To me, it could be yes! And no also!!
We normally counsel people to avoid living in the past. “Live in the now”, they advise. “Enjoy the moment”. “The past is a grave”. Well, i can understand what they are saying. But is not there something good about going back in the past and deighting in the delicious moments of the journey so far? And in learning from all we have experienced?
Whether you should revisit the past, to my mind, depends on your intention. If your intention in and reason for going back into your past is to dwell on bad experiences and to worry over things you cannot change and to rehash painful times, then i suggest it is an unhealthy act. Its a complete waste of time and just keeps you stuck. But, if your intention is to reflect on the lessons that events have taught and to grow in wisdom and to savor the precious memories that you were blessed enough to experience, well, then i think that’s a good thing. Because you are letting your past serve you. And make you better!!
I guess what i am inviting you to consider is that its a waste of time to fret over and regret things that cannot be changed. Right. Are you with me!!
But it is an intelligent use of time to bask in good times, feel gratitude for them and use even the challenging times of your personal history to leverage your future success.
Am i wrong ? Decide!!
Language offers a framework for meaning. Think about that powerful idea for a second. We understand the world through words. The words you use determine the way you perceive reality.
If you call a stumbling block a “problem” or “a big mess”, you will create a different emotional state within you than if you call the issue “an opportunity” or “a challenge that will only make me better”.
One of extraordinarily successful people’s common traits of greatness is that the vast majority of them understand the power of the word. THEY USE WORLD-CLASS LANGUAGE.
They do not only refrain from using profanity, but they use the language of passion. They use the language of leadership. They use the language of possibility. They use the language of love.
I was once travelling by road and saw a billboard that immediately caught my eye.
WHAT ARE YOU TEACHING YOUR CHILDREN?
I stopped for a while and read this line again and again.
The big idea? This one line sentence had a very deep meaning and urgent message to all of us. Leadership really does begin at home.
What are we teaching our children by the lives we are leading and the examples we are setting?
I strongly believe that the best way to influence your kids is to be true to yourself and to lead the best and exemplary life that you can, so that they will adopt the same values, though their path may be different.
What message are you sending to those little leaders who watch your every move closely and model your every act?
Are you showing them what is possible by being remarkable in each of your persuits? Or are you teaching them to play small by resigning yourself to average?
It just needs one parents give the coveted values and upbringing to their kids and trust me it will percolate and flow down generation after generation in times yet to come. This could possibly be your greatest gifts to your kids and their kids and incoming generation. Will you not be proud enough in your old age to see the fruits of the seeds planted by you.
The fruit never falls far from the tree. And your children will become a lot more like you than you may believe. So decide today what kind of values and lifestyle you want to gift out to your kids. And you can help your kids to get to their greatness.
IT STARTS WITH YOU, IT GROWS WITH YOU AND IT ENDS WITH YOU!!
NOT ANY MORE!!
In my views, not really!!
It does not matter what other people think of you. All that matters is what you think of you. We waste so much energy worrying about the opinions of others, wanting to be liked, needing to please.
But authentic leadership and real personal mastery are all about rising above social approval- to self approval. Respect you! So long as you are living by your own values,being authentic,having right intentions and doing your dreams, why worry what anyone else thinks or feels or says about you?
Success is not a popularity contest. And at the end of each day, what matters most is whether you were true to yourself. Whether you made efforts to bring smile on the face of atleast one person.
And that’s my highest wish for you. Always!!
Love it! Because it has made me strong enough that it no longer affects me.My true and loyal friend!
I am born with pain,grown up with pain, live with pain and to tell you the truth,this has now become the integral part of my life.I now enjoy its company.NO FEAR!!
Yes! I am being very honest with you. I want to share with you a very important lessons I have experienced:
Your pain purifies you! Your stumbles strengthenes you! your failure fortifies you!! Your pain teaches you how to deal with life’s trials elegantly and with grace.
I have learnet through my own challenges what ‘OPTIMISM’ really is: It is knowing that the more painful the event, the more profound the lessons.There are so many best lessons in this life we just don’t want to learn.This is not cool!!
you just can’t tell someone these things and expect him to become wise.Wisdom comes only through pain and hard ways.
So why fear pain??
Profound words. Perhaps the things that break our hearts are the very things that serve to open them. Pain can serve us so well, If we choose to learn the lessons that it carries. And just may be life’s greatest pain and challenges present its biggest gifts and opportunities to you!!
Optimism has helped me get through very painful times.It has offered me inspiration when i needed it,joy when i craved it and peace when i ached for it. It made me a strong,engaged and alive human being.
Seems unlikely! But trust me, its possible!!
Simple idea with powerful consequences:
Everyone who intersects your life knows something you don’t.
To get to world-class, don’t miss any opportunity to leverage the learning,insights and experiences of people you meet.
Because we really do become our conversations.
We all know this and you would agree with me it does!!
You will become your surroundings. So choose them well. The people you associate with and the conversations you have profoundly shape your thinking and actions.
Be with people greater than you and you will become a greater person.
Fill your home with great books and you will rise to meet the promise and possibilities they offer.
Eat great, healthy food and your physical life will reflect that association.
PLACE YOURSELF IN AND AROUND THE BEST!
AND YOU BECOME IT!!
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