WHAT CAN MAKE YOU A RESULT-ORIENTED PERSON?

WHAT CAN MAKE YOU A RESULT-ORIENTED PERSON?

1-ACCEPTABILITY: You must have pleasing manners,etiquette’s & charm so that you are first acceptable to others before you achieve anything through ‘PEOPLE’

2-ATTITUDE: Very important.Right attitude and body-language helps you to think and react positively in any given situation.

3-HONESTY:You should be honest to yourself,others and in everything you do.

4-FOCUS: You should have 100% focus on your target,like in Mahabharat,Arjun had his focus on eye lid of fish.He could not see anything else.

5-ORGANISE:You must organize yourself and all your resources in hand.

6-CREATIVE APPROACH: Creative mind is a fertile mind which helps you to ‘think and do’ things differently and achieve your objective in a non-conventional manner.

7-HARD WORK& DEDICATION:There is absolutely no shortcut to hard work and total dedication is a must.

8-FIRE IN BELLY:Also known as ‘X’factor.Fire within you is a must to succeed in any walk of life.

9-DO & THINK RIGHT:IN any complex situation,you must ask the right question rather than addressing wrong  question.Similarly,you must do the right things than doing wrong things rightly.

10-COMMONSENSE:Most effective human tools to achieve anything in life.

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THE MORE RISK YOU TAKE THE MORE REWARDS YOU GET!!

I can tell you one thing with certainty that when you will be facing your death bed,it will not be all the risks you took that you will regret the most.Rather,what will fill your heart with the greatest amount of regret and sadness will be all those risks that you did not take,all those opportunities you did not seize and all those fears you did not face.

If you want to live your life to the fullest,start taking more calculated risks and especially doing things that you fear most.you must learn to gladly accept your discomfort and stop taking safe and less resistence path.No doubt,you would strike your toe painfully against a hard surface when you walk the road less travelled,but take it from me,that is the only way you can get somewhere.

You must stop spending your days searching for security.The real success lies in spending your time persuing opportunity.Life is all about choices.The choices you make is what you become in life.Like in a game of chess,there are infinite choices in your life and it is upto your wisdom what choice you make.All achievers,actualized people simply make wiser choice than others.There can be a person who could chose to spend rest of his days sitting on shore of life in complete safety while there will also be a person who would decide to take a chance,deep dive into the water and discover the pearl that lie waiting for the person of true courage.

If you want to keep yourself inspired and focused on the fact that you must keep stretching your own personal boundaries as days go by,you must remember the following words by Theodore Roosevelt.

“It is not the critic who counts,not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled,or where the doer of deeds could have done better.The credit belongs to  the man who is actually in the arena.,whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood,who strives valiantly,who errs and comes short again and again,who knows the great enthusiasm,the great devotions and spends himself in a worthy cause,who at best knows in the end the triumphs of high achievement and who at the worst,if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know NEITHER VICTORY NOR DEFEAT.

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PL DO NOT FEAR TAKING RISKS AND BOTHER ABOUT FAILURE.I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN A HIGH RISK TAKER AND A GREAT LOSER TOO. WHEN I TASTED SUCCESS PEOPLE BRANDED ME ACHIEVER AND WHEN I FAILED PEOPLE BRANDED ME LOSER.PL DO NOT FEAR BEING A  LOSER BECAUSE IT IS THE FIRST STEP TO BE AN ACHIEVER.

ON THE OTHER SIDE OF FEAR LIES FREEDOM.GRAB YOUR FREEDOM!!

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YOU ARE BORN FOR A REASON-BIG OR SMALL!!

We start to live our lives from the day we start to take our very first  breath that god has given to us.Our purpose starts to take shape.With that first breath,we also step in the world which has endless failure for people who give up and astounding success for individuals who never give up trying.Money,fame ,success…all this has no meaning if the person has not worked harder and harder each day in order to achieve it.

We often hear…”HARDWORK IS THE KEY TO SUCCESS”;for achieving anything, hardwork is must.Work is a great rescue for all difficulties.Constant vigilance and dedication towards work is the price that we pay to gain success in life.Without hardwork, one cannot achieve,but can only dream and desire of achieving it.People go through certain phases in life….good and tough times.We are all humans,we all have that capability to make life as it existed in our dreams.When our time to experience that ‘dream’finally arrives,we forget almost everything and we ultimately get lost in that success,that success which we have been desperately wanting since forever.But somehow,when we actually start to live that dream,we forget about how to make it last forever.In that particular time we only think of our present and not future and hence we face hardship in our future.

The longest journey that we as human being will ever go through is the journey of life.Life has its ups and downs and at the most unexpected time,can go into a horrifying downfall,which has rough and bumpy corners.We eventually ask ourselves,”do we have any control on what our future holds or which turn we will take?

It is  true that life cannot be perfect all the time.Once in a life time,every person faces ups and downs in their lives.It is also  true that an individual with his strength to hold on and with the power of determination can conquer any battle,even if it is the “BATTLE OF LIFE”.Man is born to to work,prosper and grow in life.Just like steel,he shines in use and rusts in rest.

How does it matter if a man lives for ninety years and it is all a story of idleness and wasted opportunities? Lord Jesus Christ died when he was hardly thirty,Lenin died before he was sixty,and yet they have impressions on human history.Idleness  is truly a curse.If we waste time,time shall waste us.A life crammed with work is a life bubbling with a joy of success.Great men of the world were born as unfortunates in cottages but they died in idols,in palaces.

To sum up,greatness and success lie in hard,honest and selfless work.life can be hard to understand and I don’t think even the person most in touch with themselves knows why they were put on  this earth.I believe that we were put on this earth for a reason,big or small.Do we have a plan of our life set out for us already,that we have to follow,no matter how much we try to change it!!

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WHY SHOULD YOU FOCUS ON FIRST THING FIRST!!

7 STEPS:

1-Everyone without exception has a talent that comes easy to them.It could be a talent for number,running a business,acting,public speaking and for getting along with people…whatever! If you can find something you are really good at,you are more likely to succeed at it.You have given yourself a head-start.

2-The corollary to finding your talent,of course,is denying what you are best at.The only thing worse than not finding your genius is finding it and wasting it.

3-Tomorrow will take care of itself.There is lot to be said for having long terms goal,for having a vision of where you want to be in a month,a year or a decade,but not if it binds you to the importance of what you are doing now.We should be more impressed with people who can focus on problems that need immediate attention.They build their success step-by-step,by concentrating on each challenge,as if it is the only thing that matters.

THAT IS FOCUS.

Don’t be distracted by what others do-unless you can use it to inspire you.

4-People have two options when they are in a jam.They can try to waffle around the problem or they can open their soul and tell the truth.

CANDOUR IS THE BETTER OPTION(being open and honest).

When in doubt,I am very upfront.If I have done anything wrong,I just admit it.If I am mad,I say so.If I am disappointed,I let people know.Candour is not only personally therapeutic,but it tends to calm most raw nerves.

Candour can also set you apart from the crowd.Most people are not as candid as they should be about what they have done or what they can do for you.Be candid with people in those moments when you have achieved far less than expected.you will find that they are more likely to remember your frankness instead of your failings.They are also more likely to forgive you and to be equally candid with you.

5-We have all known people who can light up a room.They lift people’s spirit with their energy,good humour and confidence simply by walking through the door.Enthusiasm is contagious.And when other people catch it,they will go out of their way to accommodate you,sometimes even when it is inconvenience to him.

6-The best thing about doing what you love is that it empowers you to keep  going to endure the hardships and sacrifices long after your opponents have quit for the day.That advantage is very hard for others to overcome.In fact,the hardship tend to become a satisfying part of the process.If you don’t love what you are doing,you don’t love succeeding at it.In fact you won’t succeed at all.

7-You have to have fire in your belly.If that is not there in whatever you do,you can never experience MAGIC MOMENTS in your life and career.

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AN IIT GOLD MEDALIST AND A STAR PERFORMER VICE PRESIDENT LOST A HIGH PROFILE CORPORATE JOB DUE TO UNPROFESSIONAL BEHAVIOR!

Bhartendu Dev was a gold medalist in B.tech (Mechanical) from IIT Mumbai and had joined a multinational company as management Trainee (Technical). Due to his extraordinary performance, he soon became plant supervisor and then a plant manager in next one year. He was a blue-eyed professional in the eyes of top management. Bhartendu Dev eventually became the youngest vice president (Tech) at an age of 30.

It so happened that Dev was taking a round of the plant in the  night shift and he found a worker sleeping on duty. The worker was made awake and when Dev questioned that worker as to why was he sleeping during working hours, the worker said, there is nothing new about it. He sleeps everyday during night shift. Dev got worked up over his reply and in a moment of impulsive anger, he slapped that worker. That worker happened to be a relative of the workers Union President. All the workers stopped the work and went on a lightning workers strike. To maintain the law and order situation, a few workers had to be arrested by the cops. Seeing the gravity of the situation. The company had to decide a lock-out and it went for two months.

The top management felt that Dev should have handled this situation in a matured manner and according to the laid down policy of the company. The company had to incur heavy financial losses due to a lock-out for 2 months and Dev had to resign from the company.

Though, Dev was an outstanding member of the Top Management Team, he had to resign from the job for his impulsive bad temper and an unprofessional behavior.

WHAT A SAD END OF DEV’S BRIGHT CAREER IN THAT COMPANY.

MESSAGE: PLEASE BE PROFESSIONAL UNDER ALL CIRCUMSTANCES!!

DOES ANGER LEAVE A PERMANENT SCAR?

YES! IT DOES. USE YOUR TEMPER ONLY TO SEND ACROSS MESSAGE TO PEOPLE THAT YOU WILL NOT HESITATE TO EXERCISE THIS OPTION -IF NEED BE

This is an inspirational story which may inspire you to understand the consequence of bad temper and make conscious efforts to control your bad temper.

There was a little boy who had a bad temper.His dad gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper,he must hammer a nail into the fence.

The first day,the boy had driven 40 nails into the fence.As he learnt to control his anger,over the next few weeks,the number of nails hammered daily,gradually dwindled down.He discovered,it was easier to hold his anger than to drive those nails into the fence.Finally,the day came when the boy did not lose his temper at all.He told his dad about it and his dad suggested that the boy NOW pull one nail each day that he was able to hold his temper.

The day passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his dad that all the nails were now removed.The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.

He said,”you have done extremely well, my son! But then took him at the holes in the fence.the fence will never be the same.WHEN YOU SAY THINGS IN ANGER,THEY LEAVE A PERMANENT SCAR JUST LIKE THIS ONE”

MORAL: You can put a knife in a man and draw it out.It does not matter how many times you say I am sorry,the wound is still there.Make sure you control your temper the next time you are tempted to say something you will regret later.

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TRUST ME-ITS POSSIBLE:USE YOUR TEMPER ONLY TO SEND ACROSS MESSAGE TO THE PEOPLE THAT YOU WILL NOT HESITATE TO EXERCISE THIS OPTION-IF NEED BE.

GOD WILL NEVER FORGIVE YOU FOR THIS ACT!!

STOP ELDER ABUSE!

PLEASE REMEMBER THE WAY YOU TREAT YOUR ELDERLY PARENTS NOW, IS THE WAY YOUR CHILDREN WILL TREAT YOU WHEN YOU BECOME AN ELDERLY PARENT IN FUTURE.

I have an entirely different thoughts and approach to this matter.

An elderly parent is someone who should be in the age group of 65 years and is possibly sailing through the last one or two decades of his life journey. In all these 65 years of his age, he has acquired certain attitude, habits, temper, behavior, outlook which is rock solid and cannot be changed at this final stage of his life.

So, if this cannot be changed, we should be willing to change as his son or daughter. In other words, there is no need to handle an elderly parent’s bad temper. Instead, you need to handle your own temper and patience to pave a way for a healthy relationship with your parents and prove yourself a worthy son or daughter at least during their last few years of life left for them.

YOUR ELDERLY PARENTS DESERVE TO LIVE A DIGNIFIED AND RESPECTFUL LIFE AND YOU OWE IT TO THEM- UNDER ALL CIRCUMSTANCES.

To provide them a life, full of dignity, grace and respect – you need to watch your own temper and act in the following manner:

  1. Recognize and accept that they cannot change their habits and temper at the age of 65+.
  2. Love your elderly parents for whatever they are. If you love them, you can easily overcome most of your difficulties in dealing with their bad temper.
  3. Live with the mindset that since you cannot change their behavior, it will be prudent to change your own behavior.
  4. Always remember, your own son or daughter is observing you carefully (even in subconscious) and when you become an elderly parent – They will treat you exactly the way you have treated your own elderly parents.

YES !! THIS IS LAW OF NATURE.

WHAT YOU GIVE IS RETURNED TO YOU IN THE LAST PHASE OF YOUR LIFE, IF NOT EARLY.

I have seen this happening. Please remember this.

  1. 5. Age and illness can intensify longstanding personality traits in some unpleasant ways: an irritable person may become enraged, an important person demanding and impossible to please.

Please try to intensify the cause of anger. In most elderly individuals, behavior are symptoms of distress. The aging process in and of itself sometimes brings about anger, as senior’s vent frustrations about getting old, having chronic pain,losing friends,having money issues,being incontinent- all the undignified things can happen to elderly parents at this age.

With the aging process, our parents do not have control. As a care giver, the best thing you can do is not to take it personally. Focus on the positive, ignore the negative, and take a break from care giving when you can by finding some respite. You might also want to consider in some cases, calling in a home health nurse.

  1. 6. I know a family where an elderly parents were staying under the care of their youngest son and overall, they were passing off a happy life, except a few bad experiences. The second son of elderly parents had his own vested interest In the village and he compelled his parents to come to the village on a clear promise that he would look after his old parents there. When he got his work done through the help of his elderly parents, he started neglecting them completely. This matter did not end here. Son also started hitting his old parents- this was unbelievable and shocking. The father went through this physical and mental torture for nearly four months and ultimately lost his life.

It is my humble appeal and request to all the sons that please never, never, never do such cowardly acts in your life.

GOD WILL NEVER FORGIVE YOU, AND YOU WILL HAVE TO PAY ITS PRICE IN YOUR LIFE TIME.