted as  a person of low caste.And the situation turned so ugly among Indian political circle(especially with the present ruling party) over  this derogatory statement that Mr  Ayyar had to immediately apologize for this act.

When we are angry,we say things that leave a scar.And no amount of  apologizing later can ever  remove those scars,Remember that!’

It is a lesson we would all do well to take to heart. Keep your cool. Don’t lose your temper.Pause and decide. you will thus see a significant improvement in your relationship and command goodwill of others. People will like you more,they will respect you a lot more, and you will find that hardly anybody gets angry with you.

More importantly,be careful what you say when you are angry. Choose your words with care.Those words can leave a permanent scar. They may be said in the heat of moment but the damage could be permanent. While you can apologize profusely and say sorry a million times,the damage is never completely undone. Saying ‘sorry’ is like using one of those eraser attached to the end of the pencil. It is easy to use,it feels like you have erased what was written but the marks remain on the sheet of the paper for ever.

In the era of instant messaging and on-the-go emails,it has become more important to watch your words.If you are upset and want to shoot off an angry email or message,HOLD IT!  Draft a mail perhaps-but leave it as a draft. Don’t hit the ‘send’ button whilst you are still angry. Pause! Tell yourself that you will take a look at it the next morning. Chances are,with a cooler head the next morning,you will realize the folly of sending out the angry  email. It does not matter if you are in the right or think your anger is justified.IF YOU LOSE YOUR COOL,YOU SIMPLY LOSE.Period

So, the next time you are angry and want to say something,like Mr Ayyar,take a deep breadth. Pause. And may be say nothing at all. Trust me, I do it when I face a similar situation and mostly I am in control.

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Starting today, resolve to keep your cool. Watch what you say and see the difference. You may fail initially but with a conscious effort, you will have a better control over yourself with passage of time.

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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THE LAW OF ONE-POINTED ATTENTION!!

Why it is so powerful?

Have you ever heard of one-pointed attention? What is this after all? Imagine a martial artist who is about to break a solid brick with his bare hand. Have you ever thought what does this man do? Well, he stands in one place and focuses his attention on the central part of the brick. His intention is to cut through the solid resistance of the brick  with the power of his hand. He draws his whole mental and physical energy to the edge of his hand. The soft hand becomes as sharp and tough as sword. One-pointed attention channels the vast energy of his mind in the desired direction.

We have to recognize the fact that  it is neither information nor physical energy that gives real power. Power comes from undivided and one-point attention, as is evident in the following story, which I want to share with all of you.

A businessman was driving in his expensive car through a highway in Dubai. Suddenly,the car’s engine stopped.The Businessman tried his hand at the engine.No effect. He decided to walk to the nearest town to get a mechanic. The ragged mechanic came,opened the bonnet and had a good,long look. Then he took out his hammer and hit gently on a small component of the engine. The car regained its life.

The Businessman asked,”How much I pay you?”

The mechanic replied, “that would be a thousand doller,Sir!”

“What! A thousand dollars just for hammering once?”

“Yes Sir,the break-up is as follows:

One dollar for giving you the information about the problem.A couple of dollar for the energy I spent in striking with this hammer.And nine hundred ninety seven dollar for the one -pointed attention that tells me where to hit and with what force.”

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One point attention is priceless. Ancient Indian sages defined an attentive mind as ‘ekagra’,which literally means one-point. You can achieve such miracles by using law of one-pointed attention.

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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PEOPLE DO NOT RESIST CHANGE.THEY RESIST BEING CHANGED!!

A change of heart in a human being is possible only when there is a change in the internal dialogue of the person. We cannot and infact should not compel people to change. We should merely induce the change process by changing the internal dialogue within the person.

I want to share with you a story from Buddha’s life that will clearly demonstrate how you can possibly transform people.

When Buddha was alive,a man came to him and started accusing him of spreading dangerous knowledge.He said, “you teach people to beg and to do nothing.You are doing a great harm to the society,” the man was out of his head with angry outburst of words.Buddha listened to him in complete silence. When the man had let off all his steam Buddha said,” if you have finished speaking, can I ask you a question?” The man angrily said,”Go ahead and ask what you have to.” Buddha said, “Imagine that you had brought a gift for a friend but your friend refuses to accept the gift.To whom does this gift now belong?”

The man said, “Pure commonsense! The gift now belongs to the one who brought it- he should take it back!” Buddha became silent again. Puzzled by  Buddha’s question,this man went on his way back.While he was travelling back he bagan to have a new dialogue in his mind about the gift of anger that he had brought to Buddha who silently refused to accept it.This transformed the man and he ran back to Buddha to seek forgiveness,

So,if you want to change people allow them space and time to grow in their self-knowledge.

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THE ONLY WAY TO CHANGE PEOPLE IS TO ENABLE THEM TO GROW!!

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

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WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN?

COMPELLING REASON. BURNING DESIRE. SENSE OF URGENCY- MAKE THINGS HAPPEN!!!

Please pause and think about it!

You will come across people who are highly educated and knowledgeable, skilled, passionate, energetic and hardworking, yet they may fail to make things happen. I have seen such people, Have you?

DID YOU EVER THINK-WHY?

My friends-it is not so much about education, knowledge, talent or skill that matters. Ultimately, it is all about you and your dreams, your compelling reason, your burning desire and sense of urgency- that makes things happen.

  • COMPELLING REASON

A compelling reason is your own personal reason-why you want to achieve something.

It could be your Dream to have a better life style, big bungalow, dream luxury cars like Lamborghini, Porsche, Audi and Bentley etc, big bank balance etc etc. It could be to go out there and change many lives. It could also be to achieve a very ambitious target in your corporate job.

But trust me, nothing will move or happen, unless you have compelling reasons, which push you forward and compel you to do it. It keeps you going and drive you out there every day. Compelling Reasons define logic. Your compelling reason could be retaining your corporate job.

So, please identify your compelling reason. Find out what is driving you every day – That is your compelling reason.

  • BURNING DESIRE:

Power of compelling reason will take you to next step. Your compelling reason lights a fire in your heart, which create something, known as burning desire or passion. It is a fire within you which is contagious.

Burning desire can be about anything, which comes out of you in a natural way. You behave in a ‘DO OR DIE’ manner. Others should sense your passion and seriousness. You cannot inspire or motivate others,unless you have burning desire. You can keep your leadership going only if you are switched on. Ask others, do they see burning desire in you for what you are doing or what you want to achieve. Burning desire keeps you going in life without getting tired. Your compelling reason is your key to open the door which unleashes your burning desire.

  • SENSE OF URGENCY:

But, let me tell you, compelling reason and burning desire is not ENOUGH. You may still fail to make things happen without magic of a third element which is known as ‘Sense of Urgency’ and it means to  have a ‘Do it now attitude’.

People have the tendency to postpone everything. They will be seen taking new year resolution to give up smoking. They will decide on 1st jan 2017 to give up habit of  smoking on 1st jan 2018. WHAT A BEAUTIFUL DATE WHICH NEVER COMES IN THEIR LIFE.

We tend to take life for granted as if we are going to live up to age of 85. BUT BE HONEST AND ASK YOURSELF CAN WE GUARANTEE A AGE OF 85 YEARS FOR US-OBVIOUSLY NO!! THERE IS NO GUARANTEE IN LIFE FOR ANYTHING.

I will tell you a story to instill sense of urgency. Medical check-ups are mandatory in various Professions. People normally go for basic medical check-up. But there was a person who had to go for an advance medical check-up. His doctor calls this person at 11 pm and asks him to meet him at his clinic tomorrow at 8 am, as he needs to discuss some very important and urgent things about his medical test report.

Imagine the condition of that person. WILL HE BE ABLE TO SLEEP THAT NIGHT? NO!! He will be at doctor’s clinic one hour before his appointment time. Doctor tells that person that he has got brain tumor, which cannot be operated at this stage. He also tells him that he has only 6 months to live. What do you think that person will do after this? Obviously, he will take a second or may be a third medical opinion. But all doctors say-he has only 6 months to live.

WHAT HAPPENS NEXT?

Will that person be living the same life that he had been living last 6 months?No, definitely not!! He will now be living with a sense of urgency to complete many unfinished tasks in next 6 months to secure LIFE OF HIS FAMILY. He would no longer postpone anything and will be forced to move ahead with a ‘do it now attitude’- because it is now a question of ‘DO or DIE’ for him.

So, please wake up and smell the coffee. Do it now. No postponement. Your decision NOW becomes very personal that i will PUSH myself TODAY, NOT TOMORROW.

YOU HAVE NO OPTION BUT TO DO IT NOW! DO IT NOW! DO IT NOW!!

“Destiny, only takes you so far. Once you are there its up to you to make things happen through these three elements.”

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If you can understand and have these three elements- YOU CAN MAKE THINGS HAPPEN.

NO ONE CAN STOP YOU.

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

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DO YOU FIND IT DIFFICULT TO TAKE THE RIGHT ACTION? WHY? Read on…

We all take action everyday in our personal and professional life. but how do we actually know whether our action was right or wrong!!

In my view the authenticity of action is determined by the spirit or motive behind the action. Purity of motive or intention is a clear test of right action. It may also happen that our action may not meet with immediate success even if our intention is noble. Yet, such intention generates tremendous spirit and goodwill. Any action born out of good intention… such as compassion… is rarely a wrong action.

This reminds me a story which may bring out the truth I want to share with you all and you may or may not decide to make it a bench mark when you take your future actions:

A soldier named Vijay Singh asked his commanding officer if he could go to the battlefield to rescue his friend who had not returned from the battle. The officer said, “There is no point in looking for your friend, he is probably dead. Besides, it is dangerous to go in the field now as the enemy may kill you too.” In spite of the officer’s reluctance, Vijay went in search of his friend. After an hour he came back seriously wounded with the dead body of his friend on his shoulders. The commanding officer fumed, “ I told you  not to venture out on your own, we not only lost your friend in the battle, we will lose you too! Was it worth acting that way?’ the mortally wounded soldier said, “My action was right sir!!

When I reached the battlefield, my friend was still alive. And all he could say to me was, VIJAY, I KNEW YOU WOULD COME!!”

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Who am I to tell you or give message on this subject. I would rather leave it to your judgement and invite your comments. You decide- what Vijay Singh did with a purity of motive or intention- was his action RIGHT?

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As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

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Whatever happens, happens for the best!! DEVELOP THE ‘THIS IS GOOD’ ATTITUDE.

 

There is an old saying if something happens as per your wish, It is good, but if something does not happen as per your wish, this is also good- because, this is wish of God!!

So, it is pointless worrying about outcomes you cannot control or change. Focus instead on what you can change… when one door shuts, another door opens. This reminds me this African folk tale about a king and his friend.

The king’s friend was an optimistic and cheerful person. Whenever something happened- good or bad- the friend would remark, “this is good!”, they would often go on hunting expeditions and the friend would help prepare the king’s rifles. One day, the friend made a mistake with one of the guns. When the king took that gun and pulled the trigger, his thumb got blown off. Seeing what happened, the friend remarked, “This is good!”, that made the king very angry, ‘No this is not good’, he said and sent his friend off to prison.

After a few years, the king was out in a place where he should have not ventured into. The cannibals living there caught him, before throwing him into the huge earthen pot that was being readied for cooking. It was then, someone  noticed that king had no thumb. As it happened, those cannibals were superstitious lot. They never ate anyone who was less than whole. So, the king was set  free.

As he headed back to his palace, the king recalled the incident when he had lost his thumb. He then realized that his friend had been right in saying, ‘This is good!’. Losing a thumb that day had actually saved his life. He immediately went to the prison and set his friend free. He narrated his story to his friend and apologized. ‘you were right. I should not have put you in prison’, said the kind. ‘That was bad’!

‘No, no. This is good’ said the friend.

‘what do you mean’ asked the king. How could sending you to jail have been good?’

‘don’t you see?’ said the friend. ‘ if I had not been in jail, I would then have been out hunting with you. And the cannibals would then have killed and eaten me!’

So, the next time you find things are not going your way, think of the king’s thumb. And whatever happens, just say ‘This is good!’ you will suddenly find the world a better place. And you will discover how empowering that can be. Instead of playing victim and wallowing in self-pity, the ‘This is good!’ attitude compels you to take ownership and do things that can be life-changing.

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When you say, ‘this is bad’, the mind gets conditioned to look for difficulty in opportunity and when you say ‘this is good’, the mind looks for opportunity in difficulty, and therein is born a winner or a loser.

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A SMALL SERVICE TO MY BELOVED READERS:

As i am also a life coach, if you so desire, you can refer to me  your personal, professional and family issues either through my blog or my email (given below) and I would send you my advice within a week.I am extending my services  to you for a very nominal  fee of 1 $ per advice which I only want to charge because when you get something free, you do not value it.My main objective

is to give you the benefit of my knowledge and three decades experience  so that you begin to think and understand life issues in an appropriate and rational manner and right perspective and lead a calm,anxiety free and happy life.

My email: ravi_singh52@hotmail.com

Thanks and Regards.